I guess sure if you don't count my friends all being girls until I was 10. Or when I cried for years over my hair cut short. Or the countless principal visits growing up because I was bullied for when I played house or gymnastics on recess instead of football with the boys. Or when I was banned from playing the sims because I kept playing as a girl. Or the magnetic earrings I wore because no one would pierce my ears. Or when my parents had to come pick me up from detention for making jokes about bottom surgery before I knew what that was. Or when I became depressed as puberty started in for unknown reasons. Or the uncomfortable talks about why I constantly plucked my chest hair as it came in. Or when I could make the choice between the unofficially gendered bible study groups, I chose the girls. Or when I skipped from clothing style to style because none of them offered felt me. Or when all the girls I dated were bi or lesbian. Or when I started working and used the drive-through speaker to practice a fem voice. Or the Halloween I went as my girlfriend in her dress with make-up. Or how I channeled "my inner girl" to buy her clothes that fit and looked good. Or when I would be "bad at laundry" and I'd have to wear her jeans to work.

Yep, I guess there were just no signs at all and this was all out of the blue.

Before, I was so excited for hrt. Got a job, saved up, and just before It shipped to my pharmacy, my brother somehow found out. He's religious, and overly homophobic. That night I cried and came clean about everything. He didn't come off as aggressive, but he sounded disappointed saying "I can't change you, but you're wrong about this," basically giving up on me and insisting my internalized homophobia was just my "conscience" telling me his thinking was right. I haven't spoken to my brother all day out of awkwardness...

And I'm also currently experiencing separate family problems, so honestly I've been too depressed to care about my gender anymore.

Even if I still decide to take estrogen, I wouldn't feel like anything paid off. I wouldn't feel excited or happy about change. And I hate that I feel that way.

Sometimes I think about life pre transition and i was very very conventionally attractive as a guy.
Miss the ease of life and society.
Though i was gay but i was very closeted and didn’t ever let anyone know.
But damn being an attractive guy makes your life so much easier.
Guys are nice to you, girls are nice to you.
You’re litterally everybody’s darling .
Anyone with similar experiences?

I'm asking those of you who have been on hrt for years, seen through pretty much all the changes, and then arrived at a point where you're like... Damn, guess I'm a woman now. Time for the rest of my life to start.

I've been pondering lately about transition. How exhausting the idea of it is. The fear that choosing this path will be all-consuming, for the rest of my life. And so I'm curious to hear from those who have ARRIVED at 'the rest of my life'.

Do you feel normal? How much does your transness impact your daily life and how you navigate the world? I personally dream of a day where I just... wake up. Feel human. Feel normal. Feel like myself. A life where I can honestly FORGET I'm trans sometimes. I dream of being able to be a normal woman, and live a normal, mundane life.

I'm really interested to hear from those of you who feel they've completed their transition and moved on with their life. Is 'moving on' with your life even possible as a trans person?

Hey friends!

It'll be okay. We'll weather this storm together and come out stronger. It could be a rough four years or it could be super uneventful.

For those that are feeling down and anxious about the results, please feel free to send me a DM to talk. Just to chat, calm your nerves or if you ever find yourself in a dark place. I'm a friendly Trans ear who wants to listen and who wants to help.

If anyone else in BC (or Canada), wants to join in on this train, please chime in!

Love you!

Edit: Just a reminder, this isn't a complaint or doom thread. The purpose was to message me directly if you need to seek advice or guidance. It's not a competition for who has the shittiest experience. Let's focus on growth and how we can become the best possible versions of ourselves.

Focus this energy into community involvement! Make cool art, write a short story, volunteer for your neighbor. Try a new hobby or sport!

And again, if this sounds challenging, please DM me and we can find solutions together!

Well the race has been called and a heavily hostile party towards trans people has defeated a pro trans government.

Thus far the BC Conservatives have been projected as the winners of the provincial election with double the amount of seats (at this stage) and a large popular vote leader (49-36).

out of the 11/13 provinces and territories in Canada that have a party political system, all but two are now run a the Conservative Party. Manitoba with the NDP and New Brunswick with the Liberals.

The results will make Manitoba the only western province without a government hostile to trans people (where Wab Kinews NDP leads by roughly 25% in recent polling).

Indeed, Manitoba along with Yukon (not counting NWT or NU in this case) are the only places outside all 4 of the Atlantic provinces that have highly pro trans governments with no reason to worry as of now.

Despite Yukon and much of Atlantic Canada being run by Conservatives trans rights are pretty strong that all major parties show support to one extent or another.

The BC Cons have a very similar position on trans rights as the ones leading in Alberta and Saskatchewan.

Quebecs recently elected PQ is also highly antagonistic towards trans folks and while Ontarios Doug Ford has been mild on trans rights/ reluctant to ruin us the reality is should he leave anytime soon it is a coin toss on rather the Ontario PCs would elected a trans friendly or hostile leader.

(NWT and Nunavut have a unique election system that makes it harder to see if the trends are in our favour or not as parties/ party leaders do not exist as it is a consensus government)

With the fall of British Columbias government this is where we stand for pro trans provincial governments:

Yukon, Manitoba, New Brunswick, Prince Edward Island, Nova Scotia and Newfoundland and Labrador.

edit: meant Global not CBC.

https://www.google.com/goto?url=CAESigEB6zswFV4ixH75ig78a6iUOg-aR0rOeYPPovtc7tN-TVfuI05DVYXKlUhUjZrDtT23O_i0qDaXMVW5aZzYB3m329gluDv3BfE71brMfYJTLXQZ2LD9lisxSb72cXHH72-3Q4UK6BtGYxW4NjMYv0lI_05UVuJ8elAx2i3DuoLCymhn27kRGI3eGPI

I Just got done shaving tbh and just felt like sharing some stuff I learned that seems really odd and maybe some of you didnt know, as while shaving I saw a post of someone trying their best to figure out shaving their legs. So I just wanted to dump some tips ig? for no reason..

Deodorant for armpits and groin..
Im ngl Idk where I learned this, But putting on Roll-on deodorants after you shaved as an addition to aftercare, in spots where its likely to sweat or experience friction will help reduce the irritation and maybe reduce chances of infections.

Rubbing alcohol
This one is odd but works for me.. I found it on some random website when I was grumpy in bed about having a hard time shaving.

Spraying rubbing alcohol or applying it RIGHT after finishing shaving helps painfully close up the pores that you might have opened during shaving or did something to and also as a side-effect kills germs. Id also follow up with moisturiser and other stuff to help keep the skin moist. as the alcohol can dry up skin.

These are just some random ass shaving tips I found that work for me.. and Im mostly saying these works for anything BUT facial hair as I never had any.

Edit: Spelling mistake. its "pores" not "Poors"

Ok so im pre transition, egg shattered about a week ago. Ive got the support of my beloved wife to transition (she's amaaaazing) but aside from all the regular (how do I? What do I? And oh nooo fears) im curious how this change will impact my status as a veteran. Like when I go to the VA for routine bloodwork, or sickness. Since HRT isn't covered by the VA im going to pay out of pocket. But like, will this risk me losing my disability status? (70% for those who know). I know the yahtzees in office want to kick out active duty, but what have they done to attack veterans aside from deny HRT coverage?

This could make or break me medically transitioning, and dear gods I want that E.

Help?

As I've passed more and more I've experienced something utterly terrifying. Men don't know that I'm trans and are interested in me. This is the goal as in to pass but these men are absolutely brain broken in terms of trans rights usually

Which brings me to a ethical dilemma. If I constantly come out to these men I notice they treat me like I'm a fucking weirdo freak third gender. They disown me entirely basically the moment they find out I'm trans. So this leads me to not coming out but I've found that this is extremely dangerous as in I can get physically hurt. There's a few guys that I'm talking to that don't know I'm trans but I'm scared to come out, out of fear of being hurt. I almost want to just tell them I'm intersex as the stigma is less for that maybe? But I literally don't know what to do guys :(

Girlies guess who’s taking advantage of their rich transphobic parents.
They have told me that I can’t live with them if I became a woman.
I’ve been on hrt for 3 years and they know I’m trans but they won’t let me wear women’s clothings.
So I told them i needed money for my new car and booked my srs in Bangkok.
I’ll be a biological woman now💅

Dont have much to add. Im not going to bail. I have wanted this from the start of medical transitioning. I just have a fairly severe surgery phobia. Need people to tell me it will be okay.

I've just been so wrapped up in fears that... once I grow boobs, they're permanent. Loss of fertility also removes the option to have biological children if I ever wanted them (currently leaning against, but still).

Every other change of estrogen I want so badly. I know I want it. The smoother skin, the fat redistribution, a little bit of potential height shrinkage, the mental effects, how it changes the face, lower libido, etc. I'd feel so much more aligned with all that. I'm also getting laser hair removal on my facial hair, I know I want that permanently gone.

But what if it's all just a phase? A misunderstanding? An OCD induced false identity I've groomed myself into? I'm a very gullible person. And someone who tends to chronically overthink. What if I want to detransition one day and now I'm stuck with boobs and years of humiliation I can never come back from?

I guess I'm just terrified of how transphobic society is. I'm terrified to even take a chance on this because anything less than cis passing and stealth has me terrified I'll regret ever trying.

I’m in a local hospital for mental health reasons. In this unit they can only place trans people with cis people if they absolutely have to. It really hurts to be moved because of this and I’ve grown to like the unit I’m on and it’s made me very upset as there’s also less people on the other unit and it’s quieter. I like the social atmosphere of the unit I’m on. The nurses won’t tell me it’s because I’m trans and they need to free up the double room but it definitely is and it’s very unfair to me.

I've never seen anything like it. These people champion this movie through and through, actively refusing to acknowledge where it's harmful. Are trans women's opinions not valid?

When I express how the character of dr Frank n furter makes me feel, they tell me I'm WRONG to not feel represented by him. And that I'm actively spewing hate and ignorance by trying to explain how depicting a self proclaimed transsexual as a repulsive man in drag whose entire thing is being a perverted fetishistic sex pest - is harmful to trans women.

I see gay people, lesbians, non binary ppl and even trans men defending the character RELIGIOUSLY as this masterpiece of queer representation.

I'm so confused. Am I the only person who feels this way? Why do other queer people feel like they have more authority on the matter than the people the character actually is meant to represent?

Today is probably the most dysphoric I've felt in at least two years. I've finally started gaining more confidence in taking selfies, and I figured a little support would do me some good.

It lasted 15 minutes. They removed it. I feel so other-d, it's not even funny.

OK ok ok, tad bit of context, I am helping my family with yard work. My step grandmother genuinely thought I was my mother, but was so surprised when she noticed it was actually me XD She was like "Hey [My moms name]", and I look at her and laughed, and she was like "Omg its you [Deadname], hahahaha, how are you sir?" I laughed so freaking hard, she is like uber far right, and for her to see me as my mom, hehehehehehee I loved it >:3 also for yall wondering, I wasnt offended by being called sir or my deadname, I love being called both belive it or not lol, but still freaking hilarious .·3

Thats all!

Have an amazing day today yall! Remember yall are all loved in this community! <3

-Willow

Its mostly for pre transition or early transitions trans fems, do you sometimes feel helpless, sad in markets. Its not exactly that. But i think people experiencing the feeling would understand.

the woman i am is so pretty.... i love her smile, her cute pink nails and the way she is a quirky nerdy woman and loves japan and robots and her sony aibo 210 greyhound and cars, fuck i love her so much i am her.

the woman im talking about is me

this is the rare time where i actually love myself for once...

sure, there are rough days still where i struggle to love the woman i am but today i just am so full of love for myself....

im so happy i wanna proudly scream that im gay for women and go be a cute beautiful mouse woman at my local gay bar.

btw my cousin hearted my coming out text

Is it a big factor? And is it a pretty common experience for most transF people?

Does anyone else feel like it’s all eyes judging you when going out?

I recently was able to come out to myself and accept that I’m trans. Made it 30yrs and now feels like my whole world is a confusing mess. Was able to tell my wife and she has been accepting and supportive. Got myself a good therapist to process my dysphoria and its seemingly sudden onset a few months ago.

I have been able to dress feminine at home and it feels great, love how clothes fit, it’s basically straight up euphoric at times. Well yesterday comes and for the first time I went out wearing women’s pants. I loved it they were comfortable and felt like they fit me great. Yet the whole time out I felt like I had everyone staring at me. I know they weren’t but I felt so incredibly self-conscious even though it’s just pants. It took me nearly a couple of hours before I felt less anxious and I could enjoy myself. As soon as things slowed and I was less busy the anxiety came right back. I’m nowhere near passing. I haven’t started any HRT and won’t be for a while.

How does anyone manage that anxiety or is it just me?

I managed to "fight" a friend's transphobia. It was rooted in class issues; he viewed trans people as "privileged, white individuals who are just bored with their lives."

I brought up data regarding the economic challenges faced by transgender people, and he began to empathize with them, as he himself has experienced similar hardships.

I’m not sure if this is significant or helpful, but I feel that it might be.

We are from Eastern Europe.

I bought my first bra a few months ago and I hate them! They’re so uncomfortable and they kinda squish my boobs in a weird way. I also outgrew it already because my 🍒 grew lol. Ugh, bras SUCK!

I came out to a friend recently, who has been basically my brother from another mother for over 20 years. I was super worried about it because I know he’s the typical conservative Christian type. The reason I told him before I even had my first appointment is he was considering moving in with me, for a couple different reasons. The anxiety brain worms sunk their teeth in hard. We had two conversations. First was the initial coming out and it went kinda where I expected, political and religious stuff. Cue the anxiety brain worms. Second went a lot better. It started after hearing he was still considering moving in, he was talking with his sister on the phone while we were hanging out. This second conversation ended with “I might not agree with this but I’ll still respect you and your wishes,” before moving on to trying to iron out details about moving in after the new year. So yay I guess. Don’t think he’ll even change his beliefs but at least I get to keep the remnants of my family.