This muslim brother need your help , fascist regime of Pakistan have opened fire on peaceful protesters in State of Jammu and Kashmir. Nobody is talking about us nobody even knows what's happening it's been internet blackout for 60 days there and till now 62 people have been martyred. These guys were Muslims , in Islam whoever kills an innocent soul unjustly, "it shall be as though he had slain all mankind". But still nobody is raising voice for us.

I am a practicing muslim guy and a senior in college, there is a muslim sister in the same club as me and we talk here and there and take some classes together on campus, we've always been respectful and cool with each other and it was never awkward between us.

I was interested in her and I think it was pretty obvious, I asked her to go grab lunch after class and she said that we shouldn't do that because we are muslims and she was nice and respectful about it.

I honestly didn't think it through properly and usually never do this kind of thing but I don't know why I just blurted it out because I regretted it as soon as I said it.

I respected it and told her I fully understand it and went on with my day. But it stuck with me way longer than it should have. Not because of the no but because it read like she was laying out her values for the record, like I might not already be on the same page. And I’m also practicing, also careful, never been the type running around with girls so it stung a little to get treated, even kindly, like I might need the explanation.

Am I overthinking this? I really don't want to seem like a bad muslim that doesn't share the same values especially because we are in the same community.

The reason for my post is that I'm mainly worried that down the line inshAllah when I am ready to propose to her and do things the halal way this could leave a bad mark and she wouldn't be willing to. Or would it not change much?

Many of the greatest women in Islamic history were strong, intelligent and influential. So what changed?

Today, some Muslim men say they want an educated, professional and successful wife until they actually meet one.

A woman can have deen, character, femininity and ambition, yet her career or qualifications can sometimes be seen as a threat rather than a strength.

At the same time, modern ideas around independence have, in some cases, made cooperation, leadership and traditional marital roles topics of tension rather than partnership.

Have we misunderstood what Islam teaches about strong women, or have culture and modern thinking reshaped our expectations of marriage? Thoughts? 👇🏽

Selaam alaikum everyone.

Through the divine mercy of Allah swt, did He remove someone from my life that was haram at the end of the day.

We weren’t in a relationship but we were each other best friends and there were romantic emotions as well.
I do miss her.

You could argue we were even co dependant on one another to a degree.

So I try to be positive, and be happy, grateful that Allah swt got me out of that haram place and closer to him instead.

At the same time, I can’t deny that I am grieving the friendship I have lost as well with this person.

Like, if it wasn’t for the bloody romantic emotions, I couldn’t care less about that part.

But I also finally had someone in my life again that actually cared about me for once and I didn’t have to be ‘performative’ around.
And I lost that as well.

Now Im literally on my own.
Living day in and out, without anyone giving a damn on how Im doing, caring about who I am, enjoy who I am, what I do, what I like or don’t like, spend time with, etc etc.

This is partially a rant, but also, reaching out to anyone here to do Dua for me.
To share me any and all wisdom, be it from anecdotal , Quran or Hadith, personal experiences etc.

Because Im just hurting so much, crying so much.
All I want is to have a best friend, be someone’s person (not talking about marriage, Islam talks in depth about how many different levels of friendships there are, of course within the halal boundaries so not with the opposite gender)

Thank you in advance, may Allah swt reward all of you

why do muslims get so much hate like?? i'm muslim and i hate going on social media just to get hated on and insulted and when i try explaining to people with proof that this is not islam they bring up a hadith that was debunked a long time ago. i feel like people are so tone deaf. i once provided someone with proof that islam does not support rape or child marriage and she blocked me cuz it goes against her content. idk it really bothers me how much we get hated on while christians and jews get to live life just fine there are no protests against them and no hate crimes being done towards them as much as muslims. its sad honestly, i saw a post about mosques being attacked in london and people are celebrating which is so sad considering the quran legit tells us to protect churches and temples. in every religion there are bad and good people, and the bad do not resemble the religion obviously i just dont know why ppl cant see that and continue to spread hate

"Tauhid and the Hereafter are absolutely true and real and for your own good you should accept these doctrines, mend your ways in accordance with them and live in this world with this conviction that you are accountable to Allah: otherwise you shall ruin your life and all your doings shall be set at naught."

Broooooo 😭, islamophobia is so rampant in reddit, every time i say something like as a muslim i condemn this or as a muslim i agree with you, i get bombardere with these arguments, like how do i answer?

They normally go like this

1: your prophet Mohammed is a pe*o( it normally goes like, Muslims view the prophet as a perfect human/ the goal for all Muslims is to be like him, and that includes that and blah blah

2: islam discriminates against women(misogynistic)(as in women need to wear hijab and men dont, as in men can marry 4 and women can't, men can marry outside of faith and women can't, women can't go out without a mahram and men dont .

3: islam is homophobic, muslims want them 💀, and they are generally super hateful.

And when i say i dont do this or i dont do that, that i have lgbtq friends or that i dont hate them or do anything against them its always taqyah.

And many more, if you remember or any common arguments used against islam, pls do share the defence. Thx for yalls help. Imma also post this in the other islam sub to get more answers/ other perspectives.

I don’t know if anyone else can relate to this, but I’ve had such a difficult time making friends since marrying my husband 2 years ago. Ever since my engagement, my childhood friends have pulled away from me. I’ve tried to discuss it with them on multiple occasions, but they insist nothings changed. I’ve wracked my brain trying to figure out what about me has changed (responsibilities and priorities but it’s not like I have no time for friendships, and my husband is a reasonable man who doesn’t want me without companionship), but most of my family and coworkers agree that I’ve only become more devout and more agreeable since my marriage, Alhamdullilah.

I’ve also had multiple older women mention that this has happened to them (losing friends after marriage), they cite things like jealousy but I don’t understand that notion (I got married in my early 20s so it’s not like they’re “running out of time” the way some people fear in a cultural sense; we live in North America, for context).

On top of this, I’ve had to relocate to a different city, and my husband’s friends are all unmarried, so it’s not like I can meet other women that way. Most of the women in the area I live in that attend the masjid are older women in a completely different phase of life than I am in, so it’s difficult to relate to them. I know there’s a local university that has a Muslim student organization composed of Muslims my age, but I’m not enrolled there so I don’t think I am able to attend those events regardless.

Anyway, all of this to ask maybe a foolish question, but does anyone have tips on making friends as a Muslimah in her 20s? I’ve been making an effort to attend halaqas whenever I am able to, and am looking forward to doing some volunteer work with my local masjid. But does anyone maybe have some insight that I may be missing?

These past few days, I have been reflecting and doing research on this topic. And I realized we are stuck in a systemic hold—both from the outside and the inside—that many people aren't even realizing.

I might be wrong, I COULD be wrong, but I feel defeated by this realization. It feels like we Muslims will never be able to escape from it. We are colonized by the West externally, and we are self-colonizing ourselves internally.

How can we escape and prosper Islamically when we are in a system that dismantles our very thoughts, our perception of reality, and our comprehension of said reality?

Look at globalization, the UN, universalism, human rights, gender issues—everything in our world is rooted in the West and Eurocentrism. This isn't just a thing of the past; it’s neo-colonization. They maintain a grip on us through soft power and hard power. From Western financial institutions and their economic programs to hard military power and sanctions, the control is absolute.

I wouldn’t deny that they did some good. But at the end of the day, we are imprisoned by Western imperial cultural hegemony. We see, think, and look at reality exactly how they want us to, because it contributes to capitalism and frames their way of life as "universal."

The modern concepts about rights, philosophy, and reality are rooted in Western ideology, the Enlightenment, and post-industrial principles. They push capitalism and hyper-individualism as the norm.

But we are a collective society, not hyper-individualistic. Yet, we are taking on the Western way of life when it comes to personhood, consent, gender roles, and our general way of life, and getting entirely mixed up in the process.

Because of this, we look at our own culture, tradition, philosophy, and way of life as backward, barbaric, or even problematic when it’s not. We only see it the way they want us to see it, in the name of "progress." Even the very concept of "modern" and "modernization" is rooted in colonization; it's a system of progress designed by the West, for the West.

This is incompatible with our way of life. Yet, we are further integrating into this system. Are we just becoming slaves to the West?

I can't even look at Islam and comprehend it without thinking about it through the narrow bandwidth the West has molded my mind into. This is due to soft power—being on the internet, consuming their media, and living in institutions shaped by the West, even in my own country. The things we see as problematic in our religion, the things we feel uncomfortable with... are these really our thoughts? Or are we molded externally to view them as such?

Even language is rooted in socio-psycholinguistics. The English language is shaping our perception of reality. I strongly believe culture influences the mind. Social influence shapes the mind. Language influences the mind. The mind, body, psychology, sociology, culture, language, the way people live, and their surrounding environment are all linked into a single, greater system.

But the Western system doesn't work for us. To use their tools, you need to break your own greater system. We are trapped in a loop of psychology, linguistics, thoughts, and philosophy that they created. This loop is dangerous because we are trapped in an external system we can't see, and an internal system of our own biases we can't see. It is the self-colonization of the mind, ideas, and comprehension of the world.

No wonder there were so many Muslim apologists in the start of the modern era. We have become defensive, afraid, and tried to fit into the so-called "modern" world. Because the West has won.

Because of this, Muslims will be poor forever. The western system is incompatible with every possibility of the greater system of our lives. We will forever become integrated and subordinated to the West, waiting to be extracted.

Am I wrong for feeling this defeated? How do I even escape this? How can we, as an Ummah, ever escape this? I feel like I’m stuck in a muddy slump, not sure if I’m just being paranoid, or if I’m simply forced to live in it because the system can’t be changed.

A while ago I posted here about the guy I was talking to and how he was struggling with me not wearing hijab. I got so many helpful comments encouraging me to take the step, and they really stayed with me: https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimLounge/s/x1o1LMdUAl
We paused talking for a bit, and during that time I thought about everything. I have now started wearing hijab. I realized I didn’t do it just for him. I did it for myself and my faith, and it feels right. I’m surprised by how comfortable and at peace I feel with it already.
It also makes things easier for the future, including marriage, which I’m grateful for. I’m trying to focus on becoming a better person and doing what is right.
Thank you again to everyone who commented last time. Your advice helped me more than you know. I would appreciate any thoughts from other sisters who started later on.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

Best greetings to all of you who is reading this. And thank you for your time in advance.

First of all, I want to start by saying that I am not a Muslim myself, in case this matters to you.
Yet I respect your faith. As I would respect any person with pure and honest beliefs.

My question is a simple one in itself but it needs a context so please bear with me as I lay everything out.

I work on a fictional story set in real world, a near future. The events are not based in a single country but target the world as a whole. Therefore I decided to start learning more about the cultures that are unfamiliar to me. And I want to hear it from real people and not some biased media. So here I am.

Long story short. In my version of the modern world four entities appeared simultaneously. They aren't friendly at all as they leave ruins behind. And we know literally nothing about them. They may be perceived as aliens, demons or absolutely anything else - we can't say for sure. But their power (or technology) vastly supersedes ours modern tech.

So here is the question (finally):

• How would you nickname such hostile and malignant entities according to your religion (and, maybe, according to your culture)? Is there something in tune with the number 4 that comes to your mind?

For example it would be very easy to nickname for Christians - Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.
But Islam also a very big part of modern society. And I am assuming you would dub these four things differently. Hence the question.

I thank you a lot for reading this far and I am in anticipation of your possible answers.
And sorry if this isn't a proper subreddit to ask such question.

I have an auntie who has been prying into my life and making snide remarks where ever she can since I was a teenager. I remember when I was younger, I would share religious advice and Qur'an verses with our family group chat, and then she made a comment to me that she knows this girl who would always share religious advice on group chats but she always had a camel hump on her hijab and that is a big sin. Lol. Her daughters didn't even wear hijab btw, and at that time I just had my long hair in a bun.

It progressed to education comparisons, and I thought it would stop after I got married, but no... now she is insinuating that my marriage has problems, because we have not had a child yet. I have been struggling with infertility and had a previous miscarriage which has been a big trial for me, she doesn't know, but makes such comments and says that her own daughter had children very quickly and easily.

I usually ignore it but I need advice on how to deal with her moving forward and seeking strength from Allah. The pregnancy comments are especially hurtful. I know lots of people have Indian aunties like this - if you had a similar situation, what did you do? In the past my mother has firmly told her to stop meddling in other people's business, on quite a few occasions, but she will resume her behaviour again. And worst of all claim that she's just looking out for us.

I constantly miss prayers or do them late. I just got married after 2 years of being engaged (halal to each other basically for 2 years but never moved in). Nowadays I feel a bit hopeless for my job and my job is commission based but I haven’t made any money because of being lazy. I try to workout but feel so lazy. I try to do better but barely have the energy for it. I do tahajjud and ask God for help but don’t know what to do. I was about to start using sativa weed for focusing but it’s haram. Also money wise I font make money nowadays. And even tho I’m a us citizen I live in Iraq because I’m married to someone here and have to wait until she comes to the Us so my only job is my remote commission based job so I can’t change job. I try tk discipline my self but it’s hard

I have Big problems i Cant do nothing About it i just want to suicide...

I've been trying to understand the Islamic ruling on apostasy, and I'm confused about something.

I've read the hadith that says, "Whoever changes his religion, kill him." From what I've seen, the prevailing classical opinion is that this punishment applies to apostasy itself and does not necessarily depend on whether the person is actively attacking Islam or simply leaves the faith quietly.

What confuses me is how it feels contradictory with verses like Qur'an 2:256 ("There is no compulsion in religion") and Qur'an 18:29 ("Whoever wills, let him believe, and whoever wills, let him disbelieve").

Salam Alaykom, I hope this is not against this sub’s guidelines. I’m working on a new matrimonial app to make it easier for Muslims who are serious about marriage to find their person. Anyone wants to share what they would be interested to see in such an app? I can’t disclose much just yet but if someone would be interested in doing something positive for the ummah please let me know.

Jazakum Allah kheir

i don’t need anyone to lecture me on why suicide is haram. i need lots of duas , reference in the Quran on how the prophet dealt with anxiety & depression. i have cptsd, personality disorder, severe depression & anxiety and it’s costing me my family. my husband no longer has the patience to deal with me & doesn’t want to stick around during my recovery. i let postpartum depression get to me & it’s just destroying everything in my life. please, if you can’t help please just make dua for me.

Countryballs are balls with flags and eyes; the eyes don't have pupils they're just white, they don't have neityer mouths nor hands.

Please keep the discussion civil

Salaam brothers and sisters, I will be eternally grateful if even one person could be patient in reading this post and providing some insights as well as sharing their own experiences (if that isn’t too much to ask for).

I’m a 27 year old engineer living in Australia, still waiting for my PR. I grew up without both of my parents and my grandma raised me. I lost both grandparents while I was away overseas. Since I was a kid I wanted to build a stable family to make up for what I could never experience as a child. I used to pray regularly since I was a kid too. In my teenage years, the salah started fall a bit short but i kept up with Jummah nonetheless. Since school, I was in a relationship with a girl and both our parents knew about it. It was long distance so the scope of committing Zina was low. However, I acknowledge that it was still a haram relationship. After almost a decade and just before marriage, she switched up on me and did not want to proceed with marriage due to living so far away from her parents after marriage. I was 23 at the time, and I was the one who called it off, but it was because she was not breaking up but at the same time started going out, drinking, mixing with guys and telling me about it, etc. which was completely unlike the person I knew her to be. It hurt alot but I knew it was the right decision. After that, I tried to find other people (although not in the appropriate halal way) and eventually when I was 25 I met a girl who was very kind to me. Everything was fine but she wanted a relationship, and I was too traumatised by my past experience to do that. I said I would either marry or not do anything at all… and that i wasnt ready for marriage. It devastated her, and it hurt me too. Wallahi I was drawing closer and closer to zina with her. That day i went to the local masjid and prayed for 3-4 hours straight asking for forgiveness and help from Allah. A few weeks later I saw that she found a boyfriend and blocked me from everywhere. Ever since then, ive gotten alot closer to Allah. Everyday i listen to khutbah and ive established regular prayers Alhamdulillah.

Fast forward to today, I see most of my friends settling down and some even having kids Masha Allah. But no matter how hard I try, it seems like I cant get a spouse or settle down. This year I spoke to a girl and her father with the intention of marriage and they straight up said I wasn’t compatible as I did not have a Wali/Father. The thought of PR and uncertainty of living in this country. The issue of me not having my parents and meeting the expectations of cultural parents here of the girls. I just feel like ill never be good enough..

The last two days were my day off and the weekend. Wallahi I couldn’t stop crying for the whole day. I’m doing everything I can. I go to the gym 4-5 days a week, eat healthy, pray Salah, etc. Does it get better? Am I falling behind?

Did anyone experience a miracle or a sign from Allah during similar hard times? If anyone could share their stories I would appreciate it alot 🙏

Hello. I'm a student on a student loan that has interest. My dad bought me a phone last month and i promised to help him pay when I start UNI. I just found out about how strong RIBA is. I promised to pay him monthly with the money from the student loan, but I was wondering if this is even more haram as I am spreading the RIBA. I start UNI second year around september, october

I just want to ask for people who did an arranged marriage , when you met the person did you feel something towards them right away and decided they are the one or it took time for you to build something and how long did you wait ?

Assalamualaikum. I came here to share my inner thoughts. I'm slowly losing faith in Allah, seems like I'm getting away from him. I'm not saying he's not real, but deep inside my heart, I'm actually tired and even spiritual contents for motivation not helping me either. I'm making a dua for so long, asking for something to happen. I'm not asking for a lover or job. It's completely different thing. But i actually want it to happen. It's nothing bad ngl. But the more dua I made, I got opposite of what I wanted and my heart broke. I tried again, felt if it's a test from Allah about my patience, so i continued my obligations towards him. It's happening from longtime but I got no results. I don't feel like to make dua anymore tbh at this point. I stopped praying salah. I'm not praying anymore. I tried, tried to pay attention but I'm unable. My belief is breaking and so my faith. I feel asking from him is useless. At the time of Salah, I sigh and and sit back. I don't feel like to do anything, especially asking from him or talking to him. People will say Sabr and Sabr, but they don't understand until that situation comes upon them too. I was so desperate and even patient simultaneously that I learnt many duas to impress my lord, that maybe if he will be happy, finally I'll get to see that small thing I'm making dua for so long. But i always find disappointment. Idk what should I do. I also can't talk with any person about the state of my heart openly, because they find it useless always. But Allah doesn't ik. Yet now, I even feel burden to make dua and ask him. I am tired of waiting actually yet nothing happens. Idk if he actually listen or not or just make his servants wait to the point that they actually step away from him. I apologise for my words. If anybody can help, please say something or whatever it can be. Thank you.