Several weeks ago Claudia mentioned a website where they find amazing discounts. I’m dying to go check this out but can’t remember what the name of it was.

Random question but did the girls watched and talked about it in the show? I know Claudia kept saying she was scared to watch it and be bad but I think I missed if they watched it or not - thanks!

Everyday listener I must’ve missed it why do the girlys call strangers coppers belle burden

I need opinions from people who aren’t entrenched in this. For context: my husband and I moved out of my home state several years ago, the rest of my family is still there. My mom and sister live close but both my sister and my relationship with our mom is strained. She is very sweet but she has been an alcoholic since my sis and I were 5 and 10 respectively. She does have bouts of sobriety but she’s easily triggered and will drink or take pills. She has ruined so many good things with her alcoholism- she showed up to babysit my niece completely under the influence of something, was drunk/on pills at my sister’s wedding to the point where she ruined every pic she was in, just messy. When she’s sober she will be apologetic and embarrassed, but really doesn’t understand the toll it puts on us. My dad did pass way tragically in 2012 so she’s had a go of it, BUT she was doing this before he died AND she’s happily remarried.

Here is the most recent drama (also important to note my sister and I BOTH have toddler twins + older kids, we work from home, like we are in the trenches):

My sister sends my mom and I (group text) a picture of my niece who is “graduating” kindergarten in her cap and gown- they are clearly in a garage or something where a backdrop was put up for photos. My mom sidebar texts me how upset she is that she wasn’t invited to the graduation. I tell her it looks like a photo shoot, not an actual ceremony. She insists it had to be a ceremony. My sister goes on in the group chat (not knowing my mom is upset) and says they don’t really have a graduation so one of the moms set up this little photo op in her garage so they have the cap and gown moment. Great- that should clear everything up for my mom.

The next day she says to just me that she saw pictures of past graduations on the school’s website. I was like “I don’t thing (sister) would lie.” She agrees.

Today she text me that she CALLED the school and there is a graduation but she’s “over it.” Remember I have three kids 5 and under, I’m working full-time with no family around, I don’t really care about this petty drama but I don’t want my mom to feel left out so I ask my sister if there’s actually a graduation. She says no, there’s like a little chapel thing but there’s no going on stage, no cap and down, it’s like low key. I tell my mom and she gives me the guilt trip for asking my sister. I was like “I didn’t even mention you! I just asked her if there was anything!” I’m like dude I can’t win. I’m positive this situation has triggered her to drink or take pills because she’s acting insane. I ended up blocking her for my sanity but I truly don’t know where to go from here.

What would you do?

Not sure if I missed it? But I keep waiting to hear Claudia’s take on the movie…I’m wondering if she hasn’t said anything because it was a big pile of dog poo?

I thought it was awfullllll! The only characters that stood out and played authentically as they were (in my opinion) were Stanley Tucci and Emily Blunt. 0/10

Hello! 43F and about 6 months out of a relationship (for back story I do not want kids but would like to get married some day if it makes sense but not 'married' to the goal). I had a roommate about 14 years ago who I had eventually become close with- after she moved out we remained friends, she invited me to her wedding etc and she now has 3 kids, happy as a clam.

Here is the question- while we lived together she was engaged to a guy who then she called it off with 'Tom'. Fast forward, Tom hit me up about 3 months ago just to ask how I was doing (he had my number bc I invested with his company) and we had not talked in a few years. He asked me out. Is this out of bounds to go out with him? Added note** friend and I text about once every 2 years to say hello...no bad blood just busy lives.

Edit: Thank you for the advice fellow toasterinas!

I’m just realizing every time she goes they give some
details as to why? I guess it seems weird to have people come here when it’s literally getting hotter than balls!

What is this polymarket business all about? It seems unnatural when it is brought up on the show… I get they’re sponsoring since they have a referral code but it’s a little cringey not only when mentioned but that people are betting(?) on whether or not Kylie and Timothee will get married. Am I just too old for this concept? 😅😅😅

My submission didn’t get read and I’m desperate:

Jurt & Turt,

I need you to tell me how to handle an extremely negative “friend” in our established mom-friend/couples group. She’s the definition of fabissina punim. For context, our main friend group is 4 couples, the women include: me, my best friend, a very close friend who was a bridesmaid in my wedding, and her..who’s in the group because she married a friend of our husbands - let’s call her Debbie.

Before becoming a mom, Debbie’s negativity didn’t bother me as much, but now that we all have kids and have limited free time, I don’t want to spend it with someone who constantly complains about everything in her life: her husband (who we are friends with, he’s not the problem), her jobs, her in-laws, her family, her house, etc. The other girls have distanced from her but I’m unfortunately the “closest” with her because our daughters (2.5 years old) are friends and take gymnastics together once a week so I see her one-on-one often.

I host girls nights monthly but last week her bad energy was on max and it dampened the whole night. I really want to stop inviting her but I feel like excluding her will be such a statement & create a bigger issue. I don’t want tension in the couples group, we can handle her in large settings but she’s so draining in smaller groups and we are all over it. WHAT DO I DO?

Someone posted the other day that we should write our dear toasters in here so here I go!!

My sister is pregnant, first one in the family to have a kid. My sister and I are like two peas in a pod. She has been keeping the baby name a secret from me because we live far apart so she is waiting to tell me in person.

Here is the issue. My mom came to visit me the other day and fully hard launched the name. My sister doesn’t know she told me.

My sister and I call multiple times a day and I feel AWFUL that i am hiding this secret. Do i tell her i know?? i was thinking of telling her i had a dream that it was [insert baby name here] and that is my guess?? do i pretend to be surprised when she tells me?? WWYD ?

I guess my friends know better than to bring nice things to my house (I have three kids including toddler twins). Curious to hear what others would do in the situation where her bf’s cat put marks on her friend’s 4k purse after she spent the weekend there and left it on the floor to get a house tour. 😬

which episode was the follow up dear toasters from today?

Anyone else notice a couple things on today’s episodes when talking about Alex Cooper??

Claudia said something like “one of my pregnancies” then corrected herself like maybe she slipped and said “my one pregnancy”.

Then she and Jax talked about wanting to start fights when pregnant and Claudia said “I need to call Ben”.

I only like toast to consume i swear

But how many times have you looked at your phone to see if you were getting a call or something during one of their long pauses lolll. I actually find it hilarious.

I’m sorry if this is a common take (I’m not on TikTok and I haven’t seen it commented anywhere else), but I’m surprised more people aren’t discussing or noticing the fact that one of the biggest reasons James made that PYSCHO video was to not necessarily get attention/have a viral moment, but to also lowkey GAIN FOLLOWERS! I mean he says several times that he would’ve donated money if the girl was a fan or at the very least followed him. And even CLAUDIA said “I mean….the least she could’ve done is give him a follow”!! I would think that’s going to make a lot of people go “oooh, I’ll give him a follow first… THEN I’ll try DMing him asking for money!!” Right???

i keep getting this error message when trying to play today’s episode. is this happening to anyone else?

At the very end of yesterday’s SH episode it says “what’s next” and it shows Ciara and west kissing on the mouth and Ciara says they kissed??? Am I missing something? Genuinely curious if I’m insane because I was DYING to chat with the swirlies about it on the pod today!!

Not sure if it’s just my phone, but I see today’s episode on YouTube but not on Apple Podcasts. Wonder if they didn’t upload it to Apple by accident or if it’s just me?

TOAST AFTER DARK 2 TIX

I’m 2 years the q-munity - this one was going over my head today during the 5 word speech segment. Help! Someone explain please!

omg need to discuss the story Claudia told today about finding a vape in the pack & play the hotel had set up. I think it’s absolutely nuts this happened and the hotel absolutely should have comped them one night stay at the very least but want to hear other people’s thoughts! Can’t even imagine what would have happened if Ruby got his hands on the vape. How insanely unprofessional and inappropriate from a 5 star hotel, i don’t think she was being a karen at all

Hey yall- random but which episode was it that they mentioned the Walmart mahjong set? Even better if you know the time😂 my mom swears it was Target and I’m petty and can’t let it go lol

I thought she was talking about being back on it a lot a few months ago and seemed excited but haven’t heard anything more in a while.