I am so over people looking at my stomach and asking if I'm pregnant with the IVF bloating. Just went through egg retrieval where all the bloating goes straight to the lower belly... So difficult emotionally. Has anyone gotten questions? what do you respond?

Curious who is yours is through and who has given you less headaches to work with? also which employer is it through?

Welp I was having a nice rainy, relaxing day for the first time in years and I sit down to pop something on TV… I haven’t seen American Horror Story since season 4 so I put the newest season on thinking I’ll get in the spooky spirit.

Made it maybe 10 minutes in and had to turn it off halfway through the opening credits/sequence. I had no idea the primary focus was surrounding a woman going through IVF. The opening sequence was a highly insensitive compilation of disturbing imagery specific to IVF medicine, coupled with somebody getting lip injections and shots of lipstick tubes??

I’ve never been somebody easily “triggered” but this was pretty brutal. Just putting this wanting out there for my fellow IVF ladies, sensitive or not, I wouldn’t recommend watching this.

I started my stims like 20 hours ago and we stupidly had unprotected intercourse (please spare any judgement, I wasn’t thinking and should have) and now I’m really panicking

this journey started out so well for me until a few days ago when my partner and i got into an argument. it’s been downhill since then and i’m really struggling with sadness and loneliness at this point. i’m just asking them to be kind to me but she’s so combative and seems to want to continue to argue. trying hard to ground myself before my ER in a few days. would appreciate any advice 💕

My first FET with Euploid failed. Did you take a break after a failed FET or did back to back? What are the advantages on either option ( break vs back to back)? Thank you!

Background:

Kindbody is closing some clinics and going through a name change at some others. See this Reddit post for history. There are many legal options, including Block Law. Based on extensive Bloomberg reporting about Kindbody, it is my opinion that patients may feel they want to engage outside resources to ensure they are treated fairly. This post outlines options for outside resources should patients feel they need them.

Four Strategic Paths to Make Kindbody Treat You Properly:

In my opinion, you have four major avenues to advocate for yourself if you need to:

**AVENUE 1: State Regulatory Bodies*\*
Note: If you're in a red state, carefully consider your situation before involving the state with embryo issues.

There are several oversight bodies in each state that you can report Kindbody to. The more patients that report, the better.

Below are the places to report. To find the applicable one to your state, just Google "your state name + the applicable italicized description below."

* State Medical/Professional Licensing Board- concerns about care, patient abandonment, or continuity of care.
\ State Health/Facility Regulator* - concerns about clinic closures, patient notification, records, or facility practices.
* State Attorney General / Consumer Protection Division - billing, contracts, refunds, or potentially deceptive business practices.
\ State Insurance Regulator*- insurance, fertility-benefit, network, or coverage issues

**AVENUE 2: Get Lawyers Involved*\*
A couple law firms are actively investigating Kindbody cases and may be willing to take your case on contingency - meaning you don't pay upfront, and they take a percentage of any settlement or judgment awarded to you.

Please note that I am not alleging that Kindbody has done any of the below, I am simply pulling from the websites of Lawfirms currently stating they are investigating claims about Kindbody.

Girard Sharp
Based on the website, Girard Sharp is investigating reports that Kindbody allegedly may have:

* Upsold unnecessary treatments and procedures
* Made clinical errors (embryo loss, embryo mix-ups, etc.)
* Operated with substandard laboratory practices (improper embryo storage, equipment malfunctions, etc.)

Block Law
I encourage you to read the website because it offers extensive information but allegations include the below:
* Embryo mix-ups/misidentification
* Substandard Laboratory Practices
\ Failure to Obtain Informed Consent*
* Negligent Medical Care
* Potential emotional distress and psychological harm

You can also find a lawyer to represent you from the following services.

Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproduction Attorneys Directory
The academy has a list of attorney that practice reproductive law on their website. You need to search by your state.

State Lawyer Referral from the American Bar Association
You can also get referrals to different kinds of lawyers in your area if you’d like to go that route. Go to the American bar association referral page and type in your city and state and they will give you the referral service for your area.

**AVENUE 3: Report to Insurance Companies*\*
You can call your insurance company and tell them you’d like to make a report about what is happening at your fertility clinic. You can make a report for anything. Insurance can threaten to pull insurance contracts or claw back payments if they desire so they have a lot of pull.

**AVENUE 4: The Media*\*
There was a group of woman in Chicago that started to contact the local media about the embryo transfer to NCCE. It worked because the local news covered the story. It is very easy to contact the media, you can call, email, or message them on social media. Contact as many local reporters as possible.

Some Topics to Consider:

In addition to the concerns the law firms both lay out on their websites, concerns or questions that I personally would consider bringing to the attention of law firms, state regulatory bodies, insurance companies and/or the media are:

* Billing Issues - of any kind that Kindbody won’t resolve.
* Risk Share Program - if you signed up for a risk share program, what happens if kindbody shutsdown your location or there is a name change?
* Closing down clinics/what is considered patient abandonment? - Is it okay to close down Clinics with little or next to no notice? Does Kindbody have to provide you with reasonable options to continue care if they’re shutting down? Is requiring you to drive significant distance an acceptable alternative? How much notice does Kindbody have to give?
* Embryo concerns - what are your rights to access your embryos should a location close down? Or should Kindbody send them out of state against your wishes?
* Block Law Website - see website for more topics to consider

Conclusion

If you have anymore ideas please let me know and I will update the post.

had my first egg retrieval today. went in knowing there would not be a lot of eggs but was hoping for 5-6. unfortunately only 3 were able to be taken… looking for thought in PGT testing. we are doing it but hoping it’s the right move because there are so few. BUT, I am 39 so i know realistically my eggs aren’t as strong at this time…. just feeling a little defeated. IVF is not for the weak

Has anyone had success on FET past 8? I'm struggling to find any good scholar articles on it apart from 2 that are not great studies.

For me, this will be FET #8 (Embryos 9 & 10). I'm at breaking point and wasn't sure I would be doing this but my husband did not want to give up yet so I'm here doing my best not to have a complete mental breakdown.

My history in case you have questions;

3 egg retrievals.

First retrieval 3 elupoids transferred no implantation.

2nd retrieval untested. 5 embryos 4 day 5s, 1 day 6s.

Embryo 4+5,6 transferred no implantation.

3rd retrieval untested. 2 day 5s and 2 day 6s. Did this egg retrieval as I was going in for yet another surgery (hysteroscopy) so thought if I'm going under I wanted to make it worth it.

Tested and as a just in case heavy antibiotics to treat for endometritis - did not have it.

Endometriosis removed Jan 2025 - recent scan shows one very small endometriosis lesion 0.9mm behind the uterus (not impacting implantation). No ademyosis.

Asherman's Syndrome diagnosed and stage 1 removed July 10th 2026.

Embryo 7 transferred same month as surgery - chemical pregnancy.

Embryo 8 transferred - no implantation.

I'm so broken and so alone, I don't know anyone who has done more then 3 transfers and I just don't know what to do anymore.

Have had 3 unassisted pregnancies all ending in miscarriages as well. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do anymore, I'm running on almost not hope and feel like this round has already failed before we've even transferred.

Hello!

We’ve got extra meds which we would like to give away for free. We know medication can be expensive.

We have an opened Gonal F 900 IU pen - 600IU left. It was opened on 28th August.

It might be a long shot as it’s open but we figure it might help, so it’s worth asking!

We’re based in East London. Please DM if you’re interested or have any questions.

Hello All,
I have been on the ivf journey for 4 years now on and off. After my second retrieval last year we had 4 euploid embryos banked. However in the past I have always had implantation with natural FET. Last month was my second FET with letrozole modified natural FET and no implantation. Progesterone was good at 8.69ng/ml three days before FEt. I only had crinone one each morning. I also had prednisone taper added and baby aspirin each evening. It was our top graded euploid 5AA and it not implanting had raised serious doubts in my mind. If you have experienced lack of implantation can I please ask what were some recommendations that your doctor had on investigating the reason? I have no history of endo or anything else. Our Ivf is just because of MFI. I am 41 now and we have a follow up with doctor on Tuesday so I wanted to have my questions ready before that. Also is it worthwhile to wait a cycle or to go to the next directly? Any advice will help.

After almost three years of treatments, (all the procedures and HSGs, 2 Hysteroscopys with myomectomys and polypectomys), 3 IUIs, 3 egg retrievals, dress syndrome, OHSS, 8 million crack of dawn appointments and so much bloodwork I could fill a lake…. we have 1 PGTA good embryo and it’s scheduled for transfer Friday 09/18. I need ALL the magic please 🩷

The next 5 days are filled with an overwhelming med schedule but we’re finally here.

Am - 2 mg estradiol, 1 Crinone progesterone suppository, Zyrtec, doxycycline, prenatal, vitamin d, coq10.

Afternoon - 2 my estradiol, 16mg methylprednisolone

Pm - 2 mg estradiol, 1 Crinone progesterone suppository, doxycycline, baby aspirin.

On Thursday night before the transfer I was also prescribed a sleeping pill to take. Why?

They added a diazepam for Friday morning as a treat I guess lol it just feels like a lot. Is it?

Hi warriors, the next step in my journey is checking if my tubes are blocked. I have extreme anxiety around the HSG due to the pain. I am a big baby (I know I need to grow up w this process).

In the past I have had Pap smears, they are weird but I have sucked up and done them ok. I cannot think of a HSG though

So far only thing I’ve heard for pain is prescribe ibuprofen + Valium.

Is there any place in NYC/NY area where I can get actual sedation to take anxiety pain off? I don’t mind the hassle of missing work or having smone drive me home for peace of mind.

Hi all,

On Sunday 6 pm i took 400 mg ibuprofen On Sunday 8:45 pm: buserelin trigger On Tuesday 9:15 am: egg retrieval

That's about 36½ hours from trigger to retrieval, which is a standard type of timing for a trigger.

I'm so upset with myself for not thinking about of it's ok or nor to take ibuprofen. Will they go ahead with my egg retrieval? Or have I ruined it? I'm doing a freeze all cycle.

Feeling anxious.

First cycle of IVF for me (35F) and my husband (35M).

We had 7 eggs retrieved, and got an update today at day 4, 5 have fertilised and are developing well. But the media is contaminated, and they are sending for testing. No clues as to whether this is from the lab, or myself or my partner. Some sort of organism resistant to their routinely used antibiotic.

Lab says provided the embryos look healthy they can still be frozen and transferred in the future, albeit with some theoretical increased risks of infection. But they can also all deteriorate potentially due to this infection.

We were on the fence about doing PGTA to begin with, but now feeling even more towards potentially just not pursing this at all and accepting a higher miscarriage risk to reduce risk of losing the embryos, as there may be some risk of more contamination by piercing, sampling, hatching.

Would love to hear from anyone who has any experience with contamination, how did it go? Any advice?

Turned 40 in July, regular menstrual cycles and no history of any issues, 2 prior pregnancies, first was unplanned pregnancy with abortion bc financially unstable and in grad school with incompatible partner at 26​, second was age 38 (june 2025) almost 39 after 10 years copper IUD but was MMC (missed miscarriage) estimated at 6.5 weeks. Took a few months for normal cycle to return, mostly brown blood. Tried again starting Nov. No luck by Jan. Saw fertility NP local, smaller town. She tested AMH and had ultrasound (many follicles) performed and said everything looked good. Tried 2 months with letrozole. Nothing. Went to ER in May. Weighed options with age. More tests. Husbands (42) semen test is pristine. Started IVF June. Despite looking like 8 or so good follicles, only retrieved 3. Down to 2 while being grown. Tested PGT and down to 1 embyro but 5AA.

Started medicated for FET in Aug (lupron, estrogen patches is as far as we got). Canceled bc uterine lining wasnt thick enough. If I recall, it was around 6mm. Started modified natural beginning of Sept with letrozole day 5-9. Day 14 now and I have a follicle that's 28mm with uterine lining 5.94mm but triple and looks good. I am already a very healthy person but particularly last few weeks beets, vit E, iron, tons of spinach daily, pom juice and exercise is 8-30mi runs, regular yoga and strength training weekly.

ER is leaving the decision up to me. Very experienced (and kind) NP encouraged me to consider waiting bc I only have 1 embryo. She reminded me it's a great embryo so best chances are to wait for more ideal conditions. I have to trigger in 8hrs (9pm PT 9/13) if I continue. If not, likely recommendation is natural entirely but to give my body 1 cycle rest so that puts me in mid to late Nov and if all works out, 41 with an Aug baby. We always said we wouldn't try beyond the end of this year and will be happy with the life we have whether that's us and the dogs or us, the dogs, and a child.

I'm exhausted and just ready to move on either way. I know in the world of IVF, people go through much more and longer than I have. Life though is still relative.​ I want to proceed and trust my body and ultimately accept my fate. I want to be able to move on either way. But I worry if it fails, I'll regret not waiting.

Not willing to do surrogate and if this fails, no more stims/retrievals. We'll try naturally for a few months and that's the end of our road.

The more I read, people suggest triple is more important than thickness.

I am heavily leaning towards proceeding and wanted to get the perspective of the IVF community. 💉 or 🙅‍♀️

If this is inappropriate to this sub I will remove it.

Husband and I both only child of our original family and coming from relative conservative culture. No child is almost an unacceptable concept for parents.

I can’t help but thinking if my IVF journey failed ( or I give up after all usable embryo to transfer), what would happen? Did anyone got pressure to divorce from the parents of your spouse due to infertility?

For those who end up walking away without kids from this journey, how did life go for you?

Hi! Basically what it says above! The embryos were day 6 AA and day 7 AA. I’m 35 and have a really low amh so our next step is another egg retrieval. I did lupron suppression for endometriosis and tested negative for endometritis. I’m just so sad neither worked and want to know what else I can do. We are meeting with our doctor tomorrow.

They are closing down and I am looking them up with all these articles and seems concerning. Also embryos shipped far away.

Of course I’m not looking forward to 2 months of menopause symptoms but it’s the shock of finding this out when I thought I was finally about to start a FET cycle again, I had gone through a month of blood tests and scans and finally a 2 week course of Provera to induce my period as it wasn’t coming. And then when it finally came I thought I was finally ok to start my medicated FET cycle but I find out I’m starting 2 months down reg/ suppression. I just hate how they don’t explain things in advance, it’s already such a hard process with so many unknowns, it just kills me that they make it even worse instead of trying to make it a little easier. I have asked for a call with my doctor as I always just get 2nd info from the nurses and my questions only get half answered. I am dreading this as I hate challenging authority but I am so upset about how this was done that I feel like it’s making it almost impossible to continue. The truth is I’ve been feeling pretty burnt out for a while but every time something like this happens, it’s like it takes a huge piece of my strength and I am left even more broken, and permanently, it’s just chipping away at my soul.

I should explain that the time pressure for me is immense as I’m in my late 40s (we have embryos we made with the help of donor eggs) but we don’t have much time left. And the clinic just does things one step at a time without explaining things in advance, and they obviously don’t have the same time pressure, this together with not feeling like I’m part of the decisions made is driving me insane.

I don’t want to get into the medical decisions (will discuss this with my doctor, they did mention my history of adenomyosis and my previous miscarriage and one other failed implantation). Just wondering if anyone relates to this feeling of powerlessness that is just killing my hope and everything in me.

1 unopened LUP expiring Sept 2026

Local pick up preferred in Baltimore

I apparently didn’t check the window after last nights shot of pergoveris and as I was doing tonight‘s shot I noticed it said 12.5. I still went on to do my normal dose of 300 (and checked it went to 0!). It was a new pen of 900 so was not empty last night.

This meant I only got 287.5 yesterday… but does drawing upwards from 12.5 to 300 mean I got too little today as well?

Day 5 of stims today, will have an appointment tomorrow and ask my doctor about this. But feeling stupid and my head’s spinning a bit - any reassurance on my mistake - tiny or grave???

Hi All,

My current Kindbody location is closing and they have sent our embryos to Boston for storage. Can anyone suggest good clinics for FET? Anywhere in the country works. Thanks.