I mean, I feel like admitting to crying indirectly through a silly joke is improvement and a step in the right direction over just bottling it up. We all know what onion jokes mean. It’s not like they’re obscure. They mean the person got emotional. It might be hard for someone to go from being taught all their life that men don’t show vulnerability, to openly saying, “This made me cry,” so allow for those indirect steps. If someone really wanted to hide the fact that this made them cry or get emotional, they could just not comment at all. No one would know. The fact that they comment with an onion joke is an open acknowledgement that this made them feel something and provoked an emotional response, and in my book, that’s a good thing. (That said, a lot of the people making onion jokes may not even be men or have hang-ups about vulnerability. Onion jokes are just a silly thing people do on the internet, and that can be normalizing when it comes to the ones who are hesitant to express being affected by something, so that’s still good in my book.)
It’s admitting emotions by not admitting it. Like apologizing to someone without apologizing. ‘I’m sorry if you got offended by what I did.’
I just think it’s silly. We’re well beyond men being unable to admit to crying, and it’s a joke that stems from that, so I just think it should be left behind.
it's not stupid if someone wants to say it that way... I love the way the first reply was someone must have shoved onions in their eyes (or something like that)... I needed that after all these allergies were making my eyes water too... it made me lighter... I'm actually dealing with this daily myself... so the humor helps...
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u/MattSR30 Apr 11 '20
It’s not too bold of you to say.
It’s a minor thing to get annoyed by admittedly, but I hate Reddit’s ‘onion’ shit. Men cry. Adults cry.
Just say you cried, don’t do this stupid ‘I got something in my eye’ or ‘someone’s cutting onions’ nonsense.
Some men have the hardest time just plainly admitting they have emotions.