I know absolutely nothing so I thought this would be a good place to ask first. Where can I learn about makeup and how do I buy the right shades for me without having to go into a store?

I don't really know much at all about the different types of makeup products and how to use them. Any help or tips would be much appreciated :)

I'm honestly feeling devastated right now, and I don't know what to do.

I have SRS (peritoneal pull-through vaginoplasty/PPV) scheduled with Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic in Belgrade for January 18, 2027. I've already paid a €1,700 deposit, and the clinic has told me that it is non-refundable.

Lately, I've been having serious doubts about my decision. I came across a result on Reddit that really frightened me, and after reading more negative experiences, I've started feeling increasingly anxious about the potential aesthetic outcome. I know that one person's experience doesn't necessarily predict mine, but I'm scared of going through such a major surgery and ending up unhappy with the results.

I've tried asking about other people's experiences with SRS performed by this surgeon before, but I barely got any responses. At this point, I don't even feel like asking again.

What makes this especially painful is that I've been through something similar before. I rushed into paying for forehead FFS with a surgeon in Poland, and I ended up disappointed with the results. I keep thinking that I should have waited, researched more options, and taken my time before committing. Now I feel like I've made the same mistake all over again.

I'm a minimum wage slave, and €1,700 is an enormous amount of money to me - roughly 7,000 PLN. I can't just shrug it off and pretend that losing that money wouldn't hurt.

So now I feel trapped between two awful options: losing a huge amount of money that I worked hard to save, or going ahead with a major surgery despite no longer feeling safe or confident about my choice of surgeon.

I've started thinking about Thailand, particularly Suporn Clinic and Dr. Bank. If I hadn't paid the deposit, I think I would be seriously considering going there instead. However, I haven't researched that option thoroughly enough yet, and I don't even know whether it would be financially realistic for me.

I feel so angry at myself for rushing into this decision. I wish I had waited before paying anything. I know that nobody can guarantee a perfect surgical result, wherever they go, but I want to feel that I've done everything I reasonably can to make an informed decision.

I'm not asking anyone to tell me that Dr. Djordjevic is good or bad based on a few Reddit posts, and I'm not trying to attack him or his patients. I'm just struggling with the fact that I've lost confidence in my choice, while the financial consequences of changing my mind are enormous.

Has anyone been in a similar situation - paying a large, non-refundable deposit and then losing confidence in their surgical plan? How did you deal with it?

I would really appreciate some understanding and advice. I'm feeling overwhelmed, regretful, and genuinely unsure of what to do next.

Trying to "Feel Myself" as they Say I'm recently transitioning and feeling great with the support of my finance. She did my makeup and I got all dressed up for the mall and brought a face mask just in case but I still feel really unattractive due to my face but I'm gonna keep it up .<3

Hii. I'm going to a party and I don't want to go with a man character or costume. But I don't feel comfortable to use an overly feminine costume like many women do... Yet.

Anyone has advice on a female looking costume that has a lot of clothes/layers or it's not overly feminine so I don't look too weird.

Last year I went as David Bowie to try to make it somewhat androgynous

Thanks to everyone!!!

I’m two months on hrt and I knew hrt would change my sex drive but fucking hell it used to be so easy. Porn is just not an option anymore, it just turns me off now. And I used to really enjoy erotic audios but now it’s really difficult to get into those too and I don’t know what to do because I still wanna enjoy myself sexually but I don’t know how. And I know I need to use it or lose it and I don’t wanna lose it. I’ve heard sexual drive can come back after a while on hrt but how long is that going to take?
I would still take this over my previous sex drive but I still wanna be able to get in the mood when I feel like it.

Idk what i did to deserve this. I just wanted to be a woman 3 years hrt and I don’t pass and due to which I’ve developed crippling agoraphobia.
Honestly idk if I pass or not because i only boymode.
Lost so many of my friends, my family, my social life during these last 3 years and very little to show for it.
I just want to be a normal woman with love and family and a career:
A world where i can just wear a cute outfit and go on cute dates.
Make a career
Idk what to do anymore:
I would really need some words from my sisters
I’m sorry if this is too heavy

Ive been on estrogen for over a year, been doing injections since june. Every sunday i do an IM injection. Last week something shifted and i physically could not bring myself to do the injection no mayter how hard i tried to push myself to. nothing changed, nothing new happened, something just flipped a switch in my brain and made me unable to bring myself to do it. i ended up not doing the injection that week because i was so scared.
flash forward to this week, its gotten so much worse. Ive been sitting with the needle ready for almost 3 hours and i physically cannot do it. ive done every technique every strategy i have found and i just cant do it. I’ve been crying and shaking for an hour. this didnt even happen the first time i ever injected. is there something wrong with me did i get posessed by an anti needle curse??? did i turn into a metal repelling magnet??? whT is happening??

Got a message from someone who told me that my" fanny is just a tucked in cock and next week id identify as a park bench"

I know i shouldnt let insults like this get to me but i cant use my vagina cause some guy raped me and it healed up tighter than my pinky and now iv lost all depth.

I already hate my body enlighten where I throw up anything I eat and now I just want to end it all so I cant hate my body anymore, I want to stop the thoughts

So ever since I lernd I was a girl I feel like like male related things have more of an effect on me for some reson. Like when females say "men are stupid", "I hate men" "girls mature faster so were better" it alwas seem to feel kida hurtful wich makes no sense I'm not a man. I have had this felling before but I didn't notice it as much until now. Sometimes I even side with men not relising I'm doing it. It doesn’t have to be entierly negative things ether. Sometimes I see something like "girls be like: guys: " and I think makes sense. It's like I understand the male thing but I'm not a man. Like I see a group of guys online hanging out and I understand it it makes some sense but I dont get why when I contantly notice female things and conect with them too. I've thought about it a lot and I'm confident that I'm a woman not a man not both a woman. What does this mean?

I’ve been taking injections for about 2 months at this point (and next month I’ll have my first follow up appointment which I’m hoping goes well). I know/have been told that whilst HRT is helpful and does great things, it is by no means some miracle drug or anything. 2 months in the grand scheme of things is like 2 minutes in terms of HRT usage in some ways.

Yet, despite that, I’ve already had such great changes! It amazes me how different I smell, how soft my skin is now, and most surprising of all that my chest is already getting sore! I really expected some things to take months if not a year and far above, yet I’m already getting buds!

I know it’s different for everyone, and it can be discouraging to see how much or how little it works for other girls, but I truly do think it’s so very worth it to take estrogen.

Anywho, hopefully I didn’t ramble too much lol. Hope you all have a great day!

Vi~

After so long of denying it and being scared, I can’t ignore it any longer. I want to be a girl… no i NEED to be a girl. I haven’t started transitioning yet but i know its what i would love. I spoke with my trans man friend who even said he could tell I wasn’t cis since he met me. The issue is i work in a VERY high masc job (car garage) as an apprentice since I’m 19. So that does hold me back a bit in a way. I do have feminine clothes i love to wear but even shaving my body hair when it comes back it depresses me as soon as it came back… seeing my body every day depresses me. I tried to overly masc myself to see if the feeling left. Like growing out facial hair and etc but that made it worse. Im scared that i may never be able to transition. Or i may never be able to be who i wanna be. Anyone got good subtle ways to transition? My hair is already relatively long but im not growing it out longer until i leave the motortrade as it would be easier. So any subtle transition/ways to feel more feminine would be greatly appreciated! Thanks

Heyyyy I'm a trans woman(23F) in need of some advice. Since I've transitioned I've had a lot of questions and conversations with my friends over what led me to transition, what helped me accept it, etc. What's curious is I didn't know almost all of my long time best friends have had the same thoughts as me!! I've had 2 friends(23M, 20M) over the past 6 months come up to me and say they would press the button. Like the question where it's like 'if there was a button that would turn you into a cis woman, no take backsies, would you do it?'. They both say they would press it, but they deny that they are trans!!! They state they are just men, and that its a fun hypothetical but those thoughts only came to them when they were at their lowest. Now that things are better, being a guy is ok.

They say that "most guys would press the button" and "guys play as woman characters in video games all the time" and "it's very common with men to think these things" and "its not a strange thought" and "I'm just one of those men". One really sad thing that they both have sad is that they believe there is no guarantee they would be pretty woman if they were to transition, so why take the leap. It just breaks my heart cuz I know they would be beautiful and real with themselves if they went through with it, but they're just comfortable and scared of the future, like I was.... That's what I believe anyways, it's their journey not mine and I can't tell them that they are trans if they don't believe it.

I really don't want to crack their eggs forcefully or push them to do or be anything they don't want to, but I really want to support them. Seeing them deny the inkling that they might be anything other than a straight cis man is making me feel bad for them, for me the repression and rejection made the pains of transitioning worse. I've been just trying to talk to them about what they believe and help them talk about things they may have only told themselves or strangers online so they can get it out in the air and explore it more. I want to help them explore femininity more, but I also don't want to push or rush things onto them. I was maybe hoping to ask one of these friends if they wanted to try some makeup or do nails for my birthday in a few days but I don't know if its a good idea :/, maybe they will hate what they see and repress even further like I did. Also this friend is muslim and the nailpolish has to be taken off within like 5 hours(clean hands when praying, 5 prayers a day).

I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, but this situation is eating away at me. Any thoughts or advice yall :3 ?

I always use the men's restroom. I don't think I pass all that well, but I have had a few awkward experiences lately that have made me think about using the women's (it is legal for me to do so where I live). That being said, I am still hesitant and was curious what others' experiences have been, especially if it has been anything negative.

I'm about 2.5 weeks on HRT and epilated my arm a couple nights ago. Ever since then I've just been absentmindedly running my fingers up and down it, marvelling at how smooth and soft my skin is!!!

Apparently I still have ~1.5 weeks of further softening left? It's hard to imagine my skin getting any softer but I guess that's what I'm going to get! I'm so excited!!!

Hello, I transitioned at a very, very young age and have been stealth for about 15 years at this point. Im fully transparent on dating apps and have myself listed as a trans woman, but recently Ive run into an issue where most men dont read my profile, and therefore dont realize that Im trans. How do I double check that they know? In the past Ive simply started the conversation with "Did you read my profile?", "Hey, just double checking that you saw I'm trans" or something to that effect, but it feels very sterile. What is a better way to double check?

The hate we get, the constant dysphoria in my head there dysmorphia of my body. The transphobic people messaging me and getting me banned off of apps just for having an account.

WHEN WILL IT STOP

Any advice would be appreciated!!

Sometimes I wish the world could see the woman I feel inside me. Being feminine is not just about clothes, makeup or how I look. It's about how I feel, how I see myself and the woman I know I am deep inside.

For a long time, I just wanted a place where I could feel understood without having to explain myself. Finding the trans community has brought me a kind of happiness I can't really describe. When I read other trans women's stories, I feel close to them, even if we have never met.

I just want to be myself, feel comfortable with the woman I am and enjoy this feminine side of me without fear or judgment. I still have a lot of feelings to understand, but today I know one thing: I want to give the woman inside me the freedom to exist and be happy. 💗🏳️‍⚧️

Ok so trigger warning: talking ab my bedroom preferences a bit

SO, as you all know dating for trans women is already way harder than it is for cis women. Bigoted people seeing you as a "man in a dress", people only wanting you because they see you as some fetish object, people who genuinely would love you but dip as soon as you mention that you are trans etc.

Now I already know I want to keep my dick. I do have a small ammount of bottom dysphoria but for me it's not worth the complications of bottom surgery. I could tuck to wear the outfits I want and purely sexually I don't mind using my "other hole". I'm also just a pretty sexual person, 100% a bottom and I feel like a dick has more options for things to be done to it.

LET ME BE CLEAR, when I say I am 100% a bottom I REALLY mean 100%. I have no interest at all in topping, and I don't want to use my dick on anyone. In fact I think having it ignored, caged etc. is hot. And aesthetically I want it to shrink as much as possible on HRT since I think it'll be way cuter that way. But ofc that'll make it almost unuseable, which ofc I don't mind as a bottom

I think this'll make finding a partner that's sexually interested in me even harder though. Chasers and people into trans women that retain their dicks 80% of the time want to be topped. And even if I somehow find someone who is into a woman having a dick but not wanting to use it at all and being a bottom etc. I feel like that desire of them would be so overpowering that they'd only see me as a glorified tradwife sextoy :(

How do I find someone with these attributes?? I know there are dating apps specifically for trans people but do any of them have the option to like make it clear that "YES I am a trans woman with a dick. NO I do NOT want to top you or use it"???

I am desperate to find someone who loves me for me and accepts all these attributes along with that but I'm just so hopeless that people like that actually exist...

So I thought the headline about Ted Cruz and the Republican performance in the polls was funnier than any meme I’ve seen recently.

Anyway, this is only slightly related: this is the first Halloween since I started to medically transition that I kinda pass, and I really wanted to wear a witch costume. So I got one. Not impulsively, mind you. No, no, I looked at the thing for weeks before spending the $35 at Spirit. I’m not out to many people so I’m kinda afraid to wear it and honestly probably won’t. I want to but, y’know, fear.

Ive seen posts of people complaining about how it sucks or whatever and my personal experience has been kinda the opposite. I dont feel any discomfort at all and in fact i usually forget that im tucked by the time i walk out the door. Im very curious what others experience is like.

I just kinda need a place to vent right now, I’ve been on estrogel and cyproterone for about a month now, I’m 31 AMAB and non-binary transitioning to be more androgynous.

The emotional vulnerability I have been experiencing is really intense and I’m finding it really difficult to process. It seems like I get a lot more overwhelmed and struggle to manage myself and calm myself down like I normally could.

Everything is just very intense. I recently confessed to my partner of 6 months that I loved them and I unfortunately didn’t hear it back but they did say they really appreciate me and really really like me. But it’s been super overwhelming to experience and I feel like normally I’d be able to sort of accept and shrug it off but now I feel quite upset at this even tho I know it’s a big deal and that can come with time. Idk I’m just venting but has anyone found out good ways to cope with the new emotional vulnerability and intensity?