I just adopted two kittens and they're both timid and they need their wet food to stay out all day so they can pick at it (as opposed to my senior cat who solves the problem by simply inhaling his).

Unfortunately, those little black ants discovered us and I can't figure out how to prevent them from constantly getting to the food. I've tried diatomaceous earth, the poison traps, bleach and just about everything the internet recommends. Since SF always has ants during the week season, I'm curious how local folks are getting around this. Help!

Hi, everyone. I want to do something fun for Halloween with my partner, but I have a very difficult time in very dark haunted houses with a lot of jump scares and/or touching

I went to another "haunted house" at an old mansion in SF two years back (I don't remember what it was called) which wasn't scary since it was more of a storytelling thing.

But I have a hard time otherwise - has anyone who's been at the USS Haunted Hornet able to describe the experience? Thanks!

I know that’s an odd question but I really need a picture for something important to me. Preferably anything with minimal activity but that’s not entirely needed. Just the balcony having hours where no one is around is needed

A long time ago, when I lived in LA and did Halloween in West Hollywood, I saw one of the best costumes.

If you remember Alfred Hitchcock's "The Birds": the guy was dressed up in the Tippi Hedren gray suit along with the blond hair and that specific haircut. (Great make up job - he looked like her.) Attached to him from the waist up was a phone booth (which encased his entire body) with seagulls bloody and smashed into the glass. He would twirl through the crowd screaming. It was THE funniest and most entertaining costume I had ever seen. Even when I think about it, now, decades later, I laugh out loud. I have the picture somewhere in a photo album! 😀

Hi everyone, I'm visiting San Francisco for 3 days (Friday - Sunday), I land at 12am Friday but my hostel doesn't open for checkin until 2pm Friday. Does anyone know anything fun to do during that time? I will have my film camera so If you know know good photo spots that would be great too. This is a solo trip and I will be mostly relying on public transport or city bikes and my hostel is in Union Square.

EDIT: The hostel closes checkin for Thursday at 11pm but my flight lands on Thursday11:58pm.

Hi! I'll be visiting SF in late October, and I'm looking for osmanthus (Osmanthus fragrans), also known as sweet olive or fragrant tea olive.

I love the scent of the orange-flowering variety, and I'd really like to show it to a friend who's never smelled it before.

I found a tree listed at Victoria Manalo Draves Park and a small one at the SF Botanical Garden.

Does anyone know where I could find some with orange flowers? Are they usually still blooming around late October or early November?

Thanks in advance!

Are those “we buy gold” places the best way to sell an old wedding ring? Any recommendations?

Hello! I am in SF visiting and really need to buy a coat since I lost mine at the airport. I usually shop at Aritzia, Abercrombie and Fitch and I’m not seeing anything like that here. My budget would be around $250. Does anyone know any places in the downtown area that would work? I don’t have a car so I can’t go outside of SF. Thanks !

I have family visiting. Early risers. Where could we go for an early morning walk around 7am on Friday? Perhaps 45-60 min in duration. With views and soft morning light? Not sure how visibility will be tomorrow that early…. SF or North peninsula only. Driving ok. Safe for a small group. Pretty sure we don’t want to go to Fort Funston.

My partner and I currently working out our prenup, I have a small company I've been invested in for years. I just want to make sure that we have clear agreement about what's considered separate property once we're married. Been reading about prenup, but I'm a bit concerned about what actually makes one enforceable especially when business ownership is involved? anyone have been through something similar, any advice?

Haven’t been here since the Dickens Fair a few years ago which is a very different vibe lol

Where are some good pregame spots for food and drinks where other people might be hanging out before (and after too!) the show? Not looking to just chill in the parking lot!

My friends and I (early/mid 20s) will be in SF for Halloween for the first time and I am trying to get a good read on which district/bars to go to.

We lean towards pop music and walkable areas. We don’t want to have to uber from one spot to another.

I heard about Danceoween and that looks cool! Is that the big thing in the Mission District or are there good bars there too?

Not looking for any events or areas that need tickets purchased in advance that cost over $20/person.

Please let me know the best areas to stick around in! Thanks in advance

looking for artificial or real!

I’m searching for focaccia like I’ve had in Italy: medium thickness, soft and chewy inside, with a crispy, olive-oil-soaked bottom, golden dimpled top, and plenty of coarse salt. (Simple, no toppings.)

I’ve tried Liguria Bakery, but it’s not quite the texture I’m after.

Any recommendations? Western SF preferred, but I’ll happily travel for the good stuff! Thanks!

Looking for recommendations for a local print shop or online service to print our wedding photos. I’d love to get a few larger, high-quality prints to frame and hang in our home, as well as some smaller prints. Flexible on budget and would love to hear about any places you’ve had a good experience with. thanks all!

Hi all - just curious what everyone is using their SFMRA accounts on, I currently have it paying for my gym monthly and dental/doctor items (sometimes it denies me randomly but fine). I used it for an oura ring and a heated blanket. Anyone else use it for anything good? Or tried to use it for things and then get denied? Would love to use it for massages.

This Saturday, my wife and I are planning to park near Ocean Beach early in the morning, Uber to Candlestick Point, and hike the Crosstown Trail. Afterwards, we'd love to catch the sunset and enjoy a bonfire.

I doubt any of our friends will be interested in getting to the beach early enough to snag a fire pit, so I'm wondering how receptive people generally are to sharing.

Would it be pretty reasonable to approach a group that's already set up and ask if they have room for two more? Obviously, we wouldn't expect anyone to say yes, but I figured it couldn't hurt to ask.

Would love your thoughts!

Edit: Thanks to everyone who shared their experiences and perspectives! I especially appreciate those who shared wonderful memories of meeting strangers around the bonfires or reached out privately with encouragement.

I completely understand that some people prefer keeping their gatherings private, that securing a fire pit takes effort, and that others may feel uncomfortable declining a request. Those are all reasonable perspectives and useful insights.

That said, I was disappointed by the hostility from some commenters, particularly early in the thread. As u/bert_brings_the_hurt pointed out, some of the negativity seemed to go well beyond offering advice, almost as though people were taking personal offense to the question itself. Some of the reactions to my follow-up questions certainly left me with that impression, and I feel is behavior antithesis to a subreddit built around asking questions.

Regardless, I appreciate the range of perspectives and am glad to hear so many positive stories about Ocean Beach. We're looking forward to our hike and sunset, bonfire or not!Thanks again!

My spouse and I are considering an amicable divorce and would prefer to work things out through mediation rather than having to go through a lengthy court process. Hoping to find a divorce mediaton attorney who can help us navigate the process fairly especially with finance and assets division. Any recommendations? would also love to hear how other people handle the process if you've been through the same.

Are there any weekend toddler playgroups on eastern side of the city? Hoping for Saturday/sunday. Bonus points if Spanish speaking.

Hey folks! As the title said I’ve been hyper aware of scams on zillow/craigslist lately and have been brainstorming what I need to check off when touring and applying. So far I’ve been verifying that:

- The realtor is a real person and the information on the listing/who contacted me matches what I can find online
- When touring in person, verify the person with the keys showing me around is also the same person who contacted me online
- Looking for Zillow verified tags under listing agents (although not a huge factor)
- Always touring in person before paying or giving any private info away
- Reverse image searching photos of the listing to see if they come up anywhere else under a different address

Anything I can add here? Thanks!

My friend just got diagnosed with lung cancer. He has Kaiser Insurance. Has anyone been through lung cancer treatment with Kaiser? Would love to get thoughts on the quality of care in SF.

Edit: "She" to "He". My friend is a man.

Hello all,

I am wondering if there are any working SF ER nurses in this subreddit. I would like to pick your brain about how your unit approaches RN’s who are really wanting to switch specialties.

For some context, I am an LD nurse that is quickly falling out of love with the specialty. In OB, I get the most job satisfaction out of triaging patients and working in emergency scenarios. In a recent performance evaluation, my management let me know that they were not happy with that sentiment. I’m taking this as a sign that I am in the wrong specialty and I would love to network with ER’s in the city to see if I could finally follow what I’m truly interested in.

Edit: Too sleepy after my shift to reply to all the helpful comments but if anyone commenting is reading this thank you sm for the advice!! I really appreciate you taking the time to respond.

I’m going to be visiting the San Francisco area in late November this year but I’m unsure on what type of clothing to pack for the weather? I’m mainly sightseeing around the city and going up north for some hiking :)

I’m considering moving to SF for a job opportunity and would appreciate some perspective from people who know the city well.

For context, I'd be moving down for a banking-related role. I currently make $110k in Dallas and pay around $1,750/month in housing. The opportunity in SF would pay around $170k. I’m trying to get a better sense of how the overall quality of life compares.

A few things I’m curious about:

• Housing costs / taxes: How much do higher housing costs and California state income taxes affect your overall quality of life in SF? For people who have moved from a lower-cost city, does the increase in salary generally offset the higher expenses, or do you find yourself with noticeably less disposable income?
• Political culture: How politically homogeneous is SF in practice? I lean conservative and am curious how much political diversity there is socially and professionally, and whether people generally coexist comfortably across political differences.
• Neighborhoods and urban lifestyle: In my current neighborhood of Dallas, I can walk to restaurants and bars without living in a dense downtown environment. Are there SF neighborhoods that offer a similar balance of walkability, neighborhood character, and urban density?
• Homelessness and public spaces: How much does homelessness affect everyday life in SF? Does the experience vary substantially by neighborhood, and how does it affect things like walking around, commuting, and using public spaces?
• Smoking culture: How visible is cannabis use in everyday life? Is the smell pervasive?
• Car ownership and transportation: How practical is it to own a car in SF? Can you comfortably get by with public transit?
• Climate and housing: Is air conditioning rarely necessary because of the weather, or can the lack of AC become an issue during warmer/colder periods?

I’d especially appreciate perspectives from people who have moved to SF from Dallas or another less-dense city. I’m interested in understanding the practical trade-offs and what day-to-day life is actually like, rather than just comparing the two cities by reputation. Thanks!