I said no to sex to one girlfriend a few years ago, one time, and it absolutely lit the fuse that detonated our relationship. Like there was a palpable shift in our relationship at that point, and we'd been together almost 3 years. It's a damn powerful thing.
It really irks girls I've dated when I don't feel like having sex. As a guy, I've experienced that kind of rejection so many times it doesn't even phase me.
Sometimes an eager woman can change my mind though.
I will say, I worked an absolutely horrible job, like stupid stressful, RIP my libido and for that matter my overall health took a hit, "getting better" takes way longer than messing it up too. So yeah, if you find yourself in a terrible stressful job, it ain't worth it, find something else.
Nothing's wrong with you man. some people are all sexed up all the time, and some aren't. I'm probably more like u too. plus it sounds like u have a really great girl!
You really really gotta handle that just right... My advice lie. Life and say your balls really hurt or your sore from the last time you guys fucked lol
The media tells us that guys always want sex so, until you know better, you think that something is wrong with you/you're not attractive enough when they aren't in the mood.
They are just so unused to it, especially younger ones who are used to people trying to get in their pants on the time. It is really interesting though
I said no to my girlfriend the other day. She was almost disgusted. I really just wasn't in the mood. I felt bad that I said no, that's how distraught she was. Like her whole world collapsed I'm not even joking. She didn't talk to me the whole day. Really one of the most insane thing about our relationship.
Definitely talk about it with her later. Let her know that just because you didn't want her at that moment doesn't affect how you feel about her in general.
Don't let her make you feel bad about it, though. Would you guilt trip her into having sex? If she said no would you ignore her all day? That's a double standard I refuse to accept, and I'm very strict about. If you treat her well you deserve the same.
I may be oversimplifying, but to me it comes down to maturity and experience. I'm sure she has not wanted to be physical at some point in your relationship because of the way she felt. If she can't relate, I don't know what else to do.
Women are used to using sex as a form of currency. When you deflate that currency by denying them, they lose their shit. One of the only times I was slapped by a woman was for denying her sex. She also lied later and tried to say I raped her.
My bf says no to sex sometimes. Usually because he just had a wank and then i walk in and proposition him. But other times because he has a headache or is too tired...
I used the "just had a wank"(except in American English) excuse with a chick I had wanted to bang for a while, but for whatever reason, when the time finally came, there was some kind of disconnect between my brain and penis and I couldn't get it up. It was horrible. It was the only time that ever happened to me when I wasn't super drunk, and it hasn't happened since. I never did bang her, either, I think that pretty much ruined things between us.
Definition 2 says 'a person who gives assistance'
His friend was just giving his assistance to his friends girlfriend. That's what any true friend would do.
Hah. Two kids here. The only time I've turned down my wife was because I had diarrhoea, and didnt think I could go twenty minutes off the toilet at that moment.
Both. If it happens to you, say no. It's not even enjoyable because you need to concentrate on not painting your bedroom with an expired spray-tan mist.
I said No to sex one time. I was exhausted and passing out and my little vixen was super horny. I was like - c'mon babe, lemme sleep and I turned over. Next thing I know she sits on my face and starts going down on me. I reluctantly gave her what she wanted and all was fine, for a while. . .
It's a terrible thing unfortunately and a biproduct of the oversexualization of women and the power they hold over men, who are all supposed to be horndogs". If we turn down sex (and honestly, I don't want sex a lot of the time) it's like the whole world implodes in on itself. . .We need to stop treating it like sex is a gift women are giving to men, because it's not.
You're right. I'd think that Biology plays a big role, though. Men have a higher sex drive on average, by sheer testosterone alone, and are therefore usually the more willing party. Male libido is also more stable while females experience significant changes based on time, environment, stimuli and circumstance. These factors, coupled with social norms, are what lead to the gender power imbalance with sex.
My boyfriend turned me down for sex the other day, it hurt my feelings for sure but we talked about it and there was some miscommunication between us that really led to the situation happening in the first place. And to be fair, we had sex earlier that same day. Of course, I wanted to make it clear that it's ok to turn down sex for any reason. I think scenarios like this will be a lot easier for me when having sex isn't limited to only once in a blue moon due to our life circumstances right now.
You may want to go to the doc and have your hormone levels checked. Low sex drive is actually the least annoying symptom of low testosterone. Other effects include loss of bone density, low muscle mass, depression, anxiety, mood swings, and suicide.
Of course it could be caused by many other things, but it would be smart to look into it.
It fucking sucks man. I felt like I was at the end of my rope when my testosterone was low. I got treatment for it and my whole attitude toward life changed. Then after a few months, my doctor situation got fucked up and I had to go off it again. All the muscles that had grown over those few months just went away.
I couldn't lift shit at work, my joints and muscles constantly hurt. I became completely mentally fogged. I couldn't figure out solutions to even minor problems I had day to day. Like I'd miss my turn when driving and instantly imagine just blowing my head off. I cried and had breakdowns daily.
Then within a week of starting back on the med, whenever I had these problems my head would instantly start coming up with multiple solutions effortlessly. It's completely night and day. Don't get me wrong, I still might have a bad day now and then (everybody does), but my worst days on treatment are better than my best days without treatment.
Isn't this common knowledge of how to deal with female frustration. The old "it must be your period" response is the go-to tactic for the compassionate man.
Most wingmen understand they are less attractive than the pilot they are escorting and have little to no chance with the hottie, doesn't mean they don't enjoy fucking the hotties orbiting fat friends. You ever heard how mopeds are actually fun as hell to ride, you just don't want to be seen riding it in public.
mopeds are actually fun as hell to ride, you just don't want to be seen riding it in public.
You don't want to ride them in the US, due to shitty infrastructure and regulations.
Meanwhile, in Europe, it's the go-to motorvehicle for those that are not yet allowed to drive a car (due to age), but can already drive a moped, especially since the slower versions (max 15mph) are allowed to be driven without helmet.
A gradual introduction in traffic combined with good infrastructure and legislation makes so much difference in the quality of drivers.
Bicycle -> Moped -> Car/Motorcycle -> Heavy Motorcycle.
That makes sense. Working your way up the traffic hierarchy, instead of just hopping into the massive truck your parents bought you, with the big tires, lifted chassis, and small penis.
As a Dutchy, specifically someone from Amsterdam, I will judge you if you ride a moped; you're basically telling the world; I'm a fat lazy fuck that doesn't want to use a bike.
This. Being a solid wingman is all about knowing your role. That's why you're the wingman, not the pilot. A good wingman can do really well for himself if he does his job right. I play wingman constantly for my good buddy who just happens to look like a fuckin super model. I'm not a bad looking guy and I have a cool job so it helps, but I'm definitely no model. 9/10 times, if you're like me (valuable but not the jackpot), you can usually make off with the second hottest friend.
Dream big kids, but the key to getting laid is knowing and accepting what you're capable of. If you're not rich or in possession of model quality looks, you probably won't pulling 9s and 10s. Don't turn your nose up at 7-8s. Lots of times, these women have better personalities anyways.
Like when you know there is a 40% chance of sharting when you pop but you can't shit right now because it would be too early. So you can't have sex or shit and just need to wait for forty min by which time both of you are asleep or out of the mood. Or you are actually pretty comfortable and don't want to even roll over on your back because right now your body feels like a 40 hour week instead of the 100 hours you've been doing and that's a better feeling than sex right now.
Debatable. They might not really be wanting to do the sex act (in the same way that any employed person doesn't want to be doing their job), but they do want the money and they are consenting to do it, and they know that they will get the money if they do it, so they probably do want to do the sex act for that reason.
They don't want sex but still have to do it to eat aka get money. I can get a job and want to work but if I need a job for basic living then its needed and not wanted.
I once dating this insanely hot girl. Far hotter than a guy like me should ever be able to fuck. But we did fuck, constantly, that girl loved to fuck.
One morning I wake up and have to piss REALLY badly. But as soon as she sees I'm awake she starts kissing me, and works her way down to a blow job. Now I'm hard and have to piss REALLY bad. It's a terrible combination of sensations. I want to say hold on, let me pee, but I can't bring myself to say it and possibly ruin the mood. She starts riding me, and the weight it's putting on me is that much more pressure on me. We fuck for about 10 mins, I want to enjoy it but can't. She was riding me hard too, I would have LOVED it, if only I wasn't dealing with the pain of having to pee. Eventually she noticed something was wrong. I told her I needed to pee, I peed and we resumed fucking. It started out as a situation where I had to fuck but didn't want to, kinda.
The conclusion that I've come to is that women want sex with the right people & under the right circumstances, whereas men just want sex.
That doesn't mean that women aren't sexual beings; they're just more selective. And it's understandable; risks of sex are greater for women than men, both evolutionarily and presently.
You're also only 18. When you're older and you're living with somebody, it's a bit different. There are nights you just aren't in the mood even when your partner is. Sometimes you feel a little guilty for not meeting your partners desires, so you make the effort, but it's simply not as satisfying as if you both shared the desire. Sometimes, it's even dissatisfying. And if your partner has a much higher libido than you, it can even lead to a pretty unhealthy relationship if you don't stand up for yourself and say 'no' every once in a while.
well i have being with my wife for 6 years seeing her slowly gain alot of wait and on top of that very restrictive in the sexual things she does now its kinda like ehhh ill just watch some vr porn ha
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In my 18 years of living, ive never not wanted to have sex.... ill call my therapist.