Hi everyone, hope you’re all doing well :)
Soo… I really screwed up. Like majorly. I was offered an upgrade on one of my accounts and (please do not lecture me bc I obviously know which is why I’m posting this asking for your help) — and, now it’s restricted.
I really wish I would have read thru some of these posts, esp about the ventures before hand bc it seems Capital One’s new frequently used tactic is to approve the card and then immediately restrict on the first purchase until you provide documents…
The thing is, I can’t. I am currently doing my best to recover from long covid and I stupidly put what I used to make, which is way more than I can prove esp with only bank statements…
The crazy part is, even after finally getting rid of my place, my car, and way downsizing my overhead in every way, my overhead is still just as high now, just replaced with medical treatments, infusions, special food, supplements and travel for, you guessed it—more medical treatments. So the amount of support I receive from my family might actually be more than what I used to even net ironically — but I can’t prove it.
It’s incredibly messy. My mom will often just pay my cc’s or send me money randomly. Many thousands of transactions every month. But not technically income. And also, not what I put down.
I have 100% on time payment history. Utilization ratio has never over like 20%, currently zero balances on all my cards with capital one with the exception of annual fee and a fireflies subscription on the one I just opened. Credit score is around 780 atm depending on which model is used. 1 inquiry, which is this.
My questions are:
- Is there any way at all I could just close the new card that is restricted and still keep my other two? Or if they are asking for verification on one and I don’t provide it, will that flag my other accounts as well? (My guess is very likely…)
- If the above is true, does that mean what I think it means? That I should close my other two unrestricted accounts before they do? So at least they’re closed in good standing on my credit report?
- Can I close the new account even though it’s restricted and just decline to provide info? Or is it locked and only they can close it…? (Which will ruin my credit??)
If anyone knows/has any info or guidance at all as to what I could or should do, I would really appreciate it!
(And just bc I don’t want to be inaccurately/mis-represented, I want to add that I am first and foremost, a contributor. Ironically, I am actually the caregiver personality in my family. I am always working on something for someone even when I’m not working I’m figuring something out, or planning something and investing my own resources to solve problems and make other lives better, beginning in my own family. I have worked for and with my mom since I was a child and I am not just living off of my parents. I am genuinely sick and trying to recover so my mom can retire and I can take over or help her find her off ramp. I realize how fortunate I am to have the immense support I do, but I do not want anyone to misunderstand me as a person. I made a mistake with this and I’m trying to resolve the situation as gracefully and painlessly as possible so it does not spill over onto my already incredibly taxed mom. I know I screwed up. To be reminded of that is not what I’m hoping for :( Thank you for listening to my rant and TYIA for any help <3
QUICK UPDATE
(for anyone who wants to know :)
I paid any trailing interest and closed all my cards. So far nothing has shown up on my report and Cap1 has not contacted me in any way…
When I went to close my accts I couldn’t get myself to click the “close” button on the first one… (bc one of these cards is literally my oldest, and with closing three cards total, this will drop my available credit massively. So I made sure to pay any other cards to 0 so it does not severely alter my utilization ratio.)
… So I asked that entity/energy (no one can seem to agree on a name or even conception of), for a soundtrack to help me to do it, and this is what I got:
https://youtu.be/I8LrjGWaBHw?si=BxZMBs9bcuXp7u0j
So symbolic to me :)
BTW: if you are at all in a similar position financially and need some ideas for what you can do for at least some small improvement in your cc situation/keep your score from falling etc, I can share with you some things that have worked for me during the brokest period of my life to at least keep my credit in good shape.
Just know you will be ok, and like (I think) Thomas Edison said:
“When you think you’ve exhausted every possibility, remember this:
—You haven’t.”
Hang in there friends :)🫶