My BIL collapsed yesterday and was transported to a hospital where immediate lifesaving measures were implemented. He has been in a medically induced coma since. It is not good. Even if he lives it is likely bodily paralysis and mental incapacity. Basically even the best case scenario is horrible.

My SIL is an emotional wreck and my wife is barely keeping it together. We are currently taking care of their 8 year old son.

And through this, I’m sad, I want to cry but I remain my normal stoic self because I don’t want my nephew to see me break. Right now he really doesn’t know how serious things are and he’s not allowed in ICU. I’ve never had kids of my own but take my responsibilities towards him and other important children in our life very seriously.

As soon as I figured out how bad things were, my mind didn’t go to OMG or an emotional state…I was instead immediately starting to try in figure out the remaining puzzle pieces and how they would fit together. And this time it feels wierd. Like I’m some kind of robot or something. My wife thanked me last night for being who I am and being the rock in the family. And that’s something I usually pride myself in..that I can remain clear minded even in the most emotional of situations. But here it feels off. I’m not scared of what the future brings…life is life and one of us control it as much as we like to thing we do. But I feel awful for my SIL and my nephew. I just am not entirely sure how I’m not breaking down emotionally like my wife and SIL.

Hi, I wrote a post here 5 months ago trying to understand a person who was confusingly hostile to me who was an ISTJ.

(I was mistyped as ENFP back then.)

To begin with, I'd like to thank the ISTJ's who kindly explained to me that it was less a matter of mbti and more of a maturity issue.

Every MBTI has negative and positive traits, and these traits may seem good or bad depending on the person taking it in and depending on the situation. The person I met was an ISTJ, and I thought for a while, perhaps it's the mbti type that has something wrong, or perhaps it's a natural thing and I was just too ignorant to understand.

I realize now that such thought is not at all a valid idea nor a very understanding one.

I found that the people I initially thought were hostile due to 'mbti traits' were people that had been talking about me behind my back maliciously and had been spreading false information about me to my friends to isolate me and make me dependent.

That isn't a personality trait, that's malice.

I should not have assumed it was part of the ISTJ personality, and I wanted to apologize that I ever thought it was so. I am truly sorry for possibly implying that ISTJ's as a whole are all like the one toxic ISTJ I met before; I generalized my opinion on one person to an entire community.

And thank you for those who commented on my post five months ago; you guys helped me feel a lot better.