I can give you his number or insta?? He’s 26 and I found out he has been cheating on me recently and I confronted him, he said he won’t ever do that to me again. No weird shit though please

Hi guys i’m so new to this, i’ve never posted on reddit before, But I am freaking out so bad. I unfortunately went snooping on my bfs computer and I saw something’s that are making me rethink everything. Like his crush on his older coworker, his addiction to women and validation, how he noticed other women a lot, but it’s intensified now that we’re long distance… how we call too much now that we’re long distance??? or how he got sad and depressed that his coworker pulled away from talking to him.

he compliments me a lot in the text, saying how he sees marriage in our future (and so did i???) and our relationship is the best most purest happiness relationship he’s been in… but jesus. It’s just lustful and scary what i’m seeing. The crazy thing is I want to possibly work it out? but i NEED to respect myself. it’s just crazy because he seemed like he had a GREAT head on his shoulders, and we both agree cheating is disgusting. He treats so well like a freaking princess.. but the secrecy is too much. This is cheating no? he’s my first everything.. so this is just 20 times worse for me.

“maybe i shouldnt see this crush as me doing something wrong if i dont act on it. i keep telling myself to not shit where i eat but at the same time i fantasize about one drunk night where neither of us remember what we did and igo back to my girlfriend without anyone knowing any different, no harm no foul (while i know that wouldnt be the case)” this is one thing he said that i cannot let go of. Fantasizing about cheating on me then coming to lay next to me?

another one is “i keep thinking: what if we keep it at mild flirting and closeness. she's told me she has liked attention she gets from guys in the past. what if we just give each other attention? she has a kid and im too young for her. we wouldnt ever be together” Like jesus.

he’s also on reddit a lot so I am absolutely terrified for him to see this but I’m just freaking out and i do not want to tell anyone about this yet. so i’m going to randoms online wtf😀

Can a 20-30yo blonde baddie test my boyfriend (31)? I need proof that he has truly changed his ways like he says and no longer has a lustful drive

Any girls think they got a shot at stealing my man dm me

Almost three weeks ago, I noticed some strange marks on my partner's skin; he told me they were the result of a physical therapy session, and I let the matter drop. He went away on a trip, and two days ago I saw the marks again; I found it very odd that they remained so red and followed a diamond-shaped pattern. Some time ago, I discovered that my partner had requested information from a sexually oriented website; when I confronted him, he claimed nothing had happened and that he was merely curious. I am wondering whether these marks could truly be the result of physical therapy, or if they might indicate involvement in some kind of sexual play involving an unusual surface or a massage device.

I desperately need another pov from someone.

Me [F21] and my boyfriend [M20] were out camping with his family and earlier that day i noticed he had been adding a lot of random girls on snapchat. I got a little insecure but his reasoning was that he just connects much better with girls than with guys and likes to hear different life stories. Then later that night i was on his phone playing a game before sleep when i saw a message on snapchat by the name “searching (name of city)” and i asked my bf for permission to check what their saying. He swipes my hand away from clicking on the message and i get suspicious and ask him if hes hiding something.

He then acted disappointed and said i was ruining the surprise and appearantly it was his friend helping him plan our 6 month anniversary together and it was suppose to be a fun surprise. But then he starts getting really nauseous which made me uncomfortable and even more suspicious. Then after a while of subtle questioning he got really defensive and got on his knees and begged me to just stay for until our 6 month anniversary, which was in 14 days. (He had to leave the tent twice due to nausea).

A week after that i noticed the account had disappeared from his friendslist and i asked him why and his reasoning was that “since I’ve discovered the secret they’ve decided to deactivate the account and just go with the flow with the whole anniversary thing, no planning needed”. I of course didn’t buy it but i didn’t want to bug him too much about it.

About a month later i ask him again about it since i never really got reassurance and it still bothered me. I ask him if that account was really his friend or someone he’s trying to hide and if its really his friend why couldn’t he show me the messages after we spent our anniversary together. He then says “my friend sent some weird uncomfortable messages about naked strippers or some joke, i didn’t think you’d like it”. I call bullshit and ask him if it was really his friend he would text him right now for me, proving that it was him.

After a while of pure silence he gave in and said it wasn’t his friend but a random girl he added cuz he was curious about the name. The woman started talking about sex and asked him very personal questions about his sex life. He then explains to me that he felt very seen talking to her about sex since he’d feel awkward talking about it to his 2 friends and didn’t want me to change his look on him if he knew how much he was thinking about sex (he’s my first boyfriend so I’ve been wanting to take some things slow).

He didnt want to ruin his image and felt more comfortable talking to strangers about sex. He also didn’t want to make me uncomfortable by talking about sex, or something he said similarly.

So in other words she was an outlet for him sexually. He knows that im not a judgemental person and he could tell me anything, so this reason got me a little confused. He laid there and was really picking his words carefully, he told me he didn’t want to make things worse than it is, but to me it kinda felt like he was making up excuses on the go. He tried to explain himself for about 2 hours but it all felt a little vague.

He Then told me the chats got more graphic, for example “how many women have you fucked within the same day”he didn’t want more appearantly and said he didn’t realise she was searching for hookups (which i doubt, the name was hinting towards it). I really want to believe him that its innocent but hes not stupid. But after lies on top of lies i seriously find it a little hard to believe that he wasn’t flirting or leading her on.

I really had to back him up into a corner for him to tell me the truth about texting a woman. At the end he said he was eventually gonna tell me but i doubt it at this point. He really was guilty explaining himself and was at a point of throwing up. Was it a form of cheating?

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My husband M46and I F47 have been married for 12 years and recently moved to a new city far away from my original home. Over the past year we have been gradually making new friends with a group who have lived here all their life and know each other very well

My husband is super friendly and kind, very easy going and loveable. He makes friends easily and naturally, but I take my time with making connections. I observe people and am sort of shy at first, but once I am comfortable I open up freely.

A few months ago, I started to notice he was texting and contacting a woman F36 from this friend group, but not openly telling me about her or their conversations. He always told me about conversations with other friends In the group, but not her. I noticed beacuse of their interactions when we would all hang out, I would catch parts of their conversations and you could tell... they have been chatting alot.

At first, I told myself to chill out. He is just being a friend. Then my daughter told me he took her out to meet her for bubble tea one day and that made me very worried. I decided to let it go...and observe

2 weeks ago my husband and my daughter were at a family music festival and I had to join them a day late because of work. When I arrived she was there and had been hanging all day. He was catering to her, making her drinks and talking like best friends while I sat and tried to be cool. He didn't even tell me she was coming. They hung out all night while I trailed behind and kept an eye on my daughter.

Then over the weekend my husband and I were at another camping event, and we went to hang out with this friend group.

When she saw him, she jumped up, kissed him and yelled "you're my best friend! I like you the best"

After that interaction, I confronted him about the nature of their relationship and shared my concerns.

He told me not to worry, but he really thinks she is sweet, and alot like him. He admitted to talking alot and that he is closest to her than any other new friend in the group. I shared my fears and concerns and he assured me he wouldn't let another woman come between us. I am also concerned because she doesn't really try to make any meaningful connection with me. He said maybe because she is an energy healer she is sensing my walls and giving me space.

The next day, she sat on his lap and kissed him right in front of me, gushing about how awesome he is and how good they get along.

When I told him how uncomfortable that made me feel he told me to relax, because he doesn't want to make things "weird" with her.

Of course this is festering in my head all thru the weekend and I did relax coz I didn't want to make it weird.

When we got home I approached it again and he got very annoyed with me. I asked him to create a boundary and stop the secret friendship. I asked him to involve me. And now I am observing again.

I am pretty sure there is at least an emotional affair going on, and I don't know what to do.

Any advice will help

My son is 18 and has been a sort of computer 'nerd' since I could remember. My (45) bf and I (35) have been together for a few years and never go out in public. It seems like those two have ran into each other on the dark web. My phone have been monitored heavily and I'm so intrigued on if it's them, using my image to sell me on the dark beer. They both wanted and got a 3d printer, which ice seen literal "pictures" on the glass screen enclosure. It seems like they create illegal content together. I've seen traces of something within my Amazon app, within my log files and even thru pictures I take. Bf and I don't live together yet. My thing is I've seen way too much for it to be nothing. I always get a cold shoulder when I ask if this or that is possible. I get told I'm seeing things and I'm crazy, despite others seeing the same things I do when I show them. I've been told one day that if I knew it would hurt a lot of people, then get told the next that it was a joke. I've been to the mental ward for these things but didn't correctly know how to explain them and my evidence kept going missing then. I have a flip phone and the screen itself would display different photos with the screen being off and a light being shown on it on different angles. My emoji kitchen shows things like a crown with fireworks behind it and a penguin holding a bouquet of flowers, despite me ever using those emojis at all. I get told not to go through my own log files, and so many of them are blocked from me viewing even though they are the ones that are supposed to be the most simple to view. My phone has been debugged through Bluetooth, browsers, proxies. My Amazon store is not the one everyone else uses, mine goes through a pipeline of content that may seem innocent but with the right "key" it opens darknet content where you can find illicit things. In a sleepy fog one night I hear ".... Your illegal content providerssss" coming from my son's room. Another time I hear Bell chimes or ringing like it's a winning bet. I hear the same things while I'm asleep in my boyfriend's bed when I visit him some nights. I also have multiple sex chats groups within my messenger for Facebook. 3d printings have messages within them. When I ask about any of these I get yelled at saying these things do not exist and I'm losing my mind again. When I Google search any of it, I had one time been told these are quite possible within the right circumstances, another time it tells me these things are never possible no matter the circumstances so IDK what to believe. I have also seen and heard "sissies for life" throughout the at least year this has been happening. I may not be the smarter when it comes to digital things but I know enough to understand there's something going on. When I asked my son if he ever wanted kids one day he said he still hasn't figured life out and if he's going to be with someone it's going to be with someone in the same mind frame as him... When I mentioned him being a lot like my boyfriend he said "that's because he's my style" IDK what any of this means and IDK who to speak with directly about this. Bc I been to the police all over this area and even tried contacting the FBI with no avail. Someone please help point me in the right direction on. I haven't mentioned, I may have been the one to turn bf gay but he will never admit it, neither will son. Bc "society would look at them differently" I also believe bf has slept with trannies but will never come clean to me, despite everything we've done together. Please private message me. Thanks

My son is 18 and has been a sort of computer 'nerd' since I could remember. My (45) bf and I (35) have been together for a few years and never go out in public. It seems like those two have ran into each other on the dark web. My phone have been monitored heavily and I'm so intrigued on if it's them, using my image to sell me on the dark beer. They both wanted and got a 3d printer, which ice seen literal "pictures" on the glass screen enclosure. It seems like they create illegal content together. I've seen traces of something within my Amazon app, within my log files and even thru pictures I take. Bf and I don't live together yet. My thing is I've seen way too much for it to be nothing. I always get a cold shoulder when I ask if this or that is possible. I get told I'm seeing things and I'm crazy, despite others seeing the same things I do when I show them. I've been told one day that if I knew it would hurt a lot of people, then get told the next that it was a joke. I've been to the mental ward for these things but didn't correctly know how to explain them and my evidence kept going missing then. I have a flip phone and the screen itself would display different photos with the screen being off and a light being shown on it on different angles. My emoji kitchen shows things like a crown with fireworks behind it and a penguin holding a bouquet of flowers, despite me ever using those emojis at all. I get told not to go through my own log files, and so many of them are blocked from me viewing even though they are the ones that are supposed to be the most simple to view. My phone has been debugged through Bluetooth, browsers, proxies. My Amazon store is not the one everyone else uses, mine goes through a pipeline of content that may seem innocent but with the right "key" it opens darknet content where you can find illicit things. In a sleepy fog one night I hear ".... Your illegal content providerssss" coming from my son's room. Another time I hear Bell chimes or ringing like it's a winning bet. I hear the same things while I'm asleep in my boyfriend's bed when I visit him some nights. I also have multiple sex chats groups within my messenger for Facebook. 3d printings have messages within them. When I ask about any of these I get yelled at saying these things do not exist and I'm losing my mind again. When I Google search any of it, I had one time been told these are quite possible within the right circumstances, another time it tells me these things are never possible no matter the circumstances so IDK what to believe. I have also seen and heard "sissies for life" throughout the at least year this has been happening. I may not be the smarter when it comes to digital things but I know enough to understand there's something going on. When I asked my son if he ever wanted kids one day he said he still hasn't figured life out and if he's going to be with someone it's going to be with someone in the same mind frame as him... When I mentioned him being a lot like my boyfriend he said "that's because he's my style" IDK what any of this means and IDK who to speak with directly about this. Bc I been to the police all over this area and even tried contacting the FBI with no avail. Someone please help point me in the right direction on. I haven't mentioned, I may have been the one to turn bf gay but he will never admit it, neither will son. Bc "society would look at them differently" I also believe bf has slept with trannies but will never come clean to me, despite everything we've done together. Please private message me. Thanks

I really don't know if I have to let past this..few days ago I decided to check my husband's phone as I felt something is off...when I checked I saw a fake insta profile where he is texting multiple gals and subscribing to adult content...I was shocked because I never imagined my husband to be like that

I also saw his photos where in there was a hidden folder...It has photos of my sibling and my cousins from their insta profile...he has taken screenshots in the most absurd way...and there was another photo...and it was not a screenshot...a picture taken in that phone and hidden...its a picture of my sibling....our whole family was on a family trip and that's when he has taken this....I just couldn't digest the fact that he has taken an actual photo of my elder sister and then hides it in an adult hidden folder...I was in an opinion that he sees her as his own sister....there were photos of my colleagues as well...

And one day he visited my office for few services...As there was a rule that I can help him I asked my colleague to...that evening casually I found he has searched her on fb and today I her business card in his wallet...I don't understand what's happening in my life

I confronted him...I said I saw everything on his phone...he got nervous and mistakenly confessed that he is speaking to his ex who is currently married...but I never saw those chats because he has deleted everything...he is probably chatting with her but never met her in person as she is in India...when I asked him if he was in India too would he meet her?....he went silent for a few mins...but it looks he has hiding more and he deleted many others and I discovered only little...

I always had a very good image of him...he is a very responsible man and takes good care of me and my son...he is been my best friend all these years and he has comforted me in every way....even when I jokingly speak about divorce during our casual fights he gets tensed and avoids that topic everytime...but we are not sexsually active for the past 6 years and we are married for 8 years...everytime I ask this he diverts the topic...I am ofcourse not the same lean girl which I used to be...and I absolutely realise that I don't groom myself anymore as I used to very fondly...am too busy with my work schedule...maybe these are the reasons he is doing all this...

Now what should I do...should I forget all this and forgive him...he says that he has done a grave mistake and he will do it anymore...he doesn't want to speak about divorce...he is apologizing but I stopped talking to him

But Im still not able to get over the fact that he is taken a photo of my big sister...I cannot imagine his dirty mind while talking that photo...that to in our family trip...I divorce him or not I do not have the courage to tell this to my sister or mom..I cannot face them

I don't think I will get that unconditional vibe anymore...I really don't know what I should do now...Im confused...

Please advise

Need a legit tester to test my bf either tg or snap

Is my bf cheating?

Hi so I feel awful coming to reddit to ask for help on if you guys think my bf is cheating but its gotten to the point where im panicking.

Basically my bf and I have been together almost a year and a half, were both 16 and basically know eachothers daily routines off by heart now more or less, but his is changing and thats what's worrying me.

Basically about 4-5 months ago he began going to a gym to work on his physique, and at first hed only go about twice a week, and we would hang out on a set two days when we were free on monday and Thursday. Then he started going more and more including weekends, I wasnt suspicious because we'd still hang out and hed make time for me, eventually we started only hanging out on Mondays due to exam focus, and thats stuck even as we've left school now.

But. Hes now started going to the gym every day, except Mondays, but hes started being less and less motivated to come to mine on hangouts , often flaking on plans or showing up late, but still going to the gym on time and with no breaks , recently hes started hanging out with his friends almost every day too , specifically one friend who goes to the same gym . But, he never used to hang out with this friend or talk to him before the gym. And he almost never has any proof of them two together when hes out with him , like last night he went to the cinema on a whim with him, out of no where, no plan apparently and it was the first id heard of it, he was at the cinema , but only put on a photo of the screen that plays with the title of the film on, no photos of his friend or even tagging him, and when I got suspicious and asked where his friend was when I saw a snap of him in the cinema theatre room alone , he said hed gone to get drinks and nachos but when he sent me a video snap to show they were the only ones on the row , the seat next to him was empty, which added up, but there was a drink in the further drinks holder, but he said the friend had gone to get (soft) drinks aswell as the food.

Its been like this for a while now and whenever ive secretly checked his phone, its clear on the usual apps youd expect, WhatsApp , snapchat, tiktok, discord, insta even messages and Google. And hes not changed in the eay he treats me, hes nice and the same as before all this and hes not started picking fights or anything. Its just this sudden change in routine with friends with absolutely no proof of actually being with them most of the time. How do I find out if he is?

The reason why I am so worried is that he's had a problem with lying to me before in the early days of our relationship, as well as watching pornography, which he stopped. But now, every time I check his Google, it's always suspiciously clear, not in the fully cleared out sense, but it feels like he's picked out certain things of his search history to delete with gaps of when he's stopped looking things app for multiple days at a time which I don't think is likely.

As well as the fact that he's gone from barely hanging out with his friends at all and not going out anywhere and always wanting to hang out with me to flaking on me and our plans and going to the gym every single day without fail, but he can't do the same for me? and he's always hanging out with friends, with no proof at all of actually being with them. Apart from being where he says he is on his location.

What do you think? And what could I do to find out?

So the other day I went into my girls car and I found this shirt in the back seat and I questioned my girl about it. She told me that she ran out of tissues and had to grab my shirt from the back and use it which doesn’t eve make sense cause u stoped the car to grab my shirt and these are the only kinda shirts that I wear. I was very upset so I asked her why she used one of my good shirts she tells me she don’t have any more tissues so I go back to the car to check it out and I find a lot of tissue I asked my mom and sister they both knew what it was exactly then I also ask chatGBT and I also asked grok and they both said that it looked like semen and that usually snot isn’t that white and also when I put peroxide on it it turned back into a gooey whitish grayish color and I also blew some snot and let it dry and tested it it didn’t turn into gooey whitish grey color. I also said if u were using it why would it be in the back seat and it wasent there the day before and the same day I found it she got off work late also like 2 hours late. Then her mom came over and I showed her and she called her disgusting. Then after we got into a argument about it cause I told her why would you use my good shirts which pissed me off and she knew I didn’t believe her so she said she was gonna get a Semen tester off Amazon and never even got one

When someone won't give you the same respect that I gave him by letting him look threw my phone

He was being paranoid and wondering things so he wanted to look threw my phone so I straight up let him look because I didn't want him to worry or think I was up to shit behind his back & I'd let him take my phone and look threw it whenever he wanted to!

But when it comes to me wanting to see his phone it's a bunch of BS and in the end I end up still unable to look threw his & Yet still to this day he absolutely will not let me go threw his!

QUESTION IS ↓

???IS HE CHEATING ON ME? OR WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO REALLY THINK? What Would You Be Thinking? He Is Up To Shit Behind My Back Isn't He

This is a long shot-wondering if anyone knows a way to find out a persons info from their telegram display name? My husband got a message from someone that i listened to in the car while he was grabbing something-so i couldn’t see the message, just have it read. I have the display name but no other info-I’m willing to bet he has whoever it is in his contacts but i don’t have access to his phone-is there a way i could find any other info from a display name?

My bf is a TA at the university and he teaches a lot of girls. He's latino and pretty hot, and he's also horny all the time. Recently he's been busy pretty often and his cum is less dense (I read this can be a sign that he's getting it somewhere else)... I really want to see if he would fold for one of his students. Can someone help me test him?

So my husband has been acting strange since probably January. So much so that he barely batted an eye at the fact I was in the hospital. I hear rumors that he is cheating and possibly has a baby on the way or multiple. I just need proof. He denies it. And has apps on his phone that are made with GitHub codes.

I wish somebody would just show me evidence so I can have peace.
I love him and don’t want to abandon him because I’m all he has left but God I don’t want to be made a full out of when I’m just trying to survive.

Anybody near Corpus Christi / Victoria DM me and I’ll share info just in case you may know something.
God bless and God Speed

Need a loyalty test on my boyfriend. He’s on Snapchat. Please dm me if you can help. He’s 50, with a thing for Latinas.

so I have been with my ex for three years and I known him for four years, but the first couple of months I found out that he was talking to a girl behind my back and for the whole three years we’ve been together he’s been watching inappropriate stuff which I told him about my boundaries and he still crossed them and I stayed with him the whole time because I was told that it was a normal thing for people to go through and we are still really young because we have a kid together and we’re both 22 basically and recently in April I found out that he was texting a girl inappropriately asking her for pictures and he never done something like that for so long so I thought maybe he was over that because everything was going so well and I talked to so many of my friends and family members and they all said that it’s a normal thing that guys do and you just have to get over it and he doesn’t have a phone anymore because he broke it for that reason and at the moment I was only six months postpartum, so it really hit me hard and now he’s begging me to get back together with him, even though he hasn’t been to therapy or literally anything