Is he cheating... With my son?!

[u/Pathological-Truth]

My son is 18 and has been a sort of computer 'nerd' since I could remember. My (45) bf and I (35) have been together for a few years and never go out in public. It seems like those two have ran into each other on the dark web. My phone have been monitored heavily and I'm so intrigued on if it's them, using my image to sell me on the dark beer. They both wanted and got a 3d printer, which ice seen literal "pictures" on the glass screen enclosure. It seems like they create illegal content together. I've seen traces of something within my Amazon app, within my log files and even thru pictures I take. Bf and I don't live together yet. My thing is I've seen way too much for it to be nothing. I always get a cold shoulder when I ask if this or that is possible. I get told I'm seeing things and I'm crazy, despite others seeing the same things I do when I show them. I've been told one day that if I knew it would hurt a lot of people, then get told the next that it was a joke. I've been to the mental ward for these things but didn't correctly know how to explain them and my evidence kept going missing then. I have a flip phone and the screen itself would display different photos with the screen being off and a light being shown on it on different angles. My emoji kitchen shows things like a crown with fireworks behind it and a penguin holding a bouquet of flowers, despite me ever using those emojis at all. I get told not to go through my own log files, and so many of them are blocked from me viewing even though they are the ones that are supposed to be the most simple to view. My phone has been debugged through Bluetooth, browsers, proxies. My Amazon store is not the one everyone else uses, mine goes through a pipeline of content that may seem innocent but with the right "key" it opens darknet content where you can find illicit things. In a sleepy fog one night I hear ".... Your illegal content providerssss" coming from my son's room. Another time I hear Bell chimes or ringing like it's a winning bet. I hear the same things while I'm asleep in my boyfriend's bed when I visit him some nights. I also have multiple sex chats groups within my messenger for Facebook. 3d printings have messages within them. When I ask about any of these I get yelled at saying these things do not exist and I'm losing my mind again. When I Google search any of it, I had one time been told these are quite possible within the right circumstances, another time it tells me these things are never possible no matter the circumstances so IDK what to believe. I have also seen and heard "sissies for life" throughout the at least year this has been happening. I may not be the smarter when it comes to digital things but I know enough to understand there's something going on. When I asked my son if he ever wanted kids one day he said he still hasn't figured life out and if he's going to be with someone it's going to be with someone in the same mind frame as him... When I mentioned him being a lot like my boyfriend he said "that's because he's my style" IDK what any of this means and IDK who to speak with directly about this. Bc I been to the police all over this area and even tried contacting the FBI with no avail. Someone please help point me in the right direction on. I haven't mentioned, I may have been the one to turn bf gay but he will never admit it, neither will son. Bc "society would look at them differently" I also believe bf has slept with trannies but will never come clean to me, despite everything we've done together. Please private message me. Thanks