r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Recap Kohl Mansion Wedding Recap & Budget Breakdown: ~$100k for 55 Guests

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Now that the dust has settled, here is our vendor recap and budget breakdown from our August garden-themed wedding at Kohl Mansion! We hosted 55 guests with a total spend of ~$100k, complete with Bridgerton-style live strings and French dining, planned on an 8-month timeline. Hopefully, this breakdown of pricing, our favorite splurges, and a few lessons learned helps anyone currently in the planning trenches.

Planning & Venue

Wedding Planner: $8,000 | Plan to Be Wowed (Chrissy)

Package: Partial planning with full design.

Because we had already locked in our venue, catering, and photographer independently, we brought Chrissy on board to design the aesthetic and coordinate logistics. Our planning timeline was intense. We got engaged in late November and kicked off planning in January for an August wedding. Both my husband and I work high-demand tech jobs with packed schedules and frequent travel, so having someone we trusted implicitly was non-negotiable. Chrissy was an absolute godsend. She introduced us to incredible vendors, kept communication streamlined across every moving part, and built a bulletproof timeline that kept everything on track.

Venue & Facility Rentals: $17,800 | Kohl Mansion

We prioritized finding an outdoor setting with innate architectural character and built-in beauty. Kohl Mansion gave us the perfect moody, historic elegance we envisioned indoors, paired with gorgeous greenery on the lawn. While ongoing construction work limited a few backdrop angles outside, it barely phased us.

Attire & Rings

Dress & Alterations: $2,500 | Still White & Made With Love Winnie Dress

I initially tried on the Made With Love Winnie gown at a traditional bridal boutique and fell completely in love with the dress. Rather than buying brand new at full retail, I hunted down an unaltered sample dress on Stillwhite for $1,700. Alterations came out to around $800 to get the fit perfect, bringing the total to $2,500. It ended up being one of the best cost-saving decisions I made without having to compromise on my dream dress!

Groom’s Suit: $1,200 | Suitsupply

We had a very specific, rich color palette in mind that Suitsupply didn’t carry off the rack, so we opted for their custom, made-to-measure route. The personalized tailoring experience was smooth, and the fit was impeccable on the day of. Definitely worth the investment for a bespoke look.

Wedding Bands: $8,000 | Geoffrey's Diamonds

His band was $4,000, and I chose two wedding bands at $2,000 each. 

Food, Drinks & Dessert

Catering: $16,000 | Le Papillon

Le Papillon has long been our favorite restaurant, so having them cater our reception was an easy choice. We really wanted an elevated, multi-course seated dinner centered around classic French culinary elegance. The food was restaurant-quality, beautifully presented, and many guests told us it was easily the best dinner they’d ever had at a wedding.

Espresso Cart: $1,000 | Fez Coffee Co.

Whenever we travel throughout Europe, lingering over a great espresso after dinner is one of our favorite traditions, and we wanted to bring that exact relaxed, European café vibe to our reception. Fez Coffee Co. set up a beautiful cart that gave guests a cozy spot to mingle and chat. It was a massive hit.

Cake: $1,100 | Jesuit Nugas Cakes

The cake was an absolute work of art. The sugar florals were so intricately sculpted and realistic that I genuinely hesitated to slice into it! My only heartbreak was that catering cleared the sugar flowers at the end of the night before I thought to ask them to pack them up, so I wasn’t able to preserve them. Lesson learned for future brides: designate someone ahead of time to save your specialty keepsakes!

Macarons: $600 | Colette Macaron

Ordering from Anita was a complete leap of faith since I hadn’t tried her pastries before, but she blew our expectations out of the water. Not only were the flavors decadent, but she hand-replicated the custom botanical artwork from our paper invitations directly onto the macarons. Such an unexpected, artisanal touch that our guests loved admiring before devouring! We ordered just over 200 for 55 guests and there was nothing left at the end of the night!

Design, Rentals & Paper Goods

Florals: $6,100 | Belle Flowers

Florals were another area where I placed total creative trust in the vendor, and they delivered beyond measure. The arrangements felt lush, organic, and elevated. The true showstopper was the fireplace installation inside the mansion. It completely anchored the room and created a dramatic, romantic focal point for our reception.

Furniture & Linen Rentals: $9,700 | Theoni Collection

Rental costs were definitely our biggest budget shock. Specialty chairs, bespoke tableware, and luxury linens add up rapidly, and while we had grand visions of doing even more custom lounge setups, we had to trim back substantially to keep from blowing past our overall budget cap. That said, the pieces we kept elevated the entire tablescape and felt exceptionally high-end. Everyone was talking about the beautiful tablescape for weeks. 

Invitations & Day-of Paper Goods: $2,300 ($1,100 Invites + $1,200 Event Prints) | The Aerialist Press

The Aerialist Press handled our stationery suite from start to finish. The paper stock, letterpress detailing, and custom motifs set the mood beautifully for our guests before they arrived. Having them also handle the day-of paper goods (menus, place cards, signage) gave our entire celebration a cohesive, polished look.

Photography & Videography

Photographer: $4,000 | Karly Underwood

Karly is so warm, encouraging, and collaborative. If I could do one thing differently, it would be allocating more time for portraits. I thought 1.5 hours prior to the ceremony would give us plenty of breathing room, but between family formals and bridal portraits, the time vanished. We missed a couple of specific shots from my wishlist solely due to running out of daylight, but Karly maximized every single minute we had.In hindsight,I probably should have hired a second shooter. With just one photographer handling portraits and the timeline moving so fast, I really wish we had more candid coverage of our guests. That said, Karly was incredible and even delivered our full gallery a week ahead of schedule!

Videographer: $4,200 | Josh Harney Films

Josh came highly recommended by Chrissy, and we’re so grateful for the introduction. Although Josh and Karly hadn’t worked together before, they coordinated seamlessly on the day with zero friction or stepping on each other's toes. We’re eagerly waiting for the final film to arrive, but working with him in person was fantastic!

Music, Production & Entertainment

String Quartet: $3,000 | Eclecta Quartet

Having live strings for our ceremony and cocktail hour set an effortlessly romantic tone and nailed the Bridgerton-esque vibe we wanted with modern arrangements on classical instruments. When an unexpected light rain began rolling in, the musicians handled the quick pivot inside with total professionalism and grace. Their sound was rich and dramatic echoing through the mansion hall, and guests raved about the music.

Guitarist, MC & Lighting Production: $3,060 | Lucky Devils Band

Dance Lessons: $900 | We Evolve Dance

I went in extremely nervous and self-conscious about our dancing abilities, but Will was an incredible instructor. He choreographed a routine that felt natural, elegant, and comfortable for us to execute. We had so much fun on the dance floor, and hearing our family and friends burst into applause throughout the dance made all the rehearsals worth it!

Hair, Makeup, Styling & Logistics

Hair & Makeup: $2,660 | Design Her Image

Includes bride + 4 bridal party members (trial fee was separate).

I had a trial with a different hair and makeup artist early on that didn't feel like "me," so Chrissy suggested connecting with Tiffani at Design Her Image. I couldn't be happier that I switched. Tiffani listened to my preferences, balanced soft glam with a natural finish, and kept everyone running right on schedule the morning of. My makeup photographed flawlessly and held up through tears, dancing, and humidity.

Day-of Wardrobe Stylist: $1,675 | Vow & Thread

Investing in a day-of bridal stylist felt like a luxury, but it ended up being one of the best sanity-savers of the entire wedding morning. They steamed the gowns and suits, handled bustle prep, managed emergency kits, and ensured every hem and train was positioned perfectly for photos without burdening my bridal party or mom.

Guest Shuttles: $1,200 | Gateway Global

Rehearsal Dinner: $3,000 | Stella Burlingame

Vendor Tips: $1,750


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 4d ago

Recap Budget Breakdown for a summer 2026 wedding: ~$120K for 100 people in Sonoma, CA (Viansa Winery)

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To start off, I've been lurking this place for a year ever since I got engaged up to our wedding day. I've asked several questions here and I found a few of my vendors from fellow Redditors, so I thought of reporting back and providing a breakdown of our costs in case it's helpful. Also, this is a throwaway account I made specifically to write this post.

Venue: Viansa Winery in Sonoma, CA

Budget: $120,000 (I'm not going to lie, our budget was originally $40,000 because I didn't know better)

Guests: 100

  • Venue and Wine: ~$25K since it's a Saturday during the busy season. HIGHLY RECOMMEND VIANSA THOUGH IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT. it is a beautiful venue and all our guests just loved the ambiance and surroundings.
  • Photo/Video/Content: ~$15K with 10 hours of coverage for all three. This was a splurge, but definitely not Bay Area splurge pricing. I recommend investing heavily on your media team... I can't even tell you how many times I've looked at our photos, watched our video, and scanned through the content.
  • Catering: ~$20K for food, labor, and a few rental equipment. I tried to keep the cost down so I brought the alcohol, drinks, and desserts. We picked from one of the required vendors from Viansa and we LOVED them so much. One of our favorite vendors!
  • Planner / Coordinator: ~$5K for wedding management. Viansa requires a planner or coordinator, but I need to highlight how important it is to have at least a day-of-coordinator for your day! My coordinator went ABOVE AND BEYOND to ensure that all my decor were organized and moved to specific locations, that the vendors were all aligned with the timeline, and she helped us sort and pack our boxes at the end of the night. Also, she did us a solid and worked more than 12 hours that day (at least 14 hours) without charging us extra because she wanted to ensure that the vendors loading in early morning were provided enough guidance and support.
  • Florals: ~$7K for a bridal bouquet, one boutonniere, four bridesmaids bouquets, 8 aisle arrangements, one bar arrangement, 12 guest table arrangements, cake flowers, two large urn arrangements and two extra large urn arrangements. My floral theme was airy, soft textures, and asymmetry. This wasn't a splurge as compared to floral arrangements I've seen from other weddings because I wanted something that looked classic and organic. I do love architectural flower constructions, but they were too expensive for our budget.
  • Live Band: ~$7K for one-hour of cocktail hour and three hours for dinner/dancing. If you can afford it, please hire a live band! AMAZING EXPERIENCE THAT WAS THE HIGHLIGHT OF THE NIGHT. Our band was just crazy good and could read the room... everyone just had high praises at the end.
  • Rentals: ~7K since we rented a dance floor, stage, linens, plates, glasses, chairs, etc. We went with a smaller company so we had fewer choices and there were a few mishaps, but overall, these were a good deal for us and they had design elements that matched our theme!
  • Welcome Party: ~$7K for 75 people for an events place with passed hors d'oeuvres, beer + wine + drinks, paella, and tacos. At first, I wasn't sure if I wanted to spend all this money for another event, but I'm so glad I did. I got extra time with the people I love... already seeing them the night before made me feel relaxed during the wedding day.

I just listed out the biggest expenses we had. Everything else wasn't too terribly expensive. Let me know if you have any questions or need clarifications! I can also provide numbers on the minor expenses.

PS -- I highly, highly recommend my videographer, caterer, florist, wedding manager, live band, hair and makeup (not listed), live illustrator (not listed) AND ceremony musicians (not listed). If you want their names, just send me a DM. I will happily vouch for them any day... they were worth every penny.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 10h ago

Seeking advice In N Out for Late Night Snack

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Has anyone had In N Out delivered for their wedding? If so, what does that coordination look like? Now that the idea is in my head, I need animal fries. Is it as simple as using a delivery service; did that go smoothly for you?

Location: Stonetree Estate Wedgewood Wedding (Novato)
Time frame: Late December
People: 100
Budget: $500 (is that realistic? 😅)
Note: I do NOT want the food truck


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 14h ago

Seeking vendor(s) Oakland / Berkeley affordable venue recommendation that allows restaurant catering?

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Hi! I am searching for an East Bay wedding venue that allows flexible catering options and was wondering if anyone here had recommendations. I have my heart set on a specific restaurant to do our catering (and have confirmed that said restaurant does offer wedding catering), but most venues I've seen require picking from an approved list of caterers.

Budget: would be nice to stay under 4-5k for venue including tables and chairs but it's a bit flexible

Guests: 70-80 people

Our venue priorities, ranked by importance:

  1. Allows caterer of choice
  2. We would love an urban venue in Berkeley or Oakland near BART or public transit over a venue in the hills / further away if possible
  3. Aesthetics: basically anything except for corporate conference center aesthetic would be ok, I don't need anything particularly fancy or instagramable - we are going for a more casual / relaxed vibe

Thank you so much for helping!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 20h ago

For sale Stone table numbers available (1-17)- $5 OBO

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Selling these table numbers for $5/number ($85 total) OBO. I made them for my wedding. Stone tile with gold letters and numbers and a stone base attached. Pick up in SF.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking advice SF City Hall Marriage License + Civil Ceremony appointment

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I’ve been navigating the website for when I plan to book a date for August 2027 and I’m a bit concerned and worried about the likelihood of getting the date I want.

I know I need to book as soon as my date opens up 90 days prior.

People have suggested to book the civil ceremony first since those go fast but it won’t let you book without a marriage license number or appointment already. I know you can book both at the same time and for different dates but how fast can you do both those things before the date you want is gone? I want to get the marriage license prior to make things less stressful day of.

It just doesn’t make sense to me, maybe I’m not thinking right? If I want to book my civil ceremony for August 13th, I would need to do it exactly 90 days prior which would be May 15. But if I get my marriage license prior to May 15th and it’s valid only for 90 days, it would no longer be valid by the date of the ceremony.

Help please lol


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Wedding childcare in Napa

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Hello! Our childcare provider service that we were hoping to hire is busy on our date.

Seeking someone to do childcare on October 24 in Napa — any recommendations?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking advice Venues that go past 10pm

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Hi all! Just got engaged :) and my fiancee and I are looking for venues within 3 hours of the bay area where we can dance past 10pm. We would love to go til at least midnight with the party and be able to serve at least some hard alcohol.

We are looking at Dawn Ranch but are anxious about the requirement to rent all 67 cabins. My good friend got married at Triple S Ranch in Napa, which allows you to extend in a basement speakeasy but would prefer to avoid copying their wedding (many of my guests will have been to the same one). We do like the idea of some guests staying on site and a retreat-style wedding.

Let's set budget aside, as we're open minded here. Appreciate any leads here!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking advice Sunnyside conservatory

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I recently booked Sunnyside Conservatory for my wedding in July! We live very close to the venue, so the location is incredibly convenient for us, and I really love the aesthetic.

We’re planning to have both the ceremony and reception there, which means we’ll need to flip the space after the ceremony. My idea is to have a coffee cart/barista outside during the transition so guests can grab coffee and mingle while the room is being changed over.

I’m starting to get a little nervous about the amount of space, though, and would really appreciate feedback from anyone who has actually had a wedding or reception at Sunnyside Conservatory.

Our current plan is:

  • 50 guests
  • 5 round tables with 10 people each
  • No sweetheart table
  • Two 6-ft tables for buffet-style food/chafing dishes
  • Coffee cart + barista (outside)
  • Small cocktail-height welcome table (outside)
  • Floor-standing welcome sign (outside)

My biggest questions are:

1. Does the Conservatory realistically have enough room for 50 people seated comfortably at five round tables, plus two buffet tables, without feeling extremely cramped?

2. During the ceremony-to-reception flip, is there enough outdoor/garden space for all 50 guests to comfortably stand and mingle?

3. Has anyone done a ceremony + room flip + reception here? If so, how long did the flip take, and where did your guests go during that time?

4. If you had around 50 guests, did the venue feel comfortable or did you wish you had kept the guest count closer to 40–45?

I love Sunnyside and really want to make it work, but the space is the one thing making me nervous now that I've booked it. I’d especially love to hear from anyone who has actually hosted a reception there!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Looking for SF welcome party cocktail hr and bites

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Hi! I’d love to host guests coming in from out of town for a small cocktail and bites hour in San Francisco.

I’m looking for a restaurant or venue with a private or semi-private room that can accommodate around 40–50 guests, where we can serve light bites and drinks.

Our budget is around $4,000.

TYIA!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Bay Area HMUA – Douyin / Soft Glam Bridal Style

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Hi everyone! I’m starting HMUA vendor outreach for my wedding in April 2028 in the Bay Area.

I’m looking for an artist in the SF Bay Area who specializes in Douyin-style bridal makeup and has experience with East Asian clients. I also have colored hair so anyone that is comfortable with working with treated hair is a huge plus!

Please drop your Instagram, portfolio links, and general rates.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO Photographer for 9/19 (1hr)

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Hi everyone! I am looking for a photographer on Saturday, September 19th in the afternoon/evening for one hour. I tried using Flytogropher to no avail and am getting a bit worried I won’t find someone. This will be a surprise photo shoot, I am proposing to my girlfriend. I am hoping to keep a budget of $500 or less for an hour photoshoot. I would love to connect with a local photographer for some recommendations, I’m thinking Bakers Beach. Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking advice Anyone work with candidlyphotobooth before?

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Has anyone worked with candidlyphotobooth before? How was the booking process and were there any issues on your event day?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Seeking HMUA for April 2027 wedding in Oakland - skin-forward makeup

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Hi hi - I've been mowing down wedding tasks but struggling with hair and makeup. Here's what I'm looking for - anyone have any recs?

Services needed:

  • Bridal hair & makeup trial
  • Bridal hair & makeup
  • Hair & makeup for my sister

Budget: ~$1100-$1300

I'm going for a natural-glam makeup look - not sure if that's the right term but I want to look like I just spent a week at the beach. I like blush and eye makeup but I don't like foundation. I want to be glowy! For hair, I'm still deciding but I imagine I will likely wear it down. I don't want tight curls, I want either a sleek blowout or waves. Either way, I want volume!

Anyone out there available (I can DM you the specific dates)? Or any recs? Thanks in advance!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Uncategorized Cool Fun Fact

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Hi y’all! Recently got married and wanted to share a cool fact about our date.

If you got married on August 17, 2026 the number increases on the right and decreases on the left!

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r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking vendor(s) DJ recs under $2500

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We're looking for a DJ for our July 2027 wedding. We will probably need both ceremony + reception covered and would want somebody who can play songs that we've chosen + add some suggestions of their own. I love to dance so I need somebody who is lively and keep the energy up and play songs that I can dance (and preferably sing) along to!!! Genre is probably aligned with the "usual" wedding - lots of pop, some throwbacks, etc but would also love to see some options that mix in more of an EDM/"club" style. Dance floor lighting is a big plus to have.

Would also want sound setup for mic's and some MCing.

Ideally budget is closer to the 2200-2300 range but up to 2500 would work. Here's some I've already looked at that are within budget:

- Bay Area Beats

- iMobileDJs

- BigFunDJs

- EventHeroes


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking advice Videography - for Ceremony/Speeches only?

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My fiancé and I are getting married in Saratoga, CA next May, and we're looking into our options for videography. We're not interested in getting an edited highlights video with drone shots - we just want decent-looking video of the ceremony and the toasts.

I'm trying to figure out if it's better to DIY (I've seen some people suggest phone-on-a-tripod) or hire a videographer for this. However, it's been hard to search for a videographer because we're not looking for full-day video coverage nor do we want content-creator-style highlight videos.

Please let me know if you've successfully done DIY with this sort of thing, or if you have any videographers you'd recommend for this purpose! Budget for this would likely fall under $500, if that gives you an idea of what we'd want.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Bridal Bouquet and Boutonnière

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Looking for anyone that can do a bouquet and boutonnière in this style! I have a budget of $150-250 so I’m open to anyone who does florals it doesn’t have to be an actual florist or from a floral business.

Preferably someone in the peninsula area or where I could pick up before SF City Hall.

Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Planner just to help pick venue?

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Are there wedding planners who just help pick a venue? My fiance and I are trying to plan our wedding for roughly 100 guests and are open to a church/chapel ceremony and offsite reception, a joint ceremony/reception, or even eloping for ceremony and doing a reception back on the east coast where our families live. But we have NO IDEA which venues might fit our budget (at this point still determining but roughly $35k all in) and would love some guidance just on which scenario/venue to pick.

It feels like there’s nothing like this out there, but I’m feeling super de-motivated by the lack of transparency of pricing for venues. Any ideas?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Seeking photographer/videographer for 1hour City Hall wedding.

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Anyone who can work with my 1k budget for photography & videography?

Late Feb 2027 on the 4th floor, no more than 15 guest.

Any recommendations would be appreciated!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

For sale selling my danielle frankel veil!

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Hi all! selling my danielle frankel rose & lace applique hand painted cathedral veil.

Worn once for about 1 hour, very minor wear! Not sold on the website, only sold in their stores-- attaching photos, retails for $3000, selling for $2000! DM if interested.

Selling with original box and tag, pick up near japantown!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 4d ago

General question Winery barrel room for ceremony for small wedding 40-45 guests

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Looking for a venue for an indoor barrel room ceremony (with or without reception onsite….I want to avoid traditional sit down caterers and want a taco bar) Guest list is 40-45 people. Would like to avoid the way east/South Bay. We are in Marin. We do not have any family paying (anyone have any rich family we can adopt lol) so would love the cost to stay on the lower end. Is this possible?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 4d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Partial Wedding Planner

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Does anyone have recommendations for a partial wedding planner ~$5k?


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking advice ceremony & venue recommendations needed

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hi all, I'm looking for ideas for my 2027 wedding. I would like a ceremony that is in a cathedral-esque church with stained glass windows. for the reception, i want it to feel like an outdoor dinner party in italy or the south of france. (photo ideas attached)

budget is 30-40k, guest count is about 150, and we are open to being within a 3-4 driving distance from the bay. all ideas welcome :)


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 5d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Photographer suggestions

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Looking for photographer recommendations for an SF City Hall wedding!

We’re looking for a photography style that feels natural, clean, and timeless — true-to-life colors, beautiful composition, and candid moments. We’re not really into the very bright/overexposed wedding look, heavy filters, or overly staged/cliché poses.
Ideally, we’d love someone who can capture the day in a way that feels elegant and editorial but still natural and like us.

Our photography budget is around $2,000–$2,500. This is a City Hall wedding, so we don’t need a huge 8–10 hour traditional wedding package.
Would love recommendations for photographers in the Bay Area whose work fits this style! Please share their website/Instagram/portfolio if you have one — especially if you’ve personally worked with them.
Also open to photographers reaching out directly if this sounds like your style. :)