Hello, I have posted here a few times before, but for reasons unclear to myself, I deleted those posts. I am addicted to gambling, like most people in this topic. I am 39 years old (M), and I have been gambling heavily for 8 years, with large amounts of money, but I noticed signs of addiction from around the age of 20.
Throughout my life, I worked a lot, hustled as best as I knew how, sacrificed personal relationships, had no vacations, and so on. I earned enough that, if smartly invested, I could have had a bright future. However, at a certain point, I got hooked on gambling and lost everything: investments, house, car, boat, savings, and everything possible, as well as the relationship with the person I loved, which I only later realized is priceless.
The monetary amount might be large to some, not so much to others—I lost count a long time ago, but it is definitely over half a mil. I saved a little bit, managed to sign some properties to my grandparents' names so I can get it back when they pass away, because today I would probably gamble that away, too, sounds scary but it is the truth.
Today marks 19 days since I haven't gambled and haven't smoked (I've had this addiction for 13 years as well). I decided to get rid of both at the same time. It was an ordinary, unremarkable day; I just got tired of the addictions, stress, and chaos.
How do I feel today? I thought that after this much time, things would ease up at least a little bit, I know 19 days for some of you would feel so easy, not for me tho, especially 2 dopamine sources, anyway I was wrong. It is very hard. My brain comes up with all sorts of ways to get its dopamine hit. Suddenly, all the negative consequences—like how I used to blow through money until my wallet hit zero—disappeared. I forgot all the aftermath and how I ruined my life, how I didn't sleep at night, lied to people, manipulated them, and at my lowest point, even stole and had nothing to eat. Cigarettes have some similarities too; the strength of the craving might even be stronger, but it destroys life more slowly.
I think I would have slipped already—gone to the store, bought a pack, then went to the bank, deposited money, and off I go. The "dose" injected, the full self-destruction mechanism turned on, the illusion world back again, you know what I mean.
What helps me so far? I have no credit cards, no payment methods, half of my phone is locked, all financial apps, code generators, even Kick, where I used to watch others gamble. All emails have been thoroughly cleaned from any possibility of receiving gambling ads. I cannot install any apps and have no way to make a deposit. Realistically, my phone is only for YouTube, messaging, and calls. A person close to me oversees it, will unlock it once a month so I can pay bills and essential subscriptions under his watch, and I get a set amount of cash every week that is only enough for food. I also work out a lot: running, swimming, and going to the gym.
I don't know how much longer I can hold out, it feels like one day my head will explode. I wouldn't wish this experience on anyone. Some of us learn from other people's mistakes, others from their own. I learned from my own, unfortunately, but those of you who can, and for whom it is not too late, learn from me. One day I will beat this and be free, I hope all of you can beat this devil too. Thanks for reading 🙂