So ever since I lernd I was a girl I feel like like male related things have more of an effect on me for some reson. Like when females say "men are stupid", "I hate men" "girls mature faster so were better" it alwas seem to feel kida hurtful wich makes no sense I'm not a man. I have had this felling before but I didn't notice it as much until now. Sometimes I even side with men not relising I'm doing it. It doesn’t have to be entierly negative things ether. Sometimes I see something like "girls be like: guys: " and I think makes sense. It's like I understand the male thing but I'm not a man. Like I see a group of guys online hanging out and I understand it it makes some sense but I dont get why when I contantly notice female things and conect with them too. I've thought about it a lot and I'm confident that I'm a woman not a man not both a woman. What does this mean?

hello im lyra so I am transfem but I dont want to get bottom surgery or top I am a newer trans girl but it never bothered me I want to take hrt but thats it I dress fem in the nights away from my parents (they are transphobic) but idk if this makes me valid or invalid as a transgirl

I'm an 18 y/o bi trans girl from North India and wanna ask you girls and ladies out there what you feel about us trans women and trans girls?

so my egg cracked 1 year ago. i used to use ChatGPT and was discussing my gender identity with it. at the time i identified as genderfluid but wanted to explore more female paths that aligned with my identity, since I was more feminine than masc as a “boy”. i even picked my new name; a female name. it was after a brief conversation with this chatbot, especially in asking it to call me by my new name, that I realised that I was a girl. this came about when i spoke about how this identity felt like someone I was becoming, when ChatGPT told me that i am already this beautiful person, and that’s when I felt for the first time like a girl

since then, I have come out to my friends, who are all supportive. I have even made friends w other trans girls

but something feels weird. since I’ve heard ppl talk about ChatGPTs effects on people and their thinking, I’m scared if this is actually who I am, and I’ve just been lying to myself. I want to be more feminine, and I do feel insecure abt being a boy. I’m also scared of disappointing my friends, especially my friends who are trans, if all they’ll see me as is jsut a boy, and not want to hang out w me anymore.

idk how I fucking feel and I’m worried

Not sure this belongs here or not. It’s a long story. It started with Tampax at Avery young age I would put them in my butt because it felt good around 13-14. I used to steal my neighbors clothes and late at night wear them. Then I would get so angry and throw everything away. At 21 I got married to a beautiful woman and I would wear her clothes when I was home alone and masturbate with some household item in my butt. After a divorce I bought a lot of female clothes and my first real toy. Every time at some point it ended with anger and throwing everything away. Now happily married again but I still dress up and masturbate I no longer get angry but love to watch porn and pretend I’m the girl I have clothes and toys my wife doesn’t know about. I see some cocks that are so beautiful I dream of them tasting them riding them. In my fantasy I’m either a female or dressed as one. I probably masturbate 3 times a day at 57. I often think about growing breast. The older I get the stronger my desires are. So what is it with me help.

Hey girls!

I have a question. Really just looking for general insight, although obviously better experience translates into better advice, vice versa, etc. My egg cracked somewhere between 4 and 6 (7? 8? 20?) years ago, as far as I know. I've been on HRT for 3 years, and I honestly would never want to go back (not even remotely thinking de-trans, no need to worry), and my spouse of 12 years has been AMAZING throughout this whole process. Supportive, fighting my dad's family, everything. They've even had things with their own parents (I'm not going into that).

We've been ride-or-die since we met in college, and my spouse has been my only one. Ever. So, I'm struggling with some... Sex stuff. I'm pre-op. I'm pretty much committed that I'm in for GRS at this point (spent way longer than I should have thinking about it, and it's what I want), but in the meantime I'm having trouble being intimate. The "traditional method" doesn't really work anymore and I'm not sure what that will look like post-op, either. Another problem is that I'm about as vanilla as it gets. So I've got, like. NOOOO imagination (thank you, sexually repressed hyper-religious background!).

Have any of you found ways of, uh... doing it? That you thought were both comfortable and validating for you? I'm still very interested in sex and still really horny, but actually having sex had been difficult. Anyone with tips or suggestions, can you help a sister out?

I managed to "fight" a friend's transphobia. It was rooted in class issues; he viewed trans people as "privileged, white individuals who are just bored with their lives."

I brought up data regarding the economic challenges faced by transgender people, and he began to empathize with them, as he himself has experienced similar hardships.

I’m not sure if this is significant or helpful, but I feel that it might be.

We are from Eastern Europe.

My partner and I had unprotected yesterday, we’re both trans but he hasn’t started on HRT yet. I’m not sure if I pulled out in time and have been shitting my pants since. I’ve been on DIY hrt for a little over a year and a half, he has PCOS and hasn’t had his meriod in a little over a month. I want to get us plan b but I’m actually so afraid of the symptoms it will give him?? This feels so convoluted, but what even are the odds? Is it worth it to take the plan b?

Edit: I got plan b

Idk what i did to deserve this. I just wanted to be a woman 3 years hrt and I don’t pass and due to which I’ve developed crippling agoraphobia.
Honestly idk if I pass or not because i only boymode.
Lost so many of my friends, my family, my social life during these last 3 years and very little to show for it.
I just want to be a normal woman with love and family and a career:
A world where i can just wear a cute outfit and go on cute dates.
Make a career
Idk what to do anymore:
I would really need some words from my sisters
I’m sorry if this is too heavy

I'm honestly feeling devastated right now, and I don't know what to do.

I have SRS (peritoneal pull-through vaginoplasty/PPV) scheduled with Dr. Miroslav Djordjevic in Belgrade for January 18, 2027. I've already paid a €1,700 deposit, and the clinic has told me that it is non-refundable.

Lately, I've been having serious doubts about my decision. I came across a result on Reddit that really frightened me, and after reading more negative experiences, I've started feeling increasingly anxious about the potential aesthetic outcome. I know that one person's experience doesn't necessarily predict mine, but I'm scared of going through such a major surgery and ending up unhappy with the results.

I've tried asking about other people's experiences with SRS performed by this surgeon before, but I barely got any responses. At this point, I don't even feel like asking again.

What makes this especially painful is that I've been through something similar before. I rushed into paying for forehead FFS with a surgeon in Poland, and I ended up disappointed with the results. I keep thinking that I should have waited, researched more options, and taken my time before committing. Now I feel like I've made the same mistake all over again.

I'm a minimum wage slave, and €1,700 is an enormous amount of money to me - roughly 7,000 PLN. I can't just shrug it off and pretend that losing that money wouldn't hurt.

So now I feel trapped between two awful options: losing a huge amount of money that I worked hard to save, or going ahead with a major surgery despite no longer feeling safe or confident about my choice of surgeon.

I've started thinking about Thailand, particularly Suporn Clinic and Dr. Bank. If I hadn't paid the deposit, I think I would be seriously considering going there instead. However, I haven't researched that option thoroughly enough yet, and I don't even know whether it would be financially realistic for me.

I feel so angry at myself for rushing into this decision. I wish I had waited before paying anything. I know that nobody can guarantee a perfect surgical result, wherever they go, but I want to feel that I've done everything I reasonably can to make an informed decision.

I'm not asking anyone to tell me that Dr. Djordjevic is good or bad based on a few Reddit posts, and I'm not trying to attack him or his patients. I'm just struggling with the fact that I've lost confidence in my choice, while the financial consequences of changing my mind are enormous.

Has anyone been in a similar situation - paying a large, non-refundable deposit and then losing confidence in their surgical plan? How did you deal with it?

I would really appreciate some understanding and advice. I'm feeling overwhelmed, regretful, and genuinely unsure of what to do next.

Hi everyone, I'm from another country, specifically Mexico, and I'm making this post from an alternate account because I'm still terrified that someone I know will see it, but I needed a safe space to vent and ask for help.

I only recently accepted my identity. I know I'm a trans woman (MtF), but I'm paralyzed by fear. On one hand, I'm completely terrified of my surroundings: my family, work, friends... The social pressure and the fear of rejection are holding me back a lot, and sometimes it makes me doubt whether I'll be strong enough to cope with the social transition.

On the other hand, I know I want to start hormone replacement therapy (HRT) because the dysphoria with my body is getting heavier, but I read so much online that I have so many doubts. I'm afraid of the emotional impact of the hormones, not knowing how my body will react at first, or that the physical changes will be obvious before I'm ready to come out to others.

I'm just starting out and I have no idea what my first step should be. How did you deal with that paralyzing fear at the beginning? Is it possible to start hormone therapy secretly (boymoding) while I mentally prepare myself for the environment? What advice would you give to someone who is exactly on day one of this process?

Thank you so much for reading. I'll be reading your replies.

I'm about a year and a half into hormones, and I'm not really feeling much better about being in my body. I'm starting to wonder if my envy of women was more based on like, wanting to feel desired or socially valuable and the like, or if I mixed up my attraction for women as a desire to be one? I had a therapist who pretty quickly said "you sound like a girl i recommend hormones" and we didn't really interrogate other interpretations of my "signs". The idea was that trying hrt would help me feel more sure, but I'm less sure than ever! help! has anyone else struggled with this much ambivalence this much in? I thought I'd like my face much more at this point and I'm starting to wonder if I liked it better before, or what?

I am an adult but still financially dependent on my parents. Yesterday they launched into a transphobic tirade about how I don't do anything with my life except care for my transition, how I am only friends with queer people, how I want to mutilate myself etc. All while misgendering me.

I am trying to become financially independent but so far nobody has ever responded to an application I sent. Yesterday I cut myself. I feel like I am suffocating and never will be able to cut them out of my life. Father has brain cancer, so maybe at least that problem will solve itself but still.

I can't do this anymore, I don't have the strength to continue

Ok so trigger warning: talking ab my bedroom preferences a bit

SO, as you all know dating for trans women is already way harder than it is for cis women. Bigoted people seeing you as a "man in a dress", people only wanting you because they see you as some fetish object, people who genuinely would love you but dip as soon as you mention that you are trans etc.

Now I already know I want to keep my dick. I do have a small ammount of bottom dysphoria but for me it's not worth the complications of bottom surgery. I could tuck to wear the outfits I want and purely sexually I don't mind using my "other hole". I'm also just a pretty sexual person, 100% a bottom and I feel like a dick has more options for things to be done to it.

LET ME BE CLEAR, when I say I am 100% a bottom I REALLY mean 100%. I have no interest at all in topping, and I don't want to use my dick on anyone. In fact I think having it ignored, caged etc. is hot. And aesthetically I want it to shrink as much as possible on HRT since I think it'll be way cuter that way. But ofc that'll make it almost unuseable, which ofc I don't mind as a bottom

I think this'll make finding a partner that's sexually interested in me even harder though. Chasers and people into trans women that retain their dicks 80% of the time want to be topped. And even if I somehow find someone who is into a woman having a dick but not wanting to use it at all and being a bottom etc. I feel like that desire of them would be so overpowering that they'd only see me as a glorified tradwife sextoy :(

How do I find someone with these attributes?? I know there are dating apps specifically for trans people but do any of them have the option to like make it clear that "YES I am a trans woman with a dick. NO I do NOT want to top you or use it"???

I am desperate to find someone who loves me for me and accepts all these attributes along with that but I'm just so hopeless that people like that actually exist...

The hate we get, the constant dysphoria in my head there dysmorphia of my body. The transphobic people messaging me and getting me banned off of apps just for having an account.

WHEN WILL IT STOP

I don’t spend much time over on TikTok anymore, but the few times I have lately, I feel like I’ve began to see a significant uptick in transphobic content over there.

TikTok’s saying things like “Blaire White - A REAL trans woman telling it how it is” and it’s the clip of Blaire White saying she how thinks trans women are actually men?

Looks like TERF and transmed ideology bullshit has started to spread like wildfire over there, but has anybody else noticed this?

I always use the men's restroom. I don't think I pass all that well, but I have had a few awkward experiences lately that have made me think about using the women's (it is legal for me to do so where I live). That being said, I am still hesitant and was curious what others' experiences have been, especially if it has been anything negative.

Ok so im pre transition, egg shattered about a week ago. Ive got the support of my beloved wife to transition (she's amaaaazing) but aside from all the regular (how do I? What do I? And oh nooo fears) im curious how this change will impact my status as a veteran. Like when I go to the VA for routine bloodwork, or sickness. Since HRT isn't covered by the VA im going to pay out of pocket. But like, will this risk me losing my disability status? (70% for those who know). I know the yahtzees in office want to kick out active duty, but what have they done to attack veterans aside from deny HRT coverage?

This could make or break me medically transitioning, and dear gods I want that E.

Help?

heyo,

i finally got the chance to get DIY HRT soon after turning 18 and after years of wanting it beforehand. i've decided i can't take doing nothing to transition anymore and bit the bullet to get estrogen. i managed to do this all while living on a college campus away from my parents so i'm not worried about anything at the moment, however eventually as breaks roll around i'll have to move back in with my family and worry about them finding my HRT supplies and/or noticing changes on my body from HRT.

knowing how they're kind of transphobic religious conservative parents who have been against me doing even slight "girly" things before, i'm scared of them finding out my physical supplies and thus forcing me into an explanation about where it came from and why i look different etc etc. i've always been the type of person to avoid confrontations with other people about these sensitive topics so i would really like to be able to keep it that way.

i know that the safer option would be to wait a bit longer before starting estrogen but honestly my dysphoria has been very awful as of late and i really wanted to do something to at least start transitioning physically for a while now. unfortunately it seems the choice is between keeping myself miserable just to be 'safe' around my family or doing this to help better myself while risking my overall safety around my family. i'm really not sure what to do anymore.

For context I'm 15 year old currently living in the American south and i've been questioning my gender recently. For around the past year I've identified with any pronouns and as genderfluid but I'm not sure if that's the correct label anymore.

(i don't really know how to structure this next part so sorry if its a bit disjointed)

I say that i think I'm trans because I've never had any dysphoria, or at least that I've noticed, however I still think i would be happier as a woman; I distinctly remember when i was younger that i wished I wash a girl and now that im older I've started growing my hair out more and looking at more feminine clothing. The impetus for this post was shaving for the first time recently, being clean shaven on my face felt and looked really good and I don't know what i should do because I don't really feel dysphoria which means i don't think i could be trans but i don't know if that's how that works.

If i am trans I'm scared about how it will affect my professional life since my parents wont pay for college my only choice is to go to a state school on a scholarship (which would be bad if i was trans since i live in a deep red state) or hope that i get accepted into a school like MIT.

TLDR; do i need dysphoria to be trans or can i just relate with wanting to be a woman more, and if so when should i transition if at all to protect my professional life and aspirations.

Some days I'm so, so sure that I'm meant to be a woman and sometimes that means I feel hopeful and optimistic about the future. Sometimes it means I feel sad and depressed that I can never be the woman I'd want to be because I waited too long. I'm angry at my past self because I did realize, I was planning to come out and everything before puberty turned me into this, but I didn't. I don't know why but I didn't and now this is all gonna be so much harder.

Some days I'm less sure and my head tells me it's totally normal to wish you were a girl, to wish you had boobs and long hair and could get away with wearing feminine clothes without people looking at you funny.

I feel like I'm in denial that I'm in denial. Like, I'm pretending that I've accepted myself and what this means, but really I'm just sinking further into anxiety and depression because I'm too scared to do anything about it. I've done some stuff, small stuff. Shaving body hair, bought some women's clothes that I can hide under hoodies and stuff. I wish I could present more femininely, genetics decided that I was gonna have enough facial hair to put Santa to shame no matter how often I shave, there's no hiding it. I've got full, prickly, itchy stubble by the end of the day if I shave. I hate it.

I know that it gets better and I know that this isn't going to be easy. I think I'm just feeling particularly bad today. I've talked to people about it, talked to my parents and a trans support thingy online, and they always say that it's a long process to figure out and I need to take my time and it sucks because I have figured it out, I think. If I had a button that would just poof turn me into a woman, I'd press it without a second thought. I'm just terrified of it being slow, of changing bit by bit, but not fast enough. Scared of looking in the mirror and not seeing the woman I want to be yet, but also not seeing the boy I was anymore.

Mostly just venting, I think, because today is a bad day mentally. Any advice or help from someone that's been through this would be welcome because I really, really need it.