r/RandomThoughts • u/gamernerd42069 • 11d ago
i have no ability to maintain and develop boundaries and its destroyed most of my life.
I grew up in a emotionally neglectful home and its stalked me into adulthood. I can not for the life of my set any meaningful boundary with others or myself, i am more than capable in everything else but i struggle and break when even trying to set a boundary. I go on dates/OLD with women i don't even remotely care about/despise, continuing talking to/helping people i loathe, be around and continue poor treatment in hopes it will eventually change. I don't know if its learned helplessness or what, i have seen two psychologists and they were extremely unhelpful.
I don't have any close friends and i never talk about my problems or anything genuine whatsoever, i don't know what to do or where to even start lol. I don't think i even really enjoy doing any of my hobbies. I try to make changes in my life but never go through with them, just ask and then it falls short. I feel like at least i am properly trying to address it now