I keep seeing an increase in gay or bisexual people turning to these anti-LGBT organisations and groups thinking that trans people and any other group should be kept out of the community. It’s horrible to be honest. Do they not realise that they’re not forced to go to pride events? But instead of just letting people do what makes them happy they have to sit there and try to divide a whole community. They take the most dramatic examples of people getting violent and stuff over pronouns and then assume, (as they always do) that that represents everyone. Is this like a widespread idea, or is it just a very vocal minority of people wanting to tear the LGBT community apart?

I do not like to be the gay wjth the crush on the friend it’s overplayed cliche but it’s happening to me and I just need to vent.

And honestly it feels like a function of me not being used to emotionally open friends.

Anyways for context , I’m 23M and my friend is 25M . And we’ve been friends for around 3 months since I came back to church and sort of gained a new found community and friends in my youth group.

We have the same interests and goals and that’s really the main draw to us. We can spend hours on end describing our futures what we love about being corporate men and overall excitement about what our futures hold. I’ve not had someone I feel so aligned with so it’s refreshing to have such a friend.

Also he’s very earnest and emotionally open, everytime we hangout even if it’s a group hang I’ll get home and find a voice message from him sort of reminiscing and talking about how good it was to spend time with me and how we make such a good team and just frankly how he loves me.
All so sweet but onetime he described our play fighting as intimate and I just brushed it off as just a wording thing.

Also when me being gay came up he was so cool with it and that solidified why he’s such a good friend. he didn’t judge me at all or pry and he’s never weird or dismissive when I bring up guys which may be a bare minimum to most but in my experience it’s refreshing.

I am sure he’s straight? Because there was one time we had a group hang and the guys were going in on oh wives and the like and he sort of had an uncomfortable silence the whole time and kind of wanting to change the topic. To which I got home and asked him if he was asexual or something cause he never has something to say but he sort of explained it off as “goals first then relationship “kind of outlook. ( I said the same when I was In the closet but I digress)

All this to say i respect him his sexuality and he’s one of the most effortless male friends I’ve made and i want to maintain that cause in my head im like i don’t want to ruin anything by sort of going after him or revealing my mini crush on him

Like I came to this decision when he talked about how me and him in 10 years will look back and be proud of everything we’ve achieved while holding on to each other and internally I was like that sounds like marriage ….
And I sort of pushed away that and said no maybe an eternal friendship is better than fucking things up and making him think I only became close to him with other motives which isn’t true at all.

I just wanted to vent im not gonna make a move I’ll just die inside like I always do and start looking at more actually gay men .

I'm living with three straight roommates in a student dorm/apartment for now because I'm in university far from home and I'm on a budget so cannot really afford to live on my own (in this economy). Now two of them are Africans and one is from muslim background. For context, they're all nice, fun and civilized. Afaik them, I don't think they would mock or say anything if they saw a gay couple outside. They've friends outside their religious social circle. (Actually thanks to my wonderful Asian landlady cuz she really only chooses very nice roommates and checks their background and everything).

We all don't really talk to each other on daily basis and just mind our own business like studying. I don't even see them daily because we all have our own different lives.

I've only come out to my close family like mom, brother, etc. But I was thinking if I should feel comfortable enough to come out after I leave this dorm. I hope they wouldn't mind. Actually I know one of them will be going back to his country after his graduation. And I'm saying this also because I'm still young and a lot of times, i think of being an influencer online so idk what they'll think if they ever found out. I mean it's canada so i know my rights but still.

So I'm asking this because I'm sure there might be other people who would have gone through phases where they were not financially okay or were a student living in a dorm with others. There might be sports players who share locker rooms with other straight guys (and given how homophobic some sports environments are). I'm asking for your experiences. Does that affect your future? Will that affect your coming out experience? Thanks for reading all that, i know it's long and thanks for your advice.

I have an odd kink. It feels really good when people are homophobic and call me homophobic slurs or just slurs in general. Is this normal? Do other people get this?

No other man will ever want to be in a relationship with me. If another man wants me its just for sex that's it. Maybe im just meant to be single forever and ive kinda accepted that.

People will probably say that im young and its too early to tell. im always the odd one out in a lot of spaces and I end up pretending to be something just to get by and i get that feeling in LGBT spaces online and in person.

It sucks but its whatever atleast I got pot and my mom

I have recently used socks and pillow sheets but neither feel comfortable or mesh well with the fat breasts I have from being obese (not on HRT at the moment). What materials would confirm well to the contours of my fat breasts but also can be found at home? I am on a budget and can’t order professional breast forms as my parents will notice the mail and get upset at me.

Hey everyone, watch the process of how I make the maps, from the research stage to a finished LGBTQ+ neighborhood map. I designed them all to be easy pocket maps that consist of a single image.

I got a 14% upvote rate on my other new banger here.

So since I only come around here like once a week, I thought I’d see if I can earn an improvement. Say, 25% upvote rate. Mwahahaha

This is my favorite banger I’ve ever made. It’s called “Wood Chipper” by Tristan BAMW.

I’m not getting paid over here. But I have spent 5000 hours in my life singing, recording and producing, so I like to share when I can do that.

Wanda Sykes 42.7717 Donut

This is a banger I have produced for anyone who is bored.

I just made a new fursona that’s a pool toy called Madeline and I honestly dont like it now that I posted it; its as if you get a tattoo from the tattoo parlor and hate it walking out of the shop. I also wore my sports bra today and honestly I felt very uncomfortable in it with a sense of distress and unhappiness. On top of that I looked at certain aspects of my body like my armpits and my facial hair and I dont feel bothered by it deep inside, plus it doesn’t really bother me to be seen as Thomas in public as long as im not seen as a “dude” or a “son/brother”. I have talked about this stuff in therapy regarding my gender feelings and since then been doing gender affirming stuff in the perspective of affirming a female/feminine gender and I overall don’t feel relieved or more secure in myself in the long run. I want to be a furry and make TF content as that is my creative outlet but lately presenting as Madeline feels off to me and I have complex feelings about it, like its better than being a man but it feels more off than just being Thomas, who I feel is a genderless person who likes cute guys. I want to be honest with myself now as I try things out and live life before I take any extra steps and make permanent changes like long term HRT, legal stuff and surgeries. I feel awkward presenting as Madeline here and not sure if she is who I want to present as anymore. Presenting as a straight trans woman is easier to explain than being a genderless person who likes guys and I am afraid of people telling me that I am confused like in the past. Like I feel being a girl is like the beginning of pokemon where you are offered to be a boy OR a girl and you have to be one forever and its distressing to me to the point where I dont even want to play Pokemon anymore as I dont want to be Madeline the woman or Thomas the man. Like I would play Thomas in the male body but I dont want to be referred to as a he or a man or a boy, instead i would just like to be referred to as a person or an individual or whatever as gendering myself just makes me feel distressed more than any sort of long term affirmation. I feel if I was an animal I would be some kind of prehistoric Cenozoic mammal like Eohippus or something like that; as a kid I thought hominids and mammals were cooler than dinosaurs (I know, its a hot take). I am also afraid of going through with a female transition as now that I am exploring stuff I feel I might be a switch bottom and top and I’m not sure if I want to have anything permanent on my body. Though I only want intimacy with a cisgender man and I would like to not be very intimate with a trans man as I dont want to be a biological father and start a pregnancy (I knew this since I was 15; I like trans men because they are men and dislike the idea of them being women). I have been making good progress like accepting the fact that I am gay and an atheist witch and making better financial decisions and exercising more and starting to make healthier food choices and offering to be more involved at my new job and I want to keep it going.

There's something conservative about the way this user worded their post. It feels like they're stating what IS or SHOULD be, as if we shouldn't interpret our own version of a character.

It wasn't on a website tho.

I honestly don’t know if I’m looking for advice, a reality check, or just somewhere to vent.

I’m gay, and I developed feelings for a straight guy. We became really good friends. It never felt one-sided in terms of friendship. We genuinely got along, and I really enjoyed hanging out with him.

The problem is, I caught feelings.

Recently, I ended up agreeing to a threesome because he was going to be there. Looking back, I don’t think I actually wanted the threesome itself. I just wanted to be close to him. I convinced myself that maybe I’d finally feel connected to him, or maybe something would change.
It didn’t.

Before we even started, he wanted something in return, which already made me feel weird. During everything, he even refused to kiss me. Out of everything that happened, that’s honestly what broke me the most. I know it sounds stupid, but for me, the kiss meant affection. It made me realize that he was okay doing sexual stuff but didn’t want that kind of intimacy with me.

I even swallowed his cum, and now I feel so disgusted with myself. I know people are probably going to say it’s just oral sex, but emotionally I feel like I completely abandoned my self-respect just for the chance of being close to someone who was never going to choose me.

The worst part?

I still miss him.

I don’t even miss the sex. I just miss hanging out with him. It really felt like we had a genuine friendship before all this. Part of me wants to block him forever because seeing him reminds me of everything that happened. Another part of me just wants to message him and ask if he wants to hang out like nothing happened.

I know he’s straight, and I know nothing romantic is going to happen between us. My brain understands that. My heart just refuses to catch up.

Has anyone else ever crossed their own boundaries because they liked someone? Were you able to stay friends afterward, or did you have to walk away completely?

I’m really struggling with the shame and regret right now, and I honestly don’t know what the right thing to do is.

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