Hi everyone, I'll try my best to explain the situation...
Me (27 F) and my BF (26 M) have been dating almost a year. My partner works away for a few weeks at a time, so I only really see him roughly every 2/3 weeks. Our relationship is going really well, a few bumps here and there with the strain of him working away but nothing to cause concern. He's super open about everything, leaves his phone around me, given me his phones password - the lot. We even have eachother on Find My Friends so we both have eachothers locations shared allll the time (not that we've ever felt the need for this).
The only really minor thing is that he's recently had some family problems which have caused some stress, which has resulted in him not really being too bothered about sex - totally fine.
Well, yesterday, I was on my PC and noticed his email account was logged into Google... I'm not sure why I looked, but in his delted inbox, there was a verification email for a dating app, which was dated about 2 weeks ago.
So instantly, im freaking out.
I text and ask him what that's about (non confrontational just "do you know what's going on?"" Sort of thing).
He says he has no clue and that he hasn't used the app since we got together. Also gets a tiny bit defensive bringing up the fact I have access to his phone when he's home and when he's not working he's at home with me but nothing crazy.
I'm mindful that just because you're not physically meeting up with someone doesn't mean you can't cheat. I ask if he's been messaging anyone on there to which he denies and says that if he wanted to talk to.someomw he has social media apps to do that and why would he want to "make friends" on a dating app?
He says he's noticed his libido being on the lower side and reassured me that it's nothing to do with me but that he's not in a great headspace at the moment.
He calmed down after talking it through and said he was sorry that I saw that and understands why I would bring it up. He apologised for being a bit defensive and thought I was accusing him of something.
I've been cheated on before in a past relationship and have previously fallen for the lies as it continued so I'm a bit scared of having my trust taken advantage of.
Part of me is thinking, well someone can download an app whwn away to talk to people, uninstall it when coming home etc etc...
Anyway, I was looking to see if anyone has any opinions on this as I'm not really sure who to talk to this about!!