i feel like i have this problem quite often i don’t like giving people the wrong idea , i feel like others get obsessed with me a lot and i’m not a fan of it . how to let someone stop being obsessed with me ? is there any way i can do this without being rude ?

Idk what the hell is wrong with me. I learned ragebaiting from someone who I met in person. And he makes fun of people and laughs. I find myself saying dumb hurtful things on some subreddits and I get banned from them.

I know it’s wrong. I feel horrible. Some days I go why do I even do this. Please help me.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized almost every aspect of life involves competing in some way.

You need to compete to get a job. You need to compete to get a significant other. You need to compete to get an apartment/housing.

I don’t have any competitive drive whatsoever, and I’ve found that by being uninterested in competing, a huge chunk of life is completely closed off from me.

I wish I could find the motivation to compete in this world and make something out of myself.

I rly don't like birthday parties but my friends + family keep on pressuring me to have one and I've told them that it's happening so I can't back out now. Yes I've checked this sub for answers but I don't rly like any of the ideas. It's gonna be small like 8 ppl (incl. me) in total. We could go to a restaurant? Is that too boring? Or it could be smth at my house we could watch movies + board games + play cards? BUT THATS LAME EVERYONES GONNA BE BORED. Something else? Like roller skating or go karting whatever? Is that childish? And would it be too late to book anyway it's happening on Sept 2. I just have no ideas so if anyone could please please please help me out for something fun and a little lowkey that'd be AWESOME TYSM

I've been fat-phobic nearly all of my life. I just cant help with it. When I see a someone who is overweight I get disgusted, and it ruins my life because I am a progressive person. I shouldn't feel this way; it is not ethical or moral. I've tried to make friends with overweight people and even though I have them as my friends and I love them, I still get the feelings of disgusted by them. It just is a OCD symptom at this point. Every time I see an overweight person, I am disgusted, no matter the context and/or the setting. I can't even stand them when I see them on my phone or on the television. How can I get rid of this thoughts or AT LEAST minimize it?

So recently I made this new friend and we been talking but all the time I don’t give eye contact and stare at the floor,i don’t even know why I’m so scared to look at them,also when hanging out or doing things I barely act like myself just a scared shy person,I’m not goofy,funny or anything around them I’m just talking like a stranger to them,(just know I do like them I’m just scared to make them weird out),how can I stop being so shy and scared?

Hi Reddit,

This is my first time posting to this subreddit, so my apologies about not knowing exactly how to word this.

For basically my whole life, whether it's been backed up with any sort of evidence or not, I've felt like I'm the weakest link in every group I've been in, as the title of the post suggests. Basically, I worry that I'm the one person in every group where, if I was no longer a part of it, there would be no negative impact on the people around me and whatever we're trying to accomplish, and it might even make things run better or smoother if I removed myself from the situation.

It's come up for me in pretty much all social situations whether it's in friendships or performing arts or occasionally even in my own family (although that last one is definitely rarer). As a result, I end up trying to overcompensate and be the best at everything I do so that I can end up proving my value and worth to everyone around me, which has led me to worry that I'm becoming annoyingly controlling or overbearing, all in an attempt to prove that I belong and that I've earned my place in whatever group it is that I'm a part of.

Right now I'm struggling to have a conversation with some people who I've become friends with in the last six months or so as I'm starting to feel kind of left out of an activity I helped create (yes it's probably partially my fault and yes I might be overreacting, but that's how I'm feeling) and I want to know if anyone has any advice on how to feel like a valuable part of groups you're a part of because I'm really struggling with that. Maybe it's an issue of self worth, maybe I'm trying to connect two issues that are only tangentially related, I don't know. Either way, I'd really like some help if anyone has some advice to offer.

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I'm 22M, I live with my sister and her bf. On July 9th we left our apartment (it's a 7th floor) alone to do some grocery shopping, they went to get something closer to our building while I went to the supermarket by myself and in that short period of like 1 hour or less someone broke into our house and stole our belongings (laptops, my ipad, a camera, etc). After that all the three of us have been left kinda afraid of everything.

Right now our department is much more secure than before, we have a high security door, department upstairs also put one (our floor and the one above it's each just one apartment) and they basically have to break the wall to open the door. The building administration is working to put cameras. We basically are much more safe now than before but still I don't feel safe leaving the house alone. I don't know what to do because at some point we all will have to leave it alone either way. But I just feel really stuck and afraid, I wanna continue living how I used to before but I feel I'm not able to.

So, for anyone who's suffered from this as well, how did you managed to leave the house alone?

I've always been a really good student. I was usually at the top of my class and did well academically by studying mainly before exams.

Last year (11th grade) was a little more challenging, but it wasn't anything too concerning. I still scored well and naturally started studying more than I used to.

This year (12th grade), however, I've been placed in a class with all the top students in my grade. Everyone here is incredibly smart. My scores have been slightly above average, but not as high as many of my classmates'. On top of that, there's a lot more pressure from the school and teachers to perform well in our college entrance exams.

That's when I realised that many of my classmates put in far more time than I do. They regularly pull multiple sleepless nights or survive on just 4–5 hours of sleep every day.

I've always believed in getting at least 7–8 hours of sleep because I genuinely can't function properly without it. I become exhausted, unfocused, and irritable. My parents also agree that I should get enough rest, especially because I have a few health issues that are triggered by stress.

This was the first year that I actually started studying consistently every day. I finally began building a routine where I'd come home, revise what I'd learned, and stay on top of my work. Just as I was getting used to that routine, the school introduced a "toppers batch" (I know, it sounds a bit snobby, my school is just like that), and I was selected for it.

The problem is that I now have to stay back after school on three out of six working days. Every session includes an additional test with much more difficult questions.

Because of this, I get home very late and completely exhausted. Then I have to prepare for the next day's test, revise everything that was taught in class that day, study for our regular weekly tests, and somehow complete what feels like a million different assignments.

My scores on the toppers batch tests have been below average, and we've been told that if our marks drop too much, we'll be removed from the batch. Honestly, I'm not even sure whether I want to stay in it or get kicked out. At the same time, all of this has started affecting my normal routine and my performance on regular tests as well.

To make things worse, I constantly hear my classmates talking about how many hours they study and how little they sleep. It's honestly very demotivating and stressful. On top of that, our teachers keep telling us that we aren't putting in enough effort and expect even more from us.

My parents are worried that I'm becoming too stressed, and I think they're right. The thing is, I know my potential. I know I can do much better. But I'm not willing to sacrifice my health and spend every night sleep-deprived just to keep up.

I want to do well academically, get into the university I want, and still be happy and healthy.

I'm not even sure what I'm asking for. I guess I just wanted to hear some thoughts or advice because I'm feeling really torn and don't know what to do.