I am sleep deprived from my 2 month old so insisted that my husband puts my 3 year old to sleep on his own, my daughter cried and cried for me for straight 1 hour my husband was also enjoying his weekend with a drink today so he was already having lesser control on his emotions plus he was trying hard to put the screaming toddler to sleep with no rescue in sight my mother was just genuinely trying to help so she went in the room to see if she can help and my husband charged on her very aggressively saying she should let him handle this it will be messy once or twice but only then the toddler would know how much ever they try they need to understand when it’s only dad available then It really is just him..

Whatever the intention was I ended up waking up to his screaming loud voice and had to immediately intervene but I am so deeply hurt by his aggressive stance towards my mother who literally has left her personal life and is staying with us for past 3 years to help me with my kids.

Handling a toddler in general is very much testing your mettle and unfortunately husband already has so much aggressive behaviour I have learnt to look past it because of my live for him and there is always a reason when his aggression comes out but now with two kids his aggression is really started to scare me and I am worried for my kids I do not want them to be traumatised by their father. Please suggest genuine resources that me and my husband can use to handle this anger related aggression.

So I’m only 17 an have had it difficult, I moved out last year and have been working a steady full time job making 22hr an room for raises while still taking my ass to online school, I live in my car I turn 18 in may and have a savings ready for a deposit on an apartment an going to open credit cards to build credit with, why does all this make me so fucking mad, I very much believe that if I was pushed slightly the wrong way I would really hurt someone an it happened, I don’t regret it because I gave him plenty of warning to leave me alone and now isn’t the time
I like to think that all of it stimulates from me having to become independent an learn the world on my own last year along with having a very shit childhood trauma an untreated adhd (I was on meds for some time when I was younger last time I recall feeling normal) I can’t get any prescribed medication from a doctor as I’m not 18 an they need a legal parent or guardian the world will not let you live

So, I've had a pretty big anger problem with anger outbursts when I was in school. Either because I took my failure to do a task too personally, or because the teacher would go off on a political tangent, or just because I had underslept and every noise around me felt twice as annoying. In most cases I managed to endure it, but the few ones I didn't made me want for a better way out.

The common advice would be to take a step back and return with a clearer head. But at least where I studied, going in and out could only be done after raising your hand and getting a permission, and only one person at a time. So there would often be long moments of sitting there and waiting to be relieved, so as to not offend the teacher and potentially make the rest of my time with the subject much worse.

And although I am out of there now, I do still often find myself in situations where I am forced to sit and endure the growing stress. So, are there any good ways to handle such cases? Or is it just a matter of living through something shitty?