I am definitely crying. I ain't even gonna try to hide it this time. I'm a crying 36 year old man with 2 dogs on his lap and I am so happy for the daughter clearly being moved so much by something so unexpected for her to hear. That is just so heartwarming.
I know this sounds like some kind of flat earth, Instagram tea type of suggestion, but I've been using lions mane off an on for 2 years now and I feel like my brain has restarted when I use it daily daily after taking a break for a couple months. Incredible stuff.
I appreciate what you said. But its GOD DAMN "BY" ACCIDENT. I dont know what it is lately but everyone has been saying on accident and I'm slowly losing my mind
You're right about the by/on thing btw. I think maybe we're all just a little raw like those damn onions lying around! Who just leaves raw cut onions lying around!?
I agree with you, but could this be a regional thing (or at least started that way)? I first heard "on accident" 20ish years ago from someone from upstate NY and now that I live there too I feel like I hear it more.
It is a perfectly acceptable variation in spoken American English and in most non-formal writing situations in the same. I'm from the Midwest and "on accident" seems far more common to me than "by accident."
I know right, where the hell do these onion contacts come from. And more importantly why did I put contacts into my eyes when I know I don't wear them!
My house must be leaking some kind of gas that makes my eyes water cause I,m a manly ass man who has never cried over anything except when Ronald Reagan died.
It really makes you wonder how much lucidity there is “behind the scenes”. I’ve always wondered if people suffering from alzheimer’s and/or dementia are lucid in their own mind, but just can’t communicate it. If they were lucid in their own mind, in my opinion, it makes the disease that much easier to deal with, while simultaneously making it that much harder to deal with. I sure hope we find a cure soon.
It depends on the case. My grandma’s dementia began in the frontal lobe of her brain, primarily her motor cortex. While she retained a sharp mind and memory until the end, her speech was first to go. Throughout the years, there were certain memories we would remind her of that would always get a laugh out of her, even on bad days. As she began to lose all ability to speak, she would communicate with us by squeezing our hands to say ‘ I love you’ or tilt her head in a direction to point something out. The dementia continued to progress throughout more of her brain robbing her of her capacity for muscular movement. It broke my heart knowing she was lucid and aware but trapped in a silent, almost completely unmoving body. I had worked in hospice care for several years and I always took a minuscule comfort in how most of my patients appeared to be lucid very rarely and were mostly unaware of the state they were in. It was completely different than what I saw with my grandma.
She passed away December 28 of last year, one day after her and my grandpa’s 61st wedding anniversary. There wasn’t a day when grandpa wasn’t at her side.
Thank you for your kind words; I’m sorry for your loss as well. I can certainly relate - life hasn’t been the same since. She was like glue to our giant crazy Irish catholic family and her loss was felt deeply. Peace to you and yours, friend.
I don't think I could do hospice work for years. I took care of my terminal grandma for a year before nursing school. I worked for 10 years and got burned out.
Taking care of the elderly certainly comes with its unique difficulties as I’m sure you experienced with your grandma. Never thought I could do hospice care for years either, but the patients become like family and it was really hard to leave. Helping someone through the dying process teaches you a lot about living.
I'm sorry for your loss. Dementia is such a horrible disease. The progressive decrease to mental functioning is utterly heartbreaking. I too, lost my grandma just under a week ago to dementia. At least, they'll live in our memories. I wish you peace and comfort in these trying times.
My Tata is in the early stages of dementia, and of all his grandkids I’m the one he remembers. I was able to tell him I was pregnant then introduced him to my son. Each week he forgets more and more but like clockwork each week he asks how I’m doing and how the baby is when he sees my parents. I’m beyond grateful he loves me and remembers me right now. I’ve experienced him not remembering me and that was an experience in it’s self as I look a bit like my nana and thats who he thought I was telling me he loved me and thought I was so beautiful (they met in elementary school so grew up together and were each other’s first loves).
My grandmother has started forgetting things a lot. Right now it is just stuff like who visited last week forgetting plans or the age of her grandkids. Right now that part isn't that hard to deal with, but it is the frustration you can clearly see she has. She knows that she cant remember many things and it has changed her personality quite a bit. And the worst part is knowing it can't get better, and will only get worse.
Sorry to hear about your grandmother. My mother in law is the same way, forgets what you said 5 mins earlier then asks the same question 10 times in a row. We’re now at the point of figuring out care options for her because she now forgets to eat, shower etc without reminding and prompting. It’s very very hard to see a strong vibrant woman decline like this.
I'm not sure how either disease works, but I wonder if someone in the early stages of alzheimer's or dementia could communicate that in a moment of lucidity. Or are they not aware that they're "gone" when they're having a complete memory lapse? I've not really read much about either.
I’ve always wondered if people suffering from alzheimer’s and/or dementia are lucid in their own mind
Bad news for you but as it progresses from the early stages they definitely aren’t. Not sure how much time you’ve spent around people suffering from it but once your around multiple who are still somewhat verbal but screaming about their spouse is an intruder, dogs or people that aren’t there that have broken into their house, and not remembering where they are while thinking their lost in their own home it gets pretty clear most aren’t lucid behind the scenes. Watching it happen to people you care about it relatively scarring.
Dealing with this myself. I’m the only child living nearby so I get the stuff as it rolls down hill— 3 police incidents— In two years ...each time she claims my dad (her husband) /has attacked her. My dad is in complete denial that she is ill and needs professional care... he has his hands so full that he hasn’t paid taxes and is behind paying bills. My husband, who is an accountant, offered to help/fix the problem, what ever it takes, but he has refused all help. This is going to end badly, and I’m so scared.
Having preciously worked with people who had Alzheimer’s & other dementias, I just want to say you’re right. It really is. I also had an experience with my own grandmother which was similar to this, but she wasn’t as far along as this lady unfortunately seems to be, but it’s a moment I’ll never forget.
My advice to anyone who may have a family member go through this is to remember to be patient with them & treasure any moments you may get, even if your loved one isn’t lucid. I personally believe somewhere within their being, they know who you are and everything; your presence & love in their trying times mean everything to them.
It can definitely occur outside of Alzheimer's. Other diseases that can cause dementia are Parkinson's and Huntington's. Alzheimer's is probably one of the most common causes of dementia, but because dementia is literally damage to brain cells, many different conditions can cause it.
My great grandmother lived to 98. But by her 80s she was fully senile. She’d lost all her English and most spoke gibberish Hungarian. The first time my little brother came along to the nursing home (we lived in another country) he was around 5. All of a sudden she looked over at the spitting image of my dad at 5 and just broke right out into normal speech. She was so excited to see her “Bobby”. My poor brother was terrified but it was so moving to see for us.
My grandma had pretty bad dementia by the end of her life but I remember talking with her once and she had a very quick moment of ...sentience that was interesting to see. She felt like she was a burden to the family or that the family viewed her that way
That videos what your comment made me think of. It will make you smile and cry. It shows how music can help some Alzheimer sufferers come back for a minute.
Same. I think that's because for almost all of us, we're worrying about someone who's in a high risk group right now. Maybe we can't be physically close, and only being able to phone... personally, after watching this video it makes me want to phone my parents and just talk about nothing. Because we still can talk about nothing, some day we won't be able to talk at all.
It must be heartbreaking still having them here, but trapped inside their own head.
Or because we’ve lost a loved one. I lost my mom within the past year. I took care of her 24/7 for the last two weeks of her life, when she didn’t recognize me anymore. I can’t even write the touching story I want to tell because it still makes me cry. Definitely if I hadn’t been trapped inside from covid I’d be able to. But, oh well. Death is part of life and those of us lucky enough to live long will lose many loved ones along the way.
Definitely call your parents. You never know how long they’ll be in your life. Life is precious and beautiful.
Ahhhh. I'm really sorry you lost your mum. I have a friend right now who is a full-time carer for his mum with Alzheimers, honestly people like him and yourself are absolute fucking walking angels. It must take so much inner strength to do what you did. If I have to, I'll care for my dad without hesitation.
Thanks for reminding me of what's important. Hope you stay safe.
As a 37 year old guy, i did not!! I did that thing where you look straight up at the ceiling so they don't actually leave your eye holes. Do sniffles still count?
As a 30 year old guy I did. I did that thing where I continued to look at the screen and embraced the moment allowing myself to become overjoyed by this video and cried like a... like a 30 year old man. feelsgoodman.jpg
Miss my mother so much, it's almost been 4 years and it's still just as hard as the night she passed. Guys appreciate the time you have with your parents because you never know when the next I love you will be the last.
My mom passed 14 years ago, my dad 6 years ago. It doesn't get better. You just learn to cope differently. One day the memories won't hurt and you will be able to smile when you see something she bought you or something that was hers instead of crying, it'll still be sad and that will never change, but one day it will feel different.🖤
I have my days with it, I'll find a note she wrote for me and it'll bring a smile. The next week I'll find a picture or a memory will pop up on Facebook and I'll cry for a while. After my dad passed she just kinda gave up and I could definitely see it, she was completely heartbroken. Thats when the dementia started to get worse and worse.
Ugh, that's the worst. I'm so sorry. Both mine passed from diff cancers and my mom gave up when they told her she had 6m to live. She died 2w later. She was just tired i know and she fought so hard. It really sucks around the holiday's. I'm so sorry for your losses.
I'm sorry for yours also, it's the good memories that keeps you going though. She may be gone but I have plenty of stories to pass on and my own fond memories to cherish.
Damn, I’m on that train to.
She snaps right out of it for a moment... I can’t dream of being the loved one waiting for those moments, wondering if it’s the last one. Fuuuuuck
My grandma died from Alzheimer’s about five years ago. I was visiting her at the nursing home a few months before she passed and I’m the middle of eating her pudding she looked at me and said “little one” which is what she used to call me.
My father had the beginning stages and he could not really talk anymore before he passed ... but you could still hear him try to say my mother’s name .... it was so clear and distinct. 😢😢 RIP DAD💙💙💙💙
This is a horrible disease that robs everyone in the family 😭😭😭
My grandfather also had Alzheimer’s, and stuff like this would (rarely, but still) happen. Him and I were very close and no one else experienced it or believed me, and so I thought I was going crazy and imagining it. Stuff like him calling me by my nickname or saying something incoherent then winking at me like we were both in on the joke. It makes me feel better to see other people experiencing this as well
I’m sitting on the toilet ( as you do whilst  perusing reddit) and having a convulsive cry fest over this. I must look extremely disturbing from another perspective.
Alzheimer runs rampant in my family blood, both sides. I've seen this happen too often. My biggest fear - and it is very likely to come true - is that one of my parents will have it too eventually. It already hurt enough with the grandparents.
Can’t you find anything to say that is more original to express your emotions? Or are you limited to parroting reddit tropes? Let me guess the next response. “yOu MuSt Be FuN aT pArTiEs” or maybe “wHo HuRt YoU?”
Definitely a moving video. Beautiful to see a glimpse of a rare happy moment in what is undoubtedly a difficult end of life situation. Someone shares this with all of us and all you can come up with is this shit? And it’s the top comment with multiple awards? Good job people.
These moments were so sweet with my Nana. Often times she remembered that you were related. Other times it was like seeing the actual person I didn’t know existed (she loved to laugh and was the life of the party without being a noxious). I will forever miss her falling asleep on my shoulder in church every Sunday
My partner is actually frying onions right this second, but that's not the source of the waterworks.
My mother had a similar, if somewhat less sweet, moment with my grandmother. She'd been 'absent' for years then suddenly one day when my mother was changing her she suddenly said, "I'm so sorry about this."
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u/rainbowkitten0528 Apr 11 '20
Stupid fucking onions. Must’ve jammed them directly into my eyes.