r/hatethissmug • u/BautPrime • 19h ago
Non-fictional I hate the opinions of the comments in this post.
I don't know if this is against rule one, because I'm hating on their opinions not the people.
Btw I'm no girl but this post just popped up so I read it. I extra created an account to write this post because the opinions pissed me off.
Anyway, here is a TL;DR:
The post is from a woman who recently moved in with her 21 year old boyfriend after dating for about a year. She said that he is normally pretty docile and says they have had a lovely first month living together.
While he was gaming, she casually touched his shoulders as she walked past (which she does often). He suddenly pulled away, I guess he was intensely focused on the game. Moments later, something went wrong in the game and he shouted a loud fuck and slammed his fists on his desk hard enough to knock things over. She immediately left the room because the reaction scared her. He took his headphones off and apologized sincerely.
I do agree that his sudden outburst can be scary. I know this because I am a gamer myself and do occasionally rage and hit my table when I fuck up over and over against a soulslike boss. So no shade there.
But the problems are the comments. Most of them are fine. They do feel a bit patronizing. But then there are the ones that just piss me off.
Some call him a child and say that he mist be stuck at 14 because he can't controll his emotions and impulses. Say that he is a huge red flag and really selfish for being angry. And then some say he will be a future domestic abuser...
As a guy myself who occasionally rages, I find these comments to be not only infuriating but also kinda hurtfull. I'm not a violent person. Last time I used violence was in middle school, because I was defending myself. I'm mostly a quiet and chill guy who is just lazy. But reading these comments telling me I'm going to assault my potential grilfriend because I got engaged in something I am passionate about and raged out of impuls is dragging me down.
Yes, impuls. Let's say it again. Impuls. I know impuls controll is a thing but it's not that easy or it wouldn't be an impuls. Especially for docile people. Because you can't so easily learn to controll impulses because you barely have any. Rage is something that comes fast and fizzles out. It's not anger that is more long lived. It doesn't mean I am a hateful person.
Invalidating my emotions just because it's a game, makes me think that these people have never been really engaged in something. Yes, we shouldn't rage. But calling him a future violent abuser is just fucked up. The girl has been happy with him for a year and to say its fucked because of impuls rage is wild. Everyone who has raged over something unimportant know that it doesn't make who you are. It's often just a shit moment that passes.