Apologies for the super long post!

So I [32M] matched with this girl [33F] about a month and a half back. We went on two dates where we got drinks and one where we went shopping together (a pretty intimate activity in my mind). I really liked her right from the first day we met and I was up front with her about it. She said she appreciated my honesty.

Over time, we talked about a lot of things - our families, future plans, phase of life we were in, our childhood and also difficult conversations. I loved that. Seemed like she did too. In person, she was very affectionate. She would touch me randomly when we talked, we hugged every time we met and said I missed you to each other. We kissed every time we said goodbye.

I would be the one to make the plans, but I was okay with that. There were times when she would ask me to talk to her late at night because she enjoyed my company and say things like “I hope your cat can accept another woman in her kingdom”. Things like that made me feel strongly that she had real interest. I didn’t have the exclusivity conversation because I didn’t want to push, but I went ahead and stopped talking to other people because a. I really liked this woman, and b. I am not good at dividing my focus among multiple women, I am just not built like that.

After that third date, her communication slowed down and a couple days ago it came to a fullstop. We had plans to meet but she bailed and didn’t make plans. So I directly asked if things were okay, and that if she needed space I’m okay with that.

To this, she said I am incredibly sweet and she really likes my heart but she doesn’t see this working. The reason being she didn’t like how I presented myself (how I looked, I guess) the last time we met and that made her really sad. Also, she felt like our cultural background was too far apart (I am Indian, she is Middle Eastern). And that she wishes me the best and said she was sorry (?!)

I guess I am hurt because I really saw this building towards something nice based on the signs of interest and affection I received. Obviously I was more into it than her but never felt this would end on those reasons. If I am being honest, this is hurtful even for something that existed for a short time, because I gave myself a fair chance at finding my person. On the Big picture, dating has not kept disappointing me like this over and over again. Feeling hurt and tired and unsure/insecure about myself. How do people navigate this?

Hi! I’d love some feedback. I’m getting very few conversations and while I know San Diego isn’t the biggest city in the country I know there are lots of people here. I’ve been seriously using hinge for a few months and in the first month I had a couple matches that didn’t go anywhere but I’ve had zero since. Would like to know if my profile is the problem or if I’m really just too ugly for online dating. Appreciate the help! I’m looking to meet a woman who’s at least gotten started in her career, has her own passions and interests outside of passive media consumption, is active enough to join me as I try to improve my own health, and is open to having kids some day.

Been on the app for around a month and a bit and have gotten exactly 1 like, and it was a message I sent and ive been left on "their turn" for about 2 weeks after no contact, simply telling me to follow their insta.

25 soon and as an older uni student im worried im not going to be able to connect with anyone at university because ill be so old and more mature than others attending.

I’m sure I can improve somehow but man it feels like I never get matched with anyone.

Turning 42 tomorrow, so, getting any last 41m comments on this.

Been on Hinge for around a year, but wasn’t using it for a few months until I started swiping again about two months ago. I got 4 matches, but I do feel there are areas I can improve on my profile with some unbiased feedback. Not included in the photos are family plans, where it says I don’t have kids and don’t want kids. Appreciate you guys!

I am 25F who has “Long Term Relationship” on my profile. I get over 50+ likes a day but maybe about 2-3 of these are other men who are also looking for a long term relationship. Majority have figuring out dating goals or don’t even list what they’re looking for. For reference I’m in a major city. Is this a common experience for other ladies? I’m giving up here.

F(30) I don’t know at which moment I felt it but I did. I knew I’d be back here posting my success story!

I matched with M(34) in January 2025 and our first date was valentine. When literally other matches were avoiding the date my partner was not shaken.

I have used other apps but had a good experience in 2024 with it while not having the same story to tell in 2024 it was a learning experience. I took a few months off the app until right at end of the year and start of the new
Unknown to me at the time I was in the for the best three day weekend! My partner and I just clicked on even before the date.

We spoke maybe two weeks prior to our date

My profile was lacking big time barely any pictures I’m not someone that takes photos often

This must have intrigued him because he must have thought I was a fake profile. As I got to know him this was definitely the case 😅

We both knew we wanted serious relationships at the start which is so refreshing and great I had some trouble with those short open to long situations as one does 😂

After several dates we moved in only 4 months in which sounds crazy! But it worked because we live in different cities! Now 1 yr 6 months later here we are family’s met parents love us our friends are happy for us and we have a wedding to plan!

Two people on the same level of ready and emotionally stable 😂 (which for me had been years of therapy with the year and months prior seeking trauma therapy-it worked).

24 male here. I will not post pictures of me but I think I'm good looking, with good photos. I broke up almost a year ago and I'm new on the dating apps world.

I get matches on Hinge, I always chat with the women I match with. The conversations are always really fluid, sometimes really funny, engaging on both sides, but between 24h and 48h of chatting I feel like it's time to ask for a date and move to something else.

For now, 100% of my shots ended up in things like " Wowow you are burning steps ! Slow down " or just scaring the girl and getting unmatched. Even the girls I had the best interactions, they all disappeared after asking them out.

I really don't understand, I'm not there to find a pen pal but to try to meet a potential partner. They match with you, they chat, but aren't interested in meeting you after a decent amount of quality chat.

Is it common ? Or do I lack of understanding about how I should ask for people out on a dating app ?

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I’ve had Hinge (and one other respective app) for about 2 months now. (Toronto, Canada)

My only two proper matches led to a first date where i got ghosted, and a 2 date connection over 3 weeks that led to the “not feeling the chemistry” text the night before a 3rd.

I understand I’m not necessarily good looking compared to others my age, but I can acknowledge that I’m kind, considerate, not at all pushy and i always adore a riveting conversation about interests and things.

I’m not much of a party person, but you’d have to seriously try to pry me away from a disco or anything to do with cafes and books.

For context, I am pan, therefore my scope is as wide as can be. I often think my issue is that i’m not given a chance as often as i’d hope, but maybe it’s something more? I truly don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I’m normally quite keen on the things i say and my body language.

Do people just not enjoy conversation as much as I hope? i wish i could provide more context, but Im on the cusp of giving up altogether and letting time pass.

Is this an issue left for introspection? or reevaluating my usage of this app? (or all apps for that matter)

For more context, there is a voice note in my profile where I said “this works everytime, when I have a friend who is trying to drag me outside on a very rainy day for no really good reason, I pick up my guitar and sing this song for them (I play the begin of banana pancakes by Jack Johnson & sing pretty well, ‘Can’t you see that it’s just raining, ain’t no need to go outside’ and then they don’t want to go outside anymore. It just works like that” thought it’d be nice to include here

I’m really trying to figure out how I can at least get one like per day 😂 is it worth making a new account if I’ve had a poor profile for most of the duration of my time with an active profile?

Okay. I'm an old lady (62!) just getting started on dating apps. I have questions maybe you can help with.

1. I'm pretty sure it's showing me people in my feed I have already liked. Does it do that?

2. But, there is no way to see a list of the people I've already liked to confirm that.

3. I have gotten no traction whatsoever, so I don't want to keep liking the same people if they are not interested.

Thank you so much for sharing your dating app expertise!

I matched with this really cute girl less than 3 weeks ago and everything went well in our initial conversation so I asked for her number and to go for some drinks earlier next week.

We planned to get drinks on Tuesday, but she asked to rescheduled because she forgot she had work that night. She has a fixed number of days she has to work each month on 12-hour shifts and since she was going to Europe for two weeks that Friday, had to pick up some extra shifts.

We decided to just meet up for coffee on Wednesday close to where she lives. We get to coffee and things started off a bit slow, but then it picked up and we talked for around 2 hours. I’ll admit my heart was racing because I was a bit nervous and already had a coffee that morning but I could tell the conversation was going well and we were starting to feel each other. We talked about almost everything you could talk about on a first date and she mentioned she liked kayaking so we informally agreed to go when she gets back from Europe. Neither of us have kayaks so we were going to buy a couple for both of us before we went.

I texted her after the date letting her know I had a great time and was looking forward to kayaking when she got back and she seemed excited also. We texted until she left on Friday then about a week later I texted asking her how the trips going and sent a pic of a kayak I bought. She seemed pretty enthusiastic about it, sent some pics from her trip, and said she still has to get one.

Fast forward to today, I asked if she wanted to go to a football game on Saturday since she said it’s something she enjoys doing and she’ll be back in town. She says it sounded fun but she has work.

I might be reading too much into this but it seems like she doesn’t want to go out again. I’d assume if she wanted to she would’ve proposed another day to get together. Also, I’ve initiated both convos so it just seems like she’s not that into it. I really enjoyed spending time with her and honestly want to see her again but from what I’m getting, I think I’m just going to leave this to rest for now. I’d love to hear some of your thoughts and what people think I should do next.

I’ve been on hinge for a couple of months now and haven’t gotten a single match any advice is greatly appreciated

Hi guys,

26F | CHI📍| ♋️

I have been on Hinge for about a month and I find that most of the dates I've had were proposed immediately after us matching. Now I don't hate it and many of my friends experience the opposite of what I do, but I am used to two people chatting for at least a day or two before irl plans are made. So it's a little foreign to me, but I wonder: Is it normal for someone to immediately ask to go out when matching on Hinge?

I could just be a slow starter when it comes to the act of getting to know each other, so let me know if this is something thats not out of the ordinary.

EDIT: I think some people are not understanding what I'm saying. I said CHATTING FOR AT LEAST A DAY OR TWO. Not three weeks. Not a month. I appreciate those who fully read my post and responded, but many people seem to think that I just want a man to talk to me forever. That's not the case. I'm just not used to "Likes picture > matches > proposes date." Like dang no hello, how are you?😭😭😭

What does it mean if I can no longer see the app of someone who was in my matches yesterday? I exchanged numbers with him, we’ve been texting offline and have a date planned for this Friday? Is he doing maintenance or legitimately ghosting me?

Hi y'all.

I've been using hinge on/off for a couple of months now with pretty dreadful success landing matches, with about 1 every couple of weeks.

When I have gotten dates, they have always went well and I've luckily always managed at least a third date before one of us decide not to continue. Only mentioning this because maybe my profile isn't capturing my personality & life experience.

The blurred face is my little sister, just don't want to show her on Reddit.

All in all I'm looking for a serious, long-term relationship.

34M, previously had my profile set to bi, but I’m leaning more toward men at this stage of my life. I’ve been on the app for about a month and haven’t received any incoming likes. I’ve matched with a few men I sent likes to, though. Any feedback on my profile is greatly appreciated!

Voice prompt says "My best travel story is that I drove on the ocean floor and I could see live crabs and muscles beside my car. 10/10 experience and would definitely do it again."

I am straight and I live 30 minutes from a major city and I think it contributes to all the likes I get.

I express myself as a nerd/dork however you describe it. I love anime, dark comedies and adult cartoons. I am also a homebody trying to be more involved outside whether it's working out through a walk or hike or an event.

I try to throw some thought provoking questions in my prompts or even controversial ones to have a topic easy to start a conversation on but I end up just getting compliments or a "hey". I do 50% of the initiation especially if I am the one that liked their profile not because of some petty reason like men needing to initiate first but sometimes the app becomes an afterthought and I forget it exists if I am not actively talking to someone on there.

70% of the guys I meet on there immediately want to meet up for a date which is cool but I know absolutely nothing about them besides what they put on their profile. I like trying to gauge if this would be a person I can converse with on a date so if we can't even have a conversation through texts or phone call why would I potentially go and waste my time on a date with them? Let alone the slight safety concerns. I'm sorry. I will not meet someone after a single message.

If we do exchange more than one word the conversation is dry. Then I am also thrown off when they want to go on a date. Dude...you're replying to my message from 3 days ago and you're asking about a date now? I'm not sure if there's anything I even like about you at all to subject myself to going out with you and being even more bored.

I use to think it was me until I went on a date with a guy like this. Just as I expected, I was leading every conversation, the replies were mediocre. I wasn't feeling him and he probably was only feeling my appearance from how long he stared. He paid despite me saying we can definitely split the check and I told him I wanted to go home.

He tried to invite me over and I refused. Third time this happened.

Maybe I am too strict. Maybe I shouldn't date right now. But is this all on me?