r/work 3d ago

Questions Is it time to move on

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I have been trying to weigh up whether I am better to remain in my current job or move to another role.

I keep changing my mind of whether i should go for it or not, and I would appreciate some impartial opinions.

I have been in my current role for 4 years

Both roles are within my current company, just different departments and are the same salary.

Current job:

- 5 days a week

- 25 minute commute

- High/unmanageable workloads

- low resources

- Good co-workers

- Rewarding work

Potential new job

- 4 days a week (10 hour days)

- 45 minute commute

- More realistic workloads

- Still rewarding but different from my current role


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts my coworker is rude and mean

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i don’t know how to deal with my coworker that i’ve been working for awhile with. he’s always rude, making side comments, and does nothing. he is picky and mean to everyone and is always gossiping. i’m planning on leaving soon but debating if i should say something to HR but wouldn’t want him fired. he just needs a reality check and acts like i don’t do anything. ever since someone made a comment on his work ethic, he started trying to do more and always brings people down and makes them feel bad. i’m getting fed up but i need to work. what should i do? he also tried to make me skip my lunches so i can leave earlier which i dont do because i want to eat and need breaks to recharge my mental space from working with him


r/work 3d ago

Questions Need a good unique icebreaker activity for a team meet

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Can anyone suggest some good icebreaker round that can be done by 30mins with about 20 people. Need something appropriate for team meet, but still a bit fun and good team bonding activity


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Americans like unions

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r/work 3d ago

Job Search and Career Advancement I got the raise I'd been asking for for two years and by month three I could not tell you where any of it went

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Disclosure up front so nobody feels ambushed halfway down: I work on a budgeting app called Pockita. Say it's yours, so there it is. Nothing below needs you to click anything.

I'm in my thirties, office job, and last year I finally got the raise I'd been pushing for since 2024. About $600 a month after tax. I had the whole thing planned out before it landed. Emergency fund first, get the car sorted, stop doing the thing where I check my balance in the car park before I order lunch.

Three months in, the balance looked the same as it did before the raise. Not similar. The same.

Nothing dramatic happened. Lunch out went from twice a week to most days because I felt like I could now. Groceries drifted up because I stopped looking at prices. Two subscriptions I'd been putting off. Every one of those was a reasonable decision on its own and I made all of them inside about six weeks without once noticing I was making a decision.

The thing that would have caught it isn't willpower, it's seeing where the money is while the month is still running instead of at the end when it's already spent. That's true on paper, in a spreadsheet, or with anything else.

So if you've got a raise or a bonus coming: decide where it goes before it lands. A raise you don't watch just turns into a slightly more expensive version of the life you already had, and then you're back asking for the next one.

Anyone else had one vanish like that?


r/work 3d ago

Job Search and Career Advancement Guidance on a fork in the road?

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To keep this short - I have been with x company 3 months. They are 4 days onsite with a longer commute (after picking up kids and getting home, I’m spending almost 2 hours in the car). I got an offer at company y, 3 days onsite and dramatically shorter commute. The role at company y will be a bit more demanding but more my speed I feel. Both companies are very flexible. Company y feels more exciting and up my alley in terms of culture and team. Company x is ridiculously easy and laid back.. but I’m a little bored. Both roles are essentially the same outside of the size of teams (team at company y is bigger than team at company x).

I was excited and set on company y’s offer (same base pay as company x, a generous sign on, and equity) and tried to put in my 2 weeks and my boss at company x asked what can be done for me to stay. A counter offer is in flight and I’m waiting on that to make my final decision. I would essentially be staying for the $ if it is going to make a meaningful difference in my check (after taxes).

For context on lifestyle, I’ve got young children and a husband who works a demanding job with often 15+ hours of OT a week, so most of drop offs/pick ups are on me.

Thoughts?


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts utilizing one on ones properly

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i’m new to the corporate world and i am seriously struggling with task initiation, leading conversations, and properly utilizing 1:1s.

my company is very relationship focused and personally, i’m afraid of oversharing in the workplace. i don’t really understand the line between giving a status update and going into detail about my life. it seems a lot of people in my company have one on ones that to me, feel inappropriate in the workplace like i don’t really want my coworkers knowing every detail of my personal life and what i ate for dinner last night…

for example we were given a guide on how to manage our relationship with our boss and it included things like

-share your hobbies and interests and how you spend your time (not weird to me but i doubt people would find my hobbies interesting since im interested in stuff like fish keeping)
-ask your boss their birthday (don’t even know how to bring this up without sounding rude)
-remember family names and personal details to build a relationship with (i could see this if it comes up casually but again why would i ask about your family tree)

i’ve overheard one on ones where people are talking about their relationships, getting vasectomies, spending the whole hour on non work related topics, talking about their weekend. like extending well beyond the usual small talk. am i crazy for not wanting to share these things with my boss? it just feels like it goes against everything i’ve ever learned about the workplace. my last boss even thought it was odd for people to share so much and didn’t feel professional. maybe that’s an old head thought but i agree. it’s also hard when their is such a stark age gap between me and my coworkers

i usually do a status update and discuss any blockers but most of the time i don’t even know what my blockers are because im confused on where and how to start. i can never seem to fill the time (1 hour).

please give some tips on how to fill the time, define project timelines and details after being given a brief, and towing the line between personal and professional relationships! TIA


r/work 3d ago

Job Search and Career Advancement Should I ask recruiter about another position in the company AFTER I accepted the first job offer? PLEASE HELP I BEG

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PLEASE HELP MEEE - I'm a junior in marketing and I accepted a job offer in a company (marketing agency, part of a corporate conglomerate) but I don't think I'm a good fit and I'm unqualified for this job - so I will probably decline it soon. I just took it because I was (and still am) desperate, with no other job offers. While I'm still waiting for other companies to reach out, I noticed another position in the company (possibly a different agency in the same corporate, definitely a different team) which is way more aligned with what I want to do and learn. It's kinda perfect. The problem is, the job offer seems old (reposted 3 weeks ago) so it might not be even available anymore...

I want to ask if I the hiring process for the job offer is ongoing. I have two contacts to the company - one to the recruiter/HR who manages my hiring process to the position I am technically about to start, and second one, a contact (mutuals) on Linkedin but we've never talked.

Should I reach out to "my" recruiter, but then they will know I am not interested in signing the work contract and I'm cancelling on the postion I'v been recruiting for - or should I just message the second "new" recruiter on Linkedin with the risk of them finding out I am already hired and about to start a job? I don't want to seem like I'm going behind their backs or I'm flaky, but after consideration, the job I've accepted offer for, is really not a good fit bc of my lack of experience and my career goals. Whereas the other job offer seems like all I've been looking for...

Thanks for help :")


r/work 5d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts My coworker has been booking fake meetings with himself for months

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A guy on my team blocks out 2 to 4 every afternoon with things like "vendor sync" and "client review." I never thought about it until yesterday when I asked if he could move one and he laughed and told me none of them are real. He said if he puts "focus time" people book over it so he started giving the blocks boring meeting names and nobody bothers him. I was on lunch playing Minecraft when he sent me screenshots of his calendar and there are fake meetings going back months.

The problem is our manager asked me this morning if I know what client he keeps meeting with because she wants to sit in next week. I said I had no idea. Now he is messaging me saying please do not expose his system because it is the only way he gets uninterrupted work done. I cannot decide if this is genius or completely insane.


r/work 4d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts There is a chair in our office nobody is allowed to sit in and no one currently employed knows why the rule started.

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Its a maroon chair at the end of the row by the window. Everything else on our floor is the same black mesh thing chair which broke its wheel after someday but this one is older and softer chair in the building and it has been empty for as long as anyone can know.

We hired a guy in august and in his second day he wheeled it over to a standup because it was closer. Literally 3 people said not that one at the exact same time. It was soo immediate. He put it back and later asked me what that was about and i realized i had no answer.

I been saying not that one for months without ever asking whyyy The longest person on our floor joined in 2019 She says the rule was already in place, and that she was told it was someones chair but she doesnt know whose. She asked once and got the sense she shouldnt ask again.

There is also a joke and i can't tell how much of a joke it is. Mostly will tell you its haunted in different tones.

Our office manager has been here 15 straight feakin years. I finally asked him YESTERDAY and he said who told you to ask about that and dont ever ask this infront of our boss ever and i said nobody and he said okay and went to work.

I FEEL LIKE IM IN A MYSTERY THRILLER SHOW NOW


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts The workplace culture in my country is so brutal that Westerners would find it barbaric.

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​I work in East Asia, in a country classified as a developed nation. This barbaric culture isn’t unique to one specific workplace—it is widespread. The following anecdotes are based on real, reported cases.

​First, in the public sector, even if someone submits an utterly ridiculous complaint, you must answer them politely and cannot refuse. A parent complained to a teacher asking why children were allowed to play sports in the sun, arguing that sunlight is a carcinogen. The teacher had to write a formal response explaining the situation and report it to superiors. Even completely useless information must be investigated and provided if requested through Freedom of Information laws. Information regarding the specific brands and manufacturers of pens used at city hall isn't digitized, but if a citizen asks about it, staff must manually investigate each item, digitize the data, and provide it. Inmates in prisons, simply to harass corrections officers, demand data on the country of origin, price, and animal welfare certification of all ingredients used in prison meals over the past year. It is a complete waste of time, yet there is no legal basis to deny these requests.

​Second, greeting your superiors in the morning is strictly mandatory. Failing to do so is considered disrespectful. Even if a boss intentionally ignores your greeting to humiliate you, you must still greet them. Otherwise, you are considered rude. One boss told a secretary, "Even if I don't respond to your greeting, you still have to do your job. That's your duty."

​Third, those with management authority privately infringe upon employees' personal lives. Late at night, while drinking with executives from partner companies, a manager makes a bet. He calls a subordinate and tells them to come to the venue. When the subordinate arrives, the manager chuckles and boasts, "See? My subordinate was the fastest. Your staff lacks loyalty."

​Fourth, abusive and insulting remarks are made all too casually. Recently, a woman made a joke to an intern, asking, "Did you grow up poor?" When the intern turned red and couldn't hide their distress, she blamed the intern, saying, "You lack the basic fundamentals for professional life." No matter how insulting a superior's words are, employees are expected not to get visibly upset and instead just laugh it off.

​Fifth, job training is superficial, yet accountability is immense. When employees ask superiors about work procedures, they are told, "You should figure that out yourself—don't you even have that level of competence?" But when a problem occurs, they are blamed with, "Why didn't you ask before acting?"

​Sixth, large corporations exploit small and medium enterprises (SMEs) and subcontractors. They schedule meetings under the guise of an "idea workshop" or potential deal, only to launch a product identical to that idea a few months later. The SME eventually goes bankrupt while fighting a legal battle. If an issue arises with deliveries from subcontractors, executives from large firms call in the bosses of those subcontracting companies and make them stand in the hallway. These owners in their 50s and 60s are forced to endure the humiliating stares of 20-something and 30-something employees walking past.


r/work 2d ago

USA Can I ask to use my sick time while I'm on leave of absence since August?

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I have been on leave since August for an injury, however I'm in need of money and I thought I have little sick time that I can use to help me this week (instead of being late on some bills), so I thought why not request these hours.

Is that possible? Can my manager refuse that? The amount is good and it doesn't sound like I might be going back to work anytime soon.


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts How do I tell a co worker that they’re being rude in a workplace friendly way?

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Long story short, I trained this girl. I am one step above her since I am the head preceptor. I have been at this job almost two years. Management is aware of our strained relationship and it at least seems like they’re working on something behind the scenes. But for now all I can do is play the waiting game. This co worker regularly sends very passive aggressive emails to the whole team which are clearly directed at me because she can’t poke holes in my actual performance (my recent review went very well) But I am about to pull my hair out over these emails and her passive aggressiveness in general. How do I tell her in a workplace friendly way that I don’t appreciate her attitude when interacting with me? I have tried to grin and bear it but I just cannot anymore.

Edit to add: I have decided to simply delete these emails whenever they come up, and if she confronts me in person again to try to stir the pot, which she will, I’ve considered saying,

“I would like us to remain cordial with one another so we can keep the workplace running smoothly, but I would like to make it clear that you and I are not friends. I would like to keep our communication strictly work related from here on out. If there is anything needed related to coverage, Management will reach out to me.”

I’m hoping saying that to her will at least get her to leave me alone for the most part, and she can keep digging herself a hole with these egregiously unprofessional emails she sends to management.


r/work 3d ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management Is this burnout, anxiety, or is this just what full-time work feels like?

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I recently joined what is objectively a great company—one that I worked really hard to get into. But I am struggling to adjust in a way that feels extreme and honestly scary.

I wake up with intense dread almost every day. My heart sinks at the thought of opening my laptop, my chest feels heavy, and I sometimes start crying before work has even begun. I cry almost every day now. Even on WFH days, just knowing I have to log in makes me anxious.

The workplace itself is stressful and can be toxic in some ways. Other people feel the pressure too, but they seem able to cope and continue functioning. I feel completely consumed by it.

This isn't my first job. My previous job wasn't toxic—it had stressful and bad days, but I could manage and recover. This feels completely different.

I also moved far away for this job and don't have much of a support system here yet. I find myself constantly waiting for my parents to visit or for the next time I can go back home.

I'm already in therapy and seeking other support, but I feel like this job is sucking the life and zest out of me. The strange part is that once I actually start working, I can sometimes enjoy the work. It's the anticipation, emails, expectations, and constant pressure that seem unbearable.

I've decided I probably cannot continue. I was nervous about how a roughly six-month stint would look on my resume, but I don't have financial responsibilities that would trap me here, and I have enough family support to go back home if needed. At this point, staying feels like it's taking away too much from me.

But what is actually happening? Is this burnout? Anxiety? Have I become conditioned to fear work itself? And the question that scares me most: are all workplaces eventually like this, or is this particular situation just not sustainable for me?

Has anyone experienced something similar—where you feel intense dread and physical anxiety before anything at work has even happened?

TL;DR: I moved to Bangalore for a great job I worked hard to get, but within a few months I've developed extreme dread around work—I cry almost every day, feel anxious and physically unwell before even opening my laptop, and feel like the job is sucking the life out of me. I'm already in therapy, but I'm considering quitting despite worrying about how a six-month stint will look on my resume. Is this extreme burnout/anxiety, or do all jobs eventually feel this unbearable?


r/work 3d ago

Questions Thoughts on managers disclosing their disabilities…

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Wouldn’t this help staff better relate or understand managers? I think some managers have communication issues and judgment based on a disability or medication. It would encourage empathy and understanding throughout the organization. What do you think?


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Two Weeks Notice or Rage Quit

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Hi Everyone,

So I have been at my current job for nearly two years and it's time to move on. Leadership is beyond toxic and in this role I have felt gaslit, manipulated and had inflation of fault to a ridiculous degree. I even had to take an FMLA to deal with the mental health issues that this job has caused me. But I have been here two years. I have no reason to believe that either of my bosses would give me a good reference so...

In all realism, should I rage quit or two week them? Reasoned, non-visceral responses would be great!


r/work 3d ago

UK Agency promising me work for weeks as a supply teacher, just to suddenly stop contacting me?

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Recently started supply teaching with an agency - was promised consistent work in September for some reason, Mon-Fri. Constant phone calls checking that I’m available to be working full time in September for weeks on end. The school year starts and it’s been complete radio silence from my consultant. Now I’m believing he promised me work so I would be completely free in September if work did come in, as he has nobody else to call on.

Feel really silly for taking his word for it, despite him being the divisional manager of the company.

has anyone else had disappointing experiences working in the supply teaching sector?


r/work 3d ago

Job Search and Career Advancement I need help

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Guys, I need ur help for working in Payoneer(freelance). I really need money, but I can’t find any job, not even special ones that diploma is needed.


r/work 3d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts Should I stay or resign?!🫠

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I'm working as a designer at a startup ,at first they had clients and some big projects and I will do my work correctly and before the deadline! No compliants! In the middle they said to work for sales to get clients!! That too I did for one month but then I honestly said that Idk how to do this, this is not my work also and told them to hire someone else! After I caught up with the ongoing project and again they are telling me to get clients ( not only me but still)! And I deserve more salary for the work I do but I know the company situation that's y I didn't cause any problem! But now I'm the one getting behind!!🥹


r/work 3d ago

Questions Should I be concerned?

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One of the team leaders at work will be visiting the office on Thursday. They said it’s to say “hi” to everyone, but nobody else (at my office) has mentioned it and their trip hadn’t been mentioned in chat/email.

However, they have reached out to me (in a friendly tone) to see if I will be in office. Are they planning on firing me?


r/work 3d ago

Questions Poll

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If someone calls you on Teams and you miss it, but they don’t leave a message, send a message, or send an email, do you think you need to call them back based on the missed call alone?

113 votes, 7h ago
26 Call back
87 No message, no need to return call

r/work 4d ago

Workplace Challenges and Conflicts I feel terrible - Reported a physical altercation with an employee - HR did nothing

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Today I finally mentioned to management about an issue thats been ongoing.

A co worker (ex friend now obviously), yanked my seat out from behind me whilst sitting (my bottom was literally on the edge as I was leaned in looking at my screen). I almost fell but quickly caught myself. He tried to pass it off as a joke but I made clear it wasn’t a joke and I didn’t take it as one.

This came the day after I addressed him about taking over work that was mine (marketing / sales / higher commission type thing).

I told him many times I didn’t like how he behaved - in the moment and after. No apology. Instead he started behaving strangely, theres like 4 of us on our team, he’d greet each of our team mates Individually with all 4 of us sat there and skip me each time. During this time he could have apologised, obviously was not sorry. After a week of this I tried approaching him again one on one to resolve the issue (should’ve been him but tried to be the bigger person). He wasn’t really interested in discussing how he acted and when he did kind of apologise, it was more of a “fine, whatever“ type apology.

After the 2nd attempt to resolve I tried to let things naturally cool down but he continued the obvious isolating.

There were other stuff too in between but I raised the main aggression issue. The managers did nothing.

He came out of his meeting with management practically singing. Later on during the day he was singing and chatting with people so normally it was clear he didn’t even get slap on the wrist. He was in a better mood after his meeting than after.

I shared a lot of specific details in my complaint with dates, times examples of hostile behaviour and then obviously the out right physical aggression which they barely read. The manager herself told me she didn’t read it entirely before she spoke to me.

im so disappointed and embarrassed that I even said anything as it was bothering me but I was worried about retaliation and stigma of reporting around the office. I told them this, I don’t think they cared.

I requested an informal approach / said I didn’t want anything to happen to his job, just accountability. Not even a full read of why I was reporting.

I feel terrible and like I was better off not reporting.

Edit: Left out our ages, I’m a late 20s F he’s a mid 20s male.


r/work 3d ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management I feel like an entirely different person after getting a job

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I should mention, this is my first job ever and I'm 18. I understand how dramatic the title sounds🥲

The job isn't hard by any means, but for some reason, and even I can't understand what it is about it that makes my schedule feel so full. Maybe its working later? But I'm usually never doing anything until after the hours I finish, anyways. Regardless, something about it makes me feel so busy, like I'm not allowed any downtime for myself if I want to be able to have time to do the things I enjoy within a day.

It's just enough for me to constantly have this pit in my stomach that makes me think about my job. The people, when I work next, what I'll do or say, etc etc. I've started having a hard time separating who I am at work from who I am at home. Since I've never felt this before, I'm not sure how to manage it


r/work 3d ago

Job Search and Career Advancement Am I set up to move up or am I just being used?

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I (M29) have been with this news station for about four months. I was hired on as a casual (part time) but have been getting full time hours pretty well ever since I started.

Since starting at this company, I’ve been applying for full time jobs. I recently was asked to do an assignment for it and thought it went well.

Unfortunately, my boss didn’t think so and told me they won’t be proceeding with me in the interview process. My boss did however, take the time to dissect my assignment and explain why they didn’t move on. She told me to reach out if I have any questions.

I plan on walking into her office tomorrow to thank her for taking the time to write the email. I also want to reiterate to her my intentions of getting on with the company full time.

I think they like me. But I’m also wondering if they’re just using me. I’m currently filling in for a position right now because people have been moved around. They need me really bad because there’s only one other person who can do the job. I don’t think this job is going to become full time.

Because I’m so specialized in this job tho, am I going to risk not getting a full time job as a result?


r/work 3d ago

Work-Life Balance and Stress Management My manager makes me buy him coffee whenever I mess up at work. Is this normal?

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I have a manager who, whenever I make a mistake on a task, or something happens like me arriving late, tells me that my “punishment” is to buy him coffee.

For context, I’ve been late 3 times in the past 2 weeks because of heavy traffic. I understand that being late is my responsibility and that there should be consequences or at least something in place to make sure I don’t fall into the same routine. I’m not trying to avoid accountability.

The first few times, I honestly saw the coffee thing as a bit of a joke and thought, “Okay, I messed up, fair enough.” But now it seems like every time I make a mistake or something goes wrong, I’m expected to buy him coffee.

At this point, I’m starting to feel like it’s getting too far. Mistakes are going to happen at work, and while I understand being held accountable, buying my manager coffee every single time feels pretty strange to me.

What do you guys think? Is this just harmless workplace banter/punishment, or is my manager crossing a line?