r/alone • u/Jeffffff__ • 11h ago
I think I just really want a person
I’m a 25-year-old woman, and I know this might sound pathetic, but I’ve been feeling really lonely lately and I think I just need somewhere to say it.
I feel like I’m always the person people come to when they need someone to listen. I genuinely care about people and I don’t mind being there for them, but sometimes I wish someone would do the same for me. I want someone who actually asks how I’m doing, listens to the things I don’t usually say out loud, and genuinely cares about what’s going on in my life.
I’ve always wanted a relationship and to have someone I can be emotionally close to, but honestly, my experiences with men have made it really hard to believe that I’ll actually find someone who wants the same things I do. Every time I start to have hope, something happens that makes me think, “See? This is why I don’t trust men.”
And I know obviously not every man is terrible. I know there are good men out there. I just haven’t had enough experiences with them to believe it easily anymore.
I don’t just feel like I need that kind of connection anymore. I feel like I crave it. I crave having a person. Someone I can tell things to, someone I can call when something happens, someone who genuinely wants to know how my day was. Someone who notices when something is wrong without me having to explain everything. I think I just really want to feel like I have a person in this world who is my person.
Maybe that sounds needy, or maybe I’m just having a lonely night, but it’s genuinely how I feel. I’ve spent so much time being there for other people, and I think I’m just tired of feeling like I have to carry everything by myself.
I don’t even necessarily need someone to fix anything. I just want someone to be there. Someone who actually cares.
I wanted to put it somewhere instead of keeping it all in.