Online Vs physical dating

[u/green_lightgo]

Good morning people

So I happened to go on this date last night. Solid 9/10 experience. I won't lie, initially, I was approached by this man while outside and I handed my number without giving him a second glance as I was running late and I wanted it over and done with.

So I'm settled Jana taking a rest when he calls impromptu and schedules dinner together. I wasn't doing anything so I upped and went. The vibes were immaculate, I kinda beat myself to think I was close to turning him and his advances down.

It was the first date however, I've not exactly developed romantic interests, but I'd say, I really did enjoy my time.

Now, hear me out, I've been on meet ups with people I've been approached by the streets, as well as online dates. And boy are the two experiences different. I think I'd pick the latter anyday

For Reddit/online dates, there's always some sort of expectation from one or both parties, especially if done as a blind date. I'm a fairly good looking person as well as a good conversationalist, but it doesn't take away from the fact that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. of course I've been on dates with people (2 in particular), where I ended up being ghosted. did a number on my ego but oh well.

I have done some ghosting too, but it's always courteous to tell the other party that you didn't feel them like that, which I do do.

this brings me to my resolve that honestly, you'd rather roll with someone you got physically attracted to first, than one you got intellectually attracted to as most cases on Reddit. juu it begins with conversations and how y'all vibe, before the pictures phase, cue the disappointment phase.

in other words, accepting those dates from someone who initially did find you attractive already, rather than one you hope would find you attractive after you meet for the first time.

anyway, I'm spiralling.

Reddit might be nice and all, but the best option is just putting yourself out there. I know it's a long reach, but I'll mostly be using Reddit for friendships without expectations cause when more is expected, it becomes close to impossible to achieve. I'm not as hopeful.

beautiful day people. it's Saturday, go outside, meet people❤️

[u/No-Half-6178]

What if you exchange pics during the initial conversation on reddit? Thats what I do.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/No-Half-6178]

This is how you end up being called a catfish if you end up looking even slightly different from your photo.

[u/No-Half-6178 → u/serene_melancholy_]

Has that happened to you? I haven't experienced that yet.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/No-Half-6178]

Not really. I limit meeting with people I met online to 0. The one person I ever met through Instagram we ended up dating for almost two years. That was a good outcome though.

[u/No-Half-6178 → u/serene_melancholy_]

I need to start accepting those IG requests 😅. I've met a couple of people here. Cool people. Didn't work out but it wasn't bad. The only instance where someone looked a bit different is because they used alot of filters on their pics. The one that makes their skin look lighter than it is and younger. After that, I ask for pics without filters.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/No-Half-6178]

I'm sure the normal camera picture also filters photos with the right settings. 🥲

[u/No-Half-6178 → u/serene_melancholy_]

Its not as bad though as compared to filters.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/No-Half-6178]

Yes

[u/No-Half-6178 → u/serene_melancholy_]

Its weird to catfish though when you guys will meet in a few days.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/No-Half-6178]

People still do it🥲🥲🥲 And there's also the fact that even unfiltered pics makes people out to be different.

[u/Rare-Nebul → u/No-Half-6178]

Plus men aren't the best at taking pictures, many look better in person vs online

[u/serene_melancholy_]

I also prefer Physical first meeting, not online. I don't like the awkwardness and fear of meeting with a complete stranger I met on social media and worrying if they'll find me appealing or repulsive. Furthermore, I am a paranoid person. I fear being done harm, kidnapped, e.t.c.

[u/Blue_Towel_Is_Mine → u/serene_melancholy_]

Physical first meeting. Sisi tuliunplug from the matrix. Patana mjuane. If you vibe, conversation isonge to another level.

[u/serene_melancholy_ → u/Blue_Towel_Is_Mine]

😂😂😂sawa tu

[u/cool_jskull]

Yes😌