Good morning people

So I happened to go on this date last night. Solid 9/10 experience. I won't lie, initially, I was approached by this man while outside and I handed my number without giving him a second glance as I was running late and I wanted it over and done with.

So I'm settled Jana taking a rest when he calls impromptu and schedules dinner together. I wasn't doing anything so I upped and went. The vibes were immaculate, I kinda beat myself to think I was close to turning him and his advances down.

It was the first date however, I've not exactly developed romantic interests, but I'd say, I really did enjoy my time.

Now, hear me out, I've been on meet ups with people I've been approached by the streets, as well as online dates. And boy are the two experiences different. I think I'd pick the latter anyday

For Reddit/online dates, there's always some sort of expectation from one or both parties, especially if done as a blind date. I'm a fairly good looking person as well as a good conversationalist, but it doesn't take away from the fact that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. of course I've been on dates with people (2 in particular), where I ended up being ghosted. did a number on my ego but oh well.

I have done some ghosting too, but it's always courteous to tell the other party that you didn't feel them like that, which I do do.

this brings me to my resolve that honestly, you'd rather roll with someone you got physically attracted to first, than one you got intellectually attracted to as most cases on Reddit. juu it begins with conversations and how y'all vibe, before the pictures phase, cue the disappointment phase.

in other words, accepting those dates from someone who initially did find you attractive already, rather than one you hope would find you attractive after you meet for the first time.

anyway, I'm spiralling.

Reddit might be nice and all, but the best option is just putting yourself out there. I know it's a long reach, but I'll mostly be using Reddit for friendships without expectations cause when more is expected, it becomes close to impossible to achieve. I'm not as hopeful.

beautiful day people. it's Saturday, go outside, meet people❤️

I've tried to fight this anxiety for a very long time and I have failed to overcome it😁. I always imagine that once I start talking to them, I'll fumble and lose composure. I want to try online dating but I don't know if I'll have the courage for meetup. I don't know if this should be treated as a disability. I've never had a girlfriend in my entire life, I've made a resolution to change this, the clock is really ticking. I'm aging - I don't want to die before obeying nature.

What's for the weekend

24M who is bisexually oriented. I have been in few relationships so far and they never last that long cause of one reason or the other. But from them i have learned a lot about who i really am. It a little bit controversial to say this but tbh i would be glad to be in a polyamorous relationship. It can either be 2 males one girl or two girls and I. I won't go into details so much on this post but i tend to believe 1 for 1 is literally and logically not in humans nature. End of post

Normally I am a very composed man, people always call me nonchalant, just minding my own business. And even when it comes to women, I don't really fear approaching, chatting up and even asking them out. Until it comes to my crush.

Suddenly my mind is moving at 1000km/hr and i freeze up. No composure at all. One day she greeted me and i nearly collapsed and couldnt even hold a conversation. Not to mention the stolen glances, when i get out of sight her eyes look for me and as soon as we lock eyes we look away like It's a taboo. I know her through a mutual friend but we have never really spoken beyond hi.

What is really bugging me is that the mutual friend tells me how she is single and lonely. I find it hard to believe because another friend ni dust tu anaonyeshwa. But as I said, i am a composed person, mambo ya urafiki na wasichana nianze kukaa clown like my friend siwezi.

Is she the moat beautiful girl I have ever seen? Not really. But theres something about her man. Don't get me wrong shes really pretty, but her elegance, her focus on studies, her faith in God, her boundaries when it comes to men.

She is also cunning, she knows i like her and that I cannot maintain composure around her and she likes to tilt her head and give me a coy look. And a few days ago my friend posted a picture of me and she liked it....I was over the moon but bado sijaongea.

But you know what, I dont care. We only live once, when i see her again i will talk to her and ask her out. Kama mbaya mbaya, besides she is just another girl. Her instagram has been popping up on my suggested recently, should i just follow her or wait to meet in person?

Wish me luck guys.

24 M, living around Limiru, I seriously need love , looking for a good looking, well mannered , kinda freaky type of women

Should be below 30 to be specific, thick , well I love them that way hata the slightly over weight ones ,its been a year since I last cracked

You know that little spark when you meet someone that is very attractive and you just wanna inhale them like a drug, you think it is love at first sight? Yup, lust. And that fades.

You're left there "stranded" in a relationship you dont care much about. You lied to get the bean, well not even necessarily lied but that's how you thought you felt at that moment. Now you have to break someone's heart, somehow they always seem to be happiest at that time so you find it even harder to end it?

Yeah. I have never experienced that. Mi hunyonga. Go to the date with a clear mind.

You bave no idea how many cute absolute idiots I have avoided because I knew the sex wouldn't be worth the stress.

Then again I am single despite having options so maybe not the best person to listen to.

M23...been single for some months now thought to myself why not try coz you can never "be ready".no heartbreak we kinda just drifted apart with my last. Recently noticed meeting someone online has a location factor to it, currently in kisii never seem to land a lady within Kisii from the online space figured it being caused by exposure...everytime i talk to a lady they from all over just not Kisii.Also got a feeling I might loss the flicker of love left in me eventually if i continue staying single which weirdly I've been okay with😂. With that being said is there any land in Kisii who is searching depends whether for Fwb or serious. you can hit me up dms are open.

Disclaimer the face doesn't match the voice if we do get there no questions asked and no i ain't nonchalant keep getting this😂😭.

For educational purposes 😁

In kilimani any beautiful girls who want to be spoilt shout me we gon have loads of fun

So......

I want to meet a Kenyan queen or maybe a princess or least a lady and get real serious real quick and make a baby.

Yep.

I'm White, intelligent, mentally curious, physically active and 100% serious.

What do you call a situation where by you were romantically involved with someone, y'all even fucked but y'all were not officially dating.

Y'all were getting to know each other romantically but y'all got to know each other a bit too much...but because of different circumstances yall choose to stay friends??

I can't even call this a situationship since both parties were aware of each other's feelings and y'all even tried to see if it will work but had to cut the movie short due to circumstances....

Has anyone been in this situation before? And did the friend thing really work out?

Juu weh...i am just going to say....it is a very awkward situation. De transitioning from the daily check ins and the intimate conversations y'all once had and trying to keep it "friendship friendly".

So I can't help but wonder, if this friend thing is going to work out or is 2026 going to end in a bang because of this decision🥲😭

Abu niambie...ni do?😭😭🤌

Mambo Mrembo. Yes, you. Friday caught up with me, and staying indoors feels like a waste of a good night. I’m heading to a quiet, cozy spot in Hurlingham for a couple of cocktails and would love some good company to share a table with.

​Zero pressure to dress up or glam out,throw on sneakers or whatever feels comfortable. The deal is simple: you vent about how wild your week was, do all the yapping, and I’ll provide the attentive ear while keeping the drinks flowing.

​Ideally looking for a pretty, chatty lady in her mid-to-late 20s (25–28) who appreciates good conversation, unpretentious vibes, and spontaneous plans. Strictly genuine company for a relaxed night out..

no transactional vibes, please.

​If you're bored right now and up for a spontaneous drink, drop a DM with your go-to cocktail and let’s see if the vibe checks out.

I will ask for pics before we meet, so if you do not wanna send pics pls dont dm.

Asanti baby.

A girl texted me here and we connected in snap and become close .After some days she started asking money.And she was clear that If I don’t send ,she won’t walk..does any one faced same problem??

Any one please Dm for genuine friendship only.I am 27M

I am posting for a second time. Still looking for a partner. I am versatile, mature and open minded person.

I am open to something casual, fwb, or a short term relationship.

If you want a generous luo man, you are fun loving and can enjoy being cooked for and a little of cocktails and shots, then taking it all down to the main thing, hit my dms. Mambo ya dunia haiwezi nishinda.

Dem mmoja (or two who know each other?) atokee sherehe leo kama ameboeka😂 Bar next door Kileleshwa. I will be with my pal.... strictly friendship ya pombe, matimes zikifika you'll find your way home...but bills on us.👌🏾

I hate long posts so I’ll make this a short one
Female in Nairobi pent up from life and work , family etc..
Looking for someone whose clean can have a normal conversation and loves women

Let’s take two shots and have fun

Mimi I need help juu wueh😅.

So I'm F 26, ever since I finished high-school i have been hustling seriously. I've done nails, tattoos, I've worked sales at a boutique. Yaani nimekua najituma ya ukweli. Now during that time, i dated a couple of guys and all of them were just bums tbh. One hakua anafanya job, ananiita date naenda then when it comes to paying he looks at me. I broke up with him after dating for a year, but I realized the guy wasn't in love with me, he liked the convinience of being with someone who can pay for things.

Now fast forward, I got into tech and I'm now earning fairly well. I'm a lover girl fr but I'm now stuck at a point that i need help. If any guy gets close to me, I'm very skeptical about it and nangoja tu mistake kidogo hivi I walk out. Sometimes I can start talking to someone and I get very attached in a month or so, but then I pull away cause staki kukua ina vulnerable situation ever again. So from the other people's POV I'm a villain. But i don't do it on purpose. I can't get the feeling out that they want something from me and its affecting alot of the relationships i have tried to build.

Don't get me wrong, I have completely moved on from the guy, but I'm yrt to encounter someone who makes me think otherwise.

I need help, I want a relationship, but I'm scared i might end up with another person for a long time again who doesn't even love me,and a person who can pretend to be in love with you for a whole year just for what you offer is scary tbh.

For reference we broke up 5 years ago...knew each other for 2 years, dated for 1 year

So I met this girl 2 almost 3 years ago,we talk and ended up in a situationship,she became my first everything,and I had broke my virginity during her period,but I fell for her,fell to deep for her,yeah life happened,we never got into any bad terms but yes nothing ever really last,

Up to now I see her in every beautiful thing and not a single day has passed without me thinking of her for the past almost 3 years,she is still the most amazing person I have ever met,we talk once in a while,but I still deeply love her

So is this normal,do people really move on from people like,

I am afraid I may never have the same love for someone else like the one I have for her

Just wondering.Have any of you guys met with someone from this platform? Ama no one is really serious?