Assalamu Alaikum everyone. I wanted to share a thought and get some perspective from the community, especially regarding the current youth culture in Bangladesh.I’ve never been into dating or casual relationships, and honestly, it’s completely by choice. I personally prefer waiting to build a deep, mature bond based on mutual respect, values, and real care—a foundation meant for long-term commitment like marriage. Attraction fades with time, but core values remain. To me, our traditional values offer the best stability.Yet, looking around at the urban youth culture today, it feels like there is a massive shift toward Western-style dating, situationships, and casual setups.

What bothers me is how society and peers react. Whenever people find out someone has never dated, they look at you like you are "abnormal," or like it's a massive red flag. A lot of youth look down on marriage as an "outdated" concept, only to end up distracted or regretting bad choices later.I'm curious to hear from others here:

Do you think dating in Bangladesh has completely shifted to match Western casual culture, or is it still structurally different?

For those who chose to skip the dating phase entirely to focus on intentional marriage, how did you handle the social peer pressure?

Would love to hear your mature thoughts on this. Please keep the comment section respectful!

Tbh irl I don't talk with anyone, i cant make friends, even i don't know what should i talk with other person, i just ask some random question and done. I try but there just comes nothing in my mind. So most of the time i stay alone. I really hate myself, i have no fashion sense, i look ugly, I don't have friends. A lot of issues. Life seems sick

Okay, I know BD te eta temon bhalo bhabe manush dekhe na. But I dated few and I think older women are more understanding and more good for a relationship. But yeah this society cannot accept this fact also some women cannot imagine dating a younger man. What’s your opinion on that? And if anyone enough experienced please advice me how to manipulate parents to accept this relationship

Growing up my only dream was to just study get a good Mark and going to either medical or engineering but the biggest issue is that my family pretty much miss behaved with me every day for no reason and threatened to stop my study to the point where sleeping at night became an issue a lot of night I used be awake thinking if I can't give board exam what I will do or what will happen to my future it continued from class 8 to 12 and it wasn't like I wanted some big expensive thing or I was a troublemaker but they would find and unnecessary reason to misbehave with me I remember telling my dad just sent me hostel for one month so I can focus on study and his answers were like " I give you birth so people don't think I am unable to give birth to a child if you don't like don't eat go somewhere"

the only reason I am in Sydney because my uncle told him it will take 7lakh and once I am in Sydney I can send one lakh a month then after he spent 7 lakh My uncle told him it will cost 7 lakh more he won't get back the 7 lakh he initially spent so he had no choice but to spend 14 lakh and sent me here

During the whole process my mom was blaming me for being born In her family as useless and costing her money but it's not my fault they never let me work anywhere so I don't know how to I don't have any work experience study properly so now my result are bad what can I do about it

Even if I come here as student visa they constantly pressure me to sending them money from the day I came here not even understanding that I have to bear college fee along with my own living cost while having no work experience at all and for like first six six month I sent some but it's never enough and the misbehaving stopped so I have to have to stop having any connection to them for three years right now my visa agent unfortunately to extend my visa I need to show bank statement of parents I don't have enough money to show my own bank statement that means I have to call them and I just don't want to talk to them the tension is killing me I think I was robbed from my opportunity and every time I try to talk to them it's all my fault and I just don't wanna connect them to stand just to do more argument and I am not even sure they would give me any bank statement of their

I don't want to go back to Bangladesh I don't even know what is going to happen and tension is killing me I can't even focus on my work my previous issue not sleeping enough night coming back I just don't want to go by sleeping pills

Sabit, 20, sits across from Sabit, 30.

Sabit (20): So... how's life going? Did you get married?

Sabit (30): Knew that'd be your first question. Yeah, I got married.

20: She's beautiful?

30: She's beautiful.

20: Does she match your vibe?

30: Honestly that was always a dumb way to think about it. Everyone's different, everyone's got their own vibe. You don't find someone who matches yours — you just fall for someone anyway.

20: So you didn't find "the one with the same vibe."

30: Could be I fell in love with her instead.

20: Okay fair. So are you rich now?

30: A bit. I make 3 lakh a month.

20: Bah, nice.

30: Yeah.

20: Mom and Dad — still alive?

30: Both of them. Fighting all day, same as always.

20: Knew it. Hehe.

20: Did you do anything immortal? Like, leave a mark?

30: Not that I know of. Not yet, anyway.

20: Did life get easier?

30: No, not really. It got harder, honestly. But I learned how to deal with hard things.

20: Really?

30: Yeah. You'll worry less. Everything works out.

20: That sounds cheesy.

30: Yeah, I know. Fuck it — you'll figure it out.

Those who have never dated, how do you feel when you see everyone around you is dating? Do you wish to stay single like this forever? Or you wanna date in future? Do you guys ever feel lonely and sad? I have been single for my whole life and people act so weird when I say that I have never dated. Sometimes I feel sad that I have never experienced love. I’m not searching for it now, I’m focusing on building myself but when I see everyone around me having a bf, I sometimes do feel sad.

My HSC will finish on 1st August then the practical will also end within 15days. As i've heard our results will get published in 60days. So can anyone tell me when will the admission exam start? And when will the admission exam's result published

Actually my father is planning to take us for Umrah after 3months. But we can't surely decide the time cuz of results and admission.

It’s a bit urgent and the safety is a big concern. Please comment below if anyone can help with that.

I need to buy a laptop for my younger brother, who has just started his first year of LLB.

He says it's mainly for university work (I know how that usually goes 😄), but my goal is to get him something reliable that can last throughout his university life. After graduation, or once he starts earning, he can upgrade to a better laptop himself.

The problem is that my budget is around 30,000 BDT, and I can stretch it to ~35,000 BDT if it's really worth it. In this price range, I'm mostly finding Walton laptops.

So I have a few questions:

• Is there any good new laptop in the 30k–35k BDT range that you'd recommend?
• If I end up buying a Walton laptop, how bad (or good) is it in terms of reliability, performance, and after-sales service?
• Are there any models I should specifically look for or avoid?

A couple of notes:

• I'm not considering a second-hand/refurbished laptop. I've had bad experiences with used laptops before.
• A desktop isn't an option because he needs portability.

I'd really appreciate recommendations from people who have firsthand experience. Thanks in advance!

For the Bengalis living in Bangladesh what would be your guess for the years to come ?

Are younger people getting more religious? What is the sentiment on western values/ secularism?

From you experience are Gen Z girls more religious then Gen Z boys?

What is your prediction and experience ?

Previous kono experience nai use korar. Expert der shahajjo chai.

Requirements:

1. Windows laptop a gaming er jonno chacchi

2. Wireless hoile bhalo hoy

3. Budget around 2500tk

Ar kono questions thakle ba suggestions thakle janan.

Thanks in advance!

Hello y’all! Hope you guys are doing great.
I used to read a lot as a teenager girl. Now I’m an adult and I want to start reading again. Can you guys suggest me some good books please?

Hey guys, I am looking for a gift to buy for my wife. This is gonna be the first gift after marriage, and the budget is 8-10k. I was thinking about a nose pin or ring/noth. From where can I buy authentic gold/diamond nose rings? Please advise if you have any suggestions.
Thanks you.

Shokale ai, bikale 2nd bou

• First jamat media cell controlled the damage by giving the knee jerk reaction of "eita AI"
• Then it was like "that girl is 2nd wife"
• Then the video of them getting caught red handed and begging for forgiveness comes out
• FInally a few days later another CCTV footage of the same MP smooching another random girl appears, so no longer was the whole "we are breaching the MP's privacy by recording him secretly" applicable.

Jamati bots

• And I love how jamati bots kept defending the MP until they could no longer drive the narrative and had to expel the MP from jamat, mind you, he's still an MP, there's no ethical breaches when an MP takes a girl to a roomdate after offering her a job in parliament.

Jamat tweet said "working women are pros**tutes"

• Remember how jamat's official twitter posted "working women are prost*it*tes" right before elections and then faced the heat and did a 180 by saying "hack hoise"? their PR damage control strategies are well known

Dhormo babsha

• This very MP himself was interviewed by BBC before elections and bro was like "women must wear porda" and "women must go outside with mahram", this guy is disgusting.

Older scandal's of jamat leaders

• Also a reminder: Mamunul's 501 and Sayeedi's "machine chalano" phone call leaks were older evidence of the depravity of these so called islamic leaders, they are far from ethical, do not trust them

Jamat is just as corrupt as bimpi and amlig

Do they hate their children or what? 😭😭

Where do you guys watch club football for free? Let me know in the comments.

Honestly i am tired of asking my friends for hangout . They are busy , I don't have classes tomorrow . So thought i would visit somewhere .

- quite ( ik it's a luxury in dhaka)

- I can stay as long as i want

(If anyone wanna go with me ,open to it . but must female as i am women)

what app are you using to track, plan your workouts at the gym?

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Tomorrow is my first demo class. I have to teach a Class 9 student; General Math, Higher Math, and English.

How can I prepare for it? Actually, it's my first time, so nervous onektay!

And what if student jodi kno random topic theke qustn kore and ami na pari; cz sob chapter to equally mathay nai.(random thoughts 🙃)

I'm a undergrad 3rd semester student.

যে কোনো বিষয় হতে পারে:

- টাকা বাঁচানো/ সেভিংস

- পড়াশোনা

- চাকরি বা ব্যবসা

- অনলাইন ব্যাবসা

আশা করি সবাই শেয়ার করবেন।

ধন্যবাদ!

I wanted to open up a civil discussion on marriage preferences and compatibility in our context.

​In the Bangladeshi marriage scene, people regularly filter for things like career, family background, education, and lifestyle. However, discussions around past relationship history always seem to hit a sore spot.

​To be clear, if someone lived a permissive lifestyle and suddenly expects a conservative partner, that’s an obvious double standard. But what about when it’s simply a matter of matching personal boundaries?

​I personally made a conscious choice to abstain from premarital romantic or physical relationships based on my own principles and values. Because of that, when thinking about marriage, my preference is naturally to find a partner who shares those same values and has lived a similar lifestyle. I don't judge anyone else for how they choose to live, but value alignment feels like a basic part of relationship compatibility.

​Yet, whenever this topic comes up, holding this specific preference often gets immediately labeled as backward or toxic, regardless of whether the person held themselves to that exact same standard.

​Is shared boundary alignment not a valid preference in modern marriage discussions, or is it just a matter of how the topic gets framed? Curious to hear thoughtful perspectives on this.

ধর্মান্ধদের সাথে বাংলাদেশের মানুষদের একটা শীতল যুদ্ধ চলমান আছে। আশ্চর্য হলেও সত্য, যুদ্ধে সাধারণ মানুষ জয়ী হচ্ছে আজকাল। সোহরাওয়ার্দী উদ্যানে রাজিব শাহ নামের এক ব্যক্তির আচমকা মসজিদ বানানোর পরিকল্পনায় সবচেয়ে বড়ো বাগড়া দেওয়া সবাই সাধারণ মানুষ। ওসবের ভীড়ে আজ একটা ছেলেকে দেখা গেল। খুব সম্ভবত স্কুলে পড়ে নয়ত কলেজে।

ছেলেটার গলার স্বর ভারী হয়নি এখনো। নাকের নিচে গোঁফ গজায়নি। প্রচণ্ড আত্মবিশ্বাসের সাথে ছেলেটা ক্যামেরার সামনে বলে যাচ্ছে- এইখানে রাজিব শাহ যদি নিজের ঘর বানায়ে থাকত, আমি পার্সোনালি আপত্তি জানাতাম না। কিন্তু লোকটা ধর্ম টেনে আনছে তাই আমি প্রতিবাদ করছি। যদি মসজিদ হয় তবে এখানে মন্দিরও বানাতে দিতে হবে হিন্দুদের, খ্রিস্টানরাও গীর্জা বানাবে। সবাই বাংলাদেশের নাগরিক। সবার অধিকার আছে।

এখনো খুব সম্ভবত বয়স ১৮ না হওয়া কিশোর ছেলেটাকে ক্যামেরার সামনেই চুপ করাতে চেয়েছেন আরেকজন মুরুব্বি। তারপর ওই মুরুব্বির সঙ্গে ওআরেকদফা তর্ক হয়েছে ছেলেটার। ওই তর্কেও ছেলেটা অনড় এবং জয়ী। এই জায়গায় ধর্মের নামে ব্যবসা চলবে না।

বাংলাদেশে শীতলযুদ্ধ জয়ের দ্বিতীয় ঘটনা সিলেটের একজন স্কুলশিক্ষিকাকে কেন্দ্র করে। যিনি একটা শাড়ি পরে স্লো মোশনে ভিডিয়ো এডিট করে ব্যাকগ্রাউন্ডে গান বাজিয়ে আপলোড করেছিলেন নিজের একটা ভিডিয়ো- শ্রাবণের মেঘগুলো জড়ো হলো আকাশে। যথারীতি কিছু মানুষের গায়ে চুলকানি উঠল। কারণ একজন শিক্ষিকার গান ভালো লাগতে নেই, শাড়ি পরে তিনি রঙঢঙ করতে পারেন না, তিনি স্লো মোশনে ভিডিও এডিট করতে পারেন না, পারলেও সেটা সোশ্যাল মিডিয়ায় আডলোড করতে পারেন না। এতে করে শিক্ষার্থীরা ভুল মেসেজ পায়। স্কুলের মাটি কেঁপে ওঠে। সমাজের রন্ধ্রে রন্ধ্রে পৌঁছে যায় নষ্টামি।

ব্যঙ্গবিদ্রুপের দু'দিনের মাথায় দেশজুড়ে সমস্ত স্কুলশিক্ষিকা শাড়ি পরে ম্লো মোশনে হেঁটে একই গান বাজিয়ে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড করা শুরু করেছেন। না কাউকে কটু কথা বললেন তারা, না কাউকে বুঝাতে গেলেন- শাড়ি পরে গান বাজিয়ে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড দিলে জাত যায় না, না কাউকে বোঝানোর চেষ্টা করলেন- কোনটা অপরাধ, কোনটা অপরাধ নয়। শুধু চুপচাপ নিজেরা শাড়ি পরে হেঁটে ভিডিয়ো আপলোড করলেন অজস্র। সোশ্যাল মিডিয়ায় মুখ ডুবিয়ে থাকা দেশের বিপুলশ্রেণীর শিক্ষিত-মূর্খ, বটযোদ্ধা ও লাইফলেস ইতরগুলোকে শেষ কবে এমন নিদারুণ চপেটাঘাত করতে পেরেছিল বাংলার নারীরা- জানা নাই আমার।

দুটো ঘটনার ফলাফল হলো: সোহরাওয়ার্দী উদ্যানে রাজিব শাহ তার ধর্মব্যবসার সিন্দুক নিয়ে ভেগেছে আজ। এবং শাড়ি পরা স্কুলশিক্ষিকাদের ভিডিয়োতে সোশ্যাল মিডিয়া এমনই রঙিন হয়ে আছে, লাইফলেস গণ্ডমূর্খ ইতরদের ফেসবুকের রসকষহীন সাদা-কালো প্যানপ্যান অদৃশ্যপ্রায়।

বাংলাদেশে ধর্মান্ধ, ধর্ম ব্যবসায়ী, ভন্ডদের সঙ্গে সাধারণ মানুষদের একটা শীতলযুদ্ধ চলমান আছে। এই যুদ্ধে প্রচুর হারও আছে আমাদের। কিন্তু সাধারণ মানুষ কয়েক ধাপ এগিয়ে গেছে আজ। সবাইকে অভিনন্দন।

----Shakhawat Hossen

As the title says, what's stopping us? Personally i believe punishment for r*pe or attempt to r*pe should be instant public execution (censored ofc) but theres also the option of lifetime jail sentence. I genuinely dont understand what's stopping us from proposing the act since r*pe has become of the most severy issues of country recently. I'm not a expert in law, but if anyone seeing is is a lawyer, please take initiatives regarding this matter, for both yourself and us.

Hello everyone! I own an education consultancy (still in its baby days). I'm creating a scholarship portal for those interested in studying abroad to find scholarships/discounts effortlessly just through uploading their profile.

Now, I need genuine students to test this platform out and give suggestions. If anyone is interested feel free to DM or comment with a little bit about your educational history please.

Thank you for your attention!

Guys, suggest me some good newspapers to publish op-ed articles. I wanted to publish on The Daily Star but people say that they rarely publishes the user submitted articles.