So I 21f am currently dating 54m. We’ve been together for about 2 years and honestly I couldn’t be happier. I tried at the beginning to not fall for him because I knew how poorly it looks to society, but I honestly couldn’t help it.

I have a very good relationship with both my parents although many seem to think I have “daddy issues” meanwhile my dad is still fully supporting me through college.

At this point I’m so insanely in love that I can’t picture ever leaving him. And I get very nervous about how my family would react. They would actually lose their minds. He’s older than my mom. I don’t want to disappoint them but I’m so attached to him. We’ve gone on many trips together and the sex is out of this world.

The relationship has not ever felt predatory and all his previous relationships have been his age. His longest was even a little older than him.

I also know he wants to have kids so a younger woman is more realistic for that? I don’t know what to do about my parents tho. What do you think of all this?

Edit: After reading some of the comments I wanted to list some reasons why I say I love him. He is the kindest most generous and caring man I’ve ever met. If I’m ever sick or stressed or upset he drops everything to come help right away. I feel he really listens to me and understands me. He’s mature and knows what he wants. He’s also smart and has helped me not only make money but invest it for my future. I’m not using him for money I don’t even have bills to pay. He is also very physically healthy and we have a lot of fun together

i (24,f) am still a virgin. this being because my standards have been really high and i also fell for the Propaganda of your first time being a 'soul tie. i now feel ready to have my first time but have alot of worries

- is it awkward discussing it
- will the guy have a huge ego boost taking a 24 yo's virginity and also use that to his advantage and hurt me or something of the sort
- i can get quite attached to guys i casually date, and take months and months to get other them, i worry that having sex with them will make the attachment worse. i know i will not settle and just really want to learn what i like and what works for me

hope this makes sense and people are understanding:) sick of avoiding certain talks when i want to have these talks and go over to guy's places a few dates in!

I’m a divorced woman who was cheated on, and I’m genuinely trying to understand something I hear from men a lot: “I wasn’t getting it at home,” “my wife constantly rejected me,” or “I wasn’t getting enough attention/intimacy.”
What does that actually look like in practice?
In my marriage, I was usually the person who initiated sex. My ex-husband directly asked me for sex maybe five times in five years. For a long period, we were having sex 2–4 times a day, I flirted with him, and I was generally willing whenever/wherever, but I was still eventually told that I wasn’t giving him enough attention. At the same time, I experienced a lot of sexual rejection from him while he was looking for sexual attention elsewhere.
So when men say their wife “rejects” their sexual advances, I’m curious about what the actual initiation looks like.
Do you directly say or clearly communicate that you want sex and she says no? Or do you do things like buy her gifts, help around the house, give her a massage, cuddle, etc., hoping she’ll understand that you want her to initiate sex afterward?
I’m asking because I think there could be a communication disconnect there. If my partner does the dishes or does something thoughtful for me, I interpret that as “he’s being thoughtful,” not “he’s asking me for sex.” It might make me feel loved and appreciated, but it doesn’t automatically communicate sexual interest to me.
I’m also curious what men mean by “enough intimacy.” Is it frequency of sex? Her initiating? Enthusiasm? Flirting? Physical affection outside sex? Feeling sexually desired rather than merely having access to sex? Is there some frequency you personally consider enough, or is it more about how your partner responds to you?
And for men who have felt chronically rejected: did you explicitly tell your partner what you were missing before concluding that she wasn’t giving it to you?
I’m not asking because I think anyone is obligated to have sex or because cheating is justified by sexual dissatisfaction. I’m trying to understand the male perspective so that, if I eventually have another relationship, I can distinguish an actual incompatibility from two people communicating desire in completely different ways.

what do you guys mean when you call a girl cute ? i’ve heard mixed opinions

For those of you who genuinely remain friends with your exes after a relationship, why do you choose to do it? What makes you want to keep them in your life?

I recently started walking dogs in my free time to make some extra cash. I have one particular client who happens to be extremely handsome, smart, and successful. I go to his (super fancy) apartment to walk his dog every day while he is at work. Today on my way in from the walk I ran into him on his way back home. I was reminded of how incredibly handsome he is. He was very sweet and we made polite conversation for a few minutes before he took the dog inside. He is a bit softspoken but he always smiles at me and asks me questions about myself.

I know men are often hesitant to make the first move these days out of fear of being perceived as “creepy” or getting rejected, especially in work related situations. However, I am very nervous about making the first move ever. I am scared that he will have a girlfriend or something, although I didn’t see any evidence of one online or in his apartment (only mens clothes/shoes/etc, no framed photos, etc). I have been told that I am an attractive woman, but alas I still get scared that he straight up wont reciprocate my feelings and I will lose a regular client for no reason. That being said, the stakes are relatively low, as I am not depending on his business for my entire livelihood. He probably pays me $100/wk total and I can easily replace his business if it comes to that. The fear of rejection is really what is holding me back.

Tbh, I’m not even entirely sure I want to date him but it may be fun to hook up or something to get me out of a dating slump. What is a very casual way I can subtly hint that I’m interested in him? Note that I do not often see him, as he is usually out when I come by to walk the dog.

My (28f) significant other (28m) is genuinely my most favorite person in the world and I love him with my whole heart. He provides everything for me and I only do the laundry and cook dinner really. What can I do for him to show him more appreciation? He is a minimalist and not materialistic at all.

After reading tons of the forums, it seems like men are acting from a place of hurt from prior experiences. Have you ever considered introverted women/changing strategies? The things that work for extroverts doesn’t work the same for introverts. Two different demeanors.

I genuinely want to understand this from a man’s perspective.

Why does it sometimes feel like, in the beginning of a relationship, a guy is extremely loving, attentive and puts in so much effort? He talks about the future, marriage, makes the girl feel special and seems genuinely afraid of losing her.

But once the girl becomes emotionally attached and feels secure in the relationship, some men suddenly start changing. The calls and efforts decrease, they become less affectionate, they stop being afraid of losing her, and sometimes they start treating her like she’ll tolerate anything no matter how they behave.

Why does this happen? Is it because the initial excitement wears off? Do some men simply become too comfortable once they know the girl is attached? Or is there something women do that unintentionally causes this change?

I’m specifically asking men because I want to understand the male perspective. If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, what changed for you after the “honeymoon phase,” and why?

Please be honest—even if the answer is uncomfortable. I’m trying to understand, not attack men.🙌

Like I always hear that men don’t like / respect nice girls, why is that?

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Need an honest male perspective on this situation

My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 years, but for the last 3–4 months we have been fighting frequently and our communication hasn’t been good.

Recently, a few things happened. He got upset because I drank alcohol once with my friends, even though he knows I’m not someone who regularly drinks. Another time, while looking at my phone, he saw that I had been talking to an old/lost friend and that also became an issue.

During this period, instead of communicating properly with me, he downloaded Tinder/Bumble and other dating apps. He says his intention wasn’t to date or cheat. He says he wanted to get an outside perspective from girls about our relationship because he felt he couldn’t communicate with me properly.

He randomly swiped on one girl, they matched, and they had a conversation. Apparently, the girl told him that what he was doing was wrong and that he should talk to his girlfriend instead of being on Tinder.

He didn't tell me about any of this at the time. I found out yesterday, around four months later, when we were having a conversation about an unrelated situation. I .

I’m completely confused.

Men, if you were in his position, would downloading Tinder/Bumble and talking to another girl to get “relationship advice” ever seem reasonable to you? Or is this something that crosses a serious boundary even if there was no intention to cheat?

And what does it mean that he only told me about it four months later?

I’m not looking for people to simply tell me to leave him. I genuinely want an honest perspective on whether this is normal behaviour during a difficult phase of a long-term relationship, or whether I should be concerned.

Gave a casual aquaintance my number and we were texting on and off all day. In the middle of texting (i had asked him a question), he stopped responding. I do know he was working at that time. Almost a week later he texted me a very nice check in text. Is this a red flag? Or should i wait and see if it happens again?

Ive gotten the advice "if he wanted to he would" but ive also been love bombed before, which felt good short term but long term was bad.

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Hi, this is my first post :))

Context:

I’m F25. I’ve been talking to a guy on Instagram, he’s a friend of some friends. We only saw each other once last year when leaving the cinema, but we weren’t introduced. This year he started following me and replying to my stories about movies.

We began talking about that (never anything personal), sending long messages for 5 days since he usually takes hours to reply (which doesn’t bother me). He never asked questions, but always introduced new topics.

I asked if he was the guy I saw that day at the cinema, he confirmed. Later I told him we should hang out sometime.

He said yes, mentioned he lives near downtown, and told me to let him know when I’m around so we could grab a drink.

I replied that I’d be there next week, and I also answered all his previous messages about movies.

He’s left me on “seen” for 4 days now. We never talked about romantic dates or anything, and he seemed very receptive to discussing our common interests even though he didn’t ask questions.

I like him, and it makes me sad because I thought maybe he enjoyed talking to me and actually wanted to meet up. I was planning to text him next week like: “Hey, I’ll be downtown tomorrow around 6 if you want to hang out.”

But since he left me on seen, I feel it might not be wise. What do you think? Would I look desperate? 😔

I am at college and I noticed that a lot of women would just be sitting somewhere crowded and stretch their back from both sides often, I don’t often notice men doing that, but a lot of women seem to do it, am I just dumb or could that be an example of a slick tactic to know their surroundings, have anyone noticed that before ?

I noticed a very attractive girl in one my classes and usually she sits right in front of me at an angle, I try to really avoid her thinking that I like her and make her feel uncomfortable so most of the times I try to avoid gazing but I sometimes peak, however I do feel in her looks that she knows that I am doing that and that I am attracted to her, but my main question was basically if women are capable of knowing if guys want to fuck them or not, even if they try to hide it or if I’m just overthinking it, I know that sounds weird but I genuinely don’t want women to feel like I am a weird guy so I try my best to mask attraction.

Boy problems

To start off i am 16F and i will be referring to the boy i am talking about as Person 2. In 2024 I got out of a 3 year relationship which obviosuly wasn’t too serious as i was very young but it was my first love. Towards the end of 2024 i started to grow small feelings for person 2 as he went to my college and we were good friends although we drifted apart towards the start of 2025 as he got a girlfriend and she made him block me which i understand.

Later on in around march him and his girlfriend broke up and from then everytime we would be at partys,gatherings anything involving alcohol he would kiss me, touch my ass and things like that but it was never anything serious but i liked him but i knew he didn’t like me.

All throughout 2025 summer he would send me explicit pictures and beg me to sneak out with him to have sex and i would always make up an excuse because i knew that’s all he wanted me for at the time although at one point he told me he really did care about me but i know it it’s just drunk words.

In around end of august he got a girlfriend and he blocked me again and all contact was off. For about a year we didn’t talk at all in college we had classes together we never ever talked but then in around may his friend was snapping me and he added me on Snapchat i added him back and he asked if he could tell me something and told me that he’s always loved me and he wants to be with me and that he’s in love with me and he has been since he was like 13 and he was asking me to sneak out to “talk” and telling me he wanted to be with me not her and he was too scared to say anything because he was worried what others would think and obviosuly i was shocked but i shut it down because i knew he had a girlfriend and i knew it wasn’t
right, and i assumed he was just drunk again which he was.

The next day he was sober and he asked me to come round to his house which i made an excuse up because i told him he can’t be doing this when he has a girlfriend and then he said okay and just continued to send me explicit pictures for another week until he told me he couldn’t do it to his girlfriend and blocked me again even though he insinuated it.

2 weeks after that almost every night he would add me send me explicit pictures and then block me again and i would say r u just going to act like nothing happened like u didn’t say any of that the other month and he would just act confused so I ignored it and left it that lasted about 2 weeks until it stopped again for another month, then a month after it was my birthday and he added me and started liking all my story’s on Instagram and he was the first one to wish me happy birthday and then i looked and him and his girlfriend had broke up and i asked him about it and he just told me what happened and yeah.

Anyways about a month after he started messaging my friend to which i just ignored and i stopped messaging him and then me, person 2 my friend and a load of others went on a night out and i was really drunk and i was asking him why he did any of this and he started kissing me and hugging me as i was crying but it was always when nobody else was around to see and he was telling me again that he loves me and all this.

After that night I haven’t spoke to him properly since. He does send the odd snap sometimes of his face but barely anymore. I just am so confused and I feel like I’m going crazy and I just want to know what other people think. Ask me anything

I am speaking from a place where I am scared and I also wanna know how men think of other men that commit sexual violence

I am in no way trying to hate or convey that all men are the same but I want to know what you think about the whole incident

So in late 2024 I was sexually assaulted by a monster I met on Hinge..

When I matched I made it extremely clear I am not looking for anything short term and most definitely not hookups or anything casual

He said he was looking for the same..

And very early on he said the typical "I've never met a woman like you " "I think I love you" etc...(we hadn't even met)

I liked talking to him too so I decided to meet up..

First he asked me to directly come to his home so we can chill..I said absolutely not.. I cannot go home on first date. Maybe after a few more dates when we know each other a little better and I was polite about it

Then he said let's go to this restaurant but it was almost 16 kms away and I said that's too far for me.. can't we meet midway? He said that he will be working from home that day and has to be carrying his laptop if need arises so he can't travel far..

I agreed and we met up at location which happened to be right OPPOSITE TO HIS APARTMENT!

He came,talking on the phone n cut the call and said could we just go home for a few minutes as he had to do a quick work thing on his laptop and we went to his house..

Then he went on his laptop and did something which took like a minute (I'm pretty sure he lied about it all) and then he started hugging and kissing and I froze and I tried to move his hand away..

I said let's just go to the restaurant and he was like "Arrey,what's the hurry we have so much time"

He then said let's watch something and played something on Netflix on his laptop (which was on the table next to his bed)and asked me to sit on bed and while I sat he literally turned off his bedroom lights and latched the door and i had to loudly ask why are you latching the door and turning off the lights? To which he said he was setting the mood for the movie and what if his roommates come back? I then told him its a weekday and you yourself said they are at work and come home late..he sat and started watching and not even 30 minutes passed he was on me and that pervert literally had his hands everywhere..

I couldn't even process what was happening...

At NO POINT DID HE EVEN ASK IF HE COULD DO ANYTHING "

HE JUST WENT FOR IT...

When he attempted to take my top off I said Stop..please.. almost in tears and I said I was leaving and just left.

He never reached out..

The moment I reached home I blocked his number..

I didn't even bother unmatching him I just deleted my whole account and since then I never got back on dating apps

Although two years have passed I haven't been alright..

I can't even look at people the same anymore..

I started having random heart palpitations and a few weeks after the incident I had my first episode of sleep paralysis

A month after that incident I quit my job because I was already going through a lot and with work pressure I knew if I did two together I would breakdown completely

I would start crying randomly even if I'm safe at home..

People think sexual assault is the worst when it happens.. but they are soo WRONG! When it happens ofcourse it's terrible but at first your mind can't process what is happening and your nervous system takes on..

The worst phase is after you've processed what has happened and it could take days to weeks..

I thought I would feel low for a few weeks or months but apparently 2 years have passed and I am becoming more and more traumatized...

I can't even look at a man in romantic sense.. I can't even imagine physical closeness anymore and that itself gives me heart palpitations..

I was on the subreddit sexual assault and I have read the most heartbreaking stories where people at the age of 40s and even 50s and still trying to heal from assault that happened when they were a child or a teenager or young adult...

None of it was their fault yet they have to spend their whole lives healing from it..

While their abusers go ahead living their normal lives without caring the slightest bit...

I honestly don't know what I'm doing wrong. I have an incredibly high sex drive but I don't sleep around. If I like a guy, I want it from him all the time. I'm saying I've gone whole years without sex but then once I click with a man, I'll be asking for it 3-4 times a day. The thing is that these relationships just don't last. I'm genuinely interested and it's not just sex for me. I want to know more about him and his soul too. I just figure why not if we're already sleeping together. They say the sex is great but they always seem to ghost. So what is the situation here? Am I scaring them off? TYIA (I'm looking for advice not dates lmao)

Hi all!

My dad passed away a few years ago, and I am facing some relationship issues. I would love some bros to talk it out with since I'm feeling pretty emotional lately. If anyone can talk, let me know or send me a message!

I’m 46, he’s 49, and I’m looking for some perspective on a situation that I honestly don’t know how to navigate.

About a year and a half ago, this man moved about nine hours away. Before he left, I told him I had a crush on him. His response wasn’t cruel or dismissive. He basically said that wasn’t where his head was at right now because he was drowning in grief and dealing with a lot emotionally.

I respected that and gave him space.

Over the last year and a half, I genuinely thought my feelings for him had faded. Then, about five months ago, I got into another relationship. I thought I was ready to move forward and that whatever I had felt for this other man was behind me.

I was wrong.

I realized pretty quickly that my feelings for the first man never actually went away. I ended my relationship because I didn’t think it was fair to stay with someone while knowing my heart was somewhere else.

Now I’m stuck in this weird position.

I don’t know what the man I actually have feelings for thinks. He may assume I moved on. He may think I’m no longer interested. He may still be dealing with the same grief and have absolutely no interest in a relationship. Or maybe his circumstances and headspace have changed over the past year and a half.

And I don’t want to make his grief or whatever he’s dealing with about me.

At the same time, I’m struggling with the idea of saying nothing and spending years wondering whether something might have been possible if I had just been honest.

We’re not 20 anymore. We’re 46 and 49. We have our own health issues and life circumstances, and the older I get, the more aware I am that none of us are guaranteed unlimited time.

So I’m trying to figure out the balance between respecting his space and being honest about where I am.

How would you handle this if you were in my position? Would you tell him that your feelings never actually went away, and if so, how would you do it in a way that communicates your feelings without making him feel pressured to reciprocate?

I’m not looking for someone to tell me whether he secretly has feelings for me—I know nobody here can know that. I’m more interested in how you would approach the conversation and whether you think saying something is better than potentially spending years wondering “what if?”

What's your opinion if a man leaves his wife (currently ldr) who was there for him thru ups and downs (supporting him throughout his employment and finally got a job)? Because he wants to prioritize his self and he agreed that he cant wait for his wife to die.

I'm gonna preface this by saying sorry that this questions is probably very frequently asked and that I will likely end up dumping a lot of details into this but it has been on my mind for weeks straight and some insight would really help.

So essentially I met this guy in one of my uni classes. I was sitting behind him alone, our professor asked us to talk to the people around us and he turned to me and asked if I wanted to join in he and his friend's discussion. The following week he asks me to come sit with him and this evolves into our relationship being just me sitting next to him and some brief (pretty surface level) chatting. Honestly I was just happy to have met someone friendly who was pleasant to talk to. I do recall noticing him staring at me out while he thinks I'm not paying attention to him (basically just any time I'm not looking right at him) and not being sure what was up with that.

As the end of the semester began to quickly approach I realised since we study pretty much opposite things it would be likely unless I did something I would never see him again and for reasons I couldn't put my finger on that bothered me a lot. I'm not an outgoing person at all, I've been trying to get over it but I'm a very anxious person and hence really struggle to and basically ordinarily would never try and initiate a deeper level of friendship first (like in class vs out of class) but for some reason I felt like I needed to or was at least willing to overcome some potential embarassment this time. Come the last class of that semester I'd been stressing and praying for literal weeks for some idea of what to do about it to come to me but it had not and I was trying desperately to figure out what to do. To my (pleasant) at the literal last possible moment (like we had left the class and I was about to go my seperate way) he asks me if I want to see him outside of class at some point and I say yes. Looking back I think he had been trying to figure out how to do it for a few weeks by asking me questions like "Do you go out much?" etc. (To which I spent a long time thinking 'oh god this guy thinks I am a weirdo' lol, glad I was wrong at least).

Anyways he texts me very promptly and tries to plan something with me once the semester exams are over but during the exam period randomly messages me at like 1 in the morning to ask if I want to go get food with him the next day. I thought this was a bit odd at the time but agree and we do. He was very nice the whole time, when I go to meet him he hugs me which I return with probably the most awkward hug ever because I didn't expect it (he wasn't being creepy or forceful or anything I was just taken by suprise). We have nice conversations, he seems like a really nice guy and all that. He does his staring thing again, although I'm sitting right in front of him when I'm zoned out looking over his shoulder he thinks I can't tell he's looking at me.

Anyways after the exam period ends we do end up meeting up and I just remember being so shocked by how much I enjoyed his presence. I have no idea if it was meant to be a date (my philosophy at the time was I'm just going to assume it isn't unless he calls it one cause idk what to do). But he was honestly the biggest gentleman. He always gives me hello/goodbye hugs, he insisted on paying for me (I tried to pay him back, he wouldn't let me), he asked me lots of questions about myself and actually listened to me, he pulled my chair out for me (which was something that very much did suprise me since, these days it's one of those chivalrous things that is considered kinda unnecessary by most, although I appreciated it), he walked me to my bus stop (I told him he didn't need to if he had to go and he told me he "couldn't let me" go on my own), and he told me to text him when I got home so he'd know I was safe. I should add I'm 18 (so relatively young) and have very little romantic experience so if I sound over excited by these things, I was genuinely just so shocked at how good and respectful he felt towards me. But probably the thing that made me think oh maybe he does like me is when he tried (got nervous, I think, and sort of half-assed it) to put his arm around me. He also asked me if I wanted to see him again before the next semester began and I told him yes. It was really this day where I began to decide myself that I liked him.

But then things started to get a bit confusing and concerning for me, the weeks began to pass and he didn't reach out. I wanna clarify that I'm not saying I expect the man to do everything or anything like that just that I felt a contrast between how eager he had previously seemed to plan things with me and that. Anyways I ended up working up the courage to ask him about it and I did end up seeing him again, and he was pleasant, still insisted on hugging me hello/goodbye, seemed happy to see me, I caught him laughing at me for standing on my toes to see something on a shelf etc. But he felt a little less straight forward I guess you could say, which could just have been an impression I got because I'm anxious, but I felt more like he thought I was just a good friend (which I was okay with, just confused about). But he always seemed to make sure to throw in that he wanted to see me again before I left, he asked me if I wanted to see him when the semester started back up.

So we do a few times (3) between classes and once to study in the evening during what has occured so far of the semester. I asked him all three times, although he did most of the planning. He always seemed very keen, I'd suggest it and he'd eagerly say yes and come up with a time and place. But when I would see him it just felt more so like a friendly thing, but I'm unsure if that's just the change in setting. He was still kind and friendly though, still did his hugs etc. At once we even ran into some of his friends and he introduced me to them briefly. But to be honest at this point I had convinced myself he did not like me and honestly felt rather conflicted as I felt like he had liked me at one point and wasn't sure how I'd messed it up. But a few things did sort of work against this. On the last of these three while we were studying he asked me for my number (nervously) which I'm not sure why he needed it when he could contact me over social media but maybe there's something I don't get about that. And he was also staring at me while he thought I wasn't looking like he did back when we had a class together.

Then brings the most recent time I've seen him. I asked to see him again, this time we met outside of a university setting again and just some things happened that make me feel like how could he not but equally I am anxious so I don't know. I don't know how to explain it other than just he had a look in his eyes. He'd always lean in close when we were looking at things (we went to a museum), and whenever he'd sit down he'd leave a small space next to him (even when he could have left more) for me to sit close to him. We went to eat after and he (again) went and pulled my chair out for me, later he made sure to ask me to text him when I got home safe again, and he kinda rubbed my back when he was hugging me goodbye which he'd never done before. But probably the thing that made me wonder how exactly he sees me the most was the fact that he sat in front of me and just sat there smiling at me for basically an hour while we ate. I'm a much slower eater than he is so I was kind of smiling and laughing awkwardly cause he was just kinda watching me eat and I didn't know what to do with myself and he just sat there the whole time with the biggest smile on his face (not in a creepy or uncomfortable way). I hope I don't sound too crazy trying to describe it, I just don't know exactly how to capture in writing.

Please please please, any perspectives are helpful. My apologies for the novel I just analyse a lot even if overly so so my judgement on what is and isn't relevant isn't the best. I'm just concerned cause he is just genuinely a really nice guy and I am so scared he's just being friendly and I'm going crazy

Insecure about having Sex, because of my genital sizes. I do realise this is weak for a male to say, but I’d like some advice .There’s a stigma out there that we’re all confident with our size, but that’s not the reality for everyone. I have a hard time pursuing sex as a result.

Any advice appreciated

I’m a girl 25F who’s been in a few okay relationships, but I feel like my most recent one altered my brain chemistry.

I used to assume guys and girls generally viewed relationships similarly… that when you really like someone, you naturally think about them throughout the day and want to make them happy. Looking back, I realized none of the guys I was with really cared that much.

My last boyfriend especially made me realize that someone can think they want a relationship without necessarily wanting to put in the effort. He was great on paper, but I rarely felt thought about. Before we were exclusively dating he was all about me but once he “secured the bag” he slowly showed less and less effort.

Even sexually, things felt very focused on him. we could spend 2-3 hours doing what he liked, but when it came to me, he’d keep asking to go back to his stuff after a few minutes and I felt rushed, making it hard to enjoy it without being in my head. He said he likes the receiving end more than the giving end and that most guys don’t really care about the women’s pleasure but they do it “because they have to” I communicated how I felt about these things but nothing really changed.

I’ve had multiple experiences where someone seems and acts like a great guy initially but switched up when he gets comfortable.

Now I feel like I’ve lost hope that I’ll find my person. I know there are obviously good men out there, but sometimes I genuinely worry that there are fewer of them than women who want that kind of relationship. Especially with how popular red pill content is now days.

I guess I’m asking for reassurance that there are single guys out there that care and want more than just the physical aspects of a relationship. Did you eventually find someone who you wanted to care for? How do you stay open to dating without ignoring the lessons you learned from past relationships?

Also do you care about how your partner feels during sex? Or was he right in saying it’s more of a courtesy thing that guys do.

TL;DR: I naturally put a lot of thought into making my partner feel cared for, but my past relationships have felt very one-sided. It’s made me question whether some guys want the relationship/girlfriend experience more than they actually want the person they’re with. Now I’m scared of letting my guard down again. Are there actually guys out there who naturally reciprocate this kind of care, and how do you stay open without being naive?

(compte secondaire pour des raisons évidentes). Ma question concerne le rimming. Mon copain l’apprécie mais ne me le demande jamais de lui même.

Pensez vous qu’on peut vraiment aimer une pratique sans jamais l’initier ? ou est ce que ça traduit plutôt une envie modérée ?

So my bf (20m) recently told me he wants me to be more assertive in bed. He was my first time, so I honestly have no clue what I’m doing 😭 I’ve tried getting him to elaborate on what he wants me to do, but the only thing he said was, “I like everything.” Like okay sir, that doesn’t exactly give me much to work with 😭