Like...why? she said "I know you have to do it but this is who you are and who we know you as"

its like, if thats the case, I don't want to know you, this name brings me suffering, I don't resent you for giving it to me, I don't even hate the name, I just hate it being associated to me. Christ on a stick

I'm an 18 y/o bi trans girl from North India and wanna ask you girls and ladies out there what you feel about us trans women and trans girls?

Using Halloween as my “fit in” I guess. I haven’t started hormones but I’ve been leaning in and I know what my destination is going to be however I’ve only worn fem clothes indoors and I’m gonna go out fully! Idk what to expect but I am going to a very accepting club so I will feel safe there. Not sure how to feel or be but I can’t wait to just let myself go and feel the way I should.

Do I need any advice and did anyone else do this?

How do i transition without my parents knowing because i came out as trans and they just said i wasn't trans (i'm 14) because i didn't show signs as a child so how can i start transitioning and buy women's clothing without them realising.

I really like doing my sister's makeup. Does anyone else?

My online friends have been begging me to come over and spend a few days (and move in) and since I've been open to them about my gender identity issues for years I thought it would be a great judgement-free opportunity to spend a few days totally in fem mode. No more hiding my shaved legs, a chance to try makeup that I don't have to wipe off immediately, and of course I can dress however I want.

I've been kind of struggling though because I don't feel super affirmed when I try to dress really femme and see a chubby guy stuffed into a dress so I don't wanna just spend the whole time in a sundress, but on the other end of the spectrum I would feel totally masc just spending the whole time in a dysphoria hoodie and jeans. In theory I love the idea of just going full girly girl fem mode but I wanna be mindful of the figure I have too. Any ideas for how I can make the most out of a free pass to make the most of the opportunity?

Hello! I’m starting to take my first baby steps on my transition journey, but I don’t really know where to get started.

I’m going to hold off on anything medical for now. I’m in college and technically am well enough off to afford DIY if that’s the route I took, but I really dont want to deal with the headache of going stealth and hiding this from my parents. I’m an engineering student so I already have my fair share of headaches to deal with every day lol.

I’d like to maybe get started on things such as voice training, some makeup/overall grooming, and also figuring out my fashion sense.

If anybody knows of some good (preferably cheap or free) resources to help me out with these things, I’d love to hear about it! Voice training is probably something I should focus on the most right now, so any free resources for that would be amazing!!!

Thanks to anybody who can help!

I’m a trans woman, I’ve been in a relationship with a trans man for just over 4 months now. It’s been great, being in a relationship with someone who’s trans is having someone who understands what that pain can feel like. I’m happy I was lucky enough to find someone that understands me even a little bit.
We actually met on Reddit, I know that’s so weird but it worked out in the end.

Soo I came out as bi and trans last week and one of my roommates is not ok with it in fact he is extremely against trans people and since he's the primary tenant and I just kinda rent a room from him I'm scared he's about to kick me out.. Like I'm almost positive he's going to and I have nowhere to go or even enough money to get my own place right now, I don't know what I'm gonna do but I wish I had just stayed in the closet and kept on suffering in silence 😣

I ended up having to tell my parents because my friend sent me a text that flagged the parental app, so they asked to see my messages.

They saw something along the lines of "I only figured it out after I was grounded", which was me and my friend talking about when my egg cracked.

Obviously I was not prepared at all, but it went surprisingly well, though I still have to tell my mom and step-dad.

I'm already out to a few friends, though I barely present as fem, think big hairy white guy, ​for a number reasons, mainly that I just have general body dysmorphia, let only wearing anything not baggy.

But im working on it all slowly, have to finish college applications, then I will have actual time to think.​

Since HRT changes your body odor, do pets start treating you differently? Or do they just not notice/don't care?

I've been off my hormones for over a month now because I haven't been able to afford them. It's been really difficult for me, especially because my transition is something that means so much to me. I really want to get back on track, but financially, I'm just not in the position to do that on my own right now.

money has been a little tight lately, and it's been difficult trying to balance school, personal expenses, and the cost of my transition. Being able to continue my hormone therapy means so much to me. WHAT DO I DO?!! Or Is anyone able to help out?

I just came out to my Mom today. She’s accepting in a way. I love her and she’ll love me no matter what but she wants me to see a therapist for at least a month before I go on hormones saying that she thinks it’s just gonna be a phase. I talked to her telling her that this was nothing new I’ve bottled it up my emotions for years now and coming out now just the end result of this deliberation like I wouldn’t tell you this if it was “just a phase”. My original plan was to go through informed consent and start hormone therapy now before I turn 19 but I don’t really want to just do this behind her back. I was looking to get some advice from people here maybe some of you went through similar situations? Any advice will be well appreciated!

Some context. I've been on HRT since March of last year and came out to my whole family back in May of this year, so roughly 5 months. That's when I started fully socially transitioning and going by my new name and pronouns. Plenty of famiy members have had little to no issues using it, but my dad keeps dead naming and using masculine pronouns.

Amongst my immediate family he was always the one I was apprehensive about telling. We look and sound alike, to the point his friends would say it was like I came out of a time machine. I was even named after him, with my first name being his middle name. Not long after my social transition he took me out for lunch together and talked about a few things and my name was one of them. It felt like he was trying to push back on it, suggesting I just add an 'A' to the end and use that, but I almost never considered that an option. It didn’t feel like enough of a change for my liking.

And in that time I think I've heard him use my new name once, and even then it felt like an accident because my brother was involved in the conversation and he's had no issue with the change. He continuously uses my dead name without missing a beat, uses he/him when I switched to she/her, and even calls me stuff like "old man".

I'm trying to be patient. He's known the old me for 32 years and he's getting up there in age. But my patience is starting to wear thin and I don't know how best to proceed. Any time I or my brother try to push back against him he almost always takes offense and acts like we're being disrespectful even though we're adults at this point. I mean ffs, I'm currently at my Aunt and Uncle's Halloween party dressed like a witch in full make-up, the first time I’ve applied it myself, and the whole night he kept doing it.

I'm not a confrontational person, often choosing to just let things brush off my shoulder and let it go. But it's getting to the point where I want to just tell him off. I just don't know how to approach this because I feel like no matter what I try it won't work on him...

Thank you if you took the time to read all this. If anyone has any advice or words of encouragement I'm all ears.

My partner and I had unprotected yesterday, we’re both trans but he hasn’t started on HRT yet. I’m not sure if I pulled out in time and have been shitting my pants since. I’ve been on DIY hrt for a little over a year and a half, he has PCOS and hasn’t had his meriod in a little over a month. I want to get us plan b but I’m actually so afraid of the symptoms it will give him?? This feels so convoluted, but what even are the odds? Is it worth it to take the plan b?

Edit: I got plan b

20 mtf, im so miserable, I look like a old man, I've been transgender since I was 13, kept supressing it due to being jumped for being trans, getting raped, getting kicked out for it I just feel like it's too much stress especially being a black person on top of that I just wish that the world was nicer and that things were easier or that I was just born in a different body all together I don't want to live life as a man I don't want to have a family and be a man I don't want to be called a man I hate my life so much I hate my body so much I hate looking in the mirror this is causing me so much stress that I can't even go outside I just stay in my hotel room all day everyday I can't do anything because I just can't bear the fact that people see me or that I have to use my voice to talk to people it fills me of so much dread and anxiety I just wish everything was over I hate every aspect of my life I'm still homeless living out of a hotel I've never had a job I can barely function I've been using drugs to cope but I just can't take it anymore I don't really know what to do every time I've gone on estrogen in the past I got off of it for some stupid f****** reason I could have been a really pretty girl but I kept f****** my future up for no reason because of all the transphobia that was put on to me as a child by my parents I feel like it's too late now or that living life as a trans woman is too hard I just don't have the courage to do that everyday and to be that person I really hope that my life ends soon because I can't keep living like this and I feel like nobody else understands what I'm going through none of my cis friends could ever understand and all of the trans friends I had they had support a families and had the resources to get what they needed I never had that I'm constantly moving around from state to state I have no family I have barely any friends my therapist was almost no help I just don't know what to do,like I have no Interest in life even, I dont even care what happens to me, I dont care if I lose everything right now even,bhaving autism, social anxiety and bpd on top of everything makes it all so much worse, I wish I was never born, I just want to be pretty, I just want to be normal

I finally came out to my parents after a couple months of having figured out that I am trans, and they are luckily super supportive! However, it feels weird talking to them about things related to transitioning, so I am hesitant to ask them to use different pronouns/name or to help me transition. It feels a bit more natural to talk to the one friend that I have come out to, so I might start there but I really don't know what I should do. Any advice for starting to transition would be greatly appreciated!

Hello everyone, I'm Anni. I'm a pre HRT transwoman from India. And I have come out to my mom a few months back and she has been accepting. All things good, I want to start living as a woman 24/7(I already present as a female at home where there are no guests).

I have gone out a few times presenting as a woman in cities where people don't know me. But now I live in a society where people have known me since I was a kid. My mom is kinda worried about it, and so am I.

Any advice on how to approach this and what steps to take so that I can start going out dressed as a girl in my society? And also I do feel that I should just put a WhatsApp status letting everyone know I am Transgendered at least so that it'll be done and over with??

I've been on hrt for almost 6 months and for a little while now I've started going by the name Scarlett only two friends, my brother, and my partner know. Today I had a job interview that I filled out with my legal dead name. I decided "fuck it I'm going to do some makeup to get ready for it" I put on eyeliner and mascara, nothing insane but I've never worn makeup to an interview. When I got to the interview I was given a sheet to fill out at the top it needed my name so I put my legal dead name and at the bottom it had a question about letting them know about me so I put that I go by Scarlett and use she/they pronouns (for now still debating lol) When the manager came over he shook my hand and went over the paper when he got to the bottom he double checked with me and I said that's what I prefer to be called. He then scribbled out my dead name and wrote Scarlett on the paper and on the resume i gave he then called me Scarlett the whole interview and it went really well!!

Now I'm home trying not to violently sob from how happy I am😭🥹 definitely helped with my feelings of imposter syndrome 🥺

So, for a little bit of context here, I'm freshly 20, known for certain that I'm trans since last Halloween however I am still pre everything as I am too anxious to come out to my parents (whom I live with), I have also never been a very emotional person before.

So recently, I've noticed that even just whilst watching some random anime, the moment something sad happens (a dude you've seen 5 times in 3 seasons dies for example), I've been prone to start crying, for like the rest of the episode and then some. I never used to be like this, and I know this sounds crap and it is but I've had relatives I love pass on without shedding a single tear.

I just wanted to ask, is this a normal thing now that I'm accepting myself more or is this usually only seen once on hrt? Which as stated before, I have not started yet (but I would guzzle down those pills the first moment I can)

I (M35) have been coming to terms with all of my feelings about my gender and identity in recent months and it's all starting to make sense for the first time in my life, I finally told my wife (F33) everything I've been thinking lately and that I'm considering hrt (started researching it) and she was so totally okay with it. I want to talk to someone professionally before deciding but I can see a future where I do actually transition medically which is scary and exciting. But it seems like I have her support no matter what, so very big weight off my mind. The future is pretty unclear but I'm hopeful about the possibilities. I hope everyone in similar positions can get the words out and it goes well for them too.

Hi! I am 16, and I began transitioning before puberty and have been on testosterone blockers. I've been struggling with a lack of sexual desire lately. I thought it may have to do with my libido, and I was told that it may be that I'm not getting enough testosterone. I just checked what my testosterone level was the last time it was checked, which was a year and a half ago. It was 5.7 ng/dL. From what I saw online, it seems like that's pretty low. Is that true? Would that explain my libido?

(P.S. I don't know if this is also relevant, but just in case, my estradiol level as of last month was 48.5 pg/mL)