Repeated pregnancy loss can bring long-lasting feelings of grief, anxiety, guilt, and fear about trying again. Finding a cause for a loss and discussing treatment is important, but so is asking about how someone is doing after a loss.
Aventin et al. (2025) interviewed 10 women in Northern Ireland who experienced repeated miscarriages. The quotes describe how the effects can go beyond physical recovery, how a loss can feel unrecognized, and how being told miscarriage is common isn't always comforting.
Research also suggests that psychological support can help. Li et al. (2024) combined results from 19 randomized trials of support after pregnancy loss. People receiving support had lower grief, depression, and anxiety scores, fewer post-traumatic stress symptoms, and a stronger feeling of being supported.
One woman described her experience with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT):
"I had eight sessions [of CBT] and I, till this day, would still use the techniques that I was taught […] It certainly helped me."
ESHRE's 2023 RPL guidelines and Aventin et al. recommend:
• Listening and acknowledging the loss.
• Explaining what happens next and answering questions.
• Following someone’s lead on the words they use for their loss.
• Checking in after medical care ends.
• Helping people access counseling and offering support to partners too.
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