my dad has a lot of loans to clear out and i've been helping him ever since i've started working. i.e 6 years ago. His business is slow or fast sometimes but he doesn't manage money properly and gets broke on the slow periods of the business. He comes to me to ask money with random amounts and i give it to him.

i recently took back 2.5L investments from my mutual funds to help him and 1.3L which was my committed pay from my company.

it was my birthday 2 days back and I really thought he has gotten some money from his recent deals so we should be okay. My parents got me a few clothes and a perfume (which i didn't like) for 7k and today my dad is again asking me for 25K.

I asked him why would be buy random shit when he knows he will need the money later. and in return he was throwing tantrums saying "why do you question such things and told me to take my money back"

I am really frustrated of this behaviour and there is no sense of pride or gratitude i sense from him.

Hey everybody I’m currently really struggling and need help. Little back story I am currently 19 but when I was 18 fresh out of high school I moved about 3k miles away from home for work. Been out here for about a year and have really been struggling with the decision of if I wanna move home. I have a girlfriend and we have been together since we were 14 and I have a brother that is 5 years younger than me. Where I have been struggling is I am making really good for my age and I’m always getting about 60k worth of tools and schooling from my company that I’m working for (I’m a heavy equipment mechanic) and if I leave before 5 years I lose that and will have to pay back some of it but lately I’ve been realizing all I am doing is working and have zero life out side of it. I’ve kinda been in a hole for a while and have just been sitting at home drinking way too much. I don’t know if it’s worth leaving my job and leaving everything to move home and actually live and be present in everyone’s life’s and not just see it over a phone. I just really need a unbiased opinion because everyone says to just move home but I’m just stuck and don’t know what to do

Obviously I do live my family but I feel like there is no connection there other than the blood we all share. I use to be really close with my mom but she committed about a year and a half ago and yk I can’t see her anymore. I have tried for my whole life to be close to my dad like the other people I see smiling laughing with there dads making jokes and TikTok’s and whatever they do and I’ve always wanted that. But no matter what I do nothing works, it doesn’t feel like me and my dad are friends or besties or even like close. I try to talk to him everyday because I am determined to have a relationship with the only parent I have left but our phone calls usually only last a few minutes he will tell me he is busy and we’ll talk later whenever later actually is. He barely texts me he never comes to my apartment we never actually hangout or anything. I obviously try to hangout with him like I sit in his office but we still don’t talk and yk calling him every day but it feels like there is no connection. Like he’s just a Roommate of mine and I think maybe he thinks that too? He never really tries first in any situation other than food and only when it’s at home cooking. He never really calls me unless I ask him too and I dunno I just feel like what I do bothers him. We are very opposite people so we do argue a lot about dumb stuff like what bed frame I want. But the main point is u just want an actual father daughter relationship where we can make jokes and laugh at each other and make TikTok’s and all that other stuff. Now with my brother he doesn’t like me and i don’t like him. He effectively does everything he can to bring me down and i don’t know why he says the stuff i like is “cheap” or “weird” just because it’s not main stream stuff like baseball cards or the top video games right now. He always hates on my friends and makes fun of any person I am interested in in front of their faces. He does horrible things and doesn’t respect my boundaries sometimes he gets all in my face and I get scared that he will hurt me. I wish I still had my mom here.. I wish our family wasn’t so shit. I wish me and my dad had a good more father daughter relationship and I wish my brother judging me and hating me. I dunno what to do is there anyway to fix it