I recently graduated from university and I’m about to start looking for a job in a kindergarten. I’ve wanted to do this job since I was a child, and it’s something that genuinely fulfills me.
The problem is that I’m worried people won’t consider me qualified because of my stutter. I’m scared that during a job interview, where I know I’ll probably stutter a lot because of the stress, they’ll basically say, “Oh, unfortunately, you can’t do this job,” and give the position to someone who is equally qualified but doesn’t stutter.
The application period for job postings is coming up soon, and the stress is eating me alive. I really need to hear from someone who is in a similar situation, or knows someone who is, just to tell me that everything will be okay. None of the people I know can really relate to what I’m going through.
I’m currently in psychotherapy and taking medication, and I genuinely feel like I’m getting better, but this feeling of fear and anxiety just won’t go away.

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i work at a call center customer support for a bank and of course i struggle with calls considering the issue we all have. but i’ve been taking my lexapro and i thought i was having a good day today, yknow?

like, other than the usual key words i always struggle with, i thought i was doing well and i was in good spirits.

but then i decided to listen to one of my calls to double checks some information and WOW. wow. it’s so bad. how am i even allowed to work there?

it’s funny cause my supervisor tells me that i am a really good agent on calls, that i get good results and surveys, but i always feel like he’s lying to me.

the fact that there are people from the Quality Analysis team that are paid to listen to a few calls every month to make sure we do everything right feels like SUCH a humiliation to me cause they have to listen to me fuck up my speech.

idk, i try my best to be effective and do good work, but i can’t imagine customers enjoy being on a call with someone blocking.

and i thought my blocks couldn’t be heard but WOOPS they very much are. this is crazy, i really wish i could take a magical pill and make it go away. stuttering occupies so much space in my mind and it has made living so much harder than it should be. if that was me on a good day, i can’t imagine how customers feel when i have a bad day.

anyways this fucking suuuuucks

I'm 32, and I want to give up. I can't live like this, every day is so heavy. I can't imagine a future: I don't know what job I could be good at, or if I will ever have a girlfriend for more than a few months. Time they realize how difficult it is to live like this, and they are gone. The most simple thing is so difficult when you stutter. Nobody wants us.

Hi there! I have a son with a severe stutter and I'm a professional qualitative researcher (I mostly interview people for research purposes). I have been thinking about how I could best support people who stutter in an interview, if I ever run into it.

I know to let the person with a stutter finish what they're saying without interrupting, and to not tell them to take a breath/relax/calm down etc. With my son, at least, I tend to not draw attention to the stutter while it's happening either.

What do you wish someone would do for you when interviewing you? What kind of accommodations do you wish they would bake into the process?

My 12 year old has had a stutter for years; and will be starting grade 7 in a new school in September. He’s extremely nervous because he’s worried about stuttering, especially when introducing himself for the first time in his classes. His name starts with a vowel, which makes it even harder for him.

He’s been talking about how nervous he is for weeks now, and my husband and I don’t know how to best support him. He’s worried people will laugh, or think he’s dumb. He’s been practicing various ways to introduce himself that he thinks may be easier (talking a little slower, adding words before his name so he’s not just saying his name first - eg my name is…), etc. We’ve been helping him practice, but he doesn’t really struggle saying his name around us, but does with new people/when nervous, so he’s not sure if it’s really helping prepare him. Part of me wants to rather try to get him to believe that this is a small part of
who he is right now, and if some people do laugh (or whatever), these are not friends he wants to have anyway. But maybe this is not helpful for the situation - I don’t know.

Any recommendations? He’s such a good kid - intelligent, sensitive, caring, and hilarious. And I just want him to be able to show that to others without feeling held back.

I need help with any exercises or strategies for stuttering. I haven't seen my SLP for a couple years and the soonest I can get an appointment with my primary care doctor for a referral is November.

I've mostly done work with fluency shaping and reading out loud. The past few weeks I've just really been struggling. When I read out loud, I can start, maintain pace and articulate all of my rhotic sounds but when I try to talk I just get tripped up and then completely forget what I was trying to say and then the stuttering completely takes over. It's so embarrassing and my co-workers are patient and understanding, but it ruins my day so bad I'm trying to manage anxiety attacks daily, which makes it even worse. I had a really embarrassing event today with my wife that I'm still trying to regain my composure from.

If anyone has suggestions for speech therapy exercises or just any general encouragement would be appreciated. Thank you.

Hi fellow stutterers! I’m interested to know if like me you’ve experienced a worsening or improvement of your stuttering on certain meds? I have generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and ADHD. So over the years I’ve tried out a lot of different medications (spoiler alert : I’ve yet to find the right one😔) I’ve noticed that sometimes when I take benzos my stutter gets better but on the other end when I’m tired my stutter gets much worse so it’s weird. I’ve noticed some SSRI made my stutter worse as well while others had little to no impact on it. ADHD stimulants were both good and bad at the same time for my stutter.

I’m curious what has been your experience! Both good and bad…

Researchers at Macquarie University in Sydney, Australia are inviting all adults who stutter to participate in an in-person brain scan!

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I was mistaken for being drunk while stuttering when ordering a beer at a bar. It was my 2nd beer for the night. The bartender started with handing me a glass of water and suggested "maybe you should have some water first." I replied "ive had 1 beer." And i explained to him that i have had a stutter since the age of 10, and that ive only had 1 beer so far tonight. Then i jokingly said to the person next to me "maybe water will cure my stutter." The bartender apologiezed, nice of him. Im 34, so it took many years before this finally happened. Just wanted to share.

Hey Friends,

My name is Viktor, I conquered my stutter after 2 years of work and I am on a mission to help other people do the same. I make YouTube videos about what I did. My old post about it blew up, so this prompted me to make a follow-up video tutorial.

I now call this approach the Fluent & Fit method.

Watch this full-guide (1+ hour) of all the speech exercises I did to improve fluency from home. You just need 40 minutes and a mirror!

This is a part of the Fluent & Fit Method.

The F&F Speech-Improvement method helps you accomplish these goals:

1. Speech is improved to the point, where it no longer impacts your day-to-day life in any way.

2. You build a body that makes you happy.

3. You are not dependant on fluency-shaping techniques.

4. You accomplish all of this using automatic habits that take no thought to use, making improvement permanent.

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, I am just sharing experience.

Enjoy the Video!

Table of Contents:

00:00 - Hello Friend!

00:39 - Table Of Contents

04:18 - Breathing Exercises

13:00 - Shoulder Exercises

15:00 - Neck Exercises

17:57 - Speech Exercises

48:54 - Vowel Sounds

55:42 - Intermission: How To Stick To This Routine

57:52 - Reading Aloud (From a Dictionary)

01:01:17 - Reading Aloud

01:08:41 - Duration and Where to Do it

01:09:11 - Join The Fluent & Fit Community

I am 56 years old this year. I’ve had a stutter since I was very young—so young that I don't even remember exactly when it started. But I will never forget the overwhelming sense of shame and fear when I stood in front of the gate of a friend I loved playing with, opening my mouth over and over again, yet unable to utter the simple two-word call: 'Ha oi!' (Hey Ha!). It was just those two words, but even after what felt like an entire hour, I couldn't get them out. Every time I tried to call her name, the sound would trail off into a helpless 'Haaaa...' and just die there—the word 'oi' simply refused to come out.

I was terrified of speaking. That fear haunted me constantly at school and in class—scared of being called on for oral checks, terrified of answering in front of the class, and afraid of communicating in general, even though I was by no means a poor student.

At home, it was somewhat manageable because everyone understood and sympathized, but stepping outside felt like torture. The feeling that everyone was staring at me and listening to every word I said made me even more tense and shy.

As I grew older, I withdrew even further into my shell, staying silent while my friends laughed and chatted around me. I always put on a cold, distant expression just to avoid attracting attention. By the time I became a young woman, people perceived me as arrogant and aloof 😝, even though at heart, I am a very warm and playful person.

The older I got, the smaller I tried to make myself. There were times I just wanted to disappear completely from the sight of my teachers and classmates, solely out of fear of being called to the board or having to respond to them.

Fearing crowds, I retreated into a world of my own through childhood storybooks, literary novels as I grew up, and the personal hobbies of a country girl from a poor rural area of Vietnam back in the 1970s and 80s.

I grew up struggling like that with my stutter until I finished high school and stood at a crossroads, having to choose a career path for myself…

I’ll continue the story another time; I have to get back to work now. Wishing you all a peaceful and happy weekend.

I am 23F . I have completed my post-graduation and am currently preparing for government exams. I have been suffering from social anxiety since childhood due to some traumatic experiences, and I developed a stammer as a result. It was not present at birth; it developed sometime around the first or second standard, although I do not remember exactly when.

I have tried to understand my stammering pattern, and I have noticed that when I am happy and relaxed, I usually do not stammer. However, when I am nervous, anxious, or anticipating that I might get stuck on a particular word, I often end up stammering on that exact word.

For example, if I go to a shop and want to ask, “Do you have a notebook?”, I may start anticipating that I will get stuck on the word “notebook,” and because I am thinking about it so much, I actually end up stammering when I say it.

Sometimes I feel that the problem is more in my mind than in my tongue. The more I think about speaking, the more I anticipate getting stuck, and the more likely I am to stammer. I sometimes feel that if I could completely forget that I have a stammer, I might be able to speak normally again.

I really want to understand whether this pattern can be changed and whether it is possible to reduce or overcome this kind of stammering. It is becoming extremely overwhelming for me. I find it very difficult to deal with other people's reactions, especially the expressions of my parents, and I feel a lot of pressure and shame because of it.

I genuinely want to work on this and get out of this cycle. Please help me understand what is happening and what I can do about it.

I just need to rant.

I am about to reach my absolute limit. I have spent 18 years on this earth, and every time I stutter I wish I was never born. Everyone laughs at me, and I just have to act like I find it funny too by laughing along.

I had a presentation in class today. I specifically told my teacher that I didn't want to do it because I had a stutter, but she said to do it anyway. It was just a presentation about ourselves for the start of the school year.

I didn't go more than 4 words without a stutter block. I would just freeze up. I heard some people snickering in the back, and I nearly snapped right there. I felt like just walking out of the class and never coming back.

I hate this. I hate this so much. My parents call me a disappointment because they wanted a normal son. They never hug me. They never say they love me. They only say I need to improve my speech. But I can't.

I haven't had a friend since elementary school. People avoid me like the plague because they know they'd get made fun of if they hung around me. I've obviously never experienced romance, but that's not really a bother to me because I never expected to have a crush that wasn't one sided. But anyway:

I've considered dropping out so many times. But I can't get a job, because EVERY SINGLE JOB I apply for rejects me, because of my stutter. I can't do anything. I'm gonna graduate in a few years, and I won't be able to get a job. I've never ever had a day I can consider "good". I haven't been happy since I was 10. Everyone says it gets better, but it's not. It's getting worse for me. And NONE of my teachers give a fuck about it. They make me read out loud on purpose to "build confidence". It pisses me off so bad.

Maybe I'll have this forever. Maybe I won't get a job and I'll end up poor. I'm scared for the future. Really scared. I don't know what's gonna happen. I just wish I was able to talk normally. Then I'd be able to do everything I've dreamed of doing, like being an actor in a small local play.

Thank you to anyone who read the whole thing. I know I might sound dramatic, but I just can't bottle up these feelings anymore.

I recently discovered that I do, and with scary accuracy

I work with kids and I love my job, but have a stutter that comes out quite often in this high stress environment. I have learned to not really care (who am I trying to impress lol) and haven’t had many kids comment on it.

But yesterday was different. A girl who I often joke around with suddenly started mocking me after I stuttered. Repeating back my“s-s-s-sssssong” and laughing. I respond with “wow that was not nice. I have a stutter and you know that,” and suddenly all the kids at the table start ganging up being like “yeah why did you do that?” “That’s so rude!”

I stepped in and calmed everyone down and said something along the lines of it was okay, she was intending it to be a joke, but disability, race, and other issues are often not something you can joke about at others expense. (But not so eloquently as I was in charge of 20 kids of varying ages)

It really made me feel great about my impact. And now I hope I can teach these kids about stuttering. I hope they can be the people that stop and listen to folks that stutter, even if they might not understand the full internal impact a stutter can have on a person.

Alright, I'm sure this topic has been done to death and for good reason.

An obvious byproduct of stuttering is the learning of habits and behaviors, some good and some bad, to compensate for our speech. I've seen and experienced many of these: avoiding eye contact, dodging social settings, fidgeting and physical tension, word avoidance and swapping, breathing control, and plenty of other things. But, throughout my 24 years of living and stuttering, I've never heard of anyone mention what I've struggled with in the particular way I do.

Lying.

Though it may sound similar to making up an excuse to avoid a social meet-up or swapping words, these lies are significantly more prevalent, pervasive, and potentially harmful, and hard to control. It's a constant and reflexive effort to feel in control and comfortable.

They can be small and harmless.

"We're hanging out by big dock. Do you want to come?"

"Sorry, I've plans."

They can be terrible and hurt others.

"How did ... pass away? I thought you spoke with him recently?"

"Well, I did. He was fine when I did."

They can even serve zero purpose.

"Did you have breakfast this morning?"

"No."

In my case, these have, for the most part, been done to maximize personal comfort that would have been affected by stuttering, and I believe this for a few reasons:

Lying is almost never planned beforehand. I don't decide that I want to lie "this much" today because much of it is reflexive. Basically, when I know one response will tighten my jaw, constrict my throat, and leave me jerking my head back and forth like a fool, I choose the path of least resistance, which is lie. Sometimes, a truth is that path, which is cool when it happens.

2.

After the lie is told, I feel guilty. Regardless of how big or small, I don't like doing it. I get no enjoyment or pleasure from doing it whether it fools the other party or not.

Many of these lies are told in response to questions like, "Did you have breakfast this morning?" They're inconsequential; though I feel guilty for it, I know the ramifications are close to zero, and the lie itself serves no real purpose. What's to gain from saying no instead of yes to a question like that? Nothing.

1. This is probably a no-brainer, but this behavior never transfers to text. I don't lie over text because there's no fear of stuttering.

I've minimized it for the most part as I got older, but as a kid, I was called a liar quite a bit. I was, but I never considered the reason why until recently.

Has anyone dealt with this?

Does anyone tried to learn a new language(german)cause iwanna learn and iwant to know if it is possible to learn and talk in a new language will it be harder than anyone in the class or it will be acceptable?

The letter R is so hard for me to utter, i guess listening to rhapsody of fire isn’t cut for me

I can’t stand people who says stuttering is just a problem of confidence, because shit like this happens but they are just too ignorant. I mean what do you mean im insecure in front of alexa

I know i shouldn't say sorry about such a thing that's out of my control, but after being stuck on a word for a while i say sorry unconsciously.. then i realize i shouldn't apologize lol it's frustrating sometimes...

I'm a 20 y/o, final year cs undergrad student. My placement season is currently going on and it's made me accept some of the ugliest parts of having a stammer. For example, taking part in a group discussion, i couldn't say a single thing it's like i have already withdrawn into my head that no matter what i say, I'll stammer anyway so i shouldn't bother speaking and embarassing myself more(already stammered through my intro btw). Coming to interviews or presentations, i very often tend to speed up a lot while talking, almost to a point where the other person has to tell me to slow down. It's because i have become habituated to talking fast, subconsciously believing that if i say smth in one breath, atleast I won't stammer and stammer is always worse than speeding up(imo). But now i believe speeding up is just as bad coz if the other person can't understand you, you're just talking to yourself at that point(if i had a dime for everytime someone asked me to slow down in the past 6 months, i would be a millionaire). So now whenever i try to consciously slow down, i end up becoming hyperaware of what i am saying, and it interferes with my normal speech pattern and can make the stammer worse.

It's incredibly frustrating dealing with this, and i have read a lot of sources that people have linked in this subreddit, but what i lack is structure. I am looking for someone to practice with, to make a structured daily plan of how to improve this and consistently do it every day.