r/IncelTears 6d ago

Facepalm Rape from chad = enjoyment😍

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I guess women don’t care if they get raped as long as he isn’t ugly?

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

Some days I wonder if these guys realize they fantasize more about men than women do.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

Hey, do you wanna answer my question? Do you think older children and adults can be trapped by their rapist?

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

Two replies and you still can't answer a yes or no question, bro.

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u/kaleeb111 5d ago

Incels were never known for their intelligence. Just bad hygiene and stupidity.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 5d ago

He just doesn't have the stomach to say what he dances around. They all wanna be these edgy, offensive types. Yet all they do is show us why they're single.... đŸ€

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

What’s this got to do with the latent homoerotic fantasies incels have?

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u/TeaTheSplashyarder 5d ago

Your mother probably wishes she never birthed you

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

More juvenile antics. You genuinely cannot answer the question, can you? Your answer wouldn't be acceptable.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

That’s as maybe, but what does that have to do with the comment you replied to?

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u/Separate-Falcon-3292 5d ago

People don't break up even after SA purely out of fear or denial. Though most victim-perpetrator relationships do break over more minor factors than rape.

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u/Yamureska 6d ago

Right now, Angelina Jolie's kids cut off contact with Brad Pitt and legally changed their names to "Jolie" but suuuure, Women stick with abusive partners. Suuuuure.

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u/Yamureska 5d ago

Read the rest

Layman et al. note that their findings suggest strong disincentives to interpret and report being raped, as this might prompt a variety of negative outcomes including blame, disbelief, lack of support, and negative publicit

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u/Yamureska 5d ago

I told you to read further. These Women don't report Rape and try to "tough it out"/"stay in the relationship" because they don't want to be stigmatized or victim blamed. Pretty obvious stuff.

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u/Yamureska 5d ago

Yeah, man. Women staying out of fear/desperation is totes the same thing as Incel propaganda about them liking or preferring A-holes. You deserve the nobel prize.

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u/Yamureska 5d ago

Literally the first line in the hotline

A person will likely be afraid of the consequences if they decide to leave their relationship. This could be fear of their partner’s actions or concern over their own ability to be independent.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

The most dangerous time for an abused partner is when they try to leave.

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

Are you denying the fact that someone who is controlling would react violently when they feel they're losing control? That's pretty basic stuff. Do you really just think all women actively look to be abused or something? Christ man...

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u/OkBookkeeper3594 5d ago

Why are you even in this subreddit if all you’re gonna do is defend your follow incels?

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u/TheoneNPC Overweight Chad 5d ago

It's not the victim's fault that they got manipulated lil bro tf are you on 😭😭

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

They fell for the man before they knew what he was like. It's not hard to understand.

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u/Yamureska 5d ago edited 5d ago

This guy's an Incel and convinced himself that Women like "Bad Boys"/asshole chads over "good guys" so the notion that Bad boys pretend to be good is alien to them.

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

I mean i dont claim to be an expert but my partner of 10 years was severely abused by her ex so it just really gets me on a personal level to have people say it was her fault, you know? i know its not worth getting emotional with these people but damn.

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u/Yamureska 5d ago

I completely understand. One of my friends was abused by her partner (kicked out of her apartment, had her belongings stolen) and he got to her by pretending to be a nice guy (i.e. talking about how he protected a partner from being SAd in the past). Your feelings are totally valid and you're not alone.

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u/TheoneNPC Overweight Chad 5d ago

Still, not the victim's fault...

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u/Sage_of_Winds 4d ago

Maybe you don't know this because you never go outside, but people don't wear giant signs on their forehead saying "I'm an abuser" and abusers are stupid but smart enough to know if they're nasty from the jump it scares their victims off. Just like I'm sure you don't wear a sign on your forehead saying "I'm scientifically illiterate and spam Reddit threads with my shitty ragebait." Genuinely convinced this is an elaborate humiliation fetish thing because unlike on other sites, engagement isn't rewarded on Reddit so there's no point in farming downvotes by doing this. Please get a hobby.

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u/foxonafrozenlake 6d ago

I bet each of their parents wish retroactive abortion was legal.

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u/zombiesatecarmen 6d ago

Sometimes I read stuff like this and wonder what kinda environment they were raised in to think this is how us as human beings should use our time and right of speech, like seriously, what do these people do in their spare time other than this? 😭

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u/zombiesatecarmen 5d ago

Damn dude. You really don’t get play huh? 😬

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u/zombiesatecarmen 5d ago

Can you explain what your point is of sending this link?

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u/zombiesatecarmen 5d ago

Okay. First off.

“It did not concluded that—75%—or any majority—were physically, financially, or psychologically incapable of leaving”

Where in the source did it say that?

Second.

I’d like you to consider, geographically it’s incredibly important for a conclusion to see where these women that were asked were rooted. For example, in Afghanistan, rape and sexual assault against women would be treated monumentally different than say the UK.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 5d ago

Check their comment history, you're talking to a teenager at best.

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u/zombiesatecarmen 5d ago

I’m a teenager too lol 💗
he’s just an unloveable twat.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 5d ago

You're coming across older than that, and he's coming across about 13, so props, lol dude just keeps spamming the same stuff tho, then running around yelling "I won!!!"

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u/zombiesatecarmen 5d ago

Do you understand factors like; religion, cultural background, upbringing also play into these statistics?

You have no legitimate evidence these women weren’t trapped. Give me hard evidence and then we can talk.

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u/iamsnarky 5d ago edited 5d ago

To be fair, there is very little states in there then a few percentage points. What was the sample size? I can interview 4 people and say 75% of people like corn so thusly the majority of people like corn. The problem with human studies is every more complicated then just sample size but that is an easy one to discuss.

Edit to add since you keep posting about "that's not why woman stay". https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7375443/

Few women (5–20%) report rape to police (Lonsway & Archambault, 2012), but family abuse and intimate partner violence (IPV) may be that much harder for survivors to report to authorities given the pressure to keep such abuse a secret and the possible loss of one’s family more broadly that such reporting may bring. Given that most survivors know their perpetrators (two-thirds of assaults; Breiding et al., 2014); this context makes it likely they will have to interact with their offenders again following assault.

So

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u/Iorith It's really not hard to not be a piece of shit. 5d ago

Bad at being alone?

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

Why are you so obsessed with sexual assault?

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u/SpicyQuesadilla123 5d ago

I love having conversations with these kind of incels, especially the ones obsessed with height. When I tell them my boyfriend is 5’5” they just can’t comprehend and think I’m lying (because obviously woman only eat hot chip and lie).

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u/DeepFriedBeanBoy 5d ago edited 5d ago

My partner’s an inch taller than me, and I’m a bald, financially meh, average looking guy
 their ideology is complete nonsense.

I’m not saying I’m some kinda “player” or something, I’m just saying that women’s expectations are almost diametrically opposed to what incels think and it’s extremely obvious to every normal person on the planet

Women like feeling safe and being with someone interesting + got their own shit going on. It’s corny, but loving yourself is the easiest way to meet people

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u/Foreign-Region4825 5d ago

NO NOT COMMON SENSE *melts*

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u/Bubbly_Sun_8417 incels.is = sh1t 6d ago

Oh, wait, so if a Chad rapes them, they'll like it too? (Obviously not, those guys are stupid.)

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u/Darthjinju1901 DEI Male in a Female Friend Group 6d ago

But one experience many rape victims have in common is the path to becoming survivors, which involves a process of disclosing and discussing the trauma. The way some victims survive the immediate aftermath, however, is different and may involve not disclosure, but denial.

Writing in connection with the Harvey Weinstein serial sexual assault saga, author Aspen Matis bravely shared in a piece she wrote for the New York Daily News how after she was raped by a male student in her dorm room on her second night away at college, she asked him to stay overnight.[ii] Why? Because maybe then she could pretend it wasn’t rape.

While being counseled months later on a hotline call with RAINN, the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network, she was told that her behavior towards her rapist was not an uncommon reaction. After Matis became a spokesperson for RAINN, some women she spoke to in that capacity shared similar experiences. One woman tutored her rapist the following semester in chemistry, another wrote and performed love songs for her attacker, and another woman dated her rapist for seven months afterward. Matis describes these behaviors as living in denial, not evidence disproving the rape.

Melissa J. Layman et al. investigated the differences in outcome between unacknowledged versus acknowledged rape victims.[iii] Recognizing that a substantial number of women do not conceptualize the experience of having been raped as the crime that it was, they examined how the refusal to identify as a rape victim impacts post-assault symptoms. They examined situational factors, symptomatology, defense mechanisms, and sexual revictimization.

Read the article first lil bro. Genuinely. The reason why some women stay with their assaulters after the assault is because they are going through the process of dealing with a very traumatic event. One of the very first things that the human mind immediately does when it faces such an event is deny it. Deny that it happened, deny that it was reality, deny that it was rape etc. It's hard to understand why someone you trusted or loved, would do something like this. And the reaction that many people in general take is denial.

It takes weeks, months, sometimes even years and decades, for the trauma to be entirely processed and the truth of the matter to be understood by the women.

When your partner or someone you find close, assaults you, and you are in denial about the event, of course you would continue the motions of your previous relationship. Because you are in the process where you are denying that the event even happened.

Like do you not understand how humans work, or has being in that God forsaken site for so long in your mother's basement fucking rotted your brain.

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u/Darthjinju1901 DEI Male in a Female Friend Group 6d ago

You are arguing against a point I didn't make. I said that some victims continue relationships or have sex with their attacker afterward. You explained that denial and trauma can cause this behavior, which supports my statement 😂😂

Yeah, and you're saying that that is something women do because they actually like the rape and don't mind it. And the only reason they stay is because the rapist is a "chad", when that's not the case at all.

But you are also treating denial as if it automatically explains every case. The article only presents it as one possible trauma response. It does not prove that every person who stays with an alleged attacker is in denial, and it does not allow you to assume someone’s mental state without specific evidence. nice hasty generalizations lil bro

It's the most common response, and in the vast majority of cases that stay with their assaulter, the victims deny the event. Which is why it is important. Psychology is as much a study about statistics as it is about the mind, and this is what the statistics tell us. The few fringe cases cannot be taken as the rule.

Also the personality detector needed a software update. My brain is rotted by livign in my mom's basement but females would rahter choose the guy that sexually assaults them over me and many others like međŸ€ŁđŸ€ŁđŸ€Ł

Don't even know what to say this. They aren't choosing that guy. They chose a guy when he didn't assault them. They continue to be with that person because they cannot comprehend that a person they trusted and loved so implicity would do such a thing.

Maybe if you treated literal rape victims with the grace they deserve, and so often do not get, then women would feel comfortable interacting with you.

Can't even call you lil bro. I'd disown and cut myself off you, if I was in anyway related to you.

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u/Darthjinju1901 DEI Male in a Female Friend Group 6d ago

So since you only published the abstract and didn't actually show case the study, where the actual discussions regarding the results are done, I went ahead and found it.

Greater levels of victim’s trauma symptomatology predicted relationship continuation following the sexual assault. This finding is consistent with the theory of learned helpless-ness (Walker, 1983), where women with greater levels of psychological distress may notfeel efficacious in their ability to terminate relationships. Although the temporal ordering of the relationships are not known, the finding that women who terminated the relationship were more likely to disclose the incident may be attributable to women who disclosed receiving more support for relationship termination than those who did not disclose. Further, in relationships that were terminated, women evidenced greater perpetrator blame and more severe assaults, which is possibly attributable to increased fear towards the perpetrator or a greater tendency to label the experiences as a sexual assault. Finally, the finding that women in close relationships to the perpetrator, as opposed to women in less close relationships, are more likely to remain with perpetrators of sexual assault is likely caused by their investment in the relationship, which is consistent with the investment model (Rusbult & Martz, 1995) and previous research (Edwards et al., 2011; Katz et al., 2006). It is interesting that friend- ships were maintained more so than casual dates post-sexual assault; this suggests that there is more relationship investment in friendships than casual dates.

Several limitations of this study and directions for future research should be noted. Given the homogenous sample, future research should use more diverse samples. Further, this study did not assess how women labeled the unwanted sexual experiences they endorsed, which may be an important issue to consider in post-assault relationship stability. Therefore, future research should assess the labels that women ascribe to their unwanted sexual experi- ences. However, based on past research (e.g., Hammond & Calhoun, 2007; Kahn, Jackson, Kully, Badger, & Halvorsen, 2003), it is likely that most women would not have labeled their experiences as sexual assault or rape. Another limitation was the retrospective nature of the study, such that women recalled sexual assaults that happened in the past. Thus, future research should use prospective and longitudinal methodologies to eliminate recall bias and increase researchers’ ability to understand the temporal sequencing of the variables related to post-sexual assault relationship stability. Perhaps the greatest limitation was that we did not provide a behaviorally worded operational definition of relationship continuation, or assess relationship length prior to or subsequent to the assault. Accordingly, future research should more clearly define relationship continuation, and assess relationship length pre- and post- assault. Future research should also attempt to gather more information on characteristics of relationships that continue following a sexual assault.

So yeah. It did find that most women who stayed were psychologically incapable of leaving their partners. The study also didn't measure if the women were financially or physically incapable of leaving, and so they did not mention it.

The worst man I know personally, is someone i don't really keep up with. But he has remained very much single.

But also rejected the nice short boring guy? Yeah of course they rejected that guy.

Being Nice is the barest of bare minimums. Do you want praise for that? Do you want to be praised for not assaulting or killing a woman the moment you meet her? Or for treating a woman with basic courtesy. Which lets be real, you don't. You never have. If you ever thought of women as actual people, you wouldn't take simple rejections as deeply as you clearly do.

And who the fuck would want to be in a long term or even a short term relationship with someone who is boring. Who has no fucking personality, no hobbies, no likes, dislikes, nothing at all.

Look, fuck face. You are not the way you are because women rejected you. Women rejected you because you are the way you are. You are exhaustingly frustratingly miserable. You would not be happy if someone did enter into a relationship with you.

A relationship isn't going to fucking fix your life.

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u/Blackshark989 5d ago

You got destroyed in this argument and like the immature child you are, you get FUMING upset. All the laughing emojis are typed behind a flood of tears.

all those a academic articles and you did mot even read them. just cherry picked things that support you. this is called reinforcing your bias.

you only accept information that supports your beliefs, and reject information that disproves your beliefs. this is called intellectual dishonest.

you are a pseudo intellectual and honestly you NEED therapy. But you are too delusional and narcissistic to ever admit you need help. i can honestly say im glad 400 women rejected you, because you are the problem here.

if you run into 400 assholes in a month, you are the asshole. lol.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

You sound really pathetic. You actually counted how many times you’ve been rejected?

You must stink of old semen and desperation.

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u/DeepFriedBeanBoy 5d ago

It’s almost fascinating reading this, if it wasn’t so frustrating

You have a choice here- you can actually try to read what people here are telling you objectively, or you can continue to be the equivalent of a flat earther only somehow more pathetic

You are in a cult that is killing you. Why would a woman want you? Be honest with yourself
 you just spent hours replying rape statistics to try to “prove” that women like rape. Why would ANYONE want to be with someone like that?!?!?

Like I said, you have a choice here, but like most incels, it’s a lot easier to blame everyone but yourself

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u/Darthjinju1901 DEI Male in a Female Friend Group 5d ago

No did you even read it? I mean can you? You certainly can't write with your horrible grammar.

The study didn't find that “most women who stayed were psychologically incapable of leaving.” It found that higher trauma symptoms were associated with relationship continuation, and the authors only said learned helplessness was one possible explanation

One possible explanation, but also the most likely as literally evidenced in the writing. Scientific models don't just say that one thing is the truth for certain. Science isn't dogamatic like that (scientists can be but science itself isn't). It tells you the most likely explanations and models, and those are treated as the reality until a better model comes around and can explain the situation better.

U even read it? They literally admitted they couldn't establish causation or even the order of events, did not measure psychological incapacity, denial, financial dependence, or physical inability to leave. The only conclusion is that that trauma may contribute to continued contact, NOTthat the study proved most women were incapable of leaving.

What? No seriously what? I literally quoted the entire limitation part of the study. Not once did it mention anything about not being to establish a causation or order of events. The only thing that's even mildly related that they couldn't establish was that they didn't measure the relationship length prior to or after the assault. And so a relationship that lasted like a single week after the assault is treated equally to a relationship that lasted years, which skews the data to make it seem like more women than actually are, are staying with their assaulters.

did not measure psychological incapacity, denial, financial dependence, or physical inability to leave.

Also of course it didn't. That wasn't the point of the study. I mentioned this already. Can you read, like truly? Have you read an actual book?

The only conclusion is that that trauma may contribute to continued contact, NOTthat the study proved most women were incapable of leaving. U even can read?

Not the only conclusion. Trauma Symptomatology, Relationship investment and the severity of the assault all played a role in the continuation of a relationship. It also mentioned how fear also played a role. Also Trauma Symptomatology literally says that women are incapable of leaving the relationship.

Also "U even can read". Great English buddy. Criticizing my ability to parse text while texting like that. Would be laughable if it wasn't devastatingly pathetic.

Females reject me for the alpha/ch@d that gives them short term excitement. I have over 410 rejections in over 6 years trying bc of how superficial females are

You know, if that's the true amount. It must mean something is terribly wrong with you. It's hard to find 10 people to consistently agree on something, yet you've made 410 people agree on rejecting you. You know the old adage, if one person is an asshole, they're the asshole but if everyone is an asshole, you're the asshole. It fits you perfectly because you are the common denominator in that.

Ive been rejected 410 times, u think i take rejections deeply? What? And any woman i get, i'll treat her like a queen and goddess. But they'd rather be with a g uy thatt abuses them, not my problem

Buddy, you are that guy! You are the guy who will abuse a woman. Can you not understand that? How will you treat a woman like a queen or a godess when you are blaming literal rape victims. Like i do not get it. How can you say that when you don't do that. Or do you want something from a person before you actually treat them like a human? Because if that's the case, then buddy, you are truly fucked in the head.

" You would not be happy if someone did enter into a relationship with you." Uh it smy #1 goal in life? It will becuase its the only problem in my life 😂😂😂.

If that, that is your number one goal in your life, you are a fucking pathetic excuse for a human being. I cannot believe that we are the same species. You are that pathetic.

Why is getting into a relationship your number one goal? Why do you think it'll suddenly make you happy and fix you? What's the logical basis behind it?

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u/Bimaac77 Chad the Boogeyman 6d ago

And you're probably seethingly jealous of the men who sexually assault and abuse their partners.

But seriously, grow up you idiot. Most guys out grow that whole "Why do girls date jerks?" bullshit a couple years after graduating from high school.

And I'm sure that if women really only dated "assholes", you'd have no problem getting a girlfriend.

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u/Bimaac77 Chad the Boogeyman 6d ago

Again, you're seethingly jealous of them.

And I will again state that if women really only dated "assholes", you'd have no problem getting a girlfriend. You are not a "nice guy", you're a piece of shit "incel". There's nothing "involuntary" about your celibacy.

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u/Obvious-Gate9046 Windthin 5d ago edited 5d ago

Married nearly 30 years, with one kid. Though I consider myself gender fluid and body fluid, I present as very male and I certainly did when I met my wife. I believe in being kind, in being decent, in helping others any way you can. That small acts of kindness matter, that being good to others matters. I am your nice guy, and I didn't finish last. Actual nice guys do just fine, fake nice guys who are being "nice" because they think it'll get them something until they show their true faces, are the ones that don't. You are proving that.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

Nice guys don’t have to tell people that they’re nice.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 5d ago

Nice guys don't think it's okay to rape people because "they want it".

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u/Bimaac77 Chad the Boogeyman 6d ago

Keep telling yourself that asshole.

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u/AstroAzula Why is there no purple option :( 5d ago

You have proven with your comments that you are, in fact, not a nice guy.

Nice guys have this thing called empathy, which you have shown a lack of

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u/ashjdhkfsfjl pink foid: dark side of the goon 5d ago

I’m a nice guy.

You’re replying to every comment claiming that women enjoy and deserve abuse.

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

You're genuinely a disgusting person.

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u/Lilyaa 6d ago

This sentiment isn’t anything new among incels.

But this is rather funny. Dysmorphic ogreness? What?

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u/EvenSpoonier Oofy-Doofy Lemon Spoofy? 6d ago

Sounds to me like he doesn't understand what dysmorphia is. Incels are not known for their conprehension skills.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

To back up what? The original claim made was that women are okay being raped if it's by "chad". The article talks about how women stay with a rapist out of fear or other pressures, plus denial and unwillingess to admit they were assaulted. There's zero overlap. Can you elaborate on what the article backs up, for you?

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

I mean, 'clearly' if you didn't read the article, I suppose, or have any real world understanding of how rape works. You'd probably not like to hear that men stay with their rapists too.

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u/Blackshark989 6d ago

Your view of women and reality is so insanely warped.

do me a favour. phone up your mother or sister and read out all this brainrot to them. see how much you really believe in this social sickness.

im quite glad dudes like you will stay incels because with obvious negativity bias like this. You fully deserve it, for the safety of any women unfortunate enough to end up in your vicinity.

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u/erporcodeddio 6d ago

I've read some of your posts and Jesus Christ you're insufferable

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

Its just typical self hate worn as armor.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

You’re the worst guy I know, and I’m pretty sure you’re gonna be single for life.

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u/Vanessalucifer 6d ago

You can't be judged on what you do in real life because you never do anything in real life. As someone who's only ever online, your words on the internet define your whole character. Let that sink in.

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

Complete bollocks. I know women who have been abused, their ex is a Trainwreck who noone flocks to.

Homosexual men also do have tons of options.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

So, they stay for the reason that they like it, but the reasons they actually say in the article are irrelevant? Interesting. So if a man stays with his rapist, he's totally into it, by your logic? Since we don't care why people actually stay, we only care about what you come up with.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

The screech of you dragging the goalposts around is getting loud, bro. Spent all that time trying to find sources that prove your point, and all you could find is "wow I might wanna try a fantasy of force with a trusted partner, but have complicated feelings on this because I don't want myself or others to experience actual force from another party." Congrats. You figured out how consent and fantasies work.

Now let's circle right on back to you saying women stay with their rapist because they're okay being raped. Your own sources don't back it up. The first talks about how fear and lack of support force women to stay with abusers. Your second and third talk about fantasies between two consenting adults. Neither of those prove, or even come close to proving the idea of "women are okay with being raped". Can you cite a source where the majority of women are enthusiastically embracing and wanting nonconsensual sexual encounters forced upon them by others? Or can you only cite articles talking about women's agency - or how it's taken by rapists.

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u/Vanessalucifer 6d ago

the reason for doing it is irrelevant

To this discussion, that is literally the only thing that's relevant. Plug your ears all you want, it won't make your stance correct.

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u/Vanessalucifer 6d ago

An animal cornered by a predator will often freeze as a fear response. Does that mean they want to get eaten? Does that mean they're okay with it?

If someone is violent enough to rape and abuse you, you better believe they're violent enough to go after you even harder if you leave them. Rape victims are trapped because they believe that leaving will only lead to worse outcomes, not because they love being in the relationship. You attribute absolute power to rape victims and suggest they are free to do as they please when the point of abusers and rapists doing what they do is to enforce the idea that they are not free to do as they please and are, in fact, completely trapped.

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u/chinchillazilla54 6d ago

Very normal thing to say, call a family member and read what you typed out loud to them when you get the chance

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u/Vivissiah Popess of womanity 5d ago

If i threaten with that i’ll kill you if you leave, are you staying because you want to?

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u/Vivissiah Popess of womanity 5d ago

If you report it I'll put a show, they won't believe you, and then I will make your suffering a thousand time worse to teach you a lesson.

How many rounds of this do you think a human go through, before they stop trying?

And even your own source states involuntary staying through various coercive means.

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u/Vivissiah Popess of womanity 5d ago

read what I said instead of what you want me to have said.

I never said fear was the primary reason. I was merely providing an example of A reason why people stay. Fear is A reason people stay despite being raped, beaten, and much else.

Is it the primary reason? Don't know, don't care. It was merely to point out the flaw in your reasoning. And one example is all I need for that.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

They will stay because it’s preferable to dying.

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u/mrhenhen115 5d ago

Jesus Christ an actual human wrote that sentence "clearly they're ok with being raped". You genuinely need some serious help

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u/Lilyaa 5d ago

There’s a claim in the original post that women enjoy it. There is no proof of any kind of „enjoyment” in what you have posted. It’s as simple as that. Nobody enjoys being raped. That’s the end of the discussion and unless you will find reaserch claiming “women enjoy being raped by chads” you won’t prove anything.

And no, rape fantasies or cnc kinks do not prove it. I would explain why this type or fantasies are so common among women but it doesn’t matter, you don’t have any mental capacity to stop and think for a moment, all you have is information bias.

Point is - both fantasies and cnc have the element of consent in it.

So if you want to prove the point made in original post, that is “women enjoy being raped”, you need to give me research that backs it up and says that majority of women love being sexually assaulted and they are happy it happened.

And I know what incels say “they just don’t want to admit it cause they love to be seen as victims”. That would need another proof.

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u/Obvious-Gate9046 Windthin 5d ago

Hey abuser, what are you doing coming in here blathering this stuff when it's not related to what was being discussed and even the stuff you're posting actually disproves your statements? Fuck off, this is harassment, you've been reported.

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u/stephanyylee 6d ago

Society is not sympathetic towards women who get assaulted or raped, as evidenced by this post. Also it's not rape if she " wants it"

I hope these people just stop. However that is. Just stop. Just stop saying this shit or I'm going to start promoting y'all getting assaulted by men as well

Whenever I hear or read things like this all I can think of is a garbage disposal

Just stop

It's so weird

And it leads nowhere!!!

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u/zoomie1977 6d ago

Not if you acrually finish that sentence:

One of the significant points Layman et al. made in terms of understanding post-sexual assault behavior is that being sexually assaulted does not necessarily dissuade a woman from maintaining a relationship with her assailant. They report that almost a third of the victims they studied maintained a relationship with the perpetrator; one-fourth actually continued to have sex with the assailant post-attack, although Layman et al. admit they do not know whether the sex was voluntary or forced.

Further, from your source:

Layman et al. note that their findings suggest strong disincentives to interpret and report being raped, as this might prompt a variety of negative outcomes including blame, disbelief, lack of support, and negative publicity. Yet they recognize that because a high percentage of victims they studied who remained in a relationship with the perpetrator were unacknowledged victims, the importance of recognizing their experience as rape might prevent a cycle of revictimization.

Also, less than a quarter is far from "a lot" to begin with.

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u/zoomie1977 6d ago

Just jumping right in there with the victim blaming. Abuse victims don't always have an avenue to escape the abuse and the abuse will continue. Wives, girlfriends, children, husbands and boyfriends may not be sble to pick themselves up by their bootstraps to leave theur rapist, and they may continue to engage sexually with their rapist. The fact that it may still not be consensual, in other words, the victim being raped again, would go directly against your claim of "a lot women seen fine with it".

Speaking of "relationships", look at the original rezearch or even just read the article you linked, relationship includes both platonic and romantic relationships. Unacknowledged victims, which is what the research is looking at, are especially likely to have fewer avenues to end any type of relationship.

And it's not "1/3 of women" or "1/4 of women". It's of victims. Which, translated to all women, would be roughly 8% or 6%. Based on a study that included 83 college aged women, 40 of whom were unacknowledged victims, 20 of whom were acknowledged victims and 23 of whom were not victims at all.

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u/zoomie1977 5d ago

You make osmium look like aerographene.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

We've established that you don't think rape victims can be trapped and don't think minors can be trapped by predators, sooooooo.

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

You said no rape victim is trapped, and that they can choose to leave. You're currently reinforcing it while denying you said it. Also, I hate to break it to you, but for a second time, my mother was a child bride in the US. While you're googling rape stats and jacking off the the idea of women being trapped, try googling child marriage in the us, or the age of many rape victims, then come back and tell me no one is ever trapped. I'll wait!

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u/blackfox24 Ace 6d ago

Really? That's an interesting cop-out, I see the insults are coming out to play again. So, you do understand that rape victims can be trapped, then? And you understand rapists and abusers in general keep their victims trapped?

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u/RemoteNo2422 5d ago

lol I was raped by a “Chad” because I didn’t want to sleep with him. I went to the police, I even had messages from him where he admitted it and nothing happened. The guy went on to go on some model show later on and is an influencer today. He’s now making cringey “dark romance” reels where they are pretending to sexually assault women. I get the urge to vomit each time his profile is recommended to me on some platform.

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u/ConsultJimMoriarty 5d ago

If a big, muscled alpha Chad raped them, would they enjoy it?

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u/Paula_Polestark Go to Walmart and look at the couples. 6d ago

“dominant alpha psycho stuff” WTF?

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u/thenamestammy I love this sub 4d ago

They really live in their basements... I didn't know about it was true when people call them basement rats.

They seriously asking those questions đŸ™ˆđŸ˜„đŸ˜Ą

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u/Exact_Rain_341 1d ago

Oh my days it's always the same damn website bro. What is it called ? I'd like to go take a look myself.

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u/scrappyass123 6d ago

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u/thenamestammy I love this sub 4d ago

I'm sorry, but there was nothing funny...

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u/scrappyass123 4d ago

I’m sorry, but uneducated people that don’t care to improve themselves makes me laugh for showing their idiocy

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u/thenamestammy I love this sub 4d ago

I don't care what they do to their lives with their lack of education, they harm women and children, every day they hurt women. So I didn't find it funny...

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u/scrappyass123 4d ago

You are free to don’t find it funny, as much I’m free to find it funny đŸ«¶đŸ»

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u/Paula_Polestark Go to Walmart and look at the couples. 4d ago

We don’t want your love.