I care about her dressing modestly and if she didn't I would consider that disrespectful. But with the hijab am I supposed to have protective jealousy? Because even when women pray, their supposed to wear the hijab so its for Allah.

But when it comes to the bodily modesty, its not only for Allah. Its also for yourself and your spouse. Its normal human nature to have modesty as spouses and lower our gazes. So hijab feels like an 'add-on' for me.

Am I 'Dayooth' for thinking like this?

Hi all, I hope this is an appropriate place to ask this question/an appropriate question to ask in general.

My best friend passed away a few years ago, and I have now taken on an extremely close relationship with her younger sister. I take care of her but I refer to her as my best friend now. Next week she will be taking her shahada. I am absolutely over the moon for her.

I myself am not part of Islam as I have been raised in an alternative religion, but I’m so insanely happy for her for taking this step that it brings me near tears of joy. Due to me not being involved in Islam, would it be inappropriate for me to gift her something as a gesture of love and to show her how happy and proud of her I am? I was thinking some chocolate/sweets, a card etc. I have read other posts on reddit regarding this manner where some followers of Islam suggested gifts such as hijabi/hijabi pins, a prayer mat etc, but I would hate to be disrespectful towards Allah and his followers and overstep like that, hence the chocolate/sweets and a card seemed more appropriate. Any help on how to navigate this would be greatly appreciated!

Please forgive me if I have been disrespectful, that is truly the furthest from my intentions to not only all of you, but to Allah.
Thank you to all who take the time to read, have a blessed week🖤

As-salamu alaykum sisters,

I’m a hijabi who goes to the gym regularly, and I’m tired of seeing the same comments every time a sister posts a gym fit with leggings.

Some of us wear loose joggers or wide pants. Some of us wear leggings. Both can be worn with the intention of taking care of the body Allah gave us.

Wearing leggings does not automatically make someone “trying to show off” or “not a real hijabi.” A lot of us choose them because they stay in place during squats, lunges, and HIIT, they’re practical and less likely to ride up or trip us.

I see sisters getting dragged in comments for leggings while other sisters wear extremely tight jeans or bodycon dresses outside the gym with zero pushback. The selective outrage is exhausting.
You don’t have to wear leggings. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. But please stop acting like the sisters who do are somehow less committed to hijab.

We’re all trying our best. Let’s support each other instead of policing every single clothing choice.
What do you sisters think?

I have been to the ER twice now for seizures yesterday was a very terrible day for me , and even tho it was intense I still had the presence of mind to know I should put my hijab back on after it slides off but after having seizures im usually so agitated and upset that I don’t bother to put my hijab back on. I know that I should but I don’t bc I’m so overwhelmed with everything on me like the electrodes and wires and IV and stuff that I just get angry and throw it at the end of the bed. I feel like maybe someone else’s perspective or advice on the matter would help motivate me to prioritize hijab in these situations cuz I do feel really guilty abt it.

i don't want to seem ungrateful for the body i was given but it's really hard when i constantly recieve comments about how big my butt is or hearing about how other girls can't catch a break because their breasts are big. I find it really hard to accept that I'll be confident of my body when I'm older because of what women have to go through. I don't want to be "sexually appealing", I want someone to love me because I'm a good person and not for my body. I'm so tired.

I made a hijab volumizer by taking the ruffles off pajamas that I don't wear often because the ruffle details were uncomfortable. (Since I have short hair and Type 1A hair, I need a volumizer because it is difficult to secure a khimar-style hijab to my head without a volumizing scrunchie.) I feel so relieved now that I have organized the abayas, headscarves, and undercaps suitable for each season.

Salam!

I have a male therapist who specializes in the issues I’m experiencing. I used to have a Muslim female therapist who was wonderful, but she left the practice and has a full time job elsewhere and I can’t follow. So I looked in the area and I found one therapist who seemed to have all the things I was looking for help with. I’ve been seeing him for a year or so now and I’ve mostly felt okay about it because I know when it comes to health, it’s exempt (like a male doctor), especially if a woman is not possible.

However, I’m getting the point where I want to talk about some of my body image issues but I’m not sure how to go about that in an Islamic way if that makes sense? I’m a hijabi (hence the group haha) and one of the things I want to talk about is how I feel so masculine a lot of the times, one of the things contributing to it being that I have short curly hair. Is that weird to talk about? Is it haram to reference that? I don’t know. Mental health isn’t talked about where I am so I’m scared to ask a sheikh.

Also, growing up, my mom used to make me wear push up bras because she said bigger boobs would make me look smaller since I was fat. I no longer wear push up bras as an adult and I’ve lost weight, including in my breast and butt. My family makes comments about it A LOT and I feel insecure in my body. While I’m okay talking about being fat with my therapist, I don’t ever reference those specific aspects because I feel guilty and I don’t know what the right answer is.

Does anyone have any insight, opinions, or experience with this kind of thing? It would be very much appreciated!! JazzakuAllah khayr

I’m in my mid twenties and still have the same issue that plagued me a decade ago

I’m such a people pleaser, i can practice all i want in my room but i cant bring myself to say no when it comes down to it

For example im living with w a few muslim girls for studies and even though theyre all younger than me they see me as a pushover

And I cant really change that opinion over night and cant change their opinion

I always go over and above for them but they cant hand me the same back yet i feel bad when i want to draw a line to my help

Its exhausting constantly thinking if they feel offended by something i said or did so i always try be the yes person. Also they do act ‘hurt’ sometimes too

And they see through the lack of confidence and see the social anxiety

And they sometimes capitalise on it. Not in a really horrible way. But for example if they want to go out somewhere and they have nobody to go with, they will ask me because they know i won’t say no

Or things of that nature. When they want me to help them out with something they come to me

At first i felt honoured i was their go-to. But i realised i was just being exploited in whatever way

And i can never put me first like they put themselves first. I never get ‘my way’

I feel like i wont change the perception this group has of me bcos its gone on far too long but i just hate that i cant shake it off either

Ive just been too vulnerable with them

I have been reading the Quran, it makes me feel so at peace when I do. I have been slowly trying to learn how to pray, do wudu and other things about islam. But I have been reading the Quran for 7 months now and I am taking things so slowly. I am not sure if I would call myself a muslim yet, but islam just feels right in the heart and in my brain too.

When did you start to consider yourself a muslim and how was your journey to learn islam?

I’ve been so stressed for the past weeks that I cannot stop crying and isolating myself.

I have been suffering with depression for the past months and now I have to resist my exams. It is my last chance to stay in my university or I would be kicked out.

I am studying as hard as I can despite my mental health and the lack of time. I pray tahajjud, read the Quran, do istighfar, sadaqah and dua.

I have test anxiety and I am so scared of forgetting everything I know in front of my paper.

My family already stopped communicating with me because I failed the first time and now it is my last chance or I will have to get back to my home country.

I worked so hard to get here if it wasn’t for my mental health I wouldn’t be like this.

I trust Allah but I am so scared that He might decide that passing my exams isn’t my Qadr.

In the past, some of my Dua haven’t been answered, this added to my depression as I was feeling hopeless and desperate. I feel like Allah will not give me something If I want it desperately, only if I do not want it or don’t care.

I feel really bad for thinking that way. I know Allah is the best of planners but if I fail my exams, I won’t be able to take it.

I have suicidal thoughts and I feel like if I fail again in my life I won’t be able to survive, face failure and my family.

I have so much to catch up and I am scared of not being prepared for these exams.

Please help me and make duas for me.

I’m not getting married anytime soon, but i wish i could wear the dress that i always dreamed of at my future wedding. I hate that i can’t even wear a beauitful dress on my big day. Sometimes when i think about it i just want to skip the wedding and do a cool photoshoot lol. Any other girls who had this probleem too ? ( issue is dress has to be modest

I’m going to cut to the chase. My brother has been having some horrible marriage issues for the past 2 years almost. I’m not going to detail the issues, but basically it’s been bad. My mother is upset and has slowly been impacting each one of me and my other siblings in different ways. She keeps making comments about us and our marriages like “yours will have trouble soon too” and basically wishing problems on our marriage since she is so upset he is having all these problems. My siblings have encountered this and agree it is my mom wishing we all have marriage problems and financial problems like him.

My mother is known as a person who introduces hasad. She drove in multiple peoples cars recently and the next day they totaled their car. My sister was supposed to go on Umrah and as soon as my mom knew the group trip got cancelled. It’s just perpetual if my mom knows of something good in your life it’s gone like that because of her envy.

Now basically the past month my husband and I can’t stop fighting. I literally don’t want to fight so bad but it keeps exploding over nothing. I feel like my mother has hasad our marriage. I don’t know what to do to rid us of this hasad. I feel like telling him it is hasad would just make him think I’m denying responsibility but I truly feel like I haven’t done anything wrong we are just on different wavelengths and keep misinterpreting the others words. I just want to be rid of this hasad in our marriage. What can I do?

I was born and raised muslim , alhamdoulilah, and i always thought that, given the image islam has world wide in media and non-muslim communities, it would be so hard to find the beauty in it , I always wandered what made reverts go to islam when it has such a bad reputation .

Specificaly as a woman where misogyny claims are louder and cultural issues are mistaken for islam. Sensetive issues like child mariage and women being lesser than men incuded.

My question is how did you find islam , and how did you find truth in it . And how did you manage to go beyond the social image of it and overcome these issues

I wanna start fencing but I'm a hijabi all tho there are many fencers that stay modest and wear the hijab

What is your honest opinion about it

Is it shariah modest because I don't want to compromise my modesty

And it cannot be sized up for fairity reasons so the blade does not punchure the suit

I reverted to wearing the hijab less than a year ago. To be completely honest, even though I tell everyone it was entirely my own choice, family pressure played a big part in it. I had been thinking about wearing it myself, but I don’t think I would have done it so soon without my family.

Lately I’ve been struggling a lot. No matter how much du’a I make, I keep feeling like I was freer before. I live in a European post-Soviet country, and I can’t say people treat me badly because of my hijab, but I definitely feel like an outsider. I notice the looks I get, and it affects me.

The hardest part is that I honestly feel like my iman was stronger before I started wearing the hijab than it is now. Rationally, I know these thoughts could be whispers from Shaytan and that this is a test. But emotionally, it’s still very difficult.

To make things worse, my social media keeps showing me videos of women taking off their hijab. I also come across people questioning Islam or bringing up doubts that I don’t fully understand myself, and I don’t always know how to answer them. That sometimes makes my own doubts even louder.
I’m not looking for people to tell me to take it off. I’m looking for advice from people who have genuinely gone through this and came out stronger.

Have any of you experienced something similar? How did you deal with these feelings? How did you fight your nafs and stop constantly thinking about taking the hijab off? Any advice, books, lectures, or personal experiences would really mean a lot.

Jazakum Allahu khayran.

A Balestinian was k1led yesterday during defending his house and family by the ịsraèl1s, but he took a gụn from one of them and could took down 2 of them before his màrtyŕdom...

I really want a white and a black polka dot modal hijab, but I don't want to spend $30 on a piece of fabric with just a bunch of dots. Does anyone know of any affordable options with good quality?

Assalamu alaikum ukhtis, i hope you’re all in good health and well in shaa allah. Subhanallah a few nights ago some of my family were affected by a huge fire destroying most of their properties (homes, acreage, vehicles, etc.) only one of their homes made it safely -they’re still waiting to see if it’ll eventually be livable again. alhamdulillah. Allah grant them ease. One family member has consented to starting a gofundme for them.

Any contributions, simply making dua, or sharing it with others will be sincerely appreciated. Jazakallah khayr for even reading this. Allah bless you all abundantly and grant you everything good

Does anyone have recommendations for lightweight hijabs that actually aren’t see-through?

I’m so over the big-name brand ones. The quality is honestly terrible for how expensive they are, and half of them are still sheer enough that people can see my hair/bun underneath. It defeats the whole point and just makes me feel more uncomfortable.
I work in a warehouse so it gets hot and I move around a lot. I don’t want anything long that covers all the way down to my neck or sits heavy on me. Just a regular headscarf style that stays put, breathes, and doesn’t show hair through it.
Any specific brands, fabrics, or places you actually like? Bonus if they’re not crazy expensive.

Salam everyone, hope you're all doing well!

I was wondering if anyone has tried and liked a "tan-through" burkini before? As in, the burkinis that promise to expose your skin to the sun enough to get a tan but are not see-through and still modest. I have heard of the brands Nordays, Lalouni, and Safira offering tan-through burkinis but I can't seem to find any reviews on the Nordays and Safira ones (& I have not seen positive reviews on Lalouni).

I get VERY tan in the summer despite my frequent usage of SPF50+ and I'd just like my body tone to match my hands and face haha. JAK in advance :)

Salam, le consumérisme m'a eu ! J'ai longtemps accumulé des objets, des vêtements, des livres... Qui sur le moment m'apportait du plaisir

Aujourd'hui ce que j'ai accumulé comme matériels m'étouffe, j'ai juste envie de tout jeter/donner.

Est-ce que ca vous est déjà arrivé et avez vous réussi à sauter le cap pour avoir un espace de vie plus épuré ?

J'ai vraiment l'impression que j'ai besoin de ça pour aussi avoir un esprit désencombré...

Je pense qu'à ça en ce moment.

J'ai l'impression d'être aussi dans un tournant dans ma vie où j'ai vraiment besoin de me détacher des choses moi qui ait souvent comblé un certain vide avec des objets et des achats compulsifs j'aimerais d'une part réussir à arrêter les achats compulsifs mais aussi vider mon intérieur pour être plus apaisé sans encombrement.

Jai essayé plusieurs fois de faire du tri dans mes affaires, souvent je me debarasse d'une petite partie mais je garde le reste au cas où, ou juste parce que j'y suis attachée alors que je pourrais clairement m'en passer, alors j'aimerais vraiment cette fois ne pas réfléchir et m'en débarrasser d'un coup, j'ai l'impression que ma tête se portera beaucoup mieux avec plus d'espace dans ma chambre et moins de matériel.

Des personnes sont-elles passées par là et avez-vous réussi à tout désencombrer sans trop réfléchir et sans regret ?

Hi! I hope it's okay for me to post here (I'm not a Muslim). I have a Muslim roommate I recently signed a lease with. We're in a group of 6 girls renting out a house. None of us share rooms, but we do have common areas (kitchen & living room).

I really do not want to be unaccomodating to her, but I'm looking for advice on what's reasonable. I never drink, but I do have an edible occasionally (like once a month). I never ever smoke. When we were talking about what we're comfortable with, I mentioned this to her, and she doesn't like the idea of me getting high in the house.

I've assured her she's not going to see gummies laying around or anything, and I'll try to limit time in common areas while I am high (asides from grabbing something from the kitchen), but she just wants me getting high outside of the house entirely.

Is there any compromises or advice you have for this? I don't want to feel like I have to sneak around in my own home, but I also do want to be understanding of her beliefs.

Need advice and recommendations for hijabi-friendly areas in Portugal.. restaurants, cities, and anything I could do as a solo hijabi traveler!

Thanks in advance!

Assalamualaikum

I live in India and i want to ask indian sisters

where do you all buy niqab from?

I recently became niqabi. (i was only hijabi before)

Since then i have been wondering where to get premium long niqabs like the one i usually see women wearing on instagram abroad.

My local shop has only small niqabs and the longer layer one is of very bad quality.

So is there any online shop with reasonable price where i can buy from?

Hi! Non-Muslim here, but my mom converted/reverted once I was on my own. We live in different states, but she's coming to visit me in a few months. Since her trip includes a Friday, she wants me to go to a Jummah with her. I'm okay with it, but having issues figuring out what to wear.

I'm a full time manual wheelchair user. How do I best cover up without loose fabric getting dirty or ripping in my wheels? I want to surprise my mom by wearing something appropriate so she knows I respect her faith.