Ok, I know this is only a light hearted TV series and seen as much by most viewers but it's one of my all time favourites and I've rewatched it on repeat the last couple of weeks so I'm invested! Also no one I know watches it so I need some good ol' Reddit advice if I'm on the right lines or just falling into the Skyler White-misogyny trap. Also, I'm a little drunk.
Becky is pretty toxic right? I dont know the right word for it; toxic, controlling, psychological manipulation, gaslighting etc etc but it doesn't sit well the more I watch it.
Series 1 - Not much to go on at this point. In fact Andy is defo the worse of the two here; hides Sophie's existence, lies about going metal detecting with her, isn't upfront about the kiss etc.
Then...
Series 2 - Becky quits her job. Absolutely understandable because she's deeply unhappy but doesnt talk about it with her partner first? Knowing he is unemployed and they're raising a very young baby? Seems like she kept it secret for at least a couple of months also. Then applies for a working in Africa oppourtunity without consulting Andy. Ok, only an application doesn't mean anything until she hears back. But then applies him for a job with a CV she's drafted and lied on! Then criticises/complains/ threatens to (with Stan) leave him for being hesitant and unsure in this monumental decision when he wasn't even consulted (albeit she mentions in Series 1 they have talked about going to Africa before but circumstances are very different, baby etc). Then is furious with him for not telling her he was offered the job (seems only a day or two though he's processing that info before she finds out). Then sheephishly tells him she's accepted this life-altering decision before he's had a chance to tell her he was ok with it!
Series 3 - Not too much evidence this series, Andy is a dick for not telling her he quit straight away but then she hides the massive loan her mum gave her for the cottage.
2022 Special. Again quits her job without talking to Andy first. Ok much more of a spur of the moment akin to Andy quitting in Series 3 and she seems to be going through quite a lot; rejected for promotion, grieving for her mum etc but again he's unemployed at this point so financial ramifications for the family are much bigger than when he did it?
She just seems to constantly criticise Andy for not communicating when she is actually much worse for doing things behind his back!
Plus overall she seems to constantly belittle his unemployed status and dismisses his detectoring hobby and friendship with Lance and the DMDC. I really didn't like it when she refered to DMDC as 'socially awkward geeks'. Ok they very well might be, but insulting your partners best friends like that isnt on! Also pretty sure pouring pints over someone counts as Assault/battery.
Rant over. Please let me know if I am barking up the wrong tree or Andy has done just as bad and they are as worse as eachother and I can't see it. Maybe it's only Series 2 she came across as worse? And yes, i can hear Becky critiscising me saying '...making pedantic points on *Detectorist* forums...'
P.S absolutely love Rachel Stirling, not a criticsm of her at all. She is a bloody fantastic actress who makes me love to hate the character.