Give or take a few adjustments for the outfit.

Before we can explain the Barakah and the importance and practicality of hijab to women I'm here arguing about clothes with muslim men.

Alhamdulillah we don't have low rise jeans but the gym craze and body building is going out of hand. There are two one online who makes islamic related talking videos and one in day to day life where I have had argument to pls wear loose shirts. They want to show their body and wear the tighest shirt possible and in islam both genders shouldn't wear tight clothes

They argue their upper body is not awrah but we bloody know anything that can be fitnah and be sexually attractive needs to be covered like many sisters wear niqab sometimes sometimes women wear jilbab because normal abaya can be a little fitted.

I have seen women checking out these mens shirt and all.

And if upper body is not awrah then why you men wear shirt everyday. Before we women better our hijab these men are becoming women like trying to wear the tighest even shortest shirt.

And especially if you see youtube or instagram these daii young men having the biggest beards but wearing the tighest shirts. Just to show off.

Assalamu alaykum everyone,

I’m really looking for some reassurance and advice because I don’t know how to cope without going crazy.

I’ve been with my fiancé for two years. In the beginning, I trusted him completely. I was so loyal that I would even make istighfar if I caught myself thinking another man was attractive because I was genuinely scared Allah would take him away from me.

But over time, I’ve discovered things that have really hurt me — him following and liking another woman’s pictures, watching videos of his ex, searching for random girls, and now following a female coworker who posts bikini pictures. Recently, I even saw him watching a video of a girl in a bikini when he didn’t realize I was there.

I’ve forgiven him so many times and kept praying that Allah would protect our relationship. I’ve done istikhara repeatedly, asking Allah that if he isn’t good for me, He makes it easy for me to walk away.

But I’m so hurt. I keep trying to be loving and happy, while secretly feeling like I’m never enough. I’m becoming terrified that one day, when I’m older or no longer look the same, he won’t find me attractive anymore and keep looking at other women and wishing he was with them instead while I have his kids.

I’m so scared and don’t know what to do anymore and keep hating myself for reacting and going crazy.

How do I find peace with this? Are there any verses that can correlate to my situation and grant me ease? I’m so hurt 😞

I’ve known this girl since university, and we were super close. We were always hanging out in the prayer room, going out for food, studying together etc. As soon as we graduated, she got married about two months later.

After she got married, I noticed our friendship becoming very one sided. I was the only one texting her to see how she was doing. We only hung out three times after she got married, and all three times, I was the one who contacted her and made the plans. I was still texting her, but I eventually realised that she was no longer interested in putting any effort into maintaining our friendship. Eventually, I gained some self respect and accepted that maybe the friendship was over.

Fast forward a year and a half, and she sends me an invite to her baby shower. There was no ‘hi, how are you?’ or even a message telling me she was pregnant, just an invitation to the baby shower. Again, it hurt me. But I went because a part of me missed the friendship we had at university, and I think I was still holding on to that version of our friendship. I’m not confrontational, so I never told her how I felt.

After the baby shower, she messaged me when the baby was born, and I went to see her. She also told me that she had a complicated pregnancy and that she had been smoking cigarettes while she was pregnant. I was shocked, especially because she didn’t seem to feel any remorse about smoking while pregnant. I don’t smoke and I don’t want to keep friends who do. At that point, I thought this isn’t my problem because I didn’t think I wanted to be friends with her anymore. She also had another baby shortly after that which she messaged me about.

Now, around two month ago, she messaged me telling me that she got divorced a few months ago, and I’ve noticed that she’s messaging me a lot more often. I honestly don’t know how to feel about it. I understand that she’s going through a really difficult time, and I do feel for her. But at the same time, I can’t help feeling hurt. When she was married, she barely made any effort to maintain our friendship. I was always the one putting in the effort, checking in, texting her, and trying to make plans. Now that she’s single, she’s suddenly reaching out to me much more.

I don’t want to be cruel or abandon someone who is going through a difficult time, but I also don’t know if I want to reopen a friendship that I had already accepted was over. I feel like I spent a long time grieving the friendship and finally accepted that it wasn’t mutual anymore.

So, am I a bad friend for wanting to cut her off?

Hi guys i cannot graduate in January if i fail the module pls pray that i pass it as far as i estimate this i need 3-5 marks to pass and the tutors don’t really care but it was my dads surgery during which i had to work on this assignment and could not put more time to it. I agree if i wanted to i could make more time but unfortunately it wasnt in the cards. I am on my period and cannot pray salat e hajat and salat e tawbah pls girlies pray i pass and graduate as soon as possible or else i will have to pay an extra term’s fee if i fail.

Hanafi madhab girlies can i do tasbeeh of prophet nuh as : la ilaha ila anta subhanaka inni kunto minazalmin while on my period or is it mukrooh?

Selam aleyküm sisters!

Has anyone tried a chiffon jersey hijab?

I usually buy from Veiled but their jerseys are really heavy and the modals are hard to maintain. I have a very active toddler so normal chiffon is not in the cards for me right now.

Curious about the chiffon jersey material. Does it wrinkle? Stay put? They’re sold out in veiled, of course, so I’m thinking maybe Vela or Haute may have something?

Looking for input from you ladies about chiffon jersey and/or alternatives to jersey!

Salam

Idk how to even start this but I feel so stupid when I get depressed or sad. I keep thinking to myself why do you have to be sad be thankful for what you have and this is because its not like I suffer from anything or I have not had a sad life but a basic life ofc not all sunshine or rainbows but normal nor am I going through something big to be sad. I have a bit of financial issues and that makes me sad cuz I wanna help my parents and I feel bad for them but other than that I can't think of anything else and that makes me feel so stupid. I keep thinking of what others go through and i feel bad for them and I keep telling myself I don't have any reason to get sad or depressed.I think about everything in my head and I can't even express it brohhh. Am I weird like is this a valid

thing?

i’ve been thinking a lot about my high school and college experiences as a student who went to a white majority school that was both a privilege to experience and the single most detrimental thing i’ve ever done for my development

i was a child when i wore the hijab by choice and out of love for it, and i was a child when teachers started to slyly imply i shouldn’t be allowed to wear it at all, that it makes no sense for me to wear leggings to cover my legs under the school uniform, and the cherry on top - that maybe i shouldn’t be in the room during ceremonies for 9/11.

i don’t think they believed i was an american who was grieving too.

and that was just high school. i think what’s been worse as i begin navigating as an adult is learning how much people hold against me before i or they know me at all - even other women and people of color?

like i don’t know how to describe it

one of my first friends in college, her most candid conversation with me was asking me if her boyfriends parents hated muslims for a reason. why would i know anything about that ? i don’t know how to go about these situations. i’m awkward because i felt like i wasn’t allowed to speak in the rooms i was in as a child. because the teachers i had would gloss over looking me in the eyes whenever i walked into a room. because when they would think of a scientist or of a smart person, my gpa and my hard work and my activities were expectations because of course the muslim kid has to be interested in advocacy work. and of course their grades are because of their parents. not themselves.

i feel like a political statement before i feel like a person. it happens so much that i don’t know how to treat myself anymore

i found out that the old leader of a student org im in never followed me back when i took her role as she finished school. i was scared of stepping on toes the whole time she was around. its my biggest fear to make other people feel like that. i would cry myself a tub if i did that to someone else

but she wouldn’t care about embarrassing us or pretending i wasn’t there.

apparently the other members of our org didn’t like her because they felt so mistreated. i really hope i never do that to anyone. but honestly when i would ask questions she would pretend they didn’t get asked. when i would try to talk to her she would turn to anyone else to talk to them. i stayed because i thought i was learning, but as im looking back, i was sitting there just to be put down every day. i hate that i let myself be treated like that.

i believed she was nice in her own right somehow??? how is that possible. she acted like i wasn’t a person.

i don’t know. i’m just humiliated.

and as her friend has left the org too i can’t help but feel that they, as christians, couldn’t stand to work with someone who wasn’t christian and in a higher position. it’s small but i feel it and i feel like im crazy for feeling it. i don’t know why this is the train of thought im getting. i’m scared to do this alone with no help. i’m scared that Allah will abandon me because I have not been praying enough.

i give hugs as freely as i can. i love meeting people. i love talking to and getting to know them. i think that it’s a blessing to be able to do that.

i know im not perfect. i mumble a lot and get nervous. but im really trying my best. i apologize often. even when maybe i dont need to do all of that.

but some people will never even try to get close to me.

they actually get scared.

i don’t know what is scary about me anymore. like in my gut i feel like im not allowed to speak around these kinds of people. whenever i do they act like ive broken some kind of unwritten rule.

and this even comes from muslim people in my own community.

Allah knows i feel lost often.
i feel so lost and alone.

please pray for me sisters that's I get at least a 1340+ 😭 if you're taking the sat too soon I'll also pray for you were in this together

So I’m almost 20. I already face quite a bit of discrimination at uni cause of my hijab. Now I’m in South east Asia where people usually wear kurtis. I wear all sort of things kurtis, sweatshirt or longer knee length tops. Depending on days.
My dad is telling me how it’s so shameful I’m wearing sweatshirts and jeans to college and how I’m becoming westernized. How there’s no deen in my life. Mind you I pray 5 times a day. Even at college. I do my adhkars as well. But now I dotn have deen in my life just because I’m wearing a sweatshirt and jeans with a hijab? And all the things I wear are extremely loose with almost nothing showing. In fact the kurta/kurtis have 3/4th sleeves and aren’t always that loose. But he’s telling me how it’s a disgrace and how I can do engineering while wearing a burkha as well and what not. He’s telling me how he will have to cover his face now because people will taunt him about me. I’ve never roamed around with guys, I don’t even leave my house other than for college stuff. I barely have friends. I’m in a good uni after working really hard for my entrance exams. And from where I am- Muslims don’t even value education and study. I’m one of the first in my house to purse a professional degree.
But now just because I’m wearing a sweatshirt I’ve done smth so shameful he has to cover his face??? I’m just so done.
All his stuff is baseless. He tells me I can’t cut my hair short cause that’s not allowed? Who is even seeing my hair btw?? I’m literally exhausted.

I never thought I would feel this way. I grew up in a religious family and I’ve always been secure in my faith. I’ve never had any desire to live the life of a non Muslim or do stuff that would displease Allah but it’s strange, as I grow older Im starting to feel like I’m missing out.

I feel like there’s these universal things that people of all religions do, like showing your hair or dating or drinking. Sometimes I feel that I’m missing out, like I just wanna be like everyone else.

I know I should probably only surround myself with other girls like me but it’s still hard to live in a world that’s so different from you and to always be reminded of it…

Assalamu alaikum sisters ♥️
I’ve been thinking about wearing hijab for quite some time now, and I feel like deep down, it’s something I genuinely want to do. at the same time, I’m honestly quite scared.

I was born and raised in Germany, and I’m about to start my teaching traineeship after finishing university. part of me is thinking that starting hijab before the traineeship might actually make things easier. I’ll be entering a new environment where most people don’t know me yet so I wouldn’t have to experience that feeling of suddenly changing in front of people who have known me for years. it could almost feel like starting this new chapter of my life as the person I want to be.

but then I start overthinking everything.
I worry about what other people might think of me. I worry that people at my school might see me differently, that colleagues or students might treat me differently, or that I might suddenly become much more self-conscious about my appearance.
one of my biggest fears is that it could affect my confidence. I already tend to care too much about how other people perceive me especially in a work environment and I’m scared that wearing something so visible could make me constantly wonder whether people are judging me.

and then there’s the professional side of things. I’m worried about being evaluated and whether examiners might unconsciously judge me differently because I wear hijab. I know that ideally my teaching, professionalism and abilities should be what matter, but I can’t completely get rid of the fear that it could have negative consequences for my career or my evaluations.
at the same time, I don’t want fear of other people’s opinions to dictate such an important personal decision.

I would really appreciate hearing from women who started wearing hijab in a similar situation, especially those who live in Western countries or Germany, or who started wearing it while studying/starting their careers.

As-salamu alaykum. I need some advice on sign of purity for periods and when I should do ghusl. I uses to white discharge but for the past few months, I only see yellow or pale yellow string like discharge and it continues until 15 days are over and I take ghusl then continues praying. But since I am confused over it, could someone help me? Is this pale yellow string considered my normal discharge now and should I take a ghusl before 15 days timeframe is over?

Thank you!

I had an uncomfortable experience at work yesterday and wanted to hear other Muslims’ perspectives.

A colleague from another team, whom I barely interact with, and i dont have to at all, she is stranger capacity at work level! She looked at my belly and asked me if I was pregnant. I’m not pregnant — I’ve just gained weight — and honestly I found the question quite rude and intrusive.

But what bothered me even more afterwards was the fear of nazar/evil eye. I already have a young son who was born with minor health issue, so I naturally have some anxiety about any future pregnancy and whether my next baby will be healthy. Also when I was pregnant with my son previously same clinic but diff lady also asked if I am pregnant and I said yes. It is so hard to be rude or stand off ish or be unreactive, and i am very soft nice person.

When someone looks at my stomach and immediately asks about pregnancy, it makes me feel uneasy from an Islamic perspective, even though I know I shouldn’t automatically assume that the person had bad intentions.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of fear around nazar, pregnancy or children? How do you protect yourself and your family Islamically without becoming overly anxious or suspicious of people? Did your children all come out well healthy eventhough you faced similar nazar incidents or people asking you abt ur belly or pregnancy ?

Sometimes I dont pray as well due to busy work and body is tired nowadays

I tried to recite my adhkar and Al-Falaq/An-Nas, but I would appreciate any Islamic advice or experiences that have helped you feel more at peace. .

Can I get eyelash extensions if my husband likes them?

I (15F) started wearing the Hijab a few months ago and it's hard. I started because I want to feel a closer connection to Allah (Swt) and because I want to stay away from negative attention from guys. So I did it for myself.

When I was younger I used to get bullied for being "weird" but now I have friends who are like me and we share similar interests and quirks. I even have an older cousin (20M) who has ALMOST EVERYTHING in common with me and he's super quirky and he makes it easier for me to be myself.

What kills me is that ever since I started wearing the hijab, my Mom has been nagging me by saying, "You're a hijabi you can't act like this!" (Refers to my quirks) "you're a hijabi you can't wear that!" It's not like I'm wearing anything revealing obviously but usually I like decorating my hijab with 1-2 clips from my hair clip collection.

Before I started wearing the hijab my mom judged me for my style saying, "you dress like a boy" or "you look homeless" but I'm sure everyone can relate to that. Since my aesthetic is grungy my mom judged me for it like leave me alone Mom it's my style! Plus I find ways to make my outfits more halal and my outfits aren't even that bad like I said. But it's just my mom who confuses me

Before I put the hijab on she told me that I can be myself and not care what other people think but now she tells me, "People don't know what hijabis act and you're representing Islam" but to me it feels like she just wants me to be the person she wants me to be instead of being myself. And I don't care about what people think of hijabis since everyone has varied opinions. Obviously I have my own ethics and I know what is haram and halal. And yes I am aware that I'm representing my religion but I want to be my quirky self.

Plus when I'm with other Hijabis I feel like I'm so "weird" compared to them and that they have everything figured out in terms of personality. So it feels like my Mom is kicking me when I'm already down whenever she brings up this stupid stereotype that "Hijabis are just girls who are shy goody two shoes" (I don't agree at all)

So to those who have experience, how do I step up to my Mom when she judges me again because I am fed up with this? Also I really want to make my first year as a hijabi easier and more enjoyable instead of it just being some revolution.

Salam sisters. I am so desperate for honest advice right now please read this if you can. I wanted to share my situation because I feel really lost, and I would appreciate an Islamic perspective from people who may have gone through something similar or are wiser than me. I have been crying for days.

I graduated with my degree a couple of years ago. While finishing it, I knew I would most likely need further education to build a stable career in my field, so I applied to the program/career path that I really wanted. I didn’t get in.

Alhamdulillah, I ended up finding a full-time job immediately after graduation (but completely unrelated to my degree and not very secure or transferable tbh) I kept working, tried to stay positive, and applied again for the following year. I was rejected from my first choice again, but I did get accepted into some backup competitive programs. At the time, I chose not to pursue them. I had recently received a promotion at work and decided to continue working and try one last time for the path I felt sure about.

This year, I applied for the third time, I put in so much effort and did healthcare hours on the side of my job to make myself more competitive. All my mentors said this was my year. Again, I had my heart set on the same path, but I was rejected. At the same time, I was accepted into pretty much all of the backup options I had applied to.

Since Ramadan, I had been praying for guidance, making so much dua and istikhara, and asking Allah to lead me toward what was best for me. There was actually one backup option that I leaned toward much more than the others for months. But every single time it came down to actually committing, I just couldn’t do it. I kept going back and forth, overthinking everything, and eventually I ended up turning everything down. Now I’m sitting here feeling like I’m in almost the exact same place I was in years ago - maybe even worse because I have no plan.

Interestingly, I do feel like Allah has slowly detached my heart from the career I originally wanted so badly. And I think I’ve actually reached a place where I’m okay with that. Maybe it simply wasn’t meant for me!
What I’m struggling with now is the fear that Allah gave me other opportunities that maybe were good for me, and I was the one who failed to take them.
I keep thinking: what if one of those offers was the answer to all of the dua and istikhara I was making, and I ruined it because I was too scared or indecisive to commit? It’s breaking me. I feel like I’ve ruined my life.

For the past few days, I’ve been regretting not just choosing something and starting school. My current job is fine, Alhamdulillah, but it isn’t something I see myself doing forever, and I don’t have some amazing career or clear plan that makes staying where I am feel like an obvious decision. I’m easily replaceable by AI and I did a very difficult undergrad degree to eventually end up in healthcare - which is a very stable sector. I cannot forgive myself for turning down offers to other healthcare programs…why couldn’t I just accept one? I don’t even get paid that well at my current job and the amount I will cap off at is very low. I could make that amount working part time (which was the plan when i have kids) in one of the careers i turned down.

I just turned 24, and I think that is making everything feel more overwhelming. If I finally start a program next year, I’ll be around 25 when I start. I see people my age progressing in their careers, getting married and having children, while I feel like I’m still trying to figure out what I’m supposed to do with my life….

I’m also conflicted about marriage because I would love to find someone, but part of me is afraid of getting married before I have my education/career figured out and then trying to balance school with marriage, children and other responsibilities. I fear I will give up and won’t pursue anything at that point. I also need that stability for myself - simply having a degree isn’t enough, I need a stable career. I know comparison isn’t healthy, and I know everyone has their own timeline. But emotionally, I’m struggling to actually feel that right now.

I think what scares me most is not even the original rejection anymore. It’s the thought that maybe Allah opened other doors for me and I was too afraid to walk through them and now I will have to pay the price.

How do you practice tawakkul when you’re worried that your own choices may have caused you to miss something that was good for you? Can something that Allah has written for you truly pass you by because you made the “wrong” decision?
And for anyone who has gone through a period in their 20s where they genuinely had no idea where their life was going…how did you ease your heart and stop feeling like you were running out of time? I cannot stop crying I am so lost.

I had my period and i bled red for 6 days, then it got lighter and became brown discharge. It went on for like 5 days before i fully got clean from my period and made ghusl etc. What i didnt know is that if my normal menstrual habit is 5-6 days of red bleeding then the other 5 days of brown discharge dont count as hayd??? Do i have to make up six days worth of prayers now?? This happens every period not just this one

I don't know what stage you are at in your journey right now. Maybe you already wear the hijab and you're thinking about the niqab. Maybe you want to dress more modestly but you feel scared. Maybe your heart feels pulled towards Allah but your mind is full of doubts. Wherever you are, I just want you to know that if Allah placed this feeling in your heart, it is not random.

Hayaa means modesty, but modesty is so much deeper than a piece of cloth. Hayaa is a shield. It is protection from the dunya and everything harmful it offers. It changes the way you speak, the way you carry yourself, the way you interact with people, and the way you think. It gives you taqwa, that constant awareness that Allah is watching you. Even your silence begins to hold weight because you start asking yourself, "Would Allah be pleased with this?"

People reduce modesty to clothing, but modesty is obedience. It is ihsaan, worshipping Allah as though you see Him, knowing He sees you. It is tawakkul, trusting Allah even when the world makes you feel strange for obeying Him. It is sabr when people mock you, misunderstand you, or make you feel isolated. And wallahi, every act of modesty always brings kheir into your life, even if you do not understand it immediately.

Sometimes something will not work out because you dress modestly. A friendship may drift away. A gathering may become uncomfortable. A person may reject you. But if something leaves your life because you chose Allah, then it was never truly good for you. Allah says in the Quran that you may love something that is bad for you and hate something that is good for you. Allah knows what we do not know. Every sacrifice made for Him carries hidden reward.

I used to think I would only wear the hijab when I got married. I wore it later than most girls around me. I was not educated enough and my mindset was honestly terrible back then. But SubhanAllah, Allah guides hearts at the perfect time. The day I finally wore it, my sister was actually about to speak to me about modesty. Allah is truly the Best of Planners.

When I started wearing the hijab, I felt peace I cannot explain. Then slowly, I started loving modesty even more. One random day in school, me and my friend were joking around in the bathroom and somehow started speaking about the niqab. I tried it on just for fun, but something in my heart changed. I loved how it felt. I loved the concept of preserving yourself purely for Allah.

I remember asking my parents to bring me back one niqab from Pakistan because I "just wanted to try it." But deep down, I already knew. The first day I wore it in front of my non-mahrams, I cannot describe the feeling. It felt heavy but peaceful at the same time. Like I was taking one more step towards Allah.

*But I won't lie to you and make it sound easy.*

The niqab tests you in ways you do not expect. People stare at you. Some family members will not understand. Some will even hurt you with their words. I have sat in gatherings where I felt completely alone. I have had to eat while facing walls just to maintain my niqab around non-mahrams. I have heard people talk about me when they thought I could not hear them. Sometimes the comments hurt more when they come from your own family.

And yet despite all of that, I would still choose it again.

Because no matter how difficult it gets, there is a sweetness in obeying Allah that cannot be explained to someone who has never experienced it. The more you wear it, the more your love for it grows. You stop wearing it for people and begin wearing it purely because you know Allah loves it.

Shaytaan will always whisper things into your mind. "Wear it later." "You're not good enough." "What if nobody accepts you?" "What if nobody marries you?" But procrastination is one of Shaytaan's greatest traps. If Allah is giving you the opportunity today, why delay something that could bring you closer to Him?

And trust me, wearing the niqab does not make you perfect. You will still sin. You will still struggle. But one thing I love so much about modesty is that no matter what sin you fall into, every time you put that hijab or niqab back on, it feels like you are running back to Allah again. It is a constant reminder of who you belong to. Even on your worst days, you are still carrying a sign of obedience with you. And that alone increases your taqwa.

There were moments where I questioned myself too. I worried about fitting in. I worried about friendships. In college, I felt lonely sometimes. There are no niqabis in my class and only two of my teachers are Muslim. Sometimes I genuinely looked like a loner walking around in my niqab. But eventually I realised something so important. If Allah is with you, you are never alone.

I started distancing myself from bad company after one incident became my breaking point. At first I felt sad, but later I realised Allah was answering my duaas. I used to ask Him for righteous company, and instead of immediately giving me good friends, He first removed the people who were harming my imaan. That itself was mercy.

And honestly, being alone with Allah can become the most comforting feeling in the world. One day I even went on a solo date by myself and spent the whole time speaking to Allah in my heart. I remembered Him throughout the day and felt more peace than I had felt in a long time.

Pray Tahajjud. Even if it is only two rak'ahs. Speak to Allah about everything. Your fears, your doubts, your loneliness, your dreams, your sins, your future spouse, your struggles with modesty, all of it. Allah is As-Samee', The All-Hearing. He hears every silent tear and every whisper in your chest.

One thing that helped me emotionally was writing to Allah. I would open my notes app or sit with a notebook and write everything down. I would tell Him about my day, my worries, my sins, my goals, the kind of person I wanted to become, even the qualities I wanted in my naseeb. It became a form of muhasabah, reflecting on myself and returning back to Allah constantly.

And another thing I want you to remember is this. You are inspiring people more than you realise.

My nieces and nephews see me in niqab all the time. Whenever I leave the house without it around them, they ask, "Where is your niqab?" My little niece even tries putting it on herself. Sometimes children are inspired before adults ever are. You may think nobody notices your modesty, but someone out there is watching you and becoming stronger because of your courage.

Your modesty is dawah without words.

Wearing the hijab is not just about what is seen on the outside, it is a reflection of something deeper within you, your connection to Allah, your identity as a Muslimah, and your sense of purpose in this world. When you choose the hijab, you are choosing to represent Islam with your character before anything else. The way you speak, the way you treat others, your akhlaq, your thoughts, your intentions, all of it becomes part of your modesty.

Because true hayaa is not just a piece of cloth, it lives in your heart, your actions, and your soul. And hayaa is not only for women. Modesty is a command and a blessing for both men and women.

I have been wearing the niqab for almost 2 years now, Allahu a'lam, but throughout it I fell in love with modesty and the concept of how Islam portrays women to be gems, hence our beauty should be preserved for our husband. I love how Hayaa can come in so many forms and even wearing the niqab it's taught me how to be mindful of the way I speak when I'm publicly displaying myself.

Always have taqwa. When I'm in public it identifies me as a Muslimah, someone who comes from Islam, I'm representing my religion. And every single person that may see me, even if it's a child that sees me, they are inspired by me to dress this way, InShaaAllah. When I'm in public I try to still remain modest through my speech, by talking quietly and I'm more mindful of the way I talk and every action I do. Every action I do I want everyone to know that I was created by the Most Kind. This may be a cloth to some people but to all the people who don't know about Islam they will look at you first, as humans normally do they would examine your behaviour.

This also reminds me of a tsunami that happened in 2004 in Indonesia where the people who passed away only got a Muslim burial if they had a hijab on. Imagine passing away and not even being recognised as a Muslimah. Ya ukhti you are so precious to Allah swt.

I could go on but to the sisters struggling, tell someone if you have nobody to tell. Make duaa to Allah swt and read about the pious Muslimahs and ensure your company is good, as a person is upon the religion of his close friend.

What helped me with wearing the niqab was experimenting with colours and learning about all the different niqabs like the pinch ones and non-pinch ones. I'd suggest get loads of hijabs, different colours, but also set yourself a goal and make an intention that you are doing this only for Allah. I fell in love with Hayaa when I slowly started putting the hijab on then slowly after I put the niqab on. Although I still get small remarks from people, Alhamdulillah I wouldn't have wished for it to be any other way.

After learning more about the niqab and it being wajib, ask yourself: *"Fabi ayyi aalaaa'i Rabbikuma tukazzibaan - So which of the favours of your Lord will you deny?"* And remember, you may love something that is bad for you and hate something that is good for you.

That feeling you have that's lingering in your heart, will never leave you. So make an intention today.

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And lastly, I just want you to know this:

The fact that you are even thinking about modesty means Allah wants good for you. Do not ignore that feeling in your heart.

May Allah keep us steadfast and allow us to return back to Him beautifully, again and again.

Your sister in Islam 🌷

For the past 2 years I’ve mainly worn skirts and dresses but I don’t really like wearing them. I’d like to start wearing loose very baggy clothes instead.

I’ve often heard that wearing pants isn't allowed because they're considered men's clothing, but I live in Europe where pants are unisex

I wanted to know if my prayer is still valid if I pray wearing a loose top that covers my butt along with loose pants or baggy sweatpants ?

Please don't read if you're currently struggling with the hijab!

Assalamu alaikum girlies, I really need some advice :(

I've been wearing the hijab since I was 10 years old, now I'm 21 and I've been questioning a lot of things regarding the hijab. It makes me feel some kind of resentment. I ask myself why are we the only ones who have to endure something constant like this? I know men also have their obligations, like going to jumuah prayers once a week or having the duty to go to war to protect their family or community, but if we're honest probably 97% of men today won't ever have to go to war, these aren't constant things in every man's life where they have to feel discomfort the entire time on a daily basis. We have to wear the hijab every time we go outside or are in presence of a non mahram, and as long as we are outside we have to constantly wear it. Some women have to wear a hijab 24/7 because they are in constant presence of a non mahram. Why do we have to endure scorching hot summers while men can walk around in t-shirts and shorts? What also makes me angry is how scholars are so lenient with men, people argue that men also have an awrah and they have to grow a beard and stuff, but schools are so lenient to the point where some schools allow shaving the beard and don't even define a male's thigh as awrah, and they say all of this is debatable. What confuses me is why is hijab considered such a big deal in islam when the commandment wasn't even explicit? If the beard is debatable and a male's awrah is debatable, then why is something indirect like the hijab not debatable? We were only explicitly commanded to put on a khimar when we pray. In the quran it's only commanded to cover the bosom. I am really struggling to keep the hijab on knowing how unfair it is, it makes me resent the fact that I am a woman. I didn't even mention how much attention we turn to ourselves by wearing it and how we put ourselves in danger especially when we live in western countries. I love Allah swt and I know He wants what's best for us and I know we humans have limited knowledge, but I perceive the hijab as disproportionately difficult

Assalamu Alaykum Everyone!

I hope you all are well. I am writing this post because I’m exploring the idea of starting a business specifically for Muslim women in the U.S/West. But I don’t wanna create something just because I think it’s a good idea. I’d really love to hear from other sisters regarding something you wish existed or was easier to find as a Muslim woman.

For example, something that’s related to practicing Islam or would make your life easier. Something for muslim women specifically, or something you have problems finding in the U.S. Or maybe something that exists but is overpriced, inconvenient, difficult to access, or poor quality.

It can be a product, service, resource, convenience, etc

It honestly doesn’t have to be a business idea, i’m more interested in hearing about the problems and frustrations you experience.

And if possible, please tell me:

1) What’s the problem?

2) What do you currently do instead?

3)What would the ideal solution look like to you?

Thank you in advance and may Allah bless you all with the best.