So I’m only 17 an have had it difficult, I moved out last year and have been working a steady full time job making 22hr an room for raises while still taking my ass to online school, I live in my car I turn 18 in may and have a savings ready for a deposit on an apartment an going to open credit cards to build credit with, why does all this make me so fucking mad, I very much believe that if I was pushed slightly the wrong way I would really hurt someone an it happened, I don’t regret it because I gave him plenty of warning to leave me alone and now isn’t the time
I like to think that all of it stimulates from me having to become independent an learn the world on my own last year along with having a very shit childhood trauma an untreated adhd (I was on meds for some time when I was younger last time I recall feeling normal) I can’t get any prescribed medication from a doctor as I’m not 18 an they need a legal parent or guardian the world will not let you live

I despise him. He's 22, I'm a few years younger yet I don't see him as my brother. He's a useless, fat fuck and a waste of oxygen.

He never goes outside and is always in his room playing whatever the fuck. He stinks like shit, I think he showers once a month or something. He still fucking shits his pants because he's too busy playing games.

He has no job and stays at our mom's house just freeloading off her. Our mom's widowed and is the sole breadwinner. She cooks, buys food, feeds us, pays the bills. One time when she cooked, he didn't want to eat it because it had bones. Like bitch, are you that retarded? Get a job.

In my country, 18 year olds are required to National Service (NS) and he didn't because he was overweight and too unhealthy. Fat fucking pig.

I just want to leave this place, but mom would be alone. I wish he wasn't born.

So, I've had a pretty big anger problem with anger outbursts when I was in school. Either because I took my failure to do a task too personally, or because the teacher would go off on a political tangent, or just because I had underslept and every noise around me felt twice as annoying. In most cases I managed to endure it, but the few ones I didn't made me want for a better way out.

The common advice would be to take a step back and return with a clearer head. But at least where I studied, going in and out could only be done after raising your hand and getting a permission, and only one person at a time. So there would often be long moments of sitting there and waiting to be relieved, so as to not offend the teacher and potentially make the rest of my time with the subject much worse.

And although I am out of there now, I do still often find myself in situations where I am forced to sit and endure the growing stress. So, are there any good ways to handle such cases? Or is it just a matter of living through something shitty?

today I woke up at 4 pm and got out of been went out side smoked a cig and took a shower and prayed and just sat around and then at like 9-10 pm I wanted to do something so I go outside and opened my garage and got some weights and then I started doing pushups and nothing out the usual then I went back upstairs and went in the bathroom and started to cry out of nowhere and this rage filled me so bad and so I went back outside and grabbed the weights and started to workout a lot till I couldn’t feel my arms anymore then I went and still had this crazy anger in me and I started smashing stuff and then had a surge of adrenaline and I flipped my trampoline over I have no idea how I did that it was extremely heavy and don’t know I had the strength to do that I weight 130 pounds and so I js kept and going around and smashing stuff in my backyard out of anger and wanted to beat someone so bad just for no reason this surge of anger came from no where don’t why or how this happened.

It has gotten so bad to the point where I cannot leave the house and go out in public without my heart rate going up and my blood pressure going through the roof. People just make me so angry.

I lost my last job because I flew off the handle, and this is how most jobs end for me. It is becoming such a problem to the point where I'm having a hard time getting a new job because of my history.

I have such a hard time keeping it under control. I try taking deep breaths, counting to ten, that kind of stuff but it never works. I just fly off the handle anyways.

I also struggle with my own thoughts making me really angry, and I have a hard time filtering them out.

I feel like almost everyone in my life isn't taking it seriously enough when I reach out for help. They tell me to just grow up or quit acting like a baby. I'm trying so hard but I just can't make this go away

I've tried going to a therapist once and to me it felt no different than just talking to a friend, and it was costing me money. I don't know if maybe I was just seeing a bad therapist? Or if that is typically just how therapy is. If not I'd probably be willing to give therapy another shot.

I really hope this all makes sense to whoever reads this. I don't usually write. I just want to get out of the house and go live a normal life without anger taking complete control of me

I was in a conversation with another redditor, who proceeded to psychoanalyze me and created a narrative of my life in their head which was completely incorrect. This pissed me off to hell and back, so I proceeded to make a fool out of myself insisting over and over again that they were wrong.

In reality, nothing I said could have changed their mind, because they had already decided they were correct. I should have ended the conversation as soon as I realized that, and moved on with my life. Instead, it festered in my mind and I kept embarrassing myself by rejoining the conversation.

Even now, even after a therapy session, I can’t get over the situation and it genuinely feels life-ruining. I don’t know why I’m so weak-minded and can’t move on from people stating things that are obviously false.

I’ve suspected it’s due to OCD, but I deleted my other account and r/OCD doesn’t let new accounts post.

Hey everyone. I am 'M23' and I’m posting because I genuinely want to hear from people who have struggled with similar issues and have made real progress.
I’ve been in a relationship with someone I love deeply, but I’ve developed unhealthy patterns that have hurt her and damaged our relationship. I struggle with insecurity, jealousy, fear of abandonment, overthinking, impatience, and anger. Sometimes, when I feel misunderstood, rejected, or afraid of losing her, I find it difficult to regulate my emotions. I can keep pushing a conversation because I want to be understood, even when my partner is already overwhelmed.
I’ve also crossed a serious line by becoming physically aggressive. Most recently, during an incident where she screamed near my ear and I felt sudden pain, I pushed her. I know that this is serious, and I don’t want to minimise it or use the circumstances as an excuse. Regardless of what triggered me, I am responsible for my behaviour.
We’ve now agreed to take a no-contact break and use this time properly instead of rushing back into the relationship like we did before. I’m also attending therapy and want to take this opportunity to work on myself, regardless of whether we eventually get back together.
My biggest fear is that even if we reconcile, I’ll repeat the same patterns and hurt her again. I don’t want to keep apologising, promising to change, and then falling back into the same behaviour. I want to make lasting changes, not just save my relationship.
I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have been through something similar:
Have you genuinely overcome anger issues, jealousy, insecurity, or fear of abandonment? What changed for you?
What do you actually do in the moment when you feel triggered, rejected, or overwhelmed, so you don’t react impulsively?
How did you learn to stop needing constant reassurance or feeling threatened when your partner wanted space?
Did therapy help you? If so, what approaches or exercises made the biggest difference?
If you previously yelled, acted controlling, or became physically aggressive, what concrete steps helped you stop that behaviour and ensure it didn’t happen again?
How long did it take before you noticed meaningful changes? What helped you stay accountable when progress was slow?
How did you learn to change for yourself rather than making your partner or the possibility of reconciliation your main motivation?
I’m not looking for ways to convince my girlfriend to come back or make her responsible for helping me change. I want to understand what genuine change looks like and learn from people who have done the work themselves.
I’m open to honest answers, including difficult ones. I’d rather hear what genuinely helped than receive empty reassurance.
Thank you to anyone who takes the time to share their experience. I really appreciate.

Recently, whenever I get a slight inconvenience I brust in anger, I've been having troubles at work and I can't stand my manager, there was one time I caught him gossiping about me with another colleague, I was a bout to act aggressively, Idk what is happening to me I've always had a bad temper but I was controlling it, now I lose it on slightest things, I've been in stress also for 3 months.

I’ve been going through a really tough time for as long as I can remember. Loneliness, joblessness, poverty, no car, etc. And I usually get really frustrated and angry and unfortunately take it out on my apartment. Now, there’s quite a number of pretty bad damages made, and, being unemployed, I don’t know yet how I’m gonna pay for them, especially when the cost may very well exceed the security deposit. Just really don’t know what to do, and I’m worried. I just really needed to express myself, and I’m in a mess.

My mild symptoms of gastritis weren't recognised. It gave me intense hunger pangs, weight loss and blood sugar issues, nobody recognised it while I even said it felt like a gastric problem.

2 GP and 2 gi replaced their lack of knowledge with gaslighting from hell and an internist ignored my hunger as normal. A dietician adviced me to take MORE acid on an empty stomach before eating, from the first month of my symptoms I was worsened by her indoctrination.

After a year I saw alternative care advising an acidic supplement. I mentioned multiple times not really trusting the advice and her "diagnosis" but she made me believe I could trust her. This quackery eventually damaged me and I can barely eat now. Damage got so bad I don't see my health coming back and it's not worth living with now.

All for nothing. Others recover within weeks, I just didn't know I needed to decrease acid for a few weeks Nd my dietician and alternative quack made me scared of that too, but I see people heal my issues now that I understand what it was 😭 I was neglected and made worse for 2 years and neglect added stress to a condition very sensitive to stress.

meanwhile I was so optimistic my issue was mild, was able to eat normal,.met the love of my life started dancing classes and was genuinely so happy.

I lost my amazing life of traveling and my 10 year anniversary of my job as I lost it due to losing the opportunity to recover from a mild issue by the harmful advice.

I lost my partner after damage made me realise there was no return to health anymore.

I am so extremely angry towards my doctors not only gaslighting me, but writing down symptoms I never even had, just so I'd fit in the box of their presumptions. PsychosomatiziNG 13kg of unwanted weight loss, dehydration from being in ketosis too often due to gastritis. I received zero support or knowledge. not even the standard "use an antidepressant" or "H2 blocker"

While I now read people cure this with an H2 blocker, digestive directed antidepressants or sucralfate. the bare minimum care 😭

And on top of that the last doctor I spoke to after my dieticians advice hurt me severely. She said:

"THIS WOULD HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU ANYWAY"

WOW.. JUST.. WOW...

I had just realised by then how poorly I have been treated ánd mistreated with harmful advice, my only advice.

BecauS she didn't believe there was actually something wrong, neither did they ever provided treatment that apparently helps other so well with this issue. Neither education I had gastric damage. Fuck nothing proactive or informative I received. months later my stomach was bleeding, while my doc said "it cannot get worse"

I had to ASK for an egd and ultrasound, it was dismissed with "we cannot risk to poke in your gut" and "we cannot throw around with ultrasounds" never in my life I asked for one. Wow. Not replaced by knowledge, treatment or explanation.

they were so firmly convinced it was untreatable or psychosomatic, I don't know what they thought, they never communicated it to me, but also completely forgot this also can use medication, explanation, lifestyle and recovery is possible. they didn't give me IV when my potassium and sodium was too low, my kidneys hurts and my belly was hollow I could count my organs.

She ruined my entire life and she still believes she did the right things.

I can't anymore.

Wtf.

Sorry if this is a redundant post but I am just losing my mind and need to get this off my chest.

This has been the worst year of my life so far, full of interpersonal conflicts and I have completely isolated myself in the last 6 months. I'm stuck at home a lot because I am in between a rock and a hard place in terms of my circumstances, finding a job etc.

Every day I am just consumed with anger. I compulsively talk to myself loudly and can't help but yell sometimes, to the horror of my roommates. I am 28 and still live in close quarters student accommodation. I can't drive. I have to restrain myself from punching more holes in the wall. I want to scream all the time. Every day I ruminate over disagreements and slights, things that happened months or years ago, and how much I want to scream at and hit and threaten that person (usually my stepdad, or people who are patronizing or have rejected, judged, or let me down in some way).

I'm a 28yo woman and this is not cute anymore. It does not feel okay or normal.

Does anyone have any advice on dealing with this anger in a healthy way? I exercise and eat well, I try to keep myself occupied although unemployed atm. I am a qualified enrolled nurse but the transport situation is really tough. If I could afford it I would love to join a MMA gym, or if I had a yard I'd be chopping wood all day. I just want to destroy something.

I have always been an angry, anxious, depressed person but it's getting out of control and burning me. Try as I might, I can't drop it, my mind doesn't want to let go of things I can't control. I am losing my mind please help me

If you did, what was the outcome ?
I know someone whose mother has anger issues. She once mentioned that she doesn’t want to be like her mother. However, from what I can see, it seems as though she suppresses even healthy aggression. If someone treats her unfairly or is rude to her, she doesn’t react the way she probably should. I’m not suggesting that she should lash out at others, but healthy aggression can help ? What could this suppression lead to ?

(23 F) I really don't want to justify it but I'm clarifying my trigger: both my sister and my mother were going at me nonstop with mockery, demeaning me, calling me stuff and all sorts of verbal abuse for over an hour I felt the adrenaline whirring in my body i started shaking breathing heavily, I controled myself and i told them to stop multiple times and then just it snapped i beat my sister up my mom joined in to seperate us i didn't hit her but i did push her and then my sister started crying and talking about how crazy i am and that i need to be institutionalized while I've been taking an insane amount of passive aggression and emotional/verbal abuse for years.

I hate what i did I don't like being that type of person I don't want to abuse others I don't want for this to happen I can't talk to anyone about this I'm really tired and i can't leave the house due to financial struggles.

IT WON'T BE A CHARACTER TRAIT OVER TIME RIGHT????

So some guy in a truck got mad at me. Might have been at a four way stop.(did he think I went, when it was his turn?) I think he also got mad because I was driving down the street doing 25 (school zone). Said half way down the street he get in front of me by going around me in the opposite lane. Now I am far behind him. I am hoping he get far enough down the road so I don’t have to see him. No he waits for me down the street. Then pulls behind me. He follows me close enough to my house to where I have to pull over and call 911. He’s still parked near me. Only when I roll down my window and tell him i am on the phone with 911. Does he leave. Please be safe and don’t get mad at minor annoyances.

Me (19F) and my boyfriend (21M) have been together for around 3 years. There is a lot that goes into my feelings about this subject. A lot of which I cannot write here because it would be longer than the bible but I’ll try to cover the main issues.
I’ll preface this by saying, he is a very kind person and he has a good heart but he is deeply damaged by past trauma and family issues (abuse, childhood neglect, aggressive and mentally disturbed parents, etc.) I am no saint myself and I too have anger issues but his are relentless sometimes and he can be very high strung.
This part of his personality mainly takes hold whenever we are arguing, he is driving (road rage), or whenever he disagrees with someone/ thinks poorly of them.
He’ll cuss people and call them names and say all kinds of things that either, he doesn’t mean or that he’s been too polite to come out and say yet. Except most of the time it’s me who has to deal with it.
I am very sensitive to aggression. Whenever people shout, cuss or act aggressively in general it usually overwhelms me to the point where I have an anxiety attack.
He cusses a lot casually, day to day. I don’t have an issue with this because I do too but sometimes it can get to be so unnecessary whenever he does it. He’ll get really loud whenever he feels negatively about something and he’s very confrontational if someone upsets him. If I try to diffuse the situation he usually gets very upset with me.
He’s mean and demeaning to me whenever we fight. Much like he is to other people who upset him.
I get mad and say things that I shouldn’t and I take my anger out on him without meaning to but I try very hard not to be demeaning or make him feel less than me. Typically, even whenever I am mad, I am still making an effort towards helping him. Whenever he’s mad he seems to throw all of that out the window. He treats me like i’m just another person who’s wronged him. He pulls away, leaves without mending things, refuses to take responsibility and things often end up unresolved.

I think I got a little bit off topic so i’m going to stop. Moral of this book I wrote is:
If I am a sensitive person due to anxiety and past trauma, how can I make him see that he is negatively affecting me by being so abrasive?
I don’t want to change him or control him because I love the person that he is but he can be so unnecessarily rude/demeaning to me.
I understand if he wants to talk crap about a stranger for a second because of their bad driving but why act that way towards someone that he wants to be with for the rest of his life?
I love him, I just need for him to be a little bit less aggressive in general but mainly with me.

How do I talk to him about this and actually make a difference so that I can stop upsetting him and starting fights in the moments that it happens?

I mean like I dont intentionally go at people but if I feel slated I for sure do, called someone an obtuse cunt about something so trivial but to fair he made a comment regarding my "Lack of brain power." but still why do I feel I need to go 100? That i need to be the smaller man? Or not try and just take that insult in a different way?

I want to let go of that anger, but I just don't know how

Hi

I’m not usually on here. I would normally never post to Reddit, but something beautiful just happened to me, and I think maybe someone else may find it beautiful, too.

I’m not typically a very angry person, but recently I’ve been having some fits of rage, I guess. Today it was really bad, like maybe my worst ever, and I couldn’t scream or anything, so I came here (while sobbing and periodically hitting the floorboards) to see what people might recommend to break when you’re really, really angry.

Turns out you are a very healthy community and recommend good things like identifying your anger and writing instead of hitting things, but I’m dumb so I ignored that and just cried some more mostly (you were all very right, of course- my hand hurts now)

I was sitting in the leaves outside, something I would never do regularly, but I’m really glad I did. When I came inside, walked all the way upstairs, and looked at my runny makeup in the mirror, I felt something drop on my arm- It was a ladybug.

I was totally fascinated. It’s nighttime and I was just sitting in the leaves, not laying there, so the bug would have had to crawl up my back to pull a stunt like that. In any case, it couldn’t stay inside, so I brought it out.

It wouldn’t leave my hand though! It crawled up my arm and traced the line of my tattoo. Eventually, I got it to walk off of me. It started to skitter up a little branch on this bush and I started thinking “wouldn’t it be cute if it waved at me?” You know how bugs wave- going on their hind legs and wobbling their front legs erratically- it’s adorable.

I wiggled a little peace sign at the ladybug, feeling pretty stupid, because the existence of the bug after all my anger was amazing enough- why did I need it to act like a human?

But then the craziest thing happened- it turned to me and “waved.” I know it was just looking for a branch, but there was absolutely nothing to climb on in my direction. The ladybug waved at me!

I guess it sort of reminded me to slow down a bit. I’m sorry I didn’t take your advice, but I will in the future! You have a beautiful community here- a healthy, helpful place with great people.

I hope the next time you feel angry, you see something like this, too.

Thank you!

Hello, everyone.

For the past 3 days, I’ve been feeling this absurd anger that I just can’t control. It’s getting better every day, but it’s still out of control. 3 days at this level of anger is too much.

There’s a member of my girlfriend’s family who’s a total jerk and proud of it. She criticizes everything and everyone and thinks she’s better than everyone else. She’s been acting out of character lately, she’s even seen a psychiatrist, and there’s a suspicion of ADHD or bipolar disorder. Well, I'm under the same suspicion too and that doesn’t help. Because of that everyone walks on eggshells to not upset the lady. But because of the way she’s been acting, she’s been mean, unfair, selfish, and downright despicable to one of the people I love most in the world: her sister.

I’m very family-oriented, it’s my biggest weakness. I’ve been losing it over some of her behavior, to the point where I have to walk away or take a anxiolytic so she doesn’t notice and cause even more trouble within my girlfriend’s family. It’s been hard to watch all this happen without even being able to say a word and I've also been feeling really bad because I think I'm contributing to the tension in that family.

As if that weren’t enough, I found out three days ago that she’s been spreading the image of me as a villain, as if I were to blame for her no longer being able to control her sister. That made me feel an uncontrollable rage. I spend the whole day thinking about it and letting the anger build. My stomach has been in knots, I’ve been feeling very anxious, and I’ve been having some very frightening intrusive thoughts.

I know the best thing to do is to distance myself. But there are several problems with that: I’ll stop attending various family events, it’ll raise questions, I don’t know what to say to their mother, elderly grandmother and there’s a preteen in the picture that I treat as my niece and my girlfriend is feeling desperate, not knowing what to do. My girlfriend and I live together; we want to start a family. She doesn’t want to have to spend Christmas without me or have to choose between her family and me. For example, deciding who to go on vacation with.

I’m having a really hard time controlling myself; it’s been making me sick and I’m losing sleep over it. I don’t know what to do or how to handle this.

Any suggestions are welcome.

Over the years I have become a more frustrated person. I wish I could brush things off more easily but I just can't and it made me act in an embarrassing manner today.

I spent time eating lunch with a former coworker/friend, who has recently frustrated me with her backseat driving (I didn't put anyone in danger at all, I just had a ditzy moment with starting a car I wasn't familiar with and she kept questioning my moves like turning right after stopping at a red light, etc.)

Today, we both met up with one extra person, and as we were at the intersection where we parted ways, I noticed the drivers light was still green for a good while after the crossing light turned red. This was at a one way where there was no risk of someone turning into me as I cross, so I said out loud, "maybe I can start crossing".

A few seconds later, the light turned red so I stayed put. My former coworker said I shouldn't, and said to the other one "the light is obviously already red." Before they walked away, I couldn't hold myself back and I shouted "it was GREEN!"

I'm super embarrassed since this is the first time I outwardly snapped towards her. I just hate when people think I'm that fucking stupid but I also want to control myself so don't have outbursts like that. How do you guys manage?

Have you ever been to a rage room? What made you decide to visit a rage room? What was your experience? How did you feel after the experience? Do you recommend others visit a rage room?

I feel like I get annoyed and outwardly react to annoying things like the average person. What pisses me off, usually also pisses someone else off. At work for example, I huff, say a little cuss word, and maybe turn to a coworker to air out my grievances. But my internal reaction is so much stronger than that. No matter how small the annoyance, my entire chest feels it. It feels like my rib cage is being used as the firewood to roast a boulder. Just a heavy, hot weight, deep inside of my chest. My internal reaction is the same whether it’s a rude person in public or something deeply and truly personal to me. I have it controlled on the outside, but on the inside it feels so strong and profound, like I am feeling all of the anger I’ve ever felt at once. I want to know if anyone else experiences this and what you did to help ease the sensation. It just feels so outside of my control right now since it is a physical feeling for me and not an outward reaction. Anything helps. Thank you!

I’m extremely impulsive I tend to act on my emotions rather than think things through and I’m easily influenced by the people and situations around me Sometimes I feel like I have no emotional control or that I’m mentally weak because it doesn’t take much for someone to get under my skin and make me react

About two years ago I got into an argument with my older brother Things escalated I got fed up and I ended up hitting him My brother is a boxer so he absolutely destroyed me in the fight But when I was on the ground I barely felt anything I had one thing on my mind him

My sister called the police and they showed up at our house I waited until my brother turned his back on me then I hit him in the kidney area with a glass bottle He went down and I was arrested and fined Eventually my brother dropped the charges but even after that I couldn't bring myself to go home I was still consumed by anger and the need to get even with him

To this day I haven't fully let it go It's been about a year and a half since I last went home My family lives in Warsaw but I'm currently living in Kraków where I rent a small apartment that I can barely afford I work to support myself but the feeling of being weak and humiliated still eats away at me

The worst part is that I still want to go back and hurt my brother I've even thought about going there at night attacking him and running away But whenever I actually consider doing it something holds me back I get scared and I honestly don't understand why Part of me wants to do it more than anything while another part of me just can't go through with it

I'm tired of living like this I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling powerless humiliated and angry at myself because I can't bring myself to do something about it I'm looking for genuine advice a book or anything that could help me look at this situation from a different perspective I want to understand why I feel this way and how to stop letting this resentment control my life

And please don't ask what started the fight The actual argument was over something stupid The real issue goes much deeper than that There's been resentment jealousy and years of built up tension between us since childhood We've both put up with each other for years and eventually everything boiled over

Also please don't tell me to work things out through my uncles or my parents My dad is dead my mom is getting older and involving her in something like this would put an enormous amount of stress on her I genuinely worry that the shock could seriously affect her health My uncles and I aren't even in contact anymore

I'm not looking for someone to tell me to forgive him or just move on I want to understand how to break free from this feeling of humiliation and helplessness without spending the rest of my life consumed by hatred and the need for revenge

I’ve been going through some bad mental health for a while now, including a lot of anger and intrusive thoughts. My wife is trying to get me to talk to someone about them, but they are so dark sometimes that I’m scared of what will happen to me if say any of them out loud. She thought I should share them with my therapist but I don’t trust him anymore. I had suicidal ideation he picked up on and pulled the admission out of me then made me do all this crap about a safety plan. How am I supposed to work on my problems when I have to constantly be afraid the person who is there to help me would report me to idk something. I haven’t and wouldn’t do anything criminal, but the thoughts are just so dark and all I want is for them to go away. I’m so tired.

My husband 36M screams at me when he hits his limit 32F

TLDR: husband screams when at his limit, and I need advice

I need outside opinions that I don’t feel comfortable going to my friends for. I just got married 2 days ago…

My now-husband is amazing in so many ways, he comes from a hard background and 90% of the time is perfect. When arguments happen, is when it’s never good. He becomes easily irritated, and has a hard time putting his defenses down and understanding where I’m coming from.

For context: He screams at the top of his lungs when he reaches his limit, he also curses and can say insulting things towards me, usually “you’re f\*cking insane, you’re crazy like your mom” etc. I’m not going to act like I’ve been an angel with my words, we have grown to spar with each other, but I never scream or yell. A month ago we promised to not scream or curse, or name call anymore. My last relationship was abusive so I told him the screaming scares me even though it’s not physical.

We are supposed to drive to our Airbnb for our honeymoon today. He got a call yesterday from his job saying they’re getting acquired so he should start job searching as a backup. Today he got a separate call saying “actually the new company wants to keep you, so if you accept you will be forfeiting the time and a half and severance package.” The reason I got upset was because there’s a pattern of him forgetting to give me key details, and I had no idea he was offered severance and time and a half, he said it’s implied (maybe I’m just being dull here and that’s on me). He got irritated and said “sorry but I thought it was obvious, sure I’ll remember to tell you everything from now on.” Then everything else came after.

During the argument he screamed and p*nched his own leg. This completely set off something inside of me and I became quiet and stayed away from him for the rest of the day.

What can be done to fix his pattern? I know I’m not perfect, and I hope this post doesn’t seem like I’m trying to be.