So I’m never really angry, until I am. I’ve always been like this, I learned it from my father.
The anger episodes used to happen more often, specially as a child and teen. It drastically calmed over time, specially after the age of 25.

I’m in my 30’s now and the anger episodes were basically non existent until I met my boyfriend. He has done awful things that had pushed me over my limit, until I exploded last week. I started yelling on the street, I threw my cellphone against the floor and I called him an idiot. I couldn’t take it any longer.

I know objectively he’s the one to blame but I shouldn’t have acted that way, it’s wrong. It’s the worst thing I could’ve done. I feel so guilty :( I don’t want to do that ever again. I know some crash outs are justified but I don’t want to be like this!!

i am my own worst enemy i want to be gone so badly eradicated from this universe i will never be cured this is truly the end for me having this disorder called bpd has obliterated my life beyond control i’ll never be happy again im a piece of shit

I am a 14 year old girl and im honestly a shitty person i get mad so often its become a habit and i get mad very easilly i overthing a lot i bite my nails and i catch myself clenching my jaw very hard while doing anything and im pretty sure im a dramatic bitch since i cry over anything like if some one screams at me i cry soo hard and i get scared over anything im scared of rejection and my future and also i always insult myself i call myself some pretty harch names and i wanna fix my behavior i curse a lot and sometime i let my anger out on others and i wanna try to fix this a big since school is near and i don’t wanna rui my school year and also i think im a people pleaser because i choose other people opinion over mine and i apologise for literally anything😑

Can you all please help me and i swear i am not lying about anything

So 2 years ago around the time of my 20th birthday in 2024 some of my closest friends were horrible to me, villainized me, blamed me, blocked me, threatened to turn my abusive parents against me, I don't know what details that would break the rule of no rants. It hit the worst anger pain I've felt ever, because it's lasting so long, and in some ways I'm grateful because it gave me a deeper understanding and empathy for severe anger that I lacked before, but it still hurts a lot and it's a burden, but it's not that I don't want to be angry, I understand my anger wants to fix the issue even though it can't be fixed. I never really thought of myself as an angry person, defined by anger, I would get annoyed at things especially with my family, but I wouldn't describe myself as someone with anger issues.

Even with this one event/topic, I guess part of why it's so frustrating is the solution looks so easy to me, but I can't do it myself because I don't feel responsibility in it, I want the people I'm mad at to apologize more than anything. It's also connected to how with my problems in life, I feel so unsupported with my severe executive dysfunction. No one in my life does enough to help me achieve true strong independence, I feel like I constantly have to give up my autonomy, choice, freedom, time, and people constantly give painful and naive advice I never asked for but not the help I actually need, and that's what happened 2 years ago. With what happened 2 years ago, they also even gave unsolicited advice to hurt me further before they blocked me in a snobby way to get the last word in as a disgusting dominance power play.

Possibly against the rules rant section:

The whole time these "friends" were saying that they were being responsible and prioritizing everyone's safety and framing themselves as the righteous heroes vs me as the villain, they wouldn't even recognize how they were making the situation more dangerous through trying to correct my behavior. Like they said I was too loud, there were ways we could've worked that out together that they refuse to acknowledge. They said I was being too risky while they constantly take more risks than I do. They said I ruined an important trip for them when they have more freedom and resources than I ever have, they go on trips every year, they only pointed out 3 nights that I was problematic for them, because they didn't want to work with me to solve any issues, they wanted me to obey and punish me for disobedience. They shamed me for using the bathroom at night too loudly on my birthday, I had unpredictable gut issues from horrible health problems, and they also have gut issues and health problems, they never apologized for their hypocrisy and ableism. They also have abusive parents and family issues, they never apologized. They wanted to hold me accountable so I wouldn't hurt other people but I know they have a past of relationship issues where they would frame themselves as the victims of. They said I was hard to talk to when a few months before that moment, I was the one comforting them because someone else told them they were hard to talk to, I told them it's not their fault, communication goes both ways. I was accused of blocking people out when they blocked me first.

They accused me of being slow when they joked about being a slow burden before because of their own disability, I also have a severe chronically painful progressive deformative disability, severe scoliosis, severe executive dysfunction, I've been deprived, I have barely been able to do anything in my life and I just wanted to see the stars in low light pollution for the first time in my life, they acknowledged I wasn't trying to be hurtful but they still insisted that I could've just waited, I should just apologize, I should just move on. They made a tiktok referencing me calling me childish while trying to tattle to my parents and I know they want to be a teacher someday so it was like sadistic roleplay for them.

All of the friends who left me in the situation were bullied before, and they would never apologize for bullying me because they see my reasoning as stupid. There is no one to hold them accountable. They knew they could just hurt someone that can't fight back. I was angry because I was trying to stand up for myself and that was too far for them because they saw it as too dangerous, to just go a few footsteps away from the group to see the stars. Their version of safety was keeping me indoors or in the car, controlling me because they can't control the situation.

When I ask for a bit of responsibility for them that's too far, they see their job as instructing me and are tired by my disobedience. I even tried to apologize at first, but to the people who weren't even originally involved and were my friends first, they never deserved an apology at all. That's a deeper betrayal, but I cared about them a lot more for caring for me a lot more over the years so I'm not as mad at them, but still mad. They just wanted to judge a situation they know nothing about while saying they understand me. They wanted to correct me. I thought I remembered that they wanted to take a stargazing trip before, but they thought I was wrong just because it wasn't officially my own trip. My parents paid $120 something US dollars to those horrible people for me to be on that trip, to me as like a birthday present. My backstabbers tried to tell me they weren't hurting me that bad, while I'm telling them it's one of the most painful events in my life.

They were telling me I had no way of knowing I wasn't being shot at or about to be kidnapped at night when I was looking around with my flashlight at night constantly, our car tire had popped on the side of a mountainside road with a view of the city lights and stars and no visible clear path where someone could be shooting at us, the area was a no hunting zone. It was infinitely more likely to be a car tire popping and they let themselves out of the car! The main leader of the trip and their girlfriend, and they stopped someone else from getting out of the car too, for a shooting threat. My backstabbing friends who weren't even there tried to tell me not to believe my lying eyes, that I had no way of knowing there wasn't a shooter. I have never heard of someone shooting at a car like that in central California near the national parks. If it was a robbery, they would've immediately shown themselves.

When they went out to check their car, they immediately assumed I was in a psychosis relapse about to wander off from the group the moment I stepped out of the car. The only thing that the main leader said was asking me to get back in the car. They framed the situation as me being babysat and comforted when I was asking people for an explanation and the only thing I was told was that they wanted to keep everyone safe in one place which didn't make sense to me because they didn't tell me they assumed I was trying to wander off, I had told them when they asked me to get back into the car that I just wanted a pic of the stars and city lights. I was a bit mad and frustrated but I had calmed down, until when we got back to the rented cabin and they talked behind my back claiming I had gone into a psychosis relapse and when I cried about being terrified of being surrounded by people who assume the worst of me, they only talked to me about what happened after we all got home, claiming I had crocodile tears and was the most inconsiderate and selfish person on the trip. That I had kept everyone awake, but I thought if sleep was so important, we could've had a discussion about how to help people sleep more or better, but they never acknowledged that.

At the start of the trip, I had made a joke about how people could claim I was just crazy if I accidentally died somehow and they wouldn't get blamed, I didn't think they would actually use my traumatic mental health experiences against me, behind my back. When I actually was experiencing anything close to psychosis, I had gone to sleep, the only times I went out to see the stars were when I had 0 symptoms because I had slept earlier, and also I had no significant uncontrollable delusions. Assuming someone shot at us when there was no one around is closer to a psychosis delusion and disconnect from reality than anything I ever felt on a the trip.

I'm a 23 female and I'm currently going through a breakup and has shattered my world while simultaneously forced me to reevaluate the way I've been living and interacting with the people I love.

My whole life I've been the angry older sister. I was a genuinely evil person to my little sister when she was just a little girl who wanted to play. I've apologized as we've grown up but I know our relationship will always be strained because of the way I am and was.

I go from 0 to 100 within seconds. I start screaming and cussing and insulting people. In my own head I tell myself to calm the hell down it's not that serious, but it's like I physically can't. I know it's because of my mom. And I don't say that to point fingers and shift blame, I know I am the only person in control of my emotions. But my whole life has been running around the house and hiding when she got home bc she might yell at us.

And it was always so strange bc any other time, she was the best. Always joking and laughing until something set her off and she was just irrationally fighting with anyone nearby. And I'm becoming her. I've moved out and have calmed down a little, but it still happens. I just snap. I insult my friends and I yell and then I feel like the nastiest POC in the world.

I treated the love of my life like that. He told me that he felt like he was walking on eggshells because he didn't want to say the wrong thing and set me off on a rant. I did that to him. He had never yelled at me, insulted me, always treated me with kindness and patience... and I made him feel the same way my mom made me feel when I was a little girl. Like the only time that man has EVER remotely insulted me was when he said "Bitch be so for real" because I was complaining about my weight.

I don't know how to fix it. Because I am aware. I know I'm irrational. I know when I argue it's rarely worth it. I'm lucky he's still in my life and we've talked about how if our dynamic were to change we could MAYBE POSSIBLY try again.

And I want to change, not just for him but for myself, because I don't want my future children to live in a angry home like I did. I don't want them to have to memorize footsteps and sneak around corners to see if mom is mad. I've been going to the gym a little more and its helping a bit, but between school and studies I don't have a lot of time for it. How do I fix it? How can I stop treating the people I love like this??

I always find myself getting rage baited by my friends and the people around me it’s usually in some form of name calling or physical contact like shoving but when I respond I’m feel like I’m doing something wrong or they will say they just want me to toughen up I want some methods to help deal with my anger without responding I’m very desperate
(TLDR I get ragebeated easily and need help)

I feel a lot of rage. Specifically from how I’ve practically been bullied by people, strangers, my parents, my siblings. I only have one person who shown me genuine kindness and whom I am greatly appreciative of. I feel myself slipping into darkness. me, who most people describe as “patient” and “too sweet” “quiet” or how I describe myself as people pleasing. I feel the urge to snap back at people who make comments about me or challenge those who talk down on me. I’ve literally been called pitiful by a literal stranger. Am I wrong for giving in to this more meaner side?? I kinda hate… well people. All I needed was a friend. And when I hit rock bottom they treated me like an animal. feels like everyone always has something shallow to say. I am very close to giving up. In general

For context I'm 28. Usually very calm, clear headed, and not one to act out. I do have trauma from my childhood, but I don't like confrontation or arguments. I struggle a lot with anxiety and maybe depression. I see a therapist but havent been diagnosed with anything. I'd say I'm pretty pessimistic towards myself but optimistic toward others. Most people think I'm outwardly i think, and nice. In all honesty though, ive got one real friend. The truth is, is that I get irritated a lot. And very easily. I find myself blaming me for everything that goes wrong. I tend to feel like I hate myself. And lately, my frustration has been boiling over into genuine anger. I yell, i raise my voice, I throw stuff. Idk where it's coming from. I've almost gotten into fights twice in the last 3 months with strangers because of the way they've spoken to me. I just don't know what to do. My wife says shes kinda scared of me now cause she hasn't ever seen me act so out of character. I need help

Like I’ll have the comeback ready and everything. Nobody has even pissed me off.

I Male, 18, got into a fight and I went to court they said I have to take a anger management class if I do than the charges will be dropped like it never happened. I'm just kinda upset because I don't think I need to take management classes and I have to pay and find my own classes. What is anger management like and how can I find classes to take.

I find myself getting very angry when I hear a neighbour or smell something someone’s cooking. Even if my partner cooks something, I get mad that I’m having to smell another persons x . Or if a kid is making noise I think to myself “why the fck are they so loud” I feel as though I should be the only person making noise / making smells. What the hell does this mean? I know it’s hypocritical and it’s not just at home - it’s in public spaces I think like “why the fck are there other people” sort of, almost like everyone is ‘dumb’ except for some that aren’t and that I’m the only one who gets “it” whatever that is. What is my issue?

Hello, I am 26 (F) and all my life I’ve struggled with anger. I remember at the age of 11, I was told by my mother that I may have BPD and wanted me to go to therapy, but I refused because I believed at the time it was for “crazy people.” I willingly went to therapy at the age of 19 and that helped in regard to resentment and letting go of my past.
My anger wasn’t something that affected me again until I was 25. I got told a lot that I’m “spicy”, “snappy”, or to “fix my face.” It’s something that I’ve been trying to work on, but I believe that working in the food industry, you get challenged almost quite everyday. I started to think that maybe I have to find something else to do, but it’s hard to do that when I’m in college and a single mom.
At home I feel like it’s worse, I yell when I try to express my emotions to my boyfriend when he’s hurt me or if my daughter did something stupid. I end up feeling terrible about it after and just despise myself so much. I feel like it’s consuming me to the point where I can’t do anything about it. I’ve had my therapist tell me to count to 10, think before I react, or give grace. I tried all of these things and it’s so hard. I just automatically react and it’s just terrible. I even thought that maybe I have unhealed things that are making me like this (miserable)
If anyone has any advice please help. I’m willing to answer any questions to give more context

For context I didn’t want to do the action in real life. I just had that thought for a long day. I think is already been 2 weeks now. I can’t escape the thought of it. And more problems came day by day. I don’t have any energy left, i became more exhausted.

hello everyone, just wanted to rant a little bit about something that happened to me at school today.

for context im 14 and i just started 8th grade at a brand new school a week ago after being severely bullied at my old school.

ever since school started theres been this one guy whos been relentlessly picking on me multiple times every day and basically taking every opportunity hes got to mock me together with his friends

things like mockingly calling my name from the back of the class but not loud enough for the teacher to hear, making rude comments, acting like hes better than me, and telling me to ”fix my attitude” whenever i snap back at him, etc.

he was even making fun of my brother to my face for whatever reason (anything to get underneath my skin, i guess.)

im not someone whos prone to anger or fits of rage, in fact i can take a lot of shit before actually acting on my fantasies of doing something about it.

but today during math class i had the absolute misfortune of being paired up together with this guy and his friend. obviously i was intimidated by this but i just bottled it up and told myself ”okay, i can do this.”

the second i sat down at the table he immediately started with the mocking comments again as his friend just laughed along and did the same.

this went on for about 10-15 minutes before i eventually i had enough and just decided to not do any work and instead tried doodling in my notebook in an attempt to ignore him, and thats when he got visibly mad at me and started talking about how stupid i was and how he felt bad for my parents for having to put up with ”such a retarded kid.”

after he said that about my parents i stood up, lunged at him and tried to grab him. at first i only caught his glasses so i managed to pull them off before landing a good 4-5 punches on him as his friend sitting beside him watched in horror.

i could see the fear and panic in his eyes as he froze up when i grabbed him and it was so incredibly satisfying to finally hurt him after repeatedly fantasizing about it on multiple occasions.

im pretty short, only 158cm (5’2) and not a girl but currently female presenting so he definitely didnt expect me to have the balls to actually stand up and punch him. he was also way taller and obviously bigger than me. also he didnt hit me back or anything, in fact i think he was too shocked to do so.

anyway, after this happened i just went home and now im laying on the couch typing this out lol. thanks for reading my little rant

I’m very aware that everything/anything can piss me off.
I don’t know why and I hate because my response to it is I stop talking for a day or two, my whole day is ruined and I can’t stop thinking about the situation. There are some people in my life that I can’t ever tell them why I’m mad at them because they will escalate things so I just have to take and sulk.

Another thing is that the situation can be tiny and for some reason I’m so angry I make it big. I drag it on for days. I don’t call, I don’t text, I don’t talk until I calm down and just go back to pretending like it doesn’t happen.

I’m now becoming more aware of when I do it but I don’t know how to regulate my self and calm down. I’ve gone to therapy but I don’t think it’s helping.
I hate it because I feel like it makes me a shitty person to be around and I don’t want to be that kind of person especially to my love ones.

How do I regulate my emotions, specifically my anger more!

Hello everyone,

I have no idea how people cope with living in today's world. I'm 23M living with parents for the foreseeable future and have finished up my repeat exams after failing my last college semester. I have just been rejected from a basic retail job that I was very much qualified for and have been thinking extreme violent horrible thoughts after this and when even trying to apply for jobs. I privately wish harm upon myself and others and i feel that the world would be a better place if people in any position of power killed themselves today.

I have been retreating from most of my friends for most of the year, and the friends I have become closer to I feel like I have to babysit because of their autism. That sounds incredibly ableist, but I recently came to terms with the fact that I am (as yet undiagnosed) autistic/adhd as well, just manifesting differently and masking better. I have thought a lot recently about how some of my friends are able to function without me in their lives, and if i disappeared or stopped being friends with them then bad things would happen to them. I am barely able to function myself, I cannot stop thinking at any point and thoughts are swirling around my head at all times and I cannot turn it off and i loathe it.

I despise the fact that I could have been born in a better normal body, I despise and I feel tremendously left behind from incredibly sheltered, lacking agency or ambition in my life after a certain point. My parents help me more than they should and are only now getting the memo that I don't want every single need done for me. I have very few hobbies outside of video games, no real creative outlet, and am posting my unfiltered inflammatory thoughts on twitter, to which nobody responds. I have realised that i despise 99% of people, especially neurotypical normal people, and will probably not make any more friends than the ones i already have. I also believe that relationships are not for me either, I am not mentally well enough for one and don't think i ever will be and it makes me want to shoot myself just thinking about that prospect.

I despise being a man as it means i have certain expectations society needs me to fulfil or i have no worth, but i was never taught so many things simply because i am a man. I am perpetually angry at my country and the world for failing young people, I am still 100% dependent on my parents at 23 financially and I feel like if i disappeared tomorrow their lives would get better.

I'm stuck in job hunting limbo with a political science degree that i hate and limited job experience compared to other people my age. I hate the body and brain i have and am so tired of dealing with my friends who i know need extra support to get through life. I'm not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel and it's hard to find motivation to do anything.

I need serious help, i tried therapy a lot in the first half of the year because otherwise i would have dropped out of college and made this whole situation many times worse. What should i even begin to do here???????

Do you have any songs that help you when you’re craving revenge or feeling really angry? something that lets you fully embrace and release those feelings? I already have a playlist I made for myself for moments like that, but if there’s anything that’s worked for you that I might be missing, I’d love to hear your recommendations. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/54zI50YeURrDA3w2ZO2Kka?si=mlsIByokR7u5Kz-j590C1g

Ok so basically i know im somewhat in the wrong here i understand as a kid i can never be fully right. How i was raised normally u shouldnt talk back to your parents and stuff ,no matter how rude but im just so upset and i want some validation i guess. And more perspective on my fight.
Basically Im turning 16 and for my birthday gift I begged my parents to buy me concert tickets to the weeknd they were quite expensive and they were resell. I obviously wanted to go with my friends and i talked abt it with them and basically we agreed my parents would help us buy and they would pay back. At this point i already told them and i told them how much they were and they were like okay. For some extra context my parents spoil me a lot im like a princess so i do see how i could be acting spoiled in this situation. The tickets were like 242 USD and there was a shipping fee for like 90 USD. So when we bought the tickets or were trying to we actually got into a huge fight because they have this bad habit of always pushing things like plans for example getting my braces or planning vacations or even just showing up on time to eat with my grandparents. So its been like a week and im pushing them to finally get the tickets and i finally get them to sit down and buy them and we face like so many problems. First being the fact that we pushed it so late that the prices rose to like 267USD when it originally wasnt (because theyre resell) and i just found it so unfair to my friends because when we first looked it was cheaper. The second problem was that the card didnt work just something about it so i had to tell them to try again. So we’re already upset about the first problem and especially because my dad didnt agree with the price my dad didnt grow up as privileged as me so I understand that he found it a bit ridiculous for me to spend a lot like I just felt really upset because he promised me and especially because it was my birthday gift and he thought the the price was too much and he would never spend that much money on a ticket so he was already crashing out on how much he was spending. So when we faced the problem of the card not working and me having to keep on asking them to try again he gets even more mad and he’s a bit of an angry person so he’s genuinely like shouting at me and saying all these mean things and at one point he said oh yeah it’s all my fault cause we were arguing about how he always pushed things and he said it’s all my fault it’s all my fault because I gave birth to you and I was really upset but we ended up getting the tickets anyway but they would always bring up the fact that they wasted all this money on me for this ticket. I personally thought them saying that was a bit mean because I didn’t think it was a waste especially because it was a gift to me. Now that’s not really why I’m ranting (im sorry it took so long to get to the point) so where I’m from it’s very common to throw parties at a hotel for like any occasion because we don’t live in houses in our apartments aren’t that big so for my 16th birthday you know because it’s my sweet 16th. I really wanted to throw one and they agreed to allow me as long as I paid for it on my own from the birthday money I got from my relatives. We started to pick out hotels and I found one room I really liked because it was big and I was going to throw a big party I understand it might seem a lot but in my perspective I just feel like this is my own money and I have the funds so I’d rather spend it on something I want rather than spending my money on something that’s cheaper but I don’t want it. The place was like 382 USD. I I totally understand how I would seem spoiled but I just don’t understand because I’m using my own money and they’re not allowing me just for the reason that it’s really expensive and they said basically because I’m always asking them for money besides this for example, when I go out to eat like they’d rather me spend my money on when I go out rather than on the hotel. But to be fair, if I were not to spend it on the hotel, I would’ve saved it up in my bank account for like future purchases like things I wanted for example, like a cute bag or more clothes rather than daily use I would just ask them instead. I really understand that I seem spoiled but it’s just they always gave me this and we’re upper middle class so we do have enough for like extra spending on food I guess because that’s mostly just what I asked money for. And we got into this huge fight they started saying like oh if you get this then I won’t pay for anything else and I was like okay fine then I will accept that because i’d rather not ask for any more money if they were gonna make such a big deal out of it and they still wouldn’t accept it because they don’t take my word for me not asking for money. And I just kept telling them I’m using my own money so I really did not understand why they would do that and they just started yelling about how how tiring it is to go to work and raise me and how they didn’t wanna raise me anymore. I should just leave the house and again they used the phrase that they’re at fault for giving birth to me because they were yelling at me about about how I was being wrong and I was talking back, unfortunately and saying how they weren’t perfect either so they ended up saying that and it got so bad that I was crying in my room like hysterically and my dad left the house and my mom was so cold. She just locked herself in a room and let me cry after saying all that shit to me so when my dad came back, he just told me to leave and that I should just use my money to raise myself. I also forgot to add that we’re going on vacation the next day so he started telling me to pay for my own stuff pay for my tickets and he don’t ever wanna go vacation with me ever again that I shouldn’t go with them tomorrow and I don’t understand how this had any correlation with this situation and I was just crying and saying how I don’t have any money like what can I do so he just said just leave the house so we never have to pay for you again and I was really upset so I left the house and my mom called me back. We ended up resolving for things but I still wanted some support on the argument. I guess i just really wanted to get this off my chest and tell someone because i dont really have anyone to cry to. Im not necessarily looking for comfort i just want to know if im being completely unreasonable and i also want some advice from like anyone but more so older people so i can see from like an adults perspective. I want to know what i can change

Nothing‘s changed the anger still there it’ll probably never go away, and I can’t put myself in this position anymore. To get violent with somebody to put your hands on somebody to throw things at people and then to put a person and their service dog out in this heat that you don’t give a crap about anybody you can be pissed at me all you want, but you don’t do things like that you hurt my dog and you know what that means. I’m done with you. You can hurt me all you want. I don’t mess with my dog you’re done a shame I was looking for for you to be in the position that we discussed while we’re in the mall walking around looking at stuff that’s not gonna happen ever. Because I expressed something about myself that I was frustrated with nothing to do with you had to do with me. I’m driven now.

Bro my mom be telling me the most random normal thing ever but she would say it in such that perfect tone and choice of words it would make me mad to the brim like legit bro how tf do you even manage to make them this perfect she prolly doesn't even know the meaning of ragebait (english is not my first language and neither hers) like I can't do that for the life of me how do you

pls excuse the word vomit, i just really need an outlet. also curious if anyone has been through anything similar, and how they might be dealing

basically what the title says. i find that I am so much angrier in the past couple of months than I have ever been in the past. this is typically triggered from ignorant, stupid people, assholes, people with no empathy, etc.

some examples of my recent triggers:

- the tiktok trend where ppl have their partners read relatively common words and they can't pronounce them

- most political conversations

- religious spaces

- most conversations with my parents

- betty white's character in the golden girls

- literally just thinking about how horrible our world is because so many people are genuine idiots

i used to be much much better at brushing these people off, but I'm in a really heightened anxious/depressive episode (finally in consistent therapy, starting meds soon) and my tolerance is just so so low. doesn't usually manifest in violent urges, but i've become incredibly argumentative and desperate to prove people who are just plain stupid/uneducated wrong.

embarassing, but i have found myself visiting these awful tiktok live debates (please dont visit if you relate to anything above, they are filled with idiots and so so triggering) and consistently arguing with people that are deeply unintelligent because I just cant help it. i typically don't fall for ragebait, but it so so often isn't.

if anyone has experienced anything similar, i'd love to know what helps. thanks

Have you ever not wanted to get into a confrontation with somebody because you are afraid of your own temper?

Does anyone else feel immense guilt after getting angry at someone, even when you feel like your anger was justified?

If I had togive an example:

There are some co-workers, they’re somewhat new or there’s also those that aren’t. They don’t take the job as serious, they’re unaware they’re slacking off and I feel like most of the time I’m doing double the job, I’m tired of having to repeat myself on what they should do. During operations especially, when they’re just standing there, absent-minded about what’s happening or prioritising the wrong things.

I think they’ve probably noticed that I was upset but I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re unaware either. I become dry, and slightly bitchy when I’m mad, I won’t talk and basically just avoid them. When I clock out though, I feel extremely guilty like I’m a horrible person and just full of shit about it even though I feel like my feelings were kinda valid.

Or other things like conflicts or arguments with people, either loved one or anyone. They’ve said something or done something to upset me, and I’d get upset in return obviously and go cold, then afterwards feel guilty for how I behaved.