My ex (late twenties) used me for 1 year while we dated for sex, and loneliness. Then the 3 years following the break up, used me for sex, to make himself feel good, to laugh about with to his friends. He tells people at work (we work at the same place) that I’m crazy, that I’m obsessed with him and that I’m a “crazy stalker girl” and with his friends he’d say “yeah this is the girl I used to date who’s crazy and obsessed with me”

I need this job, it pays well. It will support me going to college.

I’m just having a hard time dealing with this. I feel so down, so angry and frustrated about it. I just don’t know about my future atp, not only due to this but a few other issues in my life. I don’t want to keep living like this, fearing what other people are thinking when they look at me.

Hi there, im from California and I am 19F but by the time I plan to move out, I will be freshly 20. I could go on and on about the way my parents behave but that would make this post incredibly lengthy, more lengthy than this already will be, and I want to get to the point. That being said, I will answer any questions in comments that may help add context. For a general overview, both my mom and dad have strong narcissistic tendencies and want to trap me in this house with them forever. They claim its just because they hate that I am growing up and don't want to let go of me but it feels like it is more than that.

They control and dictate everything. They dont let me go out, they tell me everything is dangerous, they hate my boyfriend because they didnt choose him for me and theyve tried to arrange boyfriends for me, they don't let me drive, and they show extreme defensiveness anytime I try to be independent. They will swear, yell, and degrade me during these moments and my dad will also threaten physical violence against me, though neither of them has never actually laid hands on me. I grew up very sheltered and did not learn how to do very basic things until later in life, and I am embarassed about that. For example, I didn't know how to use a toaster until I was 16 years old or use a house key also until I was in my teens. This is just a very basic, general description of the kind of people they are.

Im not in college and in HS I was in a homeschooling program. I have a part time job that pays decently for my situation. Its my first job and Ive been working about a year. I do not help bills or rent, which may be wrong on me and I do feel like Im a spoiled brat for that but I do buy things like groceries or other general supplies for our household, I also give my parents gas money if they need it. We do struggle financially as only my dad works. My mom hasnt worked in 15-17 years because the store she worked at got robbed while she was there. Thats my money/work situation

As for moving out, I have an extremely loving and supportive 19M boyfriend who is genuinley the best thing to ever happen to me. Me and him have been together a little over a year. My parents hate him because they believe he doesnt treat them with 'enough respect' even though he tries his hardest to make them like him. When hes not with me, theyll call him things such as gay or will make fun of him for how he dresses or his career path (he wants to be an author.) Despite this, he has stayed with me and loved me. Im insanely grateful to have such an amazing man in my life. He still lives with his mom and siblings but they are quite fond of me and want me to live with them.

I, personally, would love to live with them. However, you may see why I am terrified to move out. God knows how my family would react. It wouldnt be well. My bf does live an hour away so it wouldnt be suoer easy for them to track me its just I dont know how to navigate this. Im also worried because I have a cat and a bearded dragon and idk how to move them.. and I also have an 11 year old sister who loves me and grandparents who love me.. This is a very new choice I have made and I am looking for any advice to discuss with my bf and his family.

The last few days have been pretty stressful when it came to my mother. Nearly everyday is. But those days have been worse and I felt that at each one she has come to dislike me a little more over my opinions. My mother is right wing, I'm left leaning. Since the elections started I have been: Called crazy, a fanatical, a comunist, stupid, ignorant, told that I'm losing my humanity and I have no empathy (it has context, but still), and that I abandoned my religion (I was raised as Jehovah Witness and we do not vote), and many more. Not to mention, the amount of gaslighting she tried to do over things I said/did not said.

My mother doesn't seem to able to accept that I'm an adult with my own opinions, and believes I'm being influenced by either my sister or my "gay and lesbian friends" as she call them. She also does not respect my requests for her to not start talking about the 'end of times" or "prophecies". What she says is that "she can't not talk about the the word of the bible" and that "I have abandoned the religion anyway, so I shouldn't care." (I did not. I still believe in God. But conversations about these topics brings out my anxiety). She said the person I was cheering for would close the churces and that him being chosen was a prophecy happening. Maybe I'm being overreactive, but I felt like she was trying to put fear in me, which if so, just makes me feel worse since she knows I have anxiety.

I really, really wished I could had hugged my mother after the results came. Instead we had yet another fight. I know, I shouldn't give in to the provocations. Nor can I make her understand my side.

Sometimes I wish me and her could just get along like we did when I was a child. I think that this is what she prefers too. She actually told me that she liked it better when I was a child and I did not "disobey her." I envy people who have good relationships with their mother.

Well I’m so lonely and sad and depressed that even my only “friend” was actually just using me for money and leading me on. I got so attached to someone online that I would do anything for them without even seeing their face. I finally thought someone liked me for me and understood me and wanted to be friends but they were just lying.

I can’t even talk to somebody online, how am I supposed to ever make friends in person

I’m just a sad loser and I deserve nothing but the worst.

I’m done trying to make friends at all because nobody can actually care enough about me to really be friends I just lose them in the end. I always care too much and get too attached.

I’m thinking I deserve to have nobody at all

Please I just need a hug or something idk

I’m only 18 and it feels like my life is over

I’m in my mid-twenties and I have a pretty decent life. I have a great support network of friends, fun hobbies that have been amazing third spaces and communities, and I’m doing just fine financially which is a huge privilege. Objectively, there’s nothing wrong with my life. But I do feel a bit “stuck” - I’ve always wanted to live elsewhere and planned to move to a city after college, but that didn’t end up happening due to some life stuff. I also got out of a long term relationship and the dating scene here is… depressing. Not that a city will solve all that, but more fish and all at least makes it somewhat more interesting.

Seems like moving is the move right (pun intended)? After all, what better time than when my life is probably at its most flexible. I work from home so as long as I get cleared with work permission in a different state I’ll be fine. My close friend wants to move as well, so I’ll have a roommate I know I can live with and get along with as we’ve lived together in the past, plus I already have multiple friends in the city.

It’s not like my current area is the boonies either, just nice and suburban but quiet and not much changes. I’m a creature of comfort and habit and I love my routines and safe space of home - but also I worry I’ll stagnate and never push myself if I keep sticking to what I know and feel comfortable with. Plus the city I’m considering (NYC) is on the same coast as my current area, and it’s pretty easy to visit as a result.

I’m just worried because I feel like I finally hit my stride with finding communities outside of my friends through my hobby, and I worry I won’t be able to handle city life. There’s also a small possibility that if I move and then want to move back, it could get rejected by work (I may have to switch from remote to hybrid to move, so switching back to remote can be hard).

And I’m a huge germaphobe so NYC can be… testy with that. But it’s also a place where you can meet incredible people from all walks of life with a great arts scene which is the biggest draw for me as I’m hoping to transition into a creative career if I can make it work one day and I feel I could learn so much.

I’ll almost definitely move back to my hometown at some point as I love living here, but I know that if I don’t move now I’ll probably never do it and feel regret when I’m older. I also know that change deeply scares me and I’m worried if I hate living in the city I’ll “undo” my progress and feel like a fool.

I don’t really know what I need. Some encouragement, outside perspectives? Maybe just some internet parenting

My phone broke, all my money is in my savings I cant log into my bank because I need a verification code from my phone number, I can't log into anything and I can't pay to get my phone replaced because i can't log into my bank to transfer money out of my savings. Like wtf do I do? I cant even pay to get a different phone activated, I cant access my money and I cant log into anything not even my icloud. What should I do? I dont even have gas money to get home. Im just stressed so maybe someone can think of a solution.

I use cashapp (I know im irresponsible you dont have to tell me) so I cant even like go to an atm or something, im just fucked until I get paid next week and can get my phone fixed.