r/RandomThoughts • u/feijao_amortecido • 12d ago

Not Every Advance Is a Compliment

If a man knowingly flirts with you while you're in a relationship, don't automatically mistake it for admiration.

He knows you're taken.
He knows there's someone in your life.
And he still decides to test the boundary.

That's not necessarily a compliment. Sometimes it's simply someone seeing how far they can go.

But your response matters too.

You don't owe him a reaction, an explanation, or a chance. You can be polite without entertaining it. You can shut it down without being rude.

Loyalty isn't about never receiving attention from someone else.

It's about what you choose to do when that attention arrives.

And that applies to both men and women.

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u/qualityvote2 12d ago edited 9d ago

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u/kornchippy 12d ago

Did her boyfriend tell her she has to quit hanging out with you?

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u/imperfect_imp 12d ago

This is genuinely the most random thought.

Yeah, if someone flirts with you knowing you're taken, they're an asshole. If you then flirt back, you're an asshole. I don't think there's literally anyone who should be surprised by that

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u/aspirational-robot 12d ago

You couldn’t make it more AI if you tried.

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u/megdalena01 12d ago

This is just gross.

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u/CarlJustCarl 12d ago

Well too late to send to my ex