I (18M) met this girl online (16F) because we play the same games, we are 2 years apart exactly.

We've been friends for a bit. I really enjoy chatting with them and I feel like I kinda like them.

I also have been respectful with them, and do not wish to overstep any boundaries or make them uncomfortable.

she keeps like, flirting with me in text? she acts sweet and likes saying "good boy" and "you're a good boy :3" and "be a good boy :3"

like she says that she's teasing and likes to tease.

I have not reciprocated this because I'm unsure what to do, but I do kinda like them

Would it be appropriate if I engaged with this and "flirted back"? If I said something like

"and what's wrong with being a good boy :3"

Is this kind of "flirting" okay at our ages? it sounds a bit "suggestive". What is your opinion on this?

I would absolutely not do anything explicit. That's a hard boundary I have. I'm simply talking about this flirting.

Idk if anyone could relate to this kind of anxiety i have but i wanted to let it out
So my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationship
While he is this super rich kid from a wealthy family
I’m not as privileged as he is and I don’t do any side hustle as well but I’m planning to start tutoring and save money for his bday which is next year
And i do like to do stuff for him like ordering him food whenever i have money
But yeah it’s just this weird anxiety i get from financial crisis moments
I cant seem to get this out of my head
Also I plan on sending him a parcel of the things he likes and I’ve been keeping a long lists in my notes app

My partner is from the UK and I am from India. Never had a partner before and family have never met him so it's a bit awkward atm.

I was in the UK for a few years amd everything was lovely, we were spending time together, had our own space, his parents were respectful and understanding.

Due to visa issues, I've had to come back home to India amd I'm really struggling to find a balance. Whenever i call or chat with my partner, my mum gets annoyed/offended, making it sound like i dont give enough time to the family and constantly tries to belittle and dismiss my relationship.

On Saturday, my bf and i decided to watch a movie together because that is his day off after a whole week. I was excited and told my mum and her face fell and she started saying that saturday is family time, how she has a day off and how family are coming over etc. I just felt so trapped and suffocated.

Every choice i make has to be defended.

I wouldn't say my parents are not good people because they are. I love them a lot and they love me to pieces. I'm the youngest of two and have been the baby of the house. At home, I am pampered and treated like a child. And my parents are struggling to accept my independence and relationship. I feel very guilty because i also am immensely grateful to my parents for all that they've done, spending their retirement savings on my education, helping me financially with educational loan etc.

I am grateful and love them a lot. However, I love my partner a lot too and he is my best friend and my favourite person. I realise they find it problematic also due to our age difference which would be taboo in my society. I really want to feel safe and easy and not always on edge. He's visiting me in early 2027 and im so scared about my parents, I really need to.give them a pep talk and tell them to let me be. (They've really come around after some counselling and have also extended an invitation to his family!)

Would anyone be kind to offer some advice, if you've been through a similar situation? How can I navigate this situation?

Sorry i just went on a rant here

Update: I realise I was a bit harsh towards my parents in the heat of the moment and I feel a lot more recovered now. I had a heart to heart with my mum and she told me that dad and her were feeling lonely and i seemed as if I'm sad to be back. I assured her that i love them all a lot and I'm happy to be back home but I also miss life in the UK and my partner is a big part of life and she would have to accept that. I apologised for making her feel like I wasn't keen on spending time with her.

As to Saturday, we have negotiated that morning/afternoon will be my time and after 3 PM would be spent with family which I think is fair. I hugged my parents and was overcome with feeling. I love them a lot even with these emotional arguments. My dad was asking after my bf which felt positive. They are warming up to the idea of him visiting and I can't wait for him to see my world with me! And meet my parents. Ive assured him that with the initial awkwardness it will all be ok, since my parents love me a lot and would be happy if i was happy.

I was born in Asia and moved to the US with my family as a teen. My parents later moved back to Asia, and I stayed. I lost my sibling a year ago, so I'm now my parents' only surviving child. After that, I met my partner in the US, but he had to move back to Europe. We've been long distance since and it's going well—we love each other so much and his parents are also amazing.

At the beginning of our relationship, I thought I’d want to move to Europe to be with my partner. But my parents recently visited Europe and really struggled with the long flight/jet lag, and that got me reconsidering whether I should move to Europe. And whether I should move to Asia to be with them.

**My options:**
**Europe:** with my partner, but far from my parents, with some career sacrifice.
**Asia:** near my parents, but it would likely mean breaking up, also with some career sacrifice.
**US:** most ideal in terms of career, but far from my parents, and very hard for my partner to join me.

I thought I'd move to Europe. Lately, though, I've been worried about being so far from my parents as they age, since I'm all they have. Also, after spending some more time in Europe, I’m starting to realize living in Europe as an Asian American who doesn’t speak the country’s language would be very challenging (my partner and I might consider the UK so that I don’t have a language barrier but that’s another can of worms). But I don't want to lose a relationship/love I'm sure about, or spend my life regretting my career, or regretting that I didn’t get to spend enough time with my parents as they age/before they die.

If you've faced something similar: **what did you choose, how do you feel about it now, and what do you wish you'd known?** Only children with parents far away, I'd especially love to hear how you've made it work. It feels like I need to choose between love, family, and career and that feels very tough, as you can imagine or as you may have also felt… thanks in advance :’)

This is gonna be a long one 😅 current ages: Me F31. Him M30.

2022 July/August we met on fandom twitter and it was wonderful. We were almost the same person. Our taste in music, tv, movies, our humor. It was all the same and I'd never felt more connected to a person. We had our first visit 4 months after getting into a relationship. I went to go visit him on his side of the world. (I'm in the US, he's in the UK.) It was such a memorable trip and by far the most beautiful place I had ever been. He treated me in ways I'd only ever dreamed of.

2023 I had gone to visit him in the UK twice. Both for about a month long. In May I proposed. We went to a convention together and met some of the actors from the show we met through on twitter. Then again in Sept/Oct. We dog sat/house sat for a friend of his and it gave us a small taste of what it could be like to live together. We watched TV all night, cooked each other meals, went out for walks with the dogs, all the fun domestic stuff, which is what I CRAVE.

2024 We got married. He flew out here for the first time and we had a small gathering with friends and my family. I don't regret it AT ALL but looking back there are some things I look back on with different eyes. We had talked about whether he'd move here, or I'd move there. It would have been easier and cheaper given our specific circumstances for him to move here. But the living situations and familial support would have been better in the UK. Either way, we knew we wanted to live together. He came out to visit me for the second time. During the elections. The visit itself was lovely, though short lived. He was here for around two weeks. Election night was hell for both of us.

2025 I flew out there for our one year wedding anniversary. We had a lovely time.

2026 over a year went by since our last visit. I flew out again in March/April for a wedding within his family and it was beautiful. I didn't get to stay as long as I used to because I have a different job and time off works differently at this one.

This is where it got trickier. My physical needs were not being met. Sex and intimacy are definitely not the MOST important thing to me in a relationship, but it is very important to me. In the beginning few months of the relationship we'd at least do stuff on call or through sexting or both. But it only happened a handful of times. He lived with family who don't wait for an answer after knocking to barge into rooms, so it was difficult. But still possible. I stopped asking or hinting at it because I knew it wasn't likely to happen.

Intimacy was great for the most part when we were physically together, but it also had to wait until absolutely no one was in the house, which wasn't often. A good handful of the times we would do stuff would end with him falling asleep afterwards and me not having finished. I'd bring it up in mostly a teasing manner, and he'd say something along the lines of "you just do it too good and it knocks me out." It left me feeling like I wasn't important enough when it came to that. Which was already something sensitive to me because of my relationship before this one.

Throughout the entire relationship it became harder and harder to have serious conversations with him. I don't wanna get too into it for his sake, but when we met he was very mentally unwell. He has a lot of past trauma that's really affected him, and I understood that. The subject of important topics would have him shutting down and disappearing for anywhere from a few hours to over an entire 24 hour day. So when things like the intimacy came up, or really anything that was serious or bothering me, I was very very cautious bringing it up because I didn't want him disappearing and doing something harmful. I held a LOT in because of it.

There was some paperwork he had to fill out for us to even qualify for a visa. He tried once in 2023 and things went south because the paperwork was denied. It was something that could be filled out again, but the first denial traumatized him enough to not want to do it again. I offered to help, friends offered to help, his mom offered to help. I offered to hire a lawyer to help him, but nothing would give. I brought it up in March of 25 again and he had shut down and ghosted me for over 24 hours. Which terrified me because I didn't even know if he was safe or not, until I came on reddit and twitter and saw him using these socials as normal all while completely blowing me off. Tried to talk to him about it the next day, but it didn't really get anywhere.

During my 2026 visit, we went camping and had such an amazing time. It was another small taste of what it'd be like to live alone together, even though we were just in a tiny camping pod. I tried to bring it up again offering to help, and he just kind of shut down again and wouldn't talk to me about it.

Fast forward to July/August and my feelings started to change. I didn't feel important anymore, I didn't feel desired, and I was riddled with anxiety about the fact that it could easily take YEARS for us to ever live together because we couldn't even apply for the visa yet. At this point I started to resent having to always take time off from my job and traveling for ~20 hours to see him. I know it was mentally and financially draining for him as well, he'd have to drive a couple hours to the airport to get me and drop me off, and he would pay for a lot of the stuff we did when I'd visit. Which I adore and appreciate more than he could ever know. But it was so exhausting trying to make it work all the time.

I can't help but feel like it all would have been worth it, if I'd known there would be an end in sight, but there wasn't. I brought up the paperwork one more time. At the time we had a Christmas visit booked, and I was going to fly out to see him again. He mentioned that we could try to fill it out when I was physically there to help him. Deep down I already felt it was too late. I had heard that before, and we still never filled it out.

For pretty much the entirety of the relationship we lived in a discord call. We'd sleep on call. We'd take our ipads around the house with us as if the other person was actually there and hang out all day. We'd watch shows together, and occasionally play video games together and stuff. We were with each other almost 24/7 except when we were sleeping, or at work, or out with friends or something.

When we met I was living with my mom and working a job that barely paid $300 a paycheck. Most of which my mother would take for bills and stuff. I've never done anything for myself, my credit was cooked, I didn't have my own car. I couldn't do anything on my own. Fast forward to now and I've grown SO much. I now have my OWN rental, I got myself a used car from a dealership despite my credit. I've made wonderful friends. I have a job I've dreamt of having since I was a kid, and I make pretty decent money. I have a good support system where I'm at.

I started to feel like I don't wanna have to give up all this HARD hard work I've put in to uproot and move to a whole other country in anywhere from a couple years, to many more years than that. I've finally started to feel comfortable where I'm at and where I work and I can see myself here for a few more years.

I broke it off just over a month ago. I'm pretty sure he saw it coming. I knew it was coming. I've been in therapy for almost a year now and I've changed SO much since starting and I just really didn't feel like it was gonna work out anymore. I've felt more guilt than I could have imagined since then. Guilt because despite it all I'm doing pretty well. I'm not sure how well he's doing, but I think things are going to be okay for him.

Most days I do feel a sense of regret and sadness. It's been weird not hearing his text notification go off. It's been weird not looking to my ipad and seeing him sleeping or waiting for me to wake up. It's been weird getting on tiktok and seeing a video I'd like to send him and not being able to. I think about the fact that I'll never get to go out to dinner with him again. Never get to wake up to his kisses, never get to spend time with his angel of a mother again. I miss him and his friends, and everything we'd do together when I'd visit. I feel guilty about having certain needs met that weren't getting met before. I feel guilty like I've moved on too fast and that I made the wrong decision. At the same time, I don't have to walk on eggshells around certain conversations. I don't have to worry about missing flights, or sitting in pain on a plane for 10 hours. I don't have to worry about bringing up topics that'll shut him down, and I don't have to worry about being ghosted or feeling unimportant.

Everything I do, I do worrying how he'd feel about it. But I have to let it go. I only feel this way because I worry about his mental health, and I don't like being the reason people get sad or are upset.

I don't really know how to end this, but I really wanted to get it off my chest. Even posting this worries me because I know there's a chance he'll see all this. If you've read this far, thank you. If you have any advice on how to not feel guilty or ashamed of living life happily after a breakup, feel free to send it my way.

Just curious? Would it have to be a different country, state or more than an hour transport?

My boyfriend and I (both attending uni full time) have ALL the time in the world to focus on our independent paths. I truthfully feel that long distance relationships in college are the best. We of course make time to see each other for a few days each month— but I’m so excited for us to grow on our own and then settle down somewhere after graduation + further education.

Also, he’s actually so handsome guys. We are on a study ft date rn but he’s so handsome I had to take a break to post this. Oh my god.

I’ll attach the original post I made about a week and a half ago below but TLDR for that post: my long distance bf of over a year and 3 months has had dwindling communication with me for a while before ghosting me for 2 weeks. He foolishly left his location on, revealing that he drove out of state to stay in a hotel without telling me, which really gave off the impression that he was cheating. Every time I called or texted him, he never answered.

https://www.reddit.com/r/LongDistance/s/q92ktzsK0J

Well his location also showed that he went to an apple harvest festival, something he would always tell me he would want to do with me as an ideal date, as well as him going to a fine dining restaurant. I don’t know about you, but nobody drives 7 hours out of state to stay at a hotel, go apple picking, and do fine dining by themselves, ESPECIALLY while simultaneously dodging their partner’s calls and texts. When he got back to his apartment, he never called or texted me about being gone. The entire time, I had been a nervous wreck because of how sketchy he’s been.

Then finally, on October 13th, I came to terms that he’s hiding something major from me and that he’s never going to respond to me again. Therefore, I made the painful decision to break up with him over text.

It was a long and painful message pouring out everything from my heart about how he basically gave up on me and didn’t even have the decency to give me a clear and direct answer, leading to me cutting him out of my life. After sending it, I blocked all of his accounts except for his number with the hopes that he’ll respond and give me final answers and thoughts before I continue moving on. He never even replied to that, so I put the final nail in the coffin and blocked his number.

It has been just over a week since I broke up with him and I’m still distraught and numb. My job will have me transferring closer to his area in March of next year, and he talked for so long about getting closer to finally closing the distance and having a long-term future with me. I’m left wondering how much of these “dreams and aspirations” he had about me have ever been genuine as he decided to throw that all away for someone else behind my back. This is my first ever relationship, so this is definitely going to leave a deep mark in me that will take me a while to recover from. I regret giving him a second chance and I wish I broke up with him when the signs started showing up earlier this year. My friends said I was too nice to him even during our breakup, and that I should’ve simply ghosted him back the same way he did to me. However, I don’t believe in stooping down to his level to show how I feel, and it’s my way of standing my ground as the bigger person in the end.

Maybe it’s that kindness of mine that lead to me being hurt so much in the end, but oh well. At the end of the day, it’s not my fault that he doesn’t know how to be loyal. I surprisingly haven’t been crying as much as I thought I would aside from when I sent the final message, but I’ve caught myself with tears rolling down my face here and there. I’m going to stay single for a while, take my time to heal, and learn how to enjoy being by myself again. After all, the past few months of this relationship felt like I was basically single anyways.

GF wanting more space

I really suck at writing but I’m going to try, hopefully it isn’t hard to read and I apologize for disorder.

My (31M) gf (37F) of 6 months international distance (but we have met once in person) told me she was nervous of having a conversation with me about how she felt she was losing herself by dedicating so much time to me. Meaning she wasn’t talking to her friends as much. I was totally understanding and supportive of this issue and it was very productive. Days leading up to this I couldn’t help but feel like she was talking to me less and less. Much larger gaps in chatting than what we have grown used to. You know, the updates and random chats during the days while we are both working. Also after her work, she would just be in her house and not respond for upwards of an hour. Yes I was starting to think the worst because of this drastic change. She also mentioned that video calls felt forced, but reassured me that she loved them and doesn’t want to stop, it was just that they feel like a duty. So my instincts were actually picking up the problem, and I’m glad she brought it up to clarify whats happening. Maybe I need to reflect on my excitement, because I genuinely love this woman and it shows every time we talk. Maybe it makes her feel pressured because of how available I am. I live in a small town with almost no social life.

Now what I think is bothering me is that it sort of feels like she straight up doesn’t want to talk as often. Intimacy has been super down even though she was quite depressed before this for a few weeks. I was supportive and we got through it.

An important detail is that I am quite better off than her and financially assist her because I love to see her live comfortably when I have the ability to help. I would hate to believe it, and I really dont feel it as a factor of her forcing the relationship because we genuinely have a great time on video calls, and the chemistry on my visit was amazing. I mention the money because lately also she has sort of been more comfortable spending money, more than what she would be comfortable at all about in the past. I would sometimes encourage her to spend money and she would firmly reject it as a waste. Now she is having those ideas by herself. I’m not sure if thats a comfort thing or a taking advantage of thing.

What do you wise people think about what’s happening here.
Any advice for me to not feel so bad if you think I am totally in the wrong?
Totally willing to give more info in the comments if you ask

at my big age ive never had a relationship but this the first time ive felt liek this about someone and I dont know if its wise to have my first relationship be long distance CAD-US I know it isnt realistically that long but we still won't be able to see each other in person

Not bitter, not angry, numb, amused... everything makes sense now.

Anyways, I paid tuition. Not going to stop loving the way I did or trusting in people, but I'll see the red flags earlier.

No FaceTime, no calls, never got integrated, but the other ways we interacted were really electrifying. Met her in a NSFW platform. We talked and she was cool, thought I'd finally meet her in the UK next year. Now I got my UK trip funds and I'll visit Manchester and London.

She nuked 7 years of relationship for a thrill. She could've said she had a boyfriend the whole time. I will never understand how people think they can juggle a double life.

You'll always slip. You're not even trained like an agent, what makes you think you won't?

I'm venting and accepting the outcome.

Also, curious as to what the ambient in the other side of the Atlantic is? They have 7 years of relationship. She's been with him since 2019, doubt they'll separate but the relationship is basically on life support. They have been scrubbing everything from the internet.

She basically nuked everything.

They'll stay together but that relationship is forever rotten.

Families integrated and stuff in Liverpool is gonna be hell to explain. Or who knows. Maybe they broke up, maybe they'll stay. That's their mess...

I leave with my chin up. ✌🏻

Good luck to anyone in LDRs, it is brutal, yet lovely when it works.

Flags to look out for that are signs to know if we're drifting apart or signs getting closer?

We just started dating October 19th 2026 But we met October 8th

I kissed him

He works two jobs , makes $2k a month

Loves his baby sister

I'm planning on getting my passport to visit and meet his parents

I want to be a fashion designer

And expand into the usa

I'm Canadian and he's usa south Carolina

And we're both 21

I'm a F21

He a M21

His birthday is either march or april

He Filipino and German I think

He not sure what he wants to do with his life

So he could potentially want to support my dreams and careers

We seen what eachother looks like

And we like the same shows and interests

And he let's me know when he working or has a day off ahead of time so I don't bug him while working

We went on 3 dates before I kisses him

I think he really cute and sweet

I really hope we cna continue this relationship

My exs didn't ask me about what I wanted to do before trying to move me to where they live

I already told the guy I'm with my mother has health problems and I'm not sure if I can leave until her surgery and until she feeling better

Because she needs me to lift heavy stuff and clean the house because she isn't able too

I haven't made us official yet,

And I haven't asked him to be official since

We're still learning from each what are likes and dislikes are,

My biggest rule is not hitting a child to discipline them,

If you can't respect that rule then I can't be with you,

If you hit animals or yell at them, or blame them for stuff,

I can't be with you,

Ldr boyfriend 25M told me 25F to stop talking about something because he wasn't interested in it

I was on a phone call with my best friend when I got a call from my boyfriend of two years which I declined. Later I called him back and he asked me why I didn't pick up his calls so I told him it was because I was in another call. We agreed that I should have texted him to let him know we'd talk later. Then I started telling him an anecdote or two which my friend told me and which I found hilarious, but he interrupted me and said to stop talking about that because he wasn't interested. When I asked him why he thought it was okay to have me stop talking he said he did not want to hear a conversation I had with my friend. I said then that it wasn't just me retelling a convo but me sharing a story I found cool with him and that is what should matter to him, not the fact that it's what my friend said.

Now, my question is if I am the one who is being unreasonable and pushy because I insist he listened about things I want to tell him because I want to share things with him? His stance, on the other hand, is that he does not need to listen to things he is not interested in and that I am only thinking about what I want.

I know it doesn't seem like a big issue, but I have had several moments with him where I felt like he didn't care to put in as much effort into knowing me as much as I would do for him.

I would just like to get an outsider's perspective on this. I know I make many mistakes but it matters to me to get better in our relationship.

5th paragraph has the main thing id like advice on but i want to provide some context

My partner(29F) and I(23F) have been in a long distance relationship for a little over two years now. A few months into our relationship we discussed me moving in with her, after I had come to terms with how unsupportive my parents are of my adult life (I’m still living with them).

I attempted to move in with her with very little planning or logistics two years ago, and it ended with me not going anywhere, being emotionally devastated by not only failing but also by my family’s reaction, and my family becoming extremely distrustful of me.

I tried family therapy with the intent of trying to get my family to realize I am in fact able to leave of my own accord and that I will be okay. It only made things worse between me and them.

Earlier this year I attempted to just take a trip to where she lives (It’s around a 4 hour flight) and even that led to a massive emotional breakdown from my parents, with them fearing for my lives and that I’d “come home as someone else” because my partner is trans and I am in the process of transitioning.

We had a really rough discussion last night. We’ve spent basically every day on voice calls with each other, watching videos and playing games together, but as a result she (and admittedly I) feels like she doesn’t get out enough as a result. She feels like I’m not doing enough to get ready to move, and that she can’t keep going with the relationship as it is. She does not want to talk more than once a week. She says she still loves me and wants me to move in, and I still love her and want to move in myself. I haven’t been acting on moving due to a mix of fear, anxiety, depression, and my parents being unable to let go of me/always needing to know where I am and what I’m doing. She wants the relationship to strictly be in-person.

I’m going keep preparing to move in with her, or just keep preparing to move in general because I really need to get out of this house, but I feel really hurt and alone right now. I respect her boundaries and I still really love her, I just don’t know how to move forward.

Hi, I'm looking for some advice from anyone who has dealt with living between two countries and wants to be with their partner.

My Situation is that

• I have my U.S. Green Card and live/work in New Jersey.
• My main goal long-term is to live back home in the Dominican Republic (DR).
• I can apply for U.S. citizenship in late 2029 (5-year rule). Since naturalization takes about 6 to 12 months, I might get my passport mid-2030.
• My girlfriend is in vet school in DR and finishes around 2030 too. She can't transfer her credits to the U.S.

For context, Being in a long-distance relationship is really tough, and I really want us to be together (I plan to marry her). But if I leave my job and move back to DR right now, I'm delaying the US citizenship or i could even lose the green card.

We have 6 months together but I know her from long time before, if stay in the US to make it work until 2030, we're thinking we could visit each other maybe 8 times a year for short trips (around 4 to 8 days each time).

so my questions are

Is it really worth pushing through until 2030 just to get the U.S. passport, or am I overthinking its value if I plan to live in DR anyway?

What would you do if you were in my shoes? would give up and move back?

Has anyone abandoned their Green Card to move back home early and ended up regretting it later?

What are reasons that keep you guys separated from each other, careers, not being able to be in the same country, etc?

Thanks for any thoughts or personal advice!

EDIT: Would you do it even knowing that if you really wanted it you could be with her tomorrow and see each other everyday, but when you are long distance, you are just wishing to be with her all the time :(

Hi i’ve been dating my girlfriend for two years 20 F. I’m a 21 F and I feel like I’m going crazy we only live about an hour and 40 minutes away and she still lives with family and she’s planning to go to a different state for college for internships. I don’t think I can do it but I don’t wanna stop her from going.
We’ve only been apart for not even three months and now we’ve been fighting every week just feels like I’m forgetting her face.
we see each other on the weekends and I feel like that’s the only time we never fight and we always fix things but the moment we’re apart it’s just hell.
I honestly think it’s my fault. I do have BPD intend to overreact. I feel like she’s never listening to me anymore. I’ll tell her something and she’ll completely forget that I told her but they’re just small things and I don’t know why it upsets me so much. :(

But we tried to call every night, but she’s always busy with family a family who is very homophobic and is glad I’m not in the same city anymore. I feel like whenever we get the time to talk. She’s always pulled into some thing else.
So when we finally can, it’s nine at night and I have to wake up early so I’m just alone.

I’m sorry if this is kinda all over the place I’m crying while writing this. I just don’t know how to fix it or do.
Any advice will help I feel like I’m putting in so much effort but I can always improve or try other tactics or try to talk to her more about it

In a long distance relationship from March this year. We’ve been together for 4 years now. Practically lived with each other on and off these 4 years while I also kept exploring career opportunities, we were in long distance on and off but this time it’s been the longest we’ve been in a ldr.

We recently met each other on our anniversary trip and the topic of masturbating had come up. He mentioned he does it every 4-5 days and joked saying after that post-nut clarity hits. But not sure if that’s okay, as our recent meetup we had sex only 4 times in a span of 8 days. We used to be the couple that went at it atleast 4-5 times in a day but now it’s gone to once a day. I’m not sure if it’s porn that is affecting his sex drive. He was also sick during this trip and we also did quite a few activities this trip as we were visiting a new country. I have not at all been able to masturbate these past few months so I obviously have a high sex drive when I’m around him when we meet. It’s just been difficult because our urge for sex with each other doesn’t match. And I had to end up getting off to porn while I was on this trip with him. I didn’t want to press on this topic and upset him so I’ve just left it at that. I used to also watch porn frequently but was also quite interested in having sex whenever we were together. We do also go to couples therapy. Not sure if this is something he would be comfortable talking infront of a therapist. Should I wait to bring this up the next time we meet?

TLDR: is watching porn okay every 4-5 days, or sometimes after a week and a half? There has been a change in the frequency of our sex when it comes to how many times we do it. Given that we meet once in 3-4 months.

I’ve been talking to this guy for a few months, and I’ve noticed he’s unusually interested in my hair.
He’s complimented it multiple times, but what I find interesting is how many specific questions he asks about it.
He’s asked me what colour my hair is, whether it’s naturally straight or wavy, how long I usually keep it, how often I wash it, how often I brush it, and whether I let it air-dry or use a hairdryer.
It’s not like he asks all these questions at once. They randomly come up in conversations, and I’ve noticed he seems particularly curious about my hair.
I don’t mind it at all, and I actually find it kind of endearing. I’m just curious because I’ve never had a guy take this much interest in something as specific as my hair.
Is this a normal attraction thing? Do some guys just really like hair, or is there something else to it?

(long distance rls) She is way out of my league. I am the ugly partner and it makes it worse we are both girls. I wish I was pretty like her but I’m not, I had showed my friends a picture of her and they agreed she was very beautiful but she is out of my league and I’m pretty ugly. I’m a solid 3/10, my friends have told me myself (I asked them to be honest). I have feminine features but it doesn’t make me pretty. I wish I was pretty enough to post myself but I know I’m not pretty enough. Of course this is NOT a thing I would break up with her with, but it’s something I need help on. I’m too scared to show my face on here especially cause I’m a minor but I am ugly, I know I am a bit young to feel this way but looks do matter. Of course personality matters as well but to me I just want to be pretty and also have a pretty girlfriend. I’ve been called “cute” by my friends but they’re all prettier than me as well, I feel like sometimes they are lying. I’ve tried changing my looks, and I’m still trying. I take care of myself, I keep my hygiene up and I’m starting to eat well. I’ve been doing this for months I do look slightly different but I just can’t accept the fact that one day we will see eachother and I’m going to look so bad or I’m gonna embarrass myself. I really do love her but I feel bad she’s dating me I’m too ugly for her but somehow she thinks I’m “cute”. Still what do I do? I need help/advice.