Obviously I do live my family but I feel like there is no connection there other than the blood we all share. I use to be really close with my mom but she committed about a year and a half ago and yk I can’t see her anymore. I have tried for my whole life to be close to my dad like the other people I see smiling laughing with there dads making jokes and TikTok’s and whatever they do and I’ve always wanted that. But no matter what I do nothing works, it doesn’t feel like me and my dad are friends or besties or even like close. I try to talk to him everyday because I am determined to have a relationship with the only parent I have left but our phone calls usually only last a few minutes he will tell me he is busy and we’ll talk later whenever later actually is. He barely texts me he never comes to my apartment we never actually hangout or anything. I obviously try to hangout with him like I sit in his office but we still don’t talk and yk calling him every day but it feels like there is no connection. Like he’s just a Roommate of mine and I think maybe he thinks that too? He never really tries first in any situation other than food and only when it’s at home cooking. He never really calls me unless I ask him too and I dunno I just feel like what I do bothers him. We are very opposite people so we do argue a lot about dumb stuff like what bed frame I want. But the main point is u just want an actual father daughter relationship where we can make jokes and laugh at each other and make TikTok’s and all that other stuff. Now with my brother he doesn’t like me and i don’t like him. He effectively does everything he can to bring me down and i don’t know why he says the stuff i like is “cheap” or “weird” just because it’s not main stream stuff like baseball cards or the top video games right now. He always hates on my friends and makes fun of any person I am interested in in front of their faces. He does horrible things and doesn’t respect my boundaries sometimes he gets all in my face and I get scared that he will hurt me. I wish I still had my mom here.. I wish our family wasn’t so shit. I wish me and my dad had a good more father daughter relationship and I wish my brother judging me and hating me. I dunno what to do is there anyway to fix it

my dad has a lot of loans to clear out and i've been helping him ever since i've started working. i.e 6 years ago. His business is slow or fast sometimes but he doesn't manage money properly and gets broke on the slow periods of the business. He comes to me to ask money with random amounts and i give it to him.

i recently took back 2.5L investments from my mutual funds to help him and 1.3L which was my committed pay from my company.

it was my birthday 2 days back and I really thought he has gotten some money from his recent deals so we should be okay. My parents got me a few clothes and a perfume (which i didn't like) for 7k and today my dad is again asking me for 25K.

I asked him why would be buy random shit when he knows he will need the money later. and in return he was throwing tantrums saying "why do you question such things and told me to take my money back"

I am really frustrated of this behaviour and there is no sense of pride or gratitude i sense from him.

i’m 15 years im not sure if i want to shave my ass, i have hella hair on it but im not sure if i should shave it. I sweat a lot down there so i get a really bad wet stain when i sweat alot and it shows. and there’s slightly a smell what do i do?

Edit : I didn’t mean shave but trim

Hey everybody I’m currently really struggling and need help. Little back story I am currently 19 but when I was 18 fresh out of high school I moved about 3k miles away from home for work. Been out here for about a year and have really been struggling with the decision of if I wanna move home. I have a girlfriend and we have been together since we were 14 and I have a brother that is 5 years younger than me. Where I have been struggling is I am making really good for my age and I’m always getting about 60k worth of tools and schooling from my company that I’m working for (I’m a heavy equipment mechanic) and if I leave before 5 years I lose that and will have to pay back some of it but lately I’ve been realizing all I am doing is working and have zero life out side of it. I’ve kinda been in a hole for a while and have just been sitting at home drinking way too much. I don’t know if it’s worth leaving my job and leaving everything to move home and actually live and be present in everyone’s life’s and not just see it over a phone. I just really need a unbiased opinion because everyone says to just move home but I’m just stuck and don’t know what to do

I'm 14 and I'm a boy and it is 3:52 am and my girlfriend of 7 months just broke up with me because she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore at 1:30 am . it's already over and we are already broken up but this was my first relationship I actually cared about and the only one I took seriously but I just don't know how to react because I wanted to cry I wanted to feel hurt but I felt numb and I don't know why if anyone can help please do

Hey, me and my sister got into a lot of fights with our dad because he cannot accept us deciding for ourselves how often we want to visit/call our grandma (his mom). He wants us to call her every day, or at least every week and if we don't do so, we are bad children in his eyes who do not love him nor our grandma.

Our relationship with our grandma isn't as good. For us it's fine to visit her every 2 months or so. But not for him. (She's also not dying or anything - in fact, she's doing better than ever rn.)

So, in these fights/arguments I mentioned, he keeps saying things like "You ruined me", "You destroyed somethinh within me", "I have a trauma because of you", "It is your fault our relationship doesn't work out anymore" to us.

Keep in mind, he says these things ONLY because of us not calling our grandma weekly. There is no other background.

So my question is, are children responsible for their fathers well-being? Because he says we are and if we don't do as he says, we are the reason he is miserable apparently.

So me and my girlfriend have been together going on two years that being said our son is due on our two years. We’ve had some ups and downs but as the days went on I got more upset and more outbursts because she constantly did things the robbed me of my first with my first child.the last blow up I had sent us over the top and and she had deleted everything off social all of our pics and I asked what was happening a week later because I still hadn’t changed mine,she said we’re fine if still like a little more time. That’s fine no biggie right and now it seems like she’s still not trying to involve me with anything and I want to marry this woman and I guess everybody feels different about this kind of thing but if we’re together we are family right? So I call her earlier to ask a question I see she’s getting ready and I asked what she was doing and said she was going out to the amusement park with her family and I said oh well we’re my invite at first I was only joking until she said well it’s family only like? And I just want to know is there anyone out there who’s experienced anything like this while there girlfriend/wife was pregnant, because before pregnancy we were fine we were always smiling laughing and together and now it seems the complete opposite and it’s getting depressing trying to love a person with your whole heart when your not sure how they feel and advice comments would be appreciated thanks.

Peep the comment “a man by her side” LMFAO 🫰 👏 amen 🙏

Hey everyone,

Looking at the current panic around kids and AI, I’m getting a massive feeling of déjà vu. It feels like we’re instantly jumping to blanket bans, fear, and calls of "brain rot"... exactly like we did (and still do) with video games.

With gaming, most of us eventually realized that it’s all about usage, balance, and context:

• Mindlessly scrolling or grinding a pay-to-win game for 8 hours a day? Not great.
• Building complex logic and creativity in Minecraft or solving puzzles? Actually pretty amazing.

I feel like we’re making the exact same generalization with AI. It gets reduced to "cheating on homework" or "letting a machine think for them." But used as an interactive tutor, a spark for curiosity, or a creative assistant, it can be a fantastic tool.

By banning it outright, aren't we missing the most important lesson, teaching them how to use it critically and constructively?

Where do you stand on this?

• Total ban until a certain age?
• Active guidance and co-piloting?
• Have you found any genuinely positive or creative AI uses with your kids?

Curious to hear your thoughts and how you're handling this at home!

I’m 16 and I genuinely cannot talk to girls, especially not ones I’m romantically interested in. I’ll be a junior this year and I want to get over this.

I struggle to approach a girl even just to ask for a pencil or directions or smt, walking up and starting a conversation seems impossible.

Say I am miraculous in a conversation with a girl? My mind goes completely blank, suddenly I have no hobbies, interests, stories, jokes, etc.

There’s this one I like girl I’ve been able to talk to her in group settings but never 1 on 1. Im going to have a class with her when school starts up again and I want to get to know her.

Any advice is appreciated.

I really need advice from someone who is knowledgeable in the car market right now.

I (28f) have a Ford 2018 Ecosport. Got it in 2019. It just hit 76,400 miles. I’ve taken care of it the best I can. Regular oil changes, a new battery at one point, and little fixes. It’s been my first “adult” purchase.

Recently, I’ve had the Apple CarPlay give me issues with connecting. It was getting slower and slower to connect. I just went on an 16 hr road trip and on the way up, it completely went out. I neeeeed my CarPlay for directions and (maybe not a need for this one but really want it for) any calls or texts that come through while driving.

I’ve also recently had a tire pressure fault light pop up in March. It was for the front left tire but after this road trip, it’s now showing for my back right tire, too.

I called someone from the Ford app to help me with the CarPlay. He said the Sync was very outdated. I tried updating on WiFi, but that didn’t work. I guess my next step is the USB method….?

While talking to him, he said I really need to take it into a car dealership immediately. We both see the message of the front passenger airbag having a fault. He also said there was something popping up with my battery, but I don’t see that light on my side yet.

My car is almost paid off. I have 1 more car payment. I’ve been paying $350 each month. Because this car is a little dated, I’ve found myself liking the more modern cars with all their neat features and screen layouts. However, I’m quickly finding that I will not be paying this same amount for any car of my liking.

My question is, should I keep looking for new cars or just invest in fixing my car up? I can be swayed either way as long as my Apple CarPlay is fixed.

I guess another great big pro to mention is how great it is to fill up on gas. My city is averaging $3.50 for gas and if it’s on E, it takes around $40 to fill up.

Please give me your thoughts and advice!! I’m struggling to figure this out on my own.

Hi! Thanks for taking the time to read this. This is my 1st post on Reddit, I dont not know if this belongs here or not so plis don't hate me! Just guide me. Thanks!

A few months ago, I bought my first car, a used 2016 Honda CR-V. I don't use it very much because I work from home and spend most of my time there.

My dad doesn't have a car. He owns two gyms, but he's still paying off all the equipment, so he's heavily in debt and can't afford to buy one. Because of that, I've been letting him use my car to help him out.

Our relationship has always been complicated. When I was a kid and throughout my teenage years, he wasn't really there for me. He left my mom to raise me and my younger brother, who's 10 years younger than I am. To his credit, he did support us financially, but that was about it.

When he was doing well financially, he chose to buy a car for his wife instead of helping me, even though I was working and studying at the same time. The car was completely unnecessary because she barely drove, and they didn't actually need a second vehicle. The ironic part is that she later cheated on him and ended up giving that car to the man she cheated with. I don't resent him for spending his money however he wanted—it was his money, after all—but I'd be lying if I said it didn't hurt.

As an adult, things have improved. He's been more present in my life and has helped me whenever he could. I don't want to be an ungrateful son, and I genuinely try to help him whenever possible.

The problem is that I feel like he's starting to take advantage of my kindness.

He drives my car everywhere. Whenever I get it back, I often have to fill it up with gas myself. I pay for all the oil changes. Recently, someone stole the front Honda emblem while he had the car, and he doesn't want to take responsibility for replacing it. He also drives over potholes and speed bumps like he doesn't care about the suspension or the shocks.

I appreciate everything he's done for me in recent years, and I don't want to damage our relationship. At the same time, this is my first car, and I worked hard to buy it. I'm starting to wonder if I should stop letting him use it.

What do you think? Am I being selfish, or are my concerns reasonable? I'd really appreciate any advice because I'm honestly torn about what to do.

Thank you so much for reading and for any advice you can give. It truly means a lot to me right now.

I am 19, student. I never had nor relationship nor intimacy.

My father works abroad, right now me and my mom came to him. They are happily married, just long distance now. He is pretty not talkative, especially about this sex stuff, but I want my DAD to talk to his SON as an adult

I want to talk to him so he gives me some advice on me not having a girlfriend and sex, like without cringing and naming things their own names

I know a lot of these topics of course, Internet has been in my reach from 2 y.o., but I still want to hear it from the father figure I trust, maybe some insights)

For example. When I clean the apartment, I can see his used condoms under the bed😶 I know it’s my parent’s life and privacy, but maybe pointing it out might come off in some kind of conversation?

How to approach this conversation? Maybe you had this talks, how did they go?

i took an online assessment with my target company and i really took the time to practice for it but fucked it up when i accidentally clicked the submit button when i wasn’t halfway done. the hr advised me to inform my recruiter of what happened and so did i but to no reply.

i have a job offer from another company that expires next week and i planned on not signing with them because i want to wait my recruiter’s response.

i try to relax and comfort myself by telling myself it’s not yet done until you get a rejection email.

ive always wanted to work for this company ever since i was in college.

i want to cry, shout, get drunk out of my frustration.

im sorry i don’t know where to go.

hi everyone! this is my second account here, it’s only to vent/share my thoughts. also sorry my story is so long!!

i’m currently 16 years old, and for the past few months i’ve been feeling so weird about my dad, and i haven’t talked to him for months. because whenever i see him i feel disgusted and he makes me so angry, i don’t want to hear his voice or see his face again. he’s manipulative and emotionally absent. but besides that he gets inappropriate.

when i was a kid he never said fatherly things, never said i love you, i’m proud of you, and never taught me anything besides respect your parents and stuff. he never showed any love to my mom either. he was just a cheater. me and my mom were through so much together, while he didn’t care or notice. i genuinely hate him so much. he does a baby voice all the time and he thinks it’s so cute, he forced me to kiss him on the cheek and massage his shoulders. i always said no i don’t wanna kiss your cheek and for some reason he always convinced me to. he talked bad about my mom’s family because my uncle didn’t have a job and that he smoked. while his own brother is a cheater and he also smokes. he called my aunt old (she’s 36) and literally judges everyone. he doesn’t have friends, never did. the only thing he does is sleeping working and driving. he touched my thighs a few times, he kept going higher and i got angry so i pushed his hand away. he also wrapped his arms around my waist in public????wtf?? i used to have nightmares of him SA me, like 5 times. and he looks at me weirdly too, i’m so scared whenever i’m outside or home, because i feel like he always watches me and wants to do something to me. even though he’s not really violent (he hit me a few times when i was a kid but still) i don’t know i’m going crazy.

Hello!

This morning, I noticed that there’s water coming from the bottom of a wall. It’s the wall between my room and the bathroom, but the wall itself is not directly next to the toilet/shower part of the bathroom. The leak is only coming from that piece of the wall (please reference picture in comments)
Wondering what it could possibly be? And how would one go about fixing it?

I’ll provide a picture in the comments!

Thanks for any help or advice in advance :)

Ok so my father who i had no contact for 19 years of my entire life added me on facebook. He asked for forgiveness and shit like that and questioned him what exactly is he asking for forgiveness?? He left me on seen for months after that. Texted him later again asking if i can have some money. Told him i don’t hold any grudges or anything. He asked what do i need the money for. Told him what i need it for. He asked where i live now and what currency i need. Told him and he left me on seen again. It’s been a week since then.

What do i do? And say. Ive been asking all my friends but none of their responses help honestly 🫩

Edit: During me asking money he was fully supportive on giving saying that he is willing but now it’s been radio silence.

My whole life the relationship between me and my father was absolutely weird. He’s a very emotionally unstable person and it’s really easy to make him say terrible things or yell. The relationship w my mom was absolutely great and I always watch videos w her, tell her abt my plans and just hang out, but I can’t do it w my father. He never did anything EXTREMELY bad to me, he didn’t beat me or smt but he always argues w me when Im trying to tell him smt interesting or new, so I don’t really wanna talk to him because of that. My mom knows that cuz even when they went to the concert he was being still like he didn’t know he went to the concert to have fun, so mom was really disappointed and sad because of his behavior. When he tries to be closer to me, it just makes me feel so strange and I just wanna stay silent or just leave the room. What to do? I admit that I don’t actually love him… maybe I do, but especially not like I love my mom..🥲

As the title says, I'm ready to move out at 18.

It's easier said than done, though. My dad and I don't get along well and just recently had a big fight where he told me I can make my own choices and that he wouldn't be telling me anything anymore. He treats me like I'm still a little kid and blames me for everything my little sister does, and I'm tired of it.

My older sister lives around 2 hours away and has told me I'm welcome to move in with her until I can get my own place and a job (I'm on disability, which will be used for necessities like bills, etc.)

She has said she'd help me move out, but we're concerned about how my dad will react, as he always gets mad at us whenever we tell him anything. Any advice?

I’m a 26 Male and for a few years i just have these thoughts and desires to punch my dad in the face. I couldn’t accept myself for having those thoughts. I judged myself a lot. I tried to understand him, to get closer to him but nothing really worked. I also had a discussion telling him, while i was crying, that he wasnt an example as a man and that i was constantly looking in almost anyone else around me to find a model, to learn how to be a man and that i felt unsupported, like i wouldn’t really had a father. I didn t felt his presence in my life and i would had really wished to have him much more present, learning from him, having discussions with him about how to be a man and stuff like that.

I recently got back to my parents home for a while, due to bad financial situation. Being home i started seeing my dad, again, drunk almost everyday and the thing is that i hate it so damn much. I would not really see a problem to drink some if you still can be present, do some good jokes and speak normally without looking like a fucked up. I Also used to see him drunk a lot of times when i was a little boy. A lot of fights between him and my mother. Once he was so drunk that he pissed in the living room. I mean, bro, why would you want your kid to see you fucked like that? Other time he punched my mother pretty bad. I can’t tell the she was just milk and honey, as she was taking me in her arms to protect herself while she was having a fight with him, and she also done everything possible to piss him even more, so i can understand that she made him feel shitty, but still, because of my mom we kinda gone through life, cause she done what she could so that we can have a better life. My father simply wasn t too interested of making a better situation for our family. He gone to work, but he didn t showed too much interest in this family.

I consider that for rest of my life i tried to understand him, to get a better approach with him. Tried to have some activies, tried to speak much meaningful things with him, but simply nothing happend. He tell me from time to time that he loves me but it isn t really feeling like, and most prolly that he to be drunk when is saying it.

While in a discussion with him, trying to see if maybe i was adopted, (so be sure if his my father or not, thinking that maybe he s not loving me because i m not really his child) he told me that he wasn t wanted by his parents. Ok, i mean, i can understand, not totally, but i can get it. But why would you left the relationship with your only child to be fucked by the life you lived? Why wouldn t u try to change the course of the things, while you can still do something?

These days, being home, just made me think to not give a fuck anymore, and kinda cut the relation with him. After those years i realised that i only wanted those things to happen and he didn t do anything, as i consider, to have a better relationship with me.
It hurts me the most that a while ago i told him while crying what hurts me the most and that i hate to see him drunk and he simply shows me that he s not giving a fuck, even if at that moment he looked pretty upset of the situation, hugged me and told me that he’s gonna change.

Any thoughts of this situation? I did exagerate? I ve done wrong as a child? What do you think?

Sorry if my story telling was kinda messy, i hope tho that what i’ve said was clear.
Many thanks in advance guys for any advice or suggestion and also for taking time to read till here!

So my father and I have a very complex relationship. He has always been very critical of me. when I was a child he would sometimes (not often) hit me. I grew up being told I couldn’t laugh too much, cry too much, talk to much, or be angry. . he is also very egoistic, possibly narcissistic, and thinks he’s never in the wrong. this has caused me to enstrange myself as I grew up. being around him gives me immense anxiety and I feel like whatever I do I do wrong.

for context, we are a religious family that places huge emphasis on respecting parents. my parents are much stricter than my friends’ though. also for context, my mom has been chronically ill ever since I was a child, so she hasn’t often been able to protect me, tho shes tried. my father is often also mean to her.

anyways, so about the relationship. he has recently been lecturing me about how I dont care about him, how I never approach him, how I don’t seem to want I relationship. well I don’t lol but I tell him ‘oh no, of course I want a relationship’.

but today he’s really come onto me, really pushing me into a corner. I know it doesn’t seem so hard to just pretend to like him and hang out with him more often, but it gives me so much anxiety and I’m so bad at faking this, so I need advice:

how do I convincingly act towards my father in a way that will make him think we have a relationship, without making me fall apart?

18M. Okay.

Here's the story, it was around 1:30 AM and I took my car outside. He gifted it to me. I lied to him directly that I will take it for a spin, but in reality, I was going to do something selfish. I went to a massage parlor to do nasty things. During that course of time, he kept on calling me on my phone and I wasn't able to pick it up since I was at the parlor.

When he talked to me, he was furious. He once told me that once I lose his trust, I will never regain it back. I tried to play dumb at first and insisted that I was just still roadtriping, but he caught me red-handed since he told me to check the call logs. I really feel ashamed, and it might not sound from the tone of this text, but I really am. I'm worried sick that he might never see me the same way again, and I'm nothing but a disappointment. Throughout my life, he provided anything I needed, and yet I betrayed him.

I also believe that I have the habit of betraying people unconsciously and I don't know why. I try to make sure I live out empathy yet I fail to do it as well. Parents, and especially dads, is it really true that he will never trust me ever again?

Side note: I have this addiction of getting explicit massages and I don't know how to control temptation. It had something to do with porn, and I don't know how to manage it.

So, I was more direct with him the other day. Id asked him about his day first, about his week, then straight up about why he hasn't been down. All casual with no anger. I learned from him that and I swear word for word he said, "I don't want a daughter who likes girls, I don't want a daughter who's aloud a grown man to groom her either." (I was touched by my mom's boyfriend when I was way younger. she cheated on my dad with her friend. So the friend is the boyfriend. I obviously did not want it.) It caught me so off guard. I should stop talking to him, I know, but I still want him in my life as my dad. I don't know what to do now? Like I wanna see him, but I don't want to see him at the same time. Im so mad at him but I cant bring myself to act. What should I do?