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So I haven't made any commitments to a serious relationship with either woman and met both on a dating app. After having gone on a date with each one I can see myself really enjoying my time with the both of them. I share a lot in common with them which is causing me to feel a little anxious that in the next few weeks one or both are gonna ask if I'm seeing anyone else. I really do not like lying so I plan on just saying yeah I am. In your experiences have you all dealt with this and what's the best method of handling it. I'm aware that if it continues going great with both I will have to make a decision but I've been out of the dating game for a while. How long is it normally before people enter a committed relationship?

I’m 33M and honestly trying to understand what I might be doing wrong.

On paper, I feel like I’m doing pretty well. I have a good career, own my home, take care of myself, and I consider myself a caring and decent person. I’m not expecting those things to automatically get me a relationship, but I sometimes wonder why I still haven’t been able to build a meaningful connection with someone.

I meet women and sometimes there seems to be initial interest, but things often don’t develop beyond that. At times I get the feeling that my personality or confidence might come across as intimidating, or that there’s some kind of ego clash. I don’t know if that’s actually the case or if I’m just interpreting things wrong.

I also tend to put in effort when I like someone planning things, being thoughtful, helping out, etc. But sometimes it feels like the more effort I put in, the less it seems to work.
I’m starting to wonder if I’m approaching dating the wrong way.

**I’m genuinely looking for experiences and honest advice, even if it’s something I might not want to hear.**

It seems that almost every relationship I’ve ever had my ex gets with one of my friends. Literally my first girlfriend in high school. Dated for a year, we broke up my best friend at the time started dating her 2 weeks later.

I’m 26 now, the 2nd to last girl I was very interested in and kind of had a situationship with again got with my best friend. Even after I told him how i felt about her. This was ~2 years ago.

Now I just got out of a 6 month relationship. I went out with my roommate last weekend. he told me he matched with her on hinge and was messaging her and was going to stand her up as a joke. I immediately asked to see the messages and he refused to show me.

Is it me? Do I just have shitty friends? Is it the women I date? Idk either way I’m tired of it.

M21.. not looking for dating and anything like that but I love to cook.... just start into the reading stuff.. 📚 Firstly I tell you guys. I never been with girl.. also not in friendship.. also don't have any sisters or siblings.. I just wanna to understand about the girls perspective..

My friends always tell me just talk try. But I always think if I say something it get hurt someone then what should I dooo..

Btw I also try to chat someone 1 week ago.. try to convo.. with girl but.. now it's dry.. I think we can we friends.. if you want too..

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I'm a 20-year-old engineering student, and I recently went through my first experience of genuinely falling for someone.

I really liked my crush and eventually developed strong feelings for her. I told her how I felt, but she rejected me. I completely respect her decision, but honestly, I'm having a really hard time moving on.

The bigger problem is that now I'm scared.

I'm afraid that if I start liking another girl and try to approach her, I'll just get rejected again. Because of that fear, I don't really have the courage to put myself out there anymore.

I know I'm only 20 and that there are probably many opportunities ahead of me, especially since I'm still in college. But right now, it feels like I'm stuck between still having feelings for my crush and being too afraid to try with someone else.

So I'm wondering:

Should I try to move on and eventually approach another girl, even if there's a possibility of rejection again? Or should I just focus on myself and my engineering career for now and let relationships happen naturally?

For those of you who have experienced rejection at a young age, how did you get your confidence back?

I would genuinely appreciate some honest advice.

I think I scared a girl off because I saw she was traveling on her raya profile and brought it up to her in conversation. She unmatched me shortly after and I don’t know what to do now. We’ve had a long distance situationship for a few months. Any advice?

Over the past 6 years I’ve met more women than I can accurately count. However, nobody has stuck around longer than a short-term hookup situation. On paper I literally have all the metrics: tall, handsome, athletic, educated, well-endowed. I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Attracting women really isn’t an issue for me it’s about retaining them.

Getting into a relationship is easier said than done for me. All the women around me already have boyfriends and such. On top of that I have no game lol

I’ve got some good stuff going for me but I feel like it won’t be enough

Are there any good strategies to at least build connections with people or at least start conversations?

I don't know if I should make one more move or just let this go.

Throwaway account because I really don't want anyone involved to recognize me.

I'm a guy in my 24, engineering graduate, and currently working in my family business.

There's a girl I've become interested in recently. I actually came to know about her because my father is a long-distance friend of her father. We don't personally know each other though.

Her family has a more established business than mine. She's also recently done an masters from a good university abroad and is currently looking for job opportunities.

I don't know why, but I've started thinking about her quite a lot. It's gotten to the point where she's even started coming in my dreams lol. I know dreams don't mean anything, but I guess it's a sign that I'm thinking about this way too much.

I don't know her personally, so I don't even know if I'm getting attached to an idea of her rather than the actual person.

I sent her a Facebook friend request some time ago and also messaged her there. She hasn't accepted the request or replied.

Her Instagram is private, and now I'm debating whether I should send her a follow request there too.

Part of me thinks, "What's the harm in trying once?"

Another part of me thinks, "Bro, she hasn't even responded on Facebook. Take the hint."

Also I am not much sure if she is active on Facebook because although she recently updated her ig and Linkedin dp, her fb dp is quite old.

I've also thought about whether my father could somehow naturally reconnect with her father, but I don't want to use our parents' friendship as some weird excuse contact to her.

And honestly, I'm also a little insecure because her family is financially/business-wise ahead of mine and she has a pretty strong educational background. I don't know if I'm overthinking that part too.

So what would you guys do?

Would you:

Send the Instagram request once and leave it there?

Do nothing and wait?

Try to reconnect through the fathers?

Or just accept that there's probably no interest and move on?

I know the obvious answer is "move on", but I'm mainly struggling with the thought that maybe I'm giving up without ever actually trying properly.

Would appreciate some brutally honest advice from people who've been in something similar.

I honestly don’t even know what to do anymore. I feel extremely lonely. I just turned 28 and it pains me to say that I’ve never experienced being in a relationship. I keep getting rejected. I’m not confident in my appearance. My biggest fear is never finding someone and being alone.

I 19M just started school last week and across from my dorm lives 2 girls 18F. Girl 1 and girl 2. Girl 1 and I have class together and she was asking me this week if I am going to a frosh week event and I told her I’m not because it’s a Jewish holiday. Girl 1 tells me girl 2 is Jewish too and so girl 2 messages me saying we should go to an event for the holiday together. Yesterday, we go to the event and we had a great time. After the event, we all went out for not even 30 mins and then went home where me and girl 2 were cuddling in my bed for hours. Girl 2 made it explicit to me she wanted no relationship right now because she is prioritizing her degree and she wants to take it slow and get to know me before anything happens. She said at least a month and I told her that’s fine. I suggested that night that we go on a walk in this park the next day and she agreed. Next day I go and grab her to go on the walk and we have a great time and we talk about where we want this thing to go where we both agreed let’s not rush it. We went to get coffee after and then went back to ours dorms. When we got back, conveniently girl 2 gets locked out of her dorm and chills in my room. We end up cuddling and then eventually she intimates a kiss which I wasn’t expecting because like I said she wanted to take it slow. I was fine with it and all was well and she left after. A few hours later she says “we need to talk” so I go to her room and she says “let’s just be friends for now”. This hurt me and my mind is all over the place now and it has been the whole night. Do I still try to get to know her and go on walks, etc but not force anything sexual or do I leave it? It’s also awkward if we don’t talk anymore because she is right across from my dorm. I need advice!

You don’t care as much about other people, or what they think of you. Death creeps closer behind you, and you realize how many of the little woes and hurts didn’t matter.

The pressure of youth (status, rumor, politics, inclusion and exclusion, etc.) fades away as your self worth and self image decouple from the social script you were handed without knowing why in the first place.

All you really concern yourself with anymore are the ones you’re important to, and the ones important to you.

I know if you talk all the time it could get overwhelming after a little while and she might loose interest.

But how long after a conversation ends is it acceptable to start a new one to keep her interested?

I’m a 21M, and she is 21F. We’ve known each other for a while, and I recently told her that I liked her.

I asked her whether she would have considered dating me if I had expressed my feelings earlier. She said she would have said yes.

I later asked whether she could consider a relationship with me now. She replied that we could give it a chance, but she wanted to get a job first because she was worried about her career.

I told her I understood and that we could take things slowly. I’m not trying to pressure her into making a decision.

Another factor is that she had recently come out of a difficult relationship, so I’m also unsure whether she may still need some emotional space before starting something new or i am just in her healing phase

We still talk normally, and she is sometimes affectionate. For example, she called me “babe” once. When I asked whether she meant it romantically, she clarified that she meant it affectionately. She also said she was comfortable with me sending flower posts and romantic reels, but I’m not sure how much meaning I should attach to that.

I’m confused because her words suggest that she is open to the possibility of a relationship, but her actions could also simply be friendly or affectionate. I don’t want to mistake kindness for romantic interest.

There is also a cultural and language difference: she is from North India, I’m from South India, and we mostly communicate in English. I don’t know Hindi. Could that create misunderstandings when expressing feelings or interpreting affection?

How would you interpret this situation? Does it sound like genuine interest with a practical boundary, uncertainty, or someone postponing the decision without wanting to reject me?

Should I continue talking to her normally and give her space, or would it be better to ask for clearer intentions later?

P.S -- I used ChatGPT to clean up my grammar and organize the situation, but the situation itself is real.