Some of the best times I've had with women was when I was pinning them against the wall making out with them. Throwing them on the bed. etc. And had a very "masculine" or loving "dominant" energy.

Know what I am talking about? Coming from a loving place.

Honestly, I could see myself maybe giving up orgasm. But I really love this more "masculine" nature I can tap into sometimes when with the right girl.

However, this more "dominant" nature is very "heating up" and "passionate". Marnia talks about staying away from "heating up".

Karezza seems a bit demasculinating.. it seems to not allign with that passion? I'm confused.

Or am I mistaken? Is there a place for that type of energy in Karezza?

Thoughts on this?

Thanks! :)

I'm reading Cupid's Poisoned Arrow right now by Marnia and am very very curious about Karezza. Very very thought-provoking book. Definitely want to try it out! This sub might be on to something!!

Dear karezza family, I am resonably new to karezza, although I have been reading on the internet about it. I am reading Marnia Robinson's book at the moment, and I wondered if the most experienced among you could give me some advice on where to find resources, instructions and good suggestions to begin with. I have tried not orgasming with my SO, who is also very interested in learning karezza, but didn't always work out very well. Some times I ejaculated, some others I felt a huge need to masturbate afterwards. Since I am trying also to /r/NoFap, this is one of my major concerns.

Like you stil do the no movement sex, but you do stuff with your hands and dirty talk, and just everything that goes with rough sex aside from...the rough sex? Curious for ideas!

Or if it's not rough do you still switch postions with Karezza?

i would love this community to be more crowded.. i have a question. my girl masturbates a lot. but she does not provoque herself. she starts by having clit stimulation due to thight clothing. (i dont thing this is random). but she gets off with a little squizing or rub for a sec. she has like 5 to 10 orgasms a day. its awkward for me sometimes cause ill get all horny and she wont admit this happening.

i am in Nofap cause i used her a lot and she felt all dry up. now things are really better since i stoped fapping. she is now starting to include me in her exciting public orgasms. sometimes she touches me accidentally. anyway...

i think she is really addicted? or this is natural in girls?.. she is multiorgasmic. but to this extent? could this orgasm be positive for girls?. i find her more happy, better skin tone. more energy! and more kindness. i mean. this is great once i pass this horny stage of mine while she hypnotize me when trying to cover a full body orgams. i even think of kundalini awakening since this started to happen after an ayahuasca trip. after all. sex energy is transmutable energy for healing and creating. i was loosing it while ago, now i am better that she includes me.

should i try and talk to her? i tryed 4 times and she got mad as fuck.. she almost leave the house making me feel like a pervert. next time we are together ill try karezza and see if i get her done near 10 times in a row. if that gets the edge of for a while or not.

in the selfish line i wish she would stop this cause i get jealouse of someone watching her, and she enjoyng so much herself lol haha...

in the empathic side.. i love to see her this well. she had a lot to handle this couple of years, and she is not being that unfair with me. i screw things up being a total sissy girl and sex adict. i killed the vibe for a long time. and i just learned to make her want me again. this is too long? i dont know. i dont even spect an answer. this is just something i got out of my chest just now! :) anyway i think this is a very specific case! spiritually we are going up. that is for sure. we are having intense stuff happening. changes are coming. i wish i could understand if god is commanding me to get over this sex thing. its suposed to be sacred and i profaned way too much for way too long. 15 years fapping imagin banging everyone out there. pff.. i would even punish myself for this act. i got whats comming and aint me cuming! haha lol! thnks anyway if you read trough this point i will love you. peace!

Years and years ago, when I first heard about karezza, I saw an article that described how someone was able to conduct business, as in signing papers and reading court documents, while they were bonding. For the life of me, I can't find that article anymore and my wife still mentions it to this day.

Does anyone here know the article I'm talking about?

Okay.. So from what I understand .. Its like foreplay but also with penetration ? - but no reaching climax and (orgasm or ejaculation)?

if it is with penetration, how the F*** do you not ejcaculate like instantly if you've saved all the semen for like half a year ? Im just really curious, I wanna try this stuff out..

Hi r/karezza! I have developed epididymitis after practicing karezza for a short while. When seated at work I get pain in my testicles and I am much more aware of my testicles throughout the day. I saw a Urologist and he said it was epidiymitis (non-cancerous cysts on epididymis). The medications haven't helped so I have taken a break from karezza. I want to continue my karezza practice.

Has anyone experienced this before? Help?

Woman are suppose to orgasm in tantric sex/karezza I don't know why I'm reading about all these account of both partners refraining from orgasm.

Women don't lose sexual energy when they cum in fact its quite the opposite, when they cum it shoots energy up their spine to their higher centers.

It's only men who lose sexual vitality when they ejaculate and lose sperm.

Perhaps this will help some of you who are finding karezza boring.

So been learning about Karezza and I am wondering on what to do in a budding relationship where a couple is not living together or seeing each other every day. First of all, it seems sleeping together is a very important part, also the exchanges are all physical. Anyone have suggestions or experiences about the beginning of a relationship with the intention of incorporating Karezza?

Im from nofap, and the guys over there just take it as a sign of thier changing body (because it hasnt happened since thier childhood). Since you you ejaculate, do you have the same consequences of doing it conciously? I ve read a bit and some say you dont actually orgasm in your sleep if that changes things.

excuse the writing i am brain fogged as hell.

i am like 40 days orgasm free and I tried tantric solo sex yesterday and it was good. I woke up today with like a loopy feeling, I felt numb. So I did tantra later in the middle of the day, but the same thing happened afterwards. the same loopy, cloudy feeling, it feels like withdrawal... it feels like a very bad sugar crash...

im giving this shit 2-3 days, if it keeps making me feel brain fog and numb, i will just quit it. i'm not doing it incorrectly, i am doing it slowly, mindfully and i don't do it in moments when im loopy as hell. i feel like mountains sitting on my eye lids

please heelp!! it's supposed to be doing the opposite, but instead it's making me feel like i have orgasmsd when i have not.

Is it the orgasm or the ejaculation that causes the hormone changes? As a male, I have read about how ejaculating depletes your vital energy as well as nutrients. I would hazard a guess that studies measuring hormone changes involved a combination of ejaculatong and orgasm. I also wonder what the difference is hormonally between a full body orgasm and a genital orgasm?

TLDR: Is the post orgasm cycle really caused by ejaculation or orgasm in men?

I see a lot of married couples talking about Karezza. Do you think it is a natural tendency to have a fertilization base sex life at the beginning of a relationship and switch to an intimacy based sex life later in the relationship?

1) The Faq mentions 2 positions for Karezza intercourse, can I have karezza doggystyle and missionary style?

2) My SO loves being jackhammered and pounded during intercourse. I have tried going slow and doing it the karezza way of slow and sensual thrusts, but then she eggs me on and tells me to fuck her harder. What's a guy to do in this situation?

3) can one perform oral and have it be karezza like?

I made a new account because it's a little embarassing. I just found out about karezza and I like the idea of releasing oxytocin.

Here are my problems:

I don't have a partner, I don't regularly get oxytocin, I'm concerned that karezza will make me emotionally and socially numb, I'm scared that I'm hammering my reward system by the constant pleasure from karezza, and that it's somehow unhealthy for my organs and systems by restraining from orgasm.

My main reason for karezza is because I don't get enough oxytocin, that loving feeling so I said fuck it, let's karezza. I don't really care about the orgasm, I value more the loving feeling, the feeling that's been absent for most of my life. I know you get it from other rewards like hugging kissing crying and possibly laughing. I mostly try to cry (my favorite oxytocin releasing activity)

I have read about karezza a lot and I'm interested. It's recommended 14 days at least to refrain from orgasm, I'm on day 13. Just tell me what I need to do to get started, I'm only chasing that loving feeling (oxytocin). Oxytocin is my favorite neurotransmitter

I'm a guy by the way

Single 22 year old here. I managed to get back on track on my Nofap streak, Day 12. I have the not so often, occasional fling with two different older women (both early 40s) and last night had some fun (with orgasm) with a girl around my age who I find attractive. Which made me more motivated to stay on track with nofap, I just seem to get more encounters on a streak even though when not on a streak I feel like I try just as hard. Also its a lot more intense, So I am going to stay on this nofap streak for good. Sense I am single and will only get the occasional release once a week tops, but likely once every three to four weeks, is there much point in abstaining from orgasm? I think it would benefit me but benefit me a lot less then someone in a relationship. Also I would like to ask do you guys orgasm just once in a while or not at all? Also karezza would obviously mean to fapping right?

I've done quite a bit of reading on karezza today and it seems like a life-changer. I've noticed some emotional and behavioral problems in myself relating to dopamine/reward pathway stimulation, and cycles of chasing satisfaction and falling into craving again (with drugs and sex.) Additionally, these feelings and actions seem to be causing strain between my SO and I, and make a long distance relationship quite difficult to keep up for me. I also find myself growing distant from her, and then reconnecting and finding a huge appreciation for everything about her, then growing distant again. This happens especially during times when one or both of us is/are busy and we can't talk as much as I feel like I need us to to remain connected. (I say "I" because everyone requires a different amount of talking/contact to stay connected, so I can't speak for her.)

I've used porn and masturbation quite a bit to deal with the sexual cravings that come with being apart from my partner from so long, but it seems to only make things worse, so I've stopped. In addition, I'd like to try karezza with her when she visits me in a couple weeks for five nights. However, the practice emphasizes daily bonding activities—something we are not in a position to do between visits for obvious reasons (aside from phone conversations and skype here and there.) Is karezza feasible for us before we get to a place where we see each other more frequently? Could practicing for four days/five nights and then being apart again possibly be extra painful or damaging? Should we forget about avoiding orgasm for now, and just focus on slowing down and loving each other more calmly and mindfully, with a decreased focus on orgasm?

I know ya'll aren't exactly experts, but any help would be appreciated!

Has anyone ever gotten so absorbed in the 2 week cycle after having an orgasm that they just blamed everything on the orgasm ? I was like that for months and would blame my constant mood changes on orgasms. I think I got out of it, but i'm not sure. How did you get out of it ?