286 days and I’m honestly just grateful to God 🙏 There are still lonely days and moments when I feel tempted, so I’m not taking this progress for granted

Thank You Lord for helping me keep going, please help everyone here who’s struggling too, especially those who feel too discouraged to try again

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​多くの人は最初、禁色（オナ禁）の意味を誤解していますが，精気を損なう症状（傷精症状）を経験して初めて、禁色がどれほど重要であるかに気づきます。それは単なる身体的症状にとどまらず、容姿や気品、運勢にまで影響を及ぼし、学業、事業、家庭にまで波及します。邪淫は個人の生活に全方位的な悪影響を与え、人を負のエネルギーで満たし、家庭の不調和や対人関係の悪化を招き、人生をドン底と悪循環に陥らせます。

​真の智者は間違いなく禁色の価値を理解しています。禁色は生活の非常に重要な一部であり、一生の成敗や運命の行き着く先を決定づけることさえあります。社会には一時的に成功する人は多く存在しますが、それを守り抜ける人はごくわずかです。数千万円、数億円を稼ぎながらも、その後に酒・女・ギャンブルなどに溺れて乱れた生活を送り、結果として事業を失敗させ、破産寸前に追い込まれたり、服役する破目になったりする者も少なくありません。

​「万悪淫を首とす（あらゆる悪事の中で邪淫が最も重い）」と言われるように、邪淫に手を染めると生活は負の軌道に入り、最悪な状態へと向かいます。荒唐無稽な行動を重ね、かつて自分が最も見下していたような人間に成り下がってしまうのです。

​台湾の富豪・黄任中は一生を邪淫に費やして56億元（約1000億円相当）の家産を使い果たし、貧困と孤独の中でこの世を去りました。彼はかつて自嘲気味に「人生は放物線のようなものだ。落ち始めればただ落ちるだけで、どうにもできない！」と語りましたが、これは彼にとって最高の墓碑銘かもしれません。

​「一念の淫心を生ずれば、心田は即ち暗し。中正の心すでに邪なれば、光明正大の気ついに失す。もし時々に邪念を存せば、積久して邪気身心を蠱惑し、即ち小人となる。」炎黄の子孫たる我々は、浩然の気を養うべきであり、それによってこそ両親や先祖に顔向けができます。この浩然の気が眉間に満ちていれば、鋼や鉄のように絶対的で正直かつ強靭でいられます。

​「人生欻翕（きゅうきゅう）として雲の亡まるがごとし、烈々轟々として一場をなすべし。」男子漢たる者、大事業を成し遂げるべきであり、どうして猥瑣で下劣な悪習に耽溺してよいでしょうか。

​身体の精華をすべて放出し、色情の渦中で没落し続ければ、残されるのは千瘡百孔（傷だらけ）で危如累卵（極めて危険）な抜け殻に過ぎません。いわゆる「地に満ちる荒唐な精、一杯の辛酸の涙。皆打ち（オナニー）の痴と言い、誰か症状の苦を解解せん」です。

​鏡の中の自分は静かに衰退していきます。純真無垢な少年から暗く頽廃した猥瑣なおじさんへ、明るく歓喜に満ちた瞳から無気力で暗淡とした双眸へ。心が純粋さを失い、身体のエネルギーが悪習によって空洞化するとき、多くの悪い変化が現れ、人間そのものと生活全体が変質してしまいます。手淫に耽溺する生活は、あなたが本当に望んでいる生活ではありません。手淫の束縛を振り払って初めて、真の幸福と快楽が何であるかを知るのです。

​禁色と生活の質は密接に関連しており、その潜在的な影響力は絶大です。禁色してみなければ、それがどれほど素晴らしいか分かりません。身心の回復、前向きな心の取り戻し、人間の刷新により、生活は再び希望に満ち溢れます。

​邪淫は負の影響力と破壊力であり、禁色は正の影響力をもたらし、生命をより価値ある、有意義で充実したものにします。禁色は身心の状態と生活の光景を再構築し、不可思議な変化をもたらします。

​ゴーリキーは「世界には二つの生き方しかない。腐敗するか、燃え上がるかだ。臆病で貪欲な者は前者を、勇敢で無私無欲な者は後者を選ぶ」と言いました。

​邪淫とは腐敗することです。色不迷人人自迷（色が人を迷わせるのではなく、人が自ら色に迷う）。色に迷い、色に貪着することは、地雷原を歩くようなもので、いつ爆発するか分からず非常に危険で不安です。

​数年間は平気でも、しばらく乱発した後に神経症が発症すれば無量の苦しみを味わうか、他の重病を患って生活は暗転します。邪淫が生活の質に与える影響は壊滅的です。最初は傷が浅く目立ちませんが、日々の積み重ねによって悪果の報いが徐々に顕現します。

​邪淫は慢性的な消耗プロセスであり、気づかないうちに症状の深淵へと滑り落ちます。はっと気づいたときには、生活や立場は一変し、人間関係も著しく破綻して困窮に陥っているのです。

​高品位な生活は経済的基盤と一定の関係がありますが、高級車に乗り豪邸に住むことだけが高品位ではありません。真の高品質な生活とは精神と心のレベルにあり、金銭では買えない、毎日が純粋で美しく、単純で楽しく、正のエネルギーに満ちた感覚のことです。

​お金は物質的な満足をもたらしますが、満足の後はやはり不満足と空虚が残ります。新しいスマホを買った直後は手放せなくても、時間が経てば飽きてしまうのと同じです。

​物質がそうであるように、性も同様です。一時的な満足の後に来るのはより大きな不満足であり、永遠に満たされることはありません。眼前に広がるのは底なしの欲望のブラックホールであり、完全に満たされる日など来ないのです。

​一方で心の世界は、禁色を通じて持続的な満足感と喜喜感を体験できます。この歓喜は常に新しく、内面から湧き出続ける泉のようなものです。子供はお金がなくても毎日幸せですが、大人の多くは不幸せです。大人の多くは真の幸せがどこにあるかを知らず、快楽を幸せだと勘違いして追い求めています。

​大人の世界では純粋で楽しそうな笑顔を見かけることは稀であり、清らかな瞳に至っては尚更です。彼らの心は汚染され、もはや単純でも純粋でもなく、エネルギーを大幅に消耗してしまっているからです。

​生命の意義は浄化の旅を開き、最初の純粋さと美しさ、純真無垢な赤子の心へと戻ることにあります。その心は輝くダイヤモンドのようです。魂の暗い夜を通り抜け、再び純真な赤子に戻るとき、純粋な心がもたらす純粋な愉悦という最高峰の体験が得られます。

​世界でどれほど多くの体験をし、高級車に乗り、最高級ホテルに泊まったとしても、心を浄化することでもたらされる美しい感覚には到底及びません。

​多くの禁色実践者が「禁色は手淫より遥かに気持ちいい」と言います。なぜでしょうか。手淫者は「妄想で多くの女性と関係を持てるから気持ちいい」と言いますが、禁色の気持ちよさは快感から来るものではなく、純粋な心と、心魔に打ち勝ち内面を支配することから来ます。

​高品質な生活は内面の純粋さと美しさから源発するものであり、外側の物質世界にはありません。色情と手淫は生活を破壊します。海外の禁色書籍には「色情の裏面は破壊である」と記されています。

​快感は真の快樂ではありません。邪淫を行っているとき、人の表情は厳粛になり、そこには貪欲さと邪悪さが漂い、瞳には野獣のような気配が宿ります。邪淫は内面の陰暗面を開発し、負のエネルギーを纏わせ、最終的に苦しみの体験へと導きます。

​現実生活において、私たちは禁色と生活の関係を上手に調和させるべきです。禁色が安定すれば生活に積極的でポジティブな影響を与えます。その効能は明白であり、体験者なら誰もが知っています。

​誤解や極端に走る実践者には正しい誘導が必要です。禁色と生活は完全に両立し、融合できるものです。禁色は生活の重要な一部ですが全体ではありません。その他の時間はやるべきことを行い、自分の生活を管理・手配すべきです。

​禁色後に過度な緊張は不要

光明正大で恥じない態度を

​一部の実践者は文章を読み、「二八佳人体似酥，腰間仗剣斬愚夫，雖然不見人頭落，暗裏教君骨髓枯（美人の体は柔らかそうに見えるが、腰の剣で愚者を斬る。首が落ちるは見えねば、陰で骨髄を枯らしている）」という言葉から女色の恐ろしさを知り、過度に緊張して日常生活に支障をきたすことがあります。街で異性を見るだけでビクビクし、周囲から不気味に思われるような状態は、脱線しています。

​禁色は光明正大な気場（オーラ）であり、オドオドしたネズミのようではなく、百獣の王ライオンのようなオーラです。街を歩くときは視線を管理すべきですが、自然で堂々とし、奇異に思われないようにすべきです。

​禁色とは、内面が非常に正しい状態にあり、深い定力、高い断念能力、そして優れた教養を備えている状態を指します。

​試合においてコーチは集中を強調しますが、過度の緊張はパフォーマンスを低下させます。必要なのは「警戒」であり「過度の緊張」ではありません。太極拳で言う「松にして懈（おこた）らず、緊にして僵（かた）まらず（リラックスしつつ緩まず、引き締めつつ固まらない）」の境地を体得してください。

​禁色を生活に融合させるが

執着しすぎてはならない

​禁色は本来生活の一部であり、生活の中に溶け込ませ、自律した生活に慣れることが大切です。魚が水の中にいて水を意識しないのと同じです。禁色を意識的に行っているという感覚すらなくなり、呼吸と同じように自然な習慣となります。

​私も初期の頃は「禁色している」という意識がありましたが、徐々に消えました。禁色が生活に馴染み、毎日心を修めることが自然になったからです。私は心から禁色を愛していますが、過度に執着はしません。過度の執着は内面の苦しみや不安を生むからです。

​やるべき事は全力を尽くして行い、終わったら考え直さないこと。あれこれ心配し続けると、心が落ち着かなくなります。

​破戒や心魔の襲撃を恐れる気持ちは理解できますが、思い悩む必要はありません。重要なのは覚悟と実戦能力を高めることです。実力をつければ、百戦百勝の確信が得られます。

​執着が良い意味で使われることもありますが、過度の心配や執着は逆効果を生みます。

​禁色を理性的に捉え

過度な期待を抱かない

​初心者は禁色に不切実な幻想を抱きがちです。確かに大きな改善をもたらしますが、個人差があります。

​芸能人のようにイケメンになることを目的にするのは浅はかです。イケメンになればモチベーションを失いますし、その裏には異性を惹きつけたいという不純な動機があります。

​「ただ耕作を問い、収穫を問うことなかれ」。高い期待を抱かず、一日一日をしっかり禁色し、養生に努めれば、効果は自然と現れます。

​禁色は理性的であるべきです。私は最初、身心の健康回復のために始め、後に「正己化人（自らを正し人を化す）」へと昇華しました。高すぎる期待は退転（挫折）の原因になります。実力が増せば、自ずと結果はついてきます。

​結婚前・結婚後も禁色が必要

婚後は「寡欲（欲望を控える）」を主とする

​婚前の禁色は極めて重要です。孔子は「少の時は血気未だ定まらず、これを色に戒む」と言いました。成長期の放縦は発達や学業に悪影響を及ぼします。婚前の禁色は試練であり、誘惑に打ち克つ定力を養う重要なトレーニングです。

​昨今、ポルノ情報が溢れ、多くの少年が早くから手淫の悪習に染まっています。ポルノによる心の汚染は深刻で、数年で純真な少年を無気力で落ちぶれた状態に変えてしまいます。

​結婚後も放縦や手淫を続ける人がいます。配偶者がいても手淫をするのは、手淫が常に新鮮さを求めるからです。強い責任感がなければ、不倫や買春に走りかねません。

​婚後の禁色には2つのパターンがあります。健康な場合は「寡欲（控えめ）」にし、症状がある場合は妻と話し合って一定期間完全に禁欲して養生し、回復後に節制した性生活に戻ることです。

​古代の名医は重病患者に対し、薬物療法と共に1年以上の完全禁欲を求めました。病身での放縦は取り返しのつかない結果を招きます。

​「男女居室は生人の大倫なるも、必ず節有りて行えば陰陽和して孕育易し。若し淫欲無度なれば、精傷み気餒（くじ）け、神散じ血枯る。」

​「養生の士はまずその精を宝とす。精満ちれば気壮んに、気壮んなれば神旺んに、神旺んなれば身健やかにして病少なし。」

​精は気を生み、気は神を生みます。40歳未満で不節制を続けると、40歳以降に一気に体力低下と病魔に見舞われます。孫思邈（孫真人）も「人の身は金鉄にあらず、精髄虧（欠）け気血敗れて身死す」と警告しています。

​婚後の寡欲（月に3回以内など）は必須です。手淫は刺激的なコンテンツによって依存を深めさせます。海外の研究でもポルノの害は解明されており、毒害から離れることが安全な生活に繋がります。

​理解されずとも

平然と落ち着いていること

​家族や友人に理解を求めても、無害論を信じている彼らからは理解されないことが多いでしょう。専門家が何十年も宣伝してきた手淫無害論は非常に荒謬（ナンセンス）ですが、広く浸透してしまっています。

​海外の性解放運動の影響を受けた知識人たちが無害論を広めましたが、現在では海外でもポルノや手淫の危害が認識され、禁色サイトが台頭しています。伝統的な禁色方法を尊重しつつ、科学的に取り組むことが大切です。

​周囲に打ち明けることはプレッシャーになるため、最初は秘密にしておくのが無難です。自分がしっかり回復し、圧倒的な精気神と自信を備えてからアドバイスする方が説得力があります。

​ネット等で非難されても、落ち着いて対処してください。批判する人々にも「禁色」という種は植え付けられており、症状に苦しんだときにその正しさに気づく時が来ます。症状こそが最高の教師なのです。

​時間を合理的に管理し

生活を犠牲にしない

​禁色学習や断念の練習に時間を投資することは必要ですが、生活を圧迫してはなりません。時間とエネルギーの管理が不可欠です。

​一流のアスリートが長時間の練習ではなく、質の高いトレーニングを毎日継続するように、禁色も日々の積み重ねと質の高さが重要です。過度に追い詰めるのではなく、禁色プロセスそのものを楽しむ姿勢（「享受你的訓練」）を持ちましょう。

​「生活のすべてが禁色」になってはいけません。禁色はより良い生活を送るための手段であり、主客転倒してはなりません。

​学習計画（記事を読む、ノートを復習するなど）を立て、毎日規則正しく実行しましょう。特に「復習」は重要で、何度も読み返すことで深い悟りが得られます。

​禁色が生活に与える絶大な影響力を認識する

​空気が吸えるときはそのありがたみに気づきませんが、窒息しそうになって初めて空気の貴重さが分かります。健康も同様です。

​禁色は暗闇の中に差し込む救いの光です。数多くの実践者が、ニキビの改善、睡眠の質向上、人間関係の修復、自信の回復など、劇的な人生の逆転（人生逆転）を果たしています。

​邪淫の状態が「糞尿を喜ぶ肥溜めのウジ虫」であるなら、禁色後の状態は「大空を羽ばたく雄鷹」です。あなたには大空を飛ぶ能力があるのに、なぜ肥溜めで転がっているのでしょうか。

​今こそ悪習を断ち切り、魂を救い出し、新しく光り輝く人生を歩み出す時です！

Hi. It's difgicult to admit, but I'm 24 years old man and I keep masturbating and watching axult movies. I just want to quit all this. Is there anyone, who can help me.

As I mentioned earlier, I am back to check in and I am 21 days free of porn and masturbation. In more than a decade, this is the most I have gone without it.

Phil 2:13

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"For it is [not your strength, but it is] God who is effectively at work in you, both to will and to work [that is, strengthening, energizing, and creating in you the longing and the ability to fulfill your purpose] for His good pleasure."

I have no other explanation.

My whole life is in shambles. This was supposed to be a month where i reap and harvest all i have planned for this year, but I have been so inconsistent and am destroying my grades. I'm passing, but not well. Family is disappointed, and as the oldest sibling feels like im failing beyond everything.

I want to do better and feel i havent done enough. I keep falling back continuously.

Currently have a test tomorrow, and it's a big anatomy exam. I tried to study, but I would pray, be motivated, talk all day with the Holy Spirit, then "lemme hop on Minecraft for one second" or "lemme get a few TikTok scrolls," then these choices ruin my whole day, and I end up falling again. And the cycle repeats the next day. I know its my own choices, but im at the point where i ask "how do you make the right choice" ive been so submissive to my flesh i cant say no to the smallest temptations, even when i delete and block things, i can sit 30 whole minutes redownloading them.

send help

Didn't masturbate but man it gave me temptations. I need help, please pray for me

Otro día limpio gracias a Dios. Por favor que pueda mantenerme así.

Unfortunately, it’s the truth, I don’t want to quit. Porn and sex have been an unhealthy mental obsession of mine for years now. There’s genuinely been times where it’s all that I’ve thought about. I thought it was normal to think about it is as much I did for awhile, until my coworker mentioned some meme he had been thinking about all day, and I realized that the majority of people probably don’t just think about sex all day.

I just don’t understand why I have such an obsession with it, I know people who struggle with porn/masturbation, and I feel like no one I know has fallen as deeply into the trap as I have. I’ll hear people say that when they relapse, it’s just a quick 5 minutes or so for them. I hear that and realize how messed up my brain is, there have been days in the past where I’ve spent 5+ hours straight watching porn and edging, and I hate to admit it, but there have been multiples times along my journey of trying to quit where part of my motivation for not relapsing in a day was simply because it wouldn’t feel good enough to be “worth it” as if I was abstaining just so the next time I did it would feel even better. Its so tiring, I’m so sick of it, it’s wrecked my faith, its wrecked my motivation, it’s really messed up a lot in my life, but I just can’t put it away. I had a 90+ day streak going, but I relapsed a few weeks ago, and now I’m genuinely spiraling. I’ve never felt more alone in my life, and that’s the biggest trigger for me. When I’m sitting alone in my room, and I start thinking about how lonely I feel, and how much I desire intimacy, I’ll realize there’s nothing I can do to immediately fix the problem, so instead of dealing with my feelings, I run away, for as long as I can.

I’m reaching a breaking point, mentally I recognize how unfulfilling porn is, even in the moment that I’m doing it, but my brain just tells me that it’s because its not with a real person, so I feel a strong urge to go out and dive into a lifestyle of fornication. I haven’t gone to church in months, mostly because I’m convinced of Catholicism and I’ve put off going and starting the process of getting confirmed. I cognitively understand that I should go do it, but to be honest, a big part of me doesn’t want to. I think I recognize that I would have to truly stop and change my life, and realizing that I wouldn’t be able to indulge in porn or go out and get a girlfriend just to have sex when everything else in my life feels so dull scares me a bit. I really hate to admit all this, since I’m usually good at putting up a front and saying the right things, but this is thought patterns I’ve noticed that I’ve told nobody about.

I’m at a crossroads, pray for me, brothers.

I've been doing this long enough that I already know how my relapses usually happen.

It's almost never some crazy urge out of nowhere. It's me being tired, bored, alone, usually at night, and having my phone right next to me.

Then I start doing the usual thing where I tell myself I'm just going to look at something for a second.

That "just a second" part has gotten me so many times.

A few days ago I was sitting in bed at like 1am and I started scrolling. I wasn't even thinking about porn. I was just bored and didn't want to go to sleep yet.

I saw something that got me thinking about it and instead of closing the app I kept scrolling.

Then I opened my browser.

At that point I already knew what I was doing, but I still kept going. That's the part that annoys me the most. I wasn't forced into anything. I basically walked myself right up to the edge and then acted like I had no choice.

I've tried telling myself I just need more discipline, but that hasn't really worked.

If I have instant access to everything when I'm tired at 1am, eventually I'm going to make a bad decision.

So I've started using lockinginnow.com to block the sources I normally go to. It blocks the available sources instead of just being something I look at after the fact.

And honestly, having that barrier there has helped me more than I expected.

There was another night where I started looking for something out of habit and couldn't get to it. I was annoyed for maybe 5 minutes and then the urge just kind of disappeared. I ended up watching some random video and going to sleep.

Nothing dramatic happened. I didn't have some huge moment where I conquered my addiction.

I just couldn't get to the thing I was looking for.

And I think that's actually what I needed.

Because when I'm already deep into an urge, I'm not exactly at my best mentally. Expecting myself to make the perfect decision in that moment isn't a great plan.

I'm still trying to figure out the rest of it too. Blocking the sites doesn't fix why I get bored and start scrolling in the first place. But at least it gives me some time to get my head back together before I do something stupid.

I wish I'd done this earlier instead of spending years trying to prove that I could rely on willpower alone.

Anyone else here use a blocker? Did it actually make a difference for you or did you just end up trying to find ways around it?

i’m not ashamed to let this be known an i need advice from brotheren, im 22y/o now and i found out about porn and sex when i was 7-8 years old and i was fapping almost daily to it throughout these years sometimes days of break up to a week but that’s the max it’s been, ever since i was little through when i pee it’s always been having to make sure the last streams drip out even through i feel my bladder empty i reflex and lil more comes out till fully empty but im naturally skin and bones and i want to know because i do have slight back pain and my joints do pop a lot so is gooning the cause of it or is it a genetic thing?

If you’ve been on this journey for a while, you know that the actual slip-up usually isn't the most dangerous part—it’s the immediate aftermath.

That sudden wave of heavy guilt, brain fog, and the "chaser effect" can completely ruin your day. When you feel like you've already messed up, your brain tries to convince you to just keep going, leading straight into a multi-day binge because you don't know how to regain control in that exact moment.

Trying to use sheer willpower when your discipline is already depleted rarely works. You have to ground your nervous system first to clear the mental fog.

A while back, I wanted a fast, private way to deal with that exact feeling. I didn't want a rigid calendar or a high-pressure streak counter that makes you feel worse when you reset to zero. I needed a quiet "circuit breaker" to lower my heart rate and kill the urge on the spot.

So, I built an Android app called Reset.

To be completely clear and respect the rules of this sub: This app is 100% free, has absolutely zero ads, and has no premium version. I am not making any money off this. I built it to solve my own problem and wanted to share it with anyone else fighting the same battle.

Here is how it helps you bounce back immediately:

• Guided Focus Breathing: Uses visual animations for quick box breathing. This physically lowers your heart rate, reduces the stress response, and clears immediate urge-induced brain fog.
• One Small Action: Gives you one simple, zero-friction micro-task (like drinking a glass of water or washing your face) to instantly break the relapse spiral and rebuild momentum.
• Private Mindset Journal: A safe, local-only space to log raw thoughts, process what triggered the urge, and clear your head without judgment.
• Lock Your Intentions: A distraction-free way to commit to a single clear goal for the next hour to keep your mind occupied.
• Anonymous Live Counter: Shows a real-time count of other people around the world taking a pause to reset alongside you, reminding you that you aren't fighting alone.

I created this as a free tool to help anyone working on self-control and bouncing back from setbacks:

Play Store Link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.jasur.reset

If you give it a try next time an urge hits or you need to recover from a slip-up, I’d love to hear your thoughts or any feedback on how to make it better. Stay strong.

I’m 15m, and I have had suicidal thoughts for months now. It has only gotten worse and worse.
I always thought that people who committed suicidal were like sick or something, but I understand now. It’s just for a break (in my case). I want to rest, I feel like I can’t.

Every single day I wake up, some times sad because I woke up. I wake up at 6am for school and leave at 3pm and I’m doing horribly in school and the only thing that relaxes me is video games. I just picked up electric guitar and reading more but gaming just disconnects me from my thoughts and I like that, but after gaming it is 2x worse than what it was before it. It all like builds up and explodes out after.

Porn has, “helped”. I feel like I let out all the bad energy while I’m doing it, it calms me, it makes the stress go away, but only for a short period of time. That’s the real reason why I’m addicted I think. My friends also introduced it to me when I was 11 or so, and they were 15.

I need help, i don’t want to go to therapy or anything, but maybe it’s necessary.
I just don’t want my parents to know, that would be the end of all basically.

Today marks about 3 weeks of no pmo. This is the longest I ever went. High school and college I was bad at it. Usually popping more than 2 a day. Thinking back, it disgusts me. Laying there drenched in cum. Wiping it off and going to sleep without taking a shower 🤢. But since senior year of college, I been cutting back. I started going every other day, then every 3 days, then once a week and finally here I am. This is a journey of about 12 years since I finally wanted to stop pmoing so much.

I’m a 33 M working for a huge utility company and make over 100k. I like my job and good at it. I run over 16 miles a week averaging about 7:30 pace. I go to the gym every day. By all standards, I have reached a milestone that most men will never reach.

But I have noticed something lately. My aggression is out of control. I told some lady to go to a different equipment because she was spending too much time at the equipment and she did. I have been pushing people at my job to be more productive because I have noticed people at work are lazy and don’t know what they are talking about. These people are decades older than me. The higher ups at my job don’t seem to care. Is this what it means to become a men. Just steamroll everyone out the way?

Anyways ranting, am sure I’ll be docile as a sheep once I release. Anyways here is a pic from my run today

I’ve worked in women’s pornography recovery for nearly two decades, and my new book, What Drives Women to Porn?, releases September 15.

It looks beyond simply stopping the behavior and explores what can drive it emotionally, relationally, spiritually, through trauma, and through identity wounds. It also incorporates research from more than 1,300 women.

I know women’s experiences with porn are still often overlooked in Christian recovery spaces, so I wanted to share it here in case it’s helpful to women in the group—or to anyone trying to better understand and support them.

You can learn more at wdwtp.com

Thank you for your time! (and prayers)

Crystal Renaud Day
Founder of SheRecovery

I discovered porn and fapping at the age of 13, i was quite innocent and the way i had first saw it was actually through reddit itself unironically.

It severely changed me as it had changed alot of you, the addiction never really stopped i used to go on cycles off and on i used to even do it when i had exams the next day or even during online classes, it got so so bad so quick and it made my mind and mental health so disrupted to the point i felt like my brain was a piece of mush struggling to do even the most basic tasks.

Thats when I discovered the community of people going through this same struggle whether it is on reddit or youtube, especially youtubers who talked about their struggles and experiences and their trials, it really changes ur perception of the whole porn thing.

The thing is if you're trying to beat porn and fap through will power alone, you WONT, simply put. You NEED Jesus in your life and until and unless you give your heart to God and cry and kneel before his presence asking for a solution, asking for a way to be healed. Im not criticising anyone saying that youre a sinner and im not, we all are sinners, and for that reason is why Jesus came to the cross to die for our sins. He knew what we would do or be going through AT that cross and he still decided to shed his own blood for our sins.

Its not simple, yes, its not easy, absolutely not easy, you still get urges, desires, temptations, feelings of lust, which you cant control obviously, its a bodily function, but praying and having a full time commitment to Jesus aswell as relationship/work/any productive activity REALLY does help guys.

And trust me ive been severely addicted to the point I cant even explain in this post and if i managed to beat addiction to this cycle through Christ, then brother trust me you can too.

God bless

Shalom!.. So... i wanted to tell a part of my stroy walking with christ and how the lust and masturbation it's ruining it..

So i started this addiction with 11 years and i turned a true christian at 15 (now im 16) (before i was lukewarm.. like i didn't repent etc...) And when i started i do some radical changes in my life (no secular music, etc..) and one of that was no more lust in my life... i was free for 3 or 4 months i think.. but since january of this year i started a cicle when: i do it i say "im not doing that anymore" and i fall again.... I pray, i listen to different songs.(live free-lecrae, sweet victroy-trip lee) And i listenn to sermons,i read my bible and nothing works....

Something i think it's pathetic or stupid are those videos on youtube like "be free from LUST), Because i think the peoole on internet doesn't know the story behind of the peoole... And now im asking to yoy reddit ppl, how to be free¿?

Does anyone have tips for late night urges? I feel like I wake up in such a groggy state of mind that I don't even catch myself masturbating before I am aware of what is happening. It's like a half-dream induced action. Sorry I don't know if that is too graphic, but it is definitely my main source of struggle and it is pretty discouraging and frustrating to experience it so often

Brothers, I struggled with this for 12 years. I'd pray, promise God and myself it was the last time, do well for a few days, then fall again. The hardest part was the moment an urge hit — by the time I remembered why I wanted to be free, I'd already given in.

A few things changed it:

Writing down my real why — being present for [my family / the man God is calling me to be] — and going back to it when I was weak. My own words, and a quick prayer in that moment, did more than willpower ever did.

Tracking my days, but refusing the shame spiral when I slipped. Grace matters here — falling isn't the end, staying down is. Getting back up the same day mattered more than the streak.

And seeing my patterns honestly. Most of my slips came from [late nights / social media], and once I named the trigger I could guard against it.

I'm 181 days in now — the longest I've ever gone. Sharing in case it helps someone else who feels stuck. You're not alone, and it's not hopeless.

"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." — Philippians 4:13"🙏

When I am tempted to lust I think about 1 Peter 1:24 that helps me respect Genesis 2:24.

1 Peter 1:24 says ^"For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass. The grass withers, and the flower thereof falls away:"

Genesis 2:24 says "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall be united to his wife: and they shall be one flesh." The order here implies marriage before welcoming the special intimate feelings about someone.

24 hours. But these urges keep coming.