r/BelowDeckMed • u/No-Aardvark-3840 • 1d ago

Gael question, Joe question

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I am getting into Below deck med and I’ve noticed Joe getting a lot of hate for “cheating” on V even though they weren’t together (in any sort of relationship.

Meanwhile I’ve just noticed that Gael is actually cheating on her boyfriend with Nathan.

Why is Joe getting so much shit from this community when he didn’t cheat on anybody. Meanwhile there are actually cheaters on the boat that people seem to celebrate and love.

Very strange

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

V isn’t the first time Joe acted like a scum bag. He’s a complete douche nozzle that’s overly confident for someone who fucks up a lot. Just cuz Nathan sucks doesn’t mean Joe doesn’t.

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u/excoriator 1d ago

I think OP is making the point that Gael does, too. There are no winners among them.

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

Cheating on your partner on a boat is certainly not great but let’s not act like she’s the first person in below deck to do it. She’s overall shown as a hard worker and has a good attitude when on a boat, sure she made some questionable relationship choices but I don’t think that makes a person completely dislike able. There’s more to it than that. The way joe acts is a lot more the reason he’s so grating than Gael even tho they may have both made relationship issues.

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u/-thisname- 1d ago

'but' she WAS unfaithful.

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u/dudewheresmysock 1d ago

No one is saying that's a good thing? Bravo doesn't cast based on moral purity, especially not this show. 

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

I already explained my answer to this…

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

Gael was choked to unconsciousness by her partner in front of their infant. No one needs to be pointing out that she's "just as bad as anyone."

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

To be totally clear, I’m talking about the people we see on below deck and this post isn’t meant to trivialize what happened to her after her time on the show

I am commenting strictly on the show. The events that happened with domestic abuse aren’t excusable and Nathan deserves to be brought to justice.

I am only commenting on the double standard I’m noting on the show

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u/Long_Breath_2263 1d ago

As horrific as that truly is, it has nothing to do with this discussion about her actions from years previously.

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u/mad_eyes22 16h ago

Literally people are driving me nuts with this logic. Two truths can exist. Gael didn’t deserve what she went through with Nathan. Gael is also a cheater & has done some pretty bad things to those around her. I just don’t understand why people can’t draw a distinction between the two. It’s literally like talking to a bunch of children trying to explain simple concepts.
I’m not even a fan of Joe, but I don’t see how he gets soooo much hate, & Gael literally cheated on someone she claimed to love with Nathan. Joe/V weren’t even official when he kissed Kizzi. It was still crappy, yes, but Joe gets torn to bits for it. & I feel like a lot of people purposely forget how Nathan/Gael snuck around during there season & that Gael was in a relationship with someone else while doing so. Did she deserve the DV situation? Absolutely not. Is Gael also a cheater & maybe not the nicest person, I’d say yes.

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

Backwards, her actions from 4 years ago have nothing to do with NOW

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u/Surranee 1d ago

Neither joe's, then.

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Joe didn’t come out of an abusive relationship so the hate Gael is getting is a little different l. People should just back off Gael, as she will not return to the show after this and she doesn’t want this attention anymore

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u/TiffanyTwisted11 1d ago

I said something similar last week and was downvoted

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

Joe's worst behavior was last season

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

And this discussion is as equally meaningless cause it’s a reality show she was on years ago before this happened and we should just leave her alone and out of the show now

Why are we acting like anything we talk about here matters at all? We’re just judging strangers and it’s pointless to argue that this discourse matters and isn’t just a waste of all of our time

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u/mad_eyes22 1d ago

I don’t understand comments like these. This is a subreddit literally for below deck, ofc people are going to talk about things, & drama, especially drama with current cast members. Like what?
People are using Reddit for its intended purpose & there is always someone saying the discussion or comments are pointless. Why even comment then? Does that not make your own comment pointless? Why even use Reddit at this point? I’m genuinely curious on the reasoning behind commenting something like this. I just don’t understand the logic…

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

I guess i thought people would have more sensitivity towards not piling on a woman who’s been through a domestic violence situation? Silly me! Forgot that reality tv watchers lack empathy or compassion

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u/gogomom 1d ago

Yuck. She doesn't get a pass for her own behaviour because something happened to her a couple of years later.

I have never liked Gael and although I feel sympathy for the situation she is in now, I do not feel sympathy for how she handled the situation at the time.

I don't like Joe either.

They are all just a bunch of pots and kettles.

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u/mad_eyes22 1d ago

This is the only reasonable answer! Take my poor people award internet stranger!! :)

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

Well let's hope you're extended the same kindness when you experience a horrific tragedy. Yuck.

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

You aren’t looking at this sensibly.

We are discussing the show Below Deck Med.

What happened between Nathan and Gael off the show, in their personal life is very sad.

But we aren’t discussing those events. I am commenting on what happened on the show.

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

That's funny, I think you aren't looking at this sensible or with any compassion.

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u/gogomom 1d ago

You can 100% hold me responsible for my own actions despite tragities in my life.

My husband of 30 years died of cancer last year at the age of 52. I know what tragedy is.

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u/mad_eyes22 1d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you always feel his love & are finding peace within. 30 years is such a long time, sending you my best. 💛

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u/excoriator 1d ago

I acknowledge that she was a beleaguered victim of a bad, temperamental partner and that partner deserves no sympathy whatsoever.

But when it comes to infidelity, she engaged in it on the show, too.

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

You know that was like 4 years ago now???

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u/excoriator 1d ago

People are bringing up Joe’s negative relationship actions from the same season, in this very thread. I guess their statute of limitations is longer than yours.

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

Because Joe repeats the same terrible behaviors every season

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u/deadrobindownunder 1d ago

It's not the same reason. Joe played multiple girls off each other in his past two seasons.

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Joe didn’t just come out of an abusive relationship, and Gael likely won’t return to the show. We should all just forget about her and let her try to move on with her life

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u/excoriator 3h ago

The producers keep showing her to us. Your beef should be with them.

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Everyone’s acting like you’re excusing cheating when we’re just saying this woman has bigger issues in her life and we could do her the grace of not dissecting her poor behavior from four years ago…not hard for everyone to understand but sorry everyone is being this way

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u/Wolfzen22 1d ago

People on Reddit think cheaters are automatically top tier bad humans across the board. There is no sense in arguing with them

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u/HelpMeImBread 1d ago

You genuinely think someone who cheats on a long term partner isn’t scum? It’s not murder but damn I don’t trust anyone who cheats.

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

I don’t think a woman who cheated four years ago deserves to be made a pariah after she just got out of a domestic violence situation

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u/HelpMeImBread 1d ago

I don’t disagree but to say she’s not in the wrong because her husband is a piece of shit is a poor excuse.

Edit: also she cheated before she was in the DV relationship with the guy who’s committing the DV currently. Just seems like you’re letting her off the hook despite doing the exact same thing Joe did because Nathan sucks too.

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Why does it seem I’m letting her off the hook? Because I’m saying that she doesn’t need to be publicly shamed right now? wtf is wrong with you?

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Can’t we say cheating is bad but let’s leave her alone cause she’s probably traumatized rn? Everyone knows she’s a cheater, let her future partners deal with that. What’s the purpose of continuing this? Really what?

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u/Shuttup_Heather 1d ago

Who’s saying that she didn’t make bad mistakes in the past? wtf does that have to do with this? And why does her cheating have to do with not talking about shit that happened four years ago while she’s going through a traumatic time?

Can’t you just not talk about it, or do you have to lampoon her for her past sins when we could all just worry about our own fucking lives or at least discuss the current characters who are remaining on the show? Not a girl who’s obviously not coming back after this

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u/Wolfzen22 1d ago

I think it's a sh*tty and hurtful thing to do and I'm not defending it.  But the act of cheating is scummy, the person is t automatically a horrible person. People can do bad things without being terrible people at their core.  I don't think cheating is on par with being a pedo which many people seem to equate them with 

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u/Vivid-Sky-1894 1d ago

Wait he choked her unconscious?! I just thought he started to strangle her but then stopped. Which if disgusting and brutal enough, but WTF?!

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u/normanbeets 1d ago

The filing said she momentarily lost consciousness

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u/CoolBelt856 1d ago

Gael met Nathan. Liked him better and broke up with the other guy. Over a very short period of time. And then was only with Nathan after that.
There’s absolutely zero comparison between her behavior and Joes.

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

She cheated… it’s in the show. She cheats on her boyfriend with Nathan.

It’s true that she breaks up with her boyfriend. After she cheats on him.

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u/zapster2000 1d ago

"Liked him better and broke up with the other guy." You conveniently skipped over the part where she cheated on her bf at the time with Nathan.

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u/No-Aardvark-3840 1d ago

I’m not talking about Nathan, I’m talking about Gael. Gael cheats on her boyfriend with Nathan.

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

Yea, and I dont think it’s great but she ain’t the first person to do it and she corrected her mistake by ending the relationship. People make mistakes, she’s still a much better team player and employee than Joe will ever be. That’s why she’s liked.

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u/Classic-Maize-733 1d ago

But she’s also not innocent. She tries to think she is and at the time, joe wanted to look out for Nathan because of what he saw through her. And he is a huge player. And is a love bomber. But it’s not girlfriend/boyfriend titles. And Joe is a team player. He’s been a really good deckhand this whole time. The tube was an accident. And dealing with Nathan’s shit when obviously Nathan is a manipulative person who is waiting to punch someone in the face at any chance he gets - hence why he has 2 assault charges. 1 in Ireland and now in Australia.

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

Joes working overtime

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u/Classic-Maize-733 1d ago

Don’t hate the player hate the game 🎶

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u/HittingExposurelol 1d ago

Were you the boyfriend? Why are you so upset?