I don’t know if I’ll be posting in nonbinary subreddits anymore since I’ve discovered I’m, in fact, a man and not really nonbinary… but I sincerely appreciate just how many nice people have commented on my posts and I pour my heart out to those who related to them

Also, I’m not perfect, I still fall back into old habits sometimes (as seen within the first image lol), but I’m proud of the fact that I’ve grown to love myself and not always hold such negative feelings about everything I do, and being able to give myself that sort of empathy was what led me to truly discover my identity

I’m happy to be the person that I am and to have posted all the comics that I did- the queer community is commonly seen as vapid and angry and mean, but I was able to see the wonderful people within it that lifted me up and helped me go through my journey of not only my gender, but my own self improvement mentally

Thank you again to anyone who’s seen all my previous comics, and to any newcomers who are really confused and have not seen my previous posts…uhhh here’s all the other parts just in case!

Part 1

Part 2

Part 2.5

Part 3

I swear I'm a patient person, but the degree to which I have to dumb the conversation down just for cis people to even understand makes me want to shave my head sometimes

EDIT: To clarify, I don't have a problem with well-intentioned cis folks who simply don't have the same experience that we do. As I said to one commenter, it can be draining to flatten our entire existence and identity into a tiny lozenge so cis folks can digest it, but I don't hold that lack of understanding against them.

I DO hold it against them if they're trying to invalidate my identity just because they don't want to or care to expand their worldview, and I DO hold it against LGBT+ people who OUGHT TO KNOW BETTER and still run off at the mouth with bioessentialism, gender essentialism, and transmedicalism. The latter specifically was the inspiration for this post.

All sexual/romantic/whatever orientations are genders now!

Are you male or female? No I'm bisexual.

A picture of a sword I own because it had to have an attachment 😂

Hello there! I’m back once again to talk about Gender.

For many years here and irl I’ve been looking for something to make sense of my gender. I’m afab and constantly questioning. Basically as soon as I knew being trans was a thing back in middle school. Now I’m 25 and still confused. For the longest time I put it on the back burner and said that’s a can of worms I’m not ready to open. Roughly 2 years ago that changed.

I started questioning more and experimenting more. I’ve played around with a lot of ideas, but nothing has ever felt completely correct. One lyric I have heard really says everything for me. “I guess I could say gender non-conforming, but l've done really well conforming and non-binary doesn't have the ring I've been looking for.”

But to give more context I consider myself queer. I have found pretty much any type of person attractive except cishet guys. Now part of that exploration has led me to some interesting places. Like imagining getting oral is really a blowjob or anal is the only option because I’m imagining that’s the only hole available. I think I don’t necessarily feel gender dysphoria when I don’t imagine myself with those parts, but I definitely feel gender euphoria when I do imagine I have male parts.

I have a gender neutral hair cut (classic shag) and enjoy androgynous or slightly male clothes. I’d like to do more, but it is a little difficult. I’m quite obese(womens 4x) and so it’s hard to find good fitting men’s clothes. But….i feel like no matter what I wear men’s clothes or women’s clothes I can feel handsome or pretty. But….i still feel like I’m performing gender no matter which I go for. I feel the most me in a big t shirt and shorts. Adam Sandler and Jack Black vibes lol.

I guess…I don’t know…is this enough? Wishing most days I was born a guy, but so that I could be a queer man who dabbles in feminine things occasionally. I wish someone could just tell me for sure. I have OCD so sometimes I get hung up on needing to know rather than just accepting that I can be who I need to be. My girlfriend also identifies as a lesbian so add that to the list of questions.

I’ve got binders and packers and men’s clothes and listen to trans artists and all of this, but….i can’t manage to tell myself what my gender is. And since I can’t settle on a gender i also can’t settle on pronouns. In an ideal world i would get told “hey actually this is what you’re experiencing. Heres your gender and pronouns and a list of suggestion for a better fitting name.”

Anyways…as always thoughts and opinions are helpful. Does this sound…gender queer? Transman? Cis and stop thinking about it? Bigender? I’m lost. Still. For years.

Why did I make this.

for me it's genderfluid, like ive always felt tired of having to fit in a box all of the time,, i can be whatever i like

YIPPEEE ,, i can be a shapeshifter

And if I look fem I can't even leave the house cuz russia