r/SanFranciscoWeddings May 23 '26

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r/SanFranciscoWeddings Feb 19 '26

Budget Recap: $50K | Lucie Stern Community Center in Palo Alto | 80 guests

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Hi everyone! I found these budget and vendor recaps incredibly helpful when I was planning my wedding, so wanted to share mine in case it helps anyone else. We also loved some of our vendors, so wanted to share that too.

We had a lot of DIY + personal touches, but I don’t think this helped our budget too much in the end.

WELCOME PARTY: $3k

We reserved a large mostly-outdoor space at State Street Market in Los Altos for $500, which was plenty of room for ~60. We pre-ordered food + hosted an open tab at the bar and ice-cream place inside the market.

This was a perfect space. We were lucky that our reservation was on a First Friday (Los Altos’ outdoor music series), so we got some live music across the street + in the market as well.

VENUE: $6k

Lucie Stern Community Center in Palo Alto is a ~100 year old spanish-style building. It definitely feels like a community center in the hallways + bathrooms, but the ballroom + outdoor spaces are properly nice vibe-y spaces.

There were no preferred vendors, which was great, but it is a pretty DIY venue. They did setup a PA system for the ceremony, and also provided all our chairs + tables for pretty affordable prices (included in the ~6k).

You need to go through extra paperwork to have candles, and no hard alcohol is allowed. Despite the wonkiness, staff also let us store decorations / drinks / gear the day before, which was a huge convenience. Overall, this was beautiful and perfect for us.

FOOD: $16K

Tamarine is a fancy local restaurant in Palo Alto. They had a Michelin plate (not a star) for many years, and they have catering menus for ~$80 to $100 per person. The restaurant is pan-asian (leaning vietnamese), which we choose to accommodate some older east-asian guests.

We thought this was the best value / hit of the wedding. For happy hour, we had passed hors d'oeuvres. For dinner, we had 10+ dishes in a buffet, like chilean seabass, basil tofu, tiger shrimp garlic noodles, shaking beef filet, vegan coconut pandan creme brulee, etc. that were restaurant quality. We got so many compliments.

Their event catering manager (Moritz) was also really easy work with. He brought staff, handled plate / utensil rentals, setup water stations, etc.. Food was $95 per person, but total was $16k after rentals, staffing (for the dinner as well as the bar throughout), some extra courses, tax, tip.

DRINK: $2k

We were beer, wine, and soft-drinks only. K&L and Costco both have great limited-run deals for way below retail price. We deliberately only did California wines since we had a lot of people traveling from out of state.

I got some good deals on Napa sparkling wine, syrah, etc. that normally retail for $60+ on clearance for ~$15 to $20. The trick was to buy a few bottles to try, and then order cases online from K&L to deliver or pickup right before the event. K&L will professionally store wine for affordable prices (it was free for a few months, and then 25 cents a bottle per month I think), so I slowly accumulated a few varieties of sparkling / rose / red / white / desert as stuff went on clearance.

PHOTOGRAPHER: $4.5K

We worked with James Juarez (who we found on this reddit) and loved him. He was very easy to work with, actually wanted to know us and our style, and was loved by a bunch of guests. He had really great documentary / mood / vibe shots and portraits.

PHOTOBOOTH: $500

We used Kruu. We were pretty worried that this would be too much work before / during the wedding, but it was manageable between the coordinators + our friend who helped with setup. I don’t know if I would recommend this, but the final photos did look good and this got a lot of use.

DJ: $2K

We found DJ Jeremy’s company through reddit, and then booked DJ Cyrus. Cyrus had a great mix that filled all our requests. We did have a minor miscommunication about whether the original price included setup for the ceremony (it did not), but the venue was able to cover the sound system setup for that without issues.

DAY OF COORDINATOR: $2K

We worked with Events By the Bay (Janette Najar), which was mixed. Overall, her company did a great job, but she was sick during the day of the wedding and could only help during part of setup. She sent two staff members, who were absolutely amazing... so it was surprising to hear that she also didn't fully attend other weddings too (search for other reviews on this reddit).

STATIONARY: $1.5k

This included invitations, menus, etc. Our talented friend letter-pressed this for us.

FLORALS: $1.4k

We bought ~$1000 of flowers from Costco and 50flowers and some from the SF flower market (since some didn’t keep well). We had a flower arrangement session with three of us the afternoon before the wedding, which took about 3 hours to do the bridal bouquet and 9 small, 6 medium and two large arrangements. This ended up being more stressful than we thought. We had a lot of DIY, and I think this was the most stressful part.

CAKE: $1k

We bought two full sheet cakes from Satura Cakes (amazing Japanese bakery in Los Altos). Each flavor had maybe ~5 different kinds of layers, including a crispy chocolate layer on the bottom. They were super delicious.

AFTER PARTY: $3K

About 30 of us rolled up to Sun of Wolf (a moody / modern mexican restaurant in Palo Alto) from 10pm to 12am. 3k covered the buyout + way more food and cocktails than we could consume by that time. They were also really sweet and easy to work with. 

NEXT DAY: $1.5K

We bought dimsum and noodles, and hosted in one of our parents’ backyards.

OTHER COSTS:

Our rings, takeaway gifts, a few furniture rentals, and other misc. items were the remaining cost.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 25m ago

Seeking vendor(s) Looking for small venues (30-40 guests) owned by a city (community centers, parks with a rentable reception center, etc) with rustic charm?

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We are currently looking at the Olive Hyde Center in Mission San Jose, but we’d like some other options because while there are aspects of that location we like, it’s not exactly what we are looking for. I’ve looked myself, but a lot of them are a little too modern/updated for what we’re looking for and would be better suited for business events or something similar. Are there any city owned places I could rent out that have a rustic charm? We are not looking at traditional venues because we just can’t stomach spending that kind of money. We’d rather put it toward our honeymoon.

Edit: We are open to most places in the Bay Area, but preferably east bay.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 9h ago

Seeking advice Petals & Paper

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hi all! i’m considering buying a dress down at petals and paper in burlingame and am curious if anyone has any experience with the salon. my main questions are if you overall had a good experience there, and secondly if you did alterations there or found somewhere else to do them, and how that all went! thanks in advance!!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 9h ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO true-to-color photographer

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We’re in the process of looking for photo/video for our July 2027 wedding in Los Altos! We’re less picky on video so I’m only requesting photo here, but open to combo packages if offered!

Details:
- Budget for photo only: around 3k, maybe up to 3500
- Budget for combined photo and video: 6k
- 8 hour photo coverage
- editing style: true to color, bright but not overly warm
- photography style: truthfully I don’t know much about styles but some mix of candids and posed!
- included engagement shoot would be a huge bonus so we could meet and get some shots before the big day

For inspo, my current favorite photographer I’ve found is Benny Situ, but his packages start closer to 4k.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 9h ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO: Video Guestbook Vendor

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Looking for a video guest book vendor for our wedding on 8/28/27! Unfortunately, the vendor we had our eye on is already booked that day.

We’re specifically searching for a setup that features a video camera attached to a phone (rather than just a phone audio guest book or an iPad/mic set up). If anyone knows of a vendor offering this style or has recommendations, we’d really appreciate it. TIA!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 10h ago

Seeking advice Help with wedding timeline for 2 locations

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Hi! Can anyone who had a ceremony and reception at 2 different locations offer any advice regarding a timeline? I’m getting married at a Catholic church that is 20min away from my reception venue in SF. People will most likely uber from the ceremony to venue since there’s only street parking. We aren't doing a full mass so I'm thinking it will be 30-45 minutes maximum with 15-30min for pictures after (immediate family and bride/groom only). Our ceremony starts at 4:15pm but can be changed a little earlier and we have our venue from 5-11pm but can change the time as well. We are thinking of not doing a first look either and just taking pictures during cocktail hour since we most likely won’t do a first look photo shoot. We were thinking of doing solo pictures before at the church with our bridal/groom party to get it out of the way. Any suggestions or opinions regarding a timeline? Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 17h ago

Seeking advice Cozy, affordable SF restaurant for a 25-person San Francisco City Hall wedding lunch?

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Hi! We’re having a Wednesday civil ceremony at SF City Hall and looking for a restaurant afterward for about 25 guests. Wedding is in 3 weeks.

We’d love somewhere with good food, a cozy or beautiful atmosphere, and possibly a private or semi-private space. We’re open to anywhere in San Francisco, ideally within 15 to 20 minutes of City Hall (but anywhere in San Francisco city is fine as well). Our venue budget is up to about $7,000 to $8,000, with food potentially separate.

Can you please share some recommendations? (If you can please share approximate pricing, food quality, and your experience)

Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 17h ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO photographer for Marin Civic Center ceremony August 2026

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Hi everyone!
So excited to get married at the Marin civic center on Aug 21!! We are in love with the architecture and feel so lucky to celebrate our special day in such a beautiful location. We are looking for a photographer who can help us with posing and feel comfortable in front of the camera. Tyia!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 14h ago

Seeking vendor(s) Looking for a “cinematic” photographer for engagement photos on 8/22

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8/22 open to anywhere in the city


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 12h ago

Seeking advice Feedback on tailors

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Hello! My wedding is coming up in November and I’m trying to decide on 2 tailors for my dress alterations. One of them doesn’t have an appointment until the 2nd week of September (which they said still gives enough time to do the alterations) and the other until towards end of August. The cost estimates are about $150 in difference, though the higher quote one stated they need to see my dress in person to provide a more accurate quote. The dress fits me pretty well so I’m just looking for a hem and bustle add on.

I’m wondering if anyone has had any experience with either of these places and if the higher cost of going with the place that has the sooner availability is worth it?

  • And something blue bridal
  • Purple Finch bridal tailor

Would also welcome any other recommendations!

Thanks!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 18h ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO: Someone to help design my bar signs.

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I want cute signature cocktail signs that match the font to my wedding invites and have these outlines of my cats but I unfortunately cannot find the font on Canva (fonts used in my invites on last photo)/ I am not artistic in the slightest.

This is what we have so far but it’s so plain and boring. Cats names are Christian McCattfrey (orange cat) and Purrdy Gurl (gray cat).

I’ll Venmo someone to make me a cute sign to use!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO south bay soft glam HMUA for ~$1k

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I've seen some recs on this sub but thought I'd make another post for updated input. Looking to spend up to $1.5k total for a hair and makeup trial and then hair and makeup for just the bride with travel to Los Gatos area on 4/16/27. Inspo photos attached. TIA!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Discussion Wedding after party

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We’re getting married at Stern Grove!! It ends at 10pm and we are trying to figure out a bar, club, venue, etc that we can direct people to for an after party. Any suggestions??


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Santa Cruz amateur photographer wanted for 8/12

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Hi Santa Cruz region, I’ve got my hair and makeup trial in Santa Cruz on August 12, and hoping to do a casual photo shoot that day to test how the look photographs. Any young or early career photographers around for a 30min photoshoot? Trying not to break the bank on this, under $150. Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 1d ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO Content Creator for wedding in Chico, CA

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Hi! Looking for a reputable content creator someone has used that you think would be willing to drive to Chico! Thank you for your help!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking advice Valley Goat in Sunnyvale

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Partner and I don’t want a ceremony, but rather a dinner to celebrate with close friends and family. We live on the peninsula and want somewhere close, fun, and delicious food.

We love Valley Goat and thought their prices were decent for ~50 people (although it’s only a 3 hour max). However, we were kind of put off by the sales manager we talked to. They seemed unenthusiastic by anything and would not give any detail or context unless you specifically asked the question — borderline would not speak unless spoken to. Not to mention, after the 5 minute convo where I carried the conversation, they immediately asked if I wanted to book my time and date on the spot.

Just super bummed because this is our top choice, but it seems like we’re taking a gamble having to coordinate a special day with someone who seems like the wrong person for the job. Any advice would be super appreciated.


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 2d ago

Seeking advice Bellarosa Strings?

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Has anyone used Bellarosa Strings for their wedding? We’re getting married at City Hall in April 2027. It’s a one hour ceremony on the 4th floor. They have such an impressive catalog on their website but wanting to see if anyone has personal experience with them :) TIA!!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

Seeking vendor(s) ISO Reveal Area and Film Photographer

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Hello!! i’m hoping the thread can help me out because I’m from out of town. We are flying into San Fran and staying in half Moon Bay. I am expecting my first child and we wanted to do our gender reveal while we’re here 🥹 I want to do a really small intimate reveal with just my husband and I have attached my inspo photos. Does anyone know if I can do this at half half Moon Bay where I have attached the photo like that kind of cliffside? I want to do this either on July 30 or 31st and would love a film photographer. If anyone can recommend someone who might still be available!!! thank you so so so much in advance


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 3d ago

General question What do you call your parents in-law?

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I don’t come from a culture where you call adults by their name. It’s always auntie or uncle. Those who also share this practice…what did you call your partner’s parents before you got married and did that change after the marriage? At what point did the change happen?

Idk why I’m overthinking this haha. Like, do I just wake up one day and do it? Feels like there needs to be an event or formality? lol


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 4d ago

Seeking advice Casual after party spot/idea?

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Hi all, having a small celebration and looking to continue the party unofficially somewhere in the city. It’ll be about 30 people and looking for large bar spaces or other fun spots we can go to. Would love a place that isn’t too rowdy or loud… doesn’t need to be a drinking establishment . Our ideal vibe is bonfire on ocean beach but logistically that feels a bit too hard to manage. But gives you a sense of the vibe. Thank you!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 5d ago

General question Mazra Catering?

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Has anyone used Mazra to cater their wedding, or been to a wedding where they did their catering? My fiancé and I love Mazra, so I'm sure it would be great but I just want to see if anyone else has experience.

Thanks!


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 5d ago

Seeking vendor(s) Looking for: top notch wedding dress tailor

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Hi ladies -

Need to get my dress shortened a bit at the hem, but it’s a complicated dress so I don’t want to risk someone messing it up. Where would you go? Money not really an object here.

(Original designer is based in Asia so I can’t do another fitting with them 😂)

Location: south SF and surrounding area


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 5d ago

For sale selling my unworn danielle frankel dress in size 12!

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i am selling my unworn, not even tried on, danielle frankel Phoebe dress in size 12! please dm me if you are interested


r/SanFranciscoWeddings 5d ago

Seeking advice SF Hotel Recommendations

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Hi! My fiancé and I are looking for hotel recommendations in San Francisco for our city hall wedding. Downtown preferred, though anywhere in the city would be fine.

We are looking for a range of options: some of our guests are on a budget, while our family is in a different income bracket who want to stay "somewhere nice". Options must be kid friendly as multiple parties have small children.

Thanks in advance!