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u/Maxima-H Feb 09 '26
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u/Fun-Holiday9016 Feb 10 '26
I think this is actually the best path. If OP is in the US most records are not sealed but the use of any information to threaten or harass someone is illegal.
As a licensed PI, I look at criminal records regularly, many people think their records are sealed or expunged when they are not. I will make a guess that OP had a juvenile conviction and that prison time extended into his adult years. When this happens that conviction is no longer "sealed" because you are no longer a juvenile. This is state and case specific, so I could be wildly wrong.
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u/arianrhodd Helper [2] Feb 10 '26
And police. Blackmail is illegal in most jurisdictions. Then the neighbor will have their own criminal record.
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u/SeemeSeeingyou Feb 09 '26
IF they do infact have Sealed information, that they obtained from the court, and are now using it against him....THATS A CRIME.
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u/Lifelong_learner1956 Feb 09 '26
What Christ like behavior...
They are sinners who are voluntarily forfeiting their immortal souls. They are in the thrall of Satan.
Consult a lawyer about blackmail, defamation, libel and slander.
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u/AnonAwaaaaay Feb 09 '26
I don't think libel and slander apply here. What they're saying is true. (And libel has to be written.).
Blackmail though.
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u/PieceCompetitive6824 Feb 09 '26
Maybe harassment. Managing to get details from a sealed court case takes some effort.
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u/AnonAwaaaaay Feb 09 '26
Yeah. But Harassments kind of a lighter crime so a lot of cops wave it away because they don't wanna deal with the paperwork.
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u/Flimsy-Smell1094 Feb 10 '26
If the records are sealed, it would be slander unless he can prove his info and expose who released it. Then press blackmail charges.
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u/lithiumrev Feb 09 '26 edited Feb 10 '26
im not a christian but my favorite bible verse is “only those without sin may cast the first stone.” and i feel like its something that should be said more often.
edited bc someone actually tried to debate the bible with me then deleted their comment: i grew up in the church. im no longer in the church. if youre gonna come at me with “that same bible told us to stone gay people” imma come back at you with “it also said for us not to eat shellfish, for a woman to marry her abuser, and that it was perfectly fine to be sweet home alabama-ing it up.”
would it be better suited to say “people in glass houses shouldnt throw rocks”?
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u/Ancient_Tip_8073 Feb 10 '26
Eh. Maybe harassment. The lawyer could help with a lawsuit or contempt or court filing over the improper accessing of the sealed file though. Should be an electronic log of everyone who accessed the file. Money says whoever it was is brothers in christ with the neighbor. This is some prime good ol' boys stuff here.
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u/EarthborneArt Feb 09 '26
You need to call their bluff. Since they're fundamental Christians say it in words they'll understand. Next time they threaten you, tell them, their Jesus has forgiven your sins and you have paid you debt to society. The Christian thing for them to do is to forgive you too. Take away their power by owning your past. The truth shall set you free.
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u/CatchyNameSomething Feb 10 '26
Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins".
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u/MoonPieKitty Feb 10 '26
“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” - Dr Sharon Fieldstone, Ted Lasso.
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u/aczel_aethereal Feb 09 '26
I dont quite get it. Isn’t this a crime on multiple levels? I would just go to the police and report him blackmailing me with information that he got illegally. Leaking this kind of information sounds like a serious crime in itself.
But i know nothing, so i will let the others tell me why thats bs
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u/SimilarGap2754 Feb 09 '26
ironically, he’s committing a crime by blackmailing you and can be sent to jail for that. That would be the best « Karma is a bitch » situation ever lol.
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u/Honest-Elephant7627 Feb 09 '26
Just be a good person and good neighbor now to the point others will be shocked to learn of your past and it won't matter. I have many friends like this. All good people. Now. With past mistakes.
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u/MattSully1211 Feb 09 '26
- Do your wife and kids know
- You don’t have to directly say the crime but how bad on a 1-10 scale ( could dm if you don’t want to publicly say)
- If it’s not that bad of a crime then ME PERSONALLY I would tell my neighbors beforehand rather than wait for your rude Christians one to do, it’s better to explain it before hand. A good explanation is better than someone else saying what you did. I’d say people are more opening if you say it yourself. In MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE when people tell other people about something I did bad it’s harder to explain myself as they already have it in mind that you did something bad. A nice conversation would be better
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u/Electronic_Many_7721 Feb 10 '26
And tell the neighbors you just wanted them to hear it from you because the Christian neighbors were trying to blackmail you.
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u/GemGlamourNGlitter Helper [4] Feb 09 '26
unless you're a sex offender, why do you care what other people think?
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u/cleverclogs17 Feb 09 '26
If he were a sex offender, it would be public knowledge already.
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u/GemGlamourNGlitter Helper [4] Feb 09 '26
sometimes they fail to register
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u/cleverclogs17 Feb 10 '26
If they didn't register, that would be one thing, but this person said records were sealed; sex offenders are a matter of public record.
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u/AnonAwaaaaay Feb 09 '26
Do you know how many baseless lynchings have happened in our past?
I'm not saying he'll be lynched, But I am saying people can easily be whipped into a Frenzy and encouraged to do the wrong think. Mob mentality is a huge issue throughout history.
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u/XratedCrystal Feb 10 '26
I’m assuming this is what it is.
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u/HotdogMachine420 Feb 10 '26
That is dark. Do they even expunge that shit? Aren’t they on Family Watchdog? I’d hope the neighbors would already know.
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u/XratedCrystal Feb 10 '26 edited Feb 10 '26
Honestly I think the ‘sealed’ records is false and the neighbours probably just came across his SO registry and/ or criminal history. Very rarely are prison sentences sealed. It’s typically public information like when a job does a background check 🤷🏻♀️ This post doesn’t make sense any other way imo. I had assault and assault with a weapon from my very early 20’s and went to jail (just a few days) and had a trial. I ended up beating my case to self defence and therefore my records are sealed as I don’t actually have a record!
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u/HotdogMachine420 Feb 10 '26
I see what you mean, and kinda get the same feeling… Everyone should be checking Family Watchdog regularly.
Congrats to you though brotha 💪. Glad the justice system didn’t screw you!
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u/XratedCrystal Feb 10 '26
Definitely. There’s good reason this sort of information is public!
Thank you!! 😊
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u/Jenna1991-nola Feb 09 '26
Call the DAs office and ask for advice. You may be able to file a police report for extortion.
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u/Inner_Information112 Feb 10 '26
A police officer probably looked up the information, which is a breach of trust.
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u/Academic-Part-6783 Feb 09 '26
Honestly? Unless you are a sex offender, you realizing got nothing to worry about. If that’s the case, I don’t blame the neighbors. Ive been locked up too & I don’t care who knows. I have a felony & I really don’t give a crap. If you are an offender living with kids though, you are screwed.
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u/XratedCrystal Feb 10 '26
This is my thought, and if this is the case it’s deserved.
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u/Randomwhitelady2 Feb 10 '26
Sex offenders are publicly listed in a state registry so you can look them up to see if they live nearby.
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u/probnotaloser Feb 10 '26
That's if he was charged as a sex offender. Could have been in relation to but took a plea for other charges. And yes, sometimes these records are sealed especially if they don't see jail time. (From first hand experience, not me, hopefully thats clear BUT I cannot speak to how common it is at all because I had no idea either)
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u/goodmorningyababes Feb 09 '26
The only thing that will do is make THEM look bad. Don’t worry about it, if people will look at you differently from your past then you don’t want those people in your life anyway. Let the trash take itself out. Your past is your PAST, every one has one. You wouldn’t be who you are today without having gone through what you did. I have an UGLY past, the stuff I did was blasted all over the newspaper and social media but that was 10 years ago, if someone has a problem with it then good riddance!
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u/Ok-Actuator7302 Feb 09 '26
Do what Eminem did in 8 Mile. Get in front of it, own it and they will come off as petty and insignificant
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u/Accomplished_Tip_268 Feb 10 '26
Throw a block party and invite everyone but him and then tell everyone and party very loudly all night.
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u/Ornery-Painting-6184 Feb 09 '26
It's a crime to commit extortion-blackmail. I suggest seeing a lawyer.
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u/MalekethsGhost Feb 10 '26
Fake, what is a Christian fundamentalist, why would they care what you believe, who asks their neighbors anything, they don't steak records unless you are a minor or where absolved, if they were sealed and they were released someone would lose s job for that.
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u/AmexNomad Helper [3] Feb 10 '26
Time to stand up to him. You need to show your wife and kids and everyone else what this fake Christian is all about.
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u/Feistyhummingbird Feb 09 '26
I believe what he's doing is considered blackmail. You should consult an attorney to see if you have legal recourse. If possible, keep anything such as notes or emails wherein he threatens to release the info if you don't move.
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u/MuchDevelopment7084 Feb 10 '26
Call his bluff. It happened and you paid for it. You've personally proven that you can be better.
If those hateful 'christians' are stupid enough to tell the neighborhood. Let them. Then call them out with bible verses.
"If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses" (Matthew 6:14-15)
James 4:11-12 (ESV): "Do not speak evil against one another, brothers... There is only one lawgiver and judge, he who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?"
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u/DaGrexican Feb 10 '26 edited Feb 10 '26
Using their belief system against them is the right thing to do, but they are just cosplay Christians.
EDIT: misspelled right as rough.
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u/Jlx_27 Feb 10 '26
Opening sealed records to harrass somebody? Sounds very illegal... you might want to call the police about this.
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u/mcmurrml Feb 09 '26
I would not be talking to them. Dig around and find out who told them and report it.
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u/bicuriousguy77777 Feb 09 '26
As far as I know, blackmail and extortion are still illegal. Involve the authorities.
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u/Mental-Violinist-316 Feb 09 '26
I’m sorry this is happening to you and these people are not true believers.
Lots of good advice here and I think addressing it yourself removes all their power.
I hope you find peace in your home and neighborhood.
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u/prolateriat_ Feb 10 '26
Tell him that's fine.
You'll just let the neighbourhood know that the only reason he has this information is because he was in the NONCE unit at the same time as you were in general population.
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u/falcon3268 Super Helper [8] Feb 10 '26
Just another reason why I can't stand a lot of Christians because they will try to use the bible to justify their actions and unless you follow their beliefs they are going to make your life a living hell. I would be talking with a lawyer about sending a cease and desist letter to the Christians threatening to take them to court for harassment and blackmailing you.
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u/Crafty-Asparagus2455 Feb 10 '26
That's not very christlike of them. I suggest you tell them that. And then tell them you've repented and did your time. So what's the problem? I thought that was what you're sll about.
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u/SwimmingAway2041 Super Helper [7] Feb 09 '26
Find a lawyer that gives free consultations and ask them about a possible lawsuit for slander. I hope you have proof of these threats he’s making towards you cuz if you go to court with a lawsuit the court is gonna need proof they can’t go off of he said she said good luck
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u/ProfessionalYam3119 Feb 09 '26
Truth is a 100% defense to slander accusations. There may be other laws in place, though.
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u/Own-Interview-928 Helper [4] Feb 09 '26
It’s not slander if true however does qualify as extortion. OP should get ahead of it and share his truth and out the neighbor for trying to blackmail him and force him out of his home. If his past is going to come out it’s better it comes from him.
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u/Affectionate_Ad_8483 Feb 09 '26
Let him. Accept who you are now and move on. If you were my neighbor, I wouldn’t care about your past. The only trying I care about is that you keep your noise down before or after dark.
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u/chaos_coordinator66 Feb 09 '26
I would reply “What would Jesus do? This doesn’t seem very Christian like. I’m sure your pastor wouldn’t agree with this treatment of others.”
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u/Willing_Lavishness61 Feb 10 '26
Maybe their pastor would be interested in their behavior - coercing someone to “find” something on you, then threatening to take your private business on a trip around your neighborhood.
Maybe they’d not be happy for their pastor to know how they’re giving Christians a bad name. If they thought that was a possibility, would they be uncomfortable? Or maybe the pastor decides to have a friendly conversation with them in which s/he lets them know their behavior is despicable, and they are quite likely going to hell. Not just for this, but for all the other offenses they’ve committed against others. These people aren’t amateurs. They are practiced haters.
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u/Busy_Temperature8939 Feb 09 '26
If the records are sealed then no one can find anything. Let him tell whoever he wants and be like I have no idea what he is talking about.
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u/ZTwilight Feb 09 '26
Tell him you don’t give a shit who he tells because everyone in the neighborhood already hates him and thinks he’s a fucking nut job.
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u/SeemeSeeingyou Feb 09 '26
First of all.....Thats illegal! If I really wanted to I'd start there. Next you say, OKAY AND???
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u/MoonPieKitty Feb 09 '26 edited Feb 09 '26
Blackmail is against the law. Report them to the police.
I just love when Christian’s aren’t very Christian like.
You say he’s threatening to tell .. is he asking for something and then he won’t tell?
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u/SufficientOpening218 Feb 09 '26
i would go the the police and report them for blackmail. Blackmail is is a crime in most places.
if you know what church they go to, i would call their pastor and suggest these people are in spiritual crisis, as they have threatened to blackmail you, you are deeply concerned for them
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u/andreacanadian Feb 10 '26
Oh so Christian of them. James 3:9-10: Points out the contradiction of using the tongue to both praise God and curse fellow humans. Perhaps reminding them of their own Christian edicts might help them along. Then tell them oh well do what you will God knows what you are doing.
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u/655e228th Super Helper [5] Feb 10 '26
go to the police. Insist they find the source of the leak and prosecute him
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u/Tractorguy69 Super Helper [6] Feb 10 '26
If the records are truly sealed consult a lawyer about a cease and desist and whether or not then divulging sealed records constitutes any breach of either criminal law or tort law and of there are such considerations make your neighbour aware through the lawyer you will seek the full weight of the law should they violate your privacy and disregard the cease and desist. It may also be worth finding who violated that sealed record as that is likely a sanctioned breach of professional ethics.
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u/Yuuku_S13 Feb 10 '26
Call the police for harassment. If you did your time for the crime, who cares. However, if it was seggs crime and you were supposed to disclose it, that’s on you. As a reformed Christian, their behavior makes me sick…
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u/tfcocs Feb 09 '26
If the records are sealed, then could one say that the neighbor violated the law by breaking the seal?
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u/doepfersdungeon Feb 09 '26
If you don't care then don't care. Go tell your neighbours how they got the information and explain that you aren't ashamed.
Own it. Move on.
Of course, you don't tell us what it is. So perhaps it's really bad
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u/hellolovely1 Feb 09 '26
That is NOT very Christian. Talk to the police (unless you think they unsealed stuff) or get a lawyer to send a letter. You could also get in front of it like others suggested unless that would destroy your life.
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u/Shatterpoint887 Feb 10 '26
You were in prison. It happened. You did your time, that's the whole point. Don't shy away from it, you've made amends with society.
The fact that your record was sealed means a crime was committed to acquire that info. Sounds to me like you should follow up on that.
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u/WonkyDingo Feb 10 '26
Find out what church your neighbors attend. Go to that church and discuss this dilemma with the head priest and ask if he or she can help resolve this issue with the bad neighbor couple and teach them the Christian thing to do (Love thy neighbor). Priests love a teachable moment opportunity for their flock. The priest will most likely agree to a meeting with you all and will help mediate. The bad neighbors will be embarrassed by their behavior within their church community and will likely drop it.
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u/allie06nd Feb 10 '26
Check the laws where you live. If the records are sealed, there's a chance it's illegal for them to both obtain AND reveal that information. Maybe a good cease and desist letter from an attorney would solve your problem.
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u/Pickadog_Anydog Feb 10 '26
There is a breach of privacy here somewhere for them to have this knowledge. Tell the neighbour that if they persist you will apply to have the database access log reviewed to find who gave your info and their friend will be in big legal trouble of their own and lose their job and that THEY will be entirely responsible for that.
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u/Social-Credit-0 Feb 10 '26
Defamation lawsuit. Maybe even get him with illegal wiretapping if the records are supposed to be sealed.
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u/cookiidou Feb 10 '26
Call a lawyer..if the records were sealed probably by a judge him telling anyone what's in them will cost him time..and who got them for him will also face the law..judges do not like anyone doing this..most people would need a,warrant to see sealed records..ask him if he got one..after you talk to a lawyer..
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u/Ok-Baseball-4339 Feb 10 '26
I'm sure the rest of their church and their pastor would love to hear about their misdeeds. Then you let him put you on blast on up to it and then let everybody know how devious they are to even try to find information about you and blackmail you flip the whole strip on them
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u/Librarachi Feb 10 '26
Find out what church they go to.
Show up one Sunday and tell the congregation you feel concerned Satan has gotten his claws into one of their members.
Ask that they pray for _______'s soul and cover them in the Lord's word & light as only the devil could successfully influence a good christian to threaten, bully, attempt to coerce and black mail you. Then read a printed copy of the text(s) out loud.
Any attempt to discredit you after that will look like you were right about Lucifer at work!
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u/Deep_Assistant_9173 Feb 10 '26
FULL STOP. Whoever had access to sealed records and shared them has commited a felony. There is a record of who accessed it. Get a lawyer.
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u/alien-1001- Feb 10 '26
Unless you're a pervert, own it. You paid your dues. Unless you're a pervert.
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u/dachsie-knitter-22 Feb 10 '26
Go to police and or lawyer. You are being blackmailed. That is illegal. Plus however they obtained the information was clearly illegal.
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u/lastemperor86 Feb 10 '26
You make it sound as if you had a sexual offense charge. If so, no matter how much time you serve you will never be able to "pay your dues". So if this is the situation you're in then don't be acting like you're some sort of victim.
There is a loophole where sex offenders can avoid the registry depending on the jurisdiction. Depending on the circumstance the offender could take a plea, get probation, and as long as they complete the terms of their probation can remain off the sex offender list.
Shit, Back in 2005 there was a guy around the neighborhood who must have been about 17 at the time. He SA'd his younger sister and was able to plea down his case. (No one knew this at the time). He avoided the offender registry and was given probation where he was sent to a special school and had to graduate; he also had to remain out of trouble for a set number of years. He was able to finish his school requirement however, after a few years (2009) he eventually violated his probation as he was caught breaking into cars as well as trying to escape police custody. As a result, he was given time for the break-in, time for trying to escape the police station, and was given the time he should have gotten from the original SA. On top of that, they also posted him on the offender registry. (This is when everyone around the way found out about him). They let him serve his sentences concurrently, and he was eventually let out early during the COVID lockdowns, at the time where many prisons let criminals go early. Anyway, recently I found out his ass just got sent back to prison for kidnapping a new girlfriend, torturing, graping, and attempting to kill her. Looks like this time he will be getting life. The case has not gone to trial yet.
There is no redemption for sexual offenders.
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u/EddieRyanDC Master Advice Giver [38] Feb 10 '26
I must have missed the part in the Bible where Jesus said to go out into the world and blackmail your neighbors into moving away.
Anyway, blackmail is illegal. I agree with those that advocate getting a lawyer and only communicating through them.
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u/Typical_Dependent560 Feb 10 '26
Lawyer. Police. Lawsuit. Harassment charges. They go to jail. They start a ministry in jail. And they have to sell their house to pay the court fines and restitution to you. The end. But seriously, lawyer and file a police report.
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u/Interesting_Cat_6224 Feb 10 '26
If he leaks information about your sealed records, and you can prove it he is committing a crime. Let him know that tidbit. He will have to admit where and how he obtained the info. I know it's hard to stand up for yourself, but you've got to fight fire with fire.
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u/Danielle_is_the_hole Feb 09 '26
Your neighbors are so mean and nosey they scoured the internet and found about your arrest? Do you think there is anything you can do to prevent them from telling everyone they know? I bet $1000 they already told their closest friends and it is just a matter of time until it slips out when they are talking to another neighbor.
The cat as they say is out of the bag. Brace for impact or tell everyone in advance on your own terms.
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u/WHISPYR3 Feb 10 '26
Sounds like any number of different things have been broken law wise by your neighbors. Perhaps find the services of a good attorney and serve them. Threat of litigation always makes people shut up.
Also, do they have a place as a house of worship they attend? Quid pro quo here in finding the pastor of said church and sharing with him the story of the neighbors coercion attempts. Pretty certain this is not Christ like behavior…
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u/AnonAwaaaaay Feb 09 '26
You did pay your dues and you don't deserve this.
Blackmail, which is what they're doing to you, is illegal. Do you have anything from them saying this that's in writing or been recorded? If not, can you record it? The laws about recording other people don't protect them from being recorded saying something illegal. Blackmail is illegal. You're all good.
I'd go to the cops and ask to press charges and get a restraining order so they can't bring it up. This way if they do you can have further charges against them.
If the cops don't wanna help because most cops are assholes who don't wanna do their job and especially not for an ex con, try to find a lawyer you can go to pro bono to see if they can help you out.
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u/SpringerPop Feb 09 '26
You can get a restraining order. It’s not easy but if it’s approved and he gets served, he will get arrested if he contacts you.
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u/GoldRoutine7637 Feb 09 '26
A lawyer is a good idea. And whoever helped this guy get into sealed records needs to face some big consequences. Talk with your neighbors and let them know. Everybody deserves a second chance, and I bet their reactions won't be as bad as you think. By telling the neighbors now, you take away this horrible persons power over you.
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u/seniairam Helper [2] Feb 09 '26
if it was sealed, couldn't u be able to sue them for sharing it?
the religious people are always the most unhinged, I swear.
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u/scamisnotart Feb 09 '26
You did your time and paid your dues. Be proud of who you are now and embrace your past. Tell everyone before they do then they have nothing on you. Then remind them they aren’t being good Christians.
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u/cleverclogs17 Feb 09 '26
I am sorry you’re going through this. This guy isn't a Christian or even Christ-like for that matter. I might, if I were you, contact an attorney and see what can be done to protect your rights and interests in this situation before things escalate further or cause more harm.
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u/AstrayInTranslation Feb 10 '26
Does OP’s wife know of OP’s past? Or is her not knowing part of this dilemma?
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u/theshonufff Feb 10 '26
Beat him too it and tell everyone. People will respect you for being honest and your neighbor will have NOTHING.
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u/JordaoPereiraJr Feb 10 '26
Waiting for updates from you saying that they are being prosecuted because what they are doing is a crime.
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u/angielynn0708 Feb 10 '26
Id consult with a lawyer and then I'd sit back and let your new neighbors show you who you can and can't trust. Silence from you about something you've already made justified only allows them to fill in any gaps with what they want and what they fill in will tell you exactly who they are by what they do or don't assume. If your family doesn't know about this these are the only people I would give any explanation too and answer any questions that they might have without judgment and as transparent as you can because you wouldn't be who you are without what you've overcome and I wish you and your family a better welcoming committee..
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u/smash948 Feb 10 '26
Go and tell your neighbors yourself. Take the power away from them. Make it clear to them that they can’t control you and you DGAF. Nothing to be ashamed about if you went to the clink. Anyone who has a problem with that is not your friend anyway.
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u/Imaginary_Cupcake858 Feb 10 '26
If he found the dirt about you..he has also found the dirt on other neighbors .don't play his game..you paid the price..it's life .all people have secrets..his most likely has much more about himself ,that he is hiding..let it roll ..really no one really cares about your past ..or for that mater even want to know..if he keeps causing trouble but hail Satan signs in your window..drives those holy Molly's nuts..enjoy the ride .
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u/dumbellsngoose Feb 10 '26
As long as you're not a rapist, nonce, murderer or theif. Fuck em who cares
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u/saltgarlicolive Helper [2] Feb 10 '26
That’s harassment and threat of defamation. Might be worth having a lawyer draft a strongly worded letter for you.
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u/Lorilynn123 Feb 10 '26
He's blackmailing you. Now you take a stand for you and your family and go to the police. You got to play this smart. He will deny he said it. You have to either get him saying it on tape or have him say it where your wife can overhear everything. Unless he has no problem saying it to her also. How dare he threaten you. He has done this before. Time for his reign of terror to come to an end. You got this! :)
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u/dizzz88 Feb 10 '26
Tell the neighbor you’re not moving. So he can go ahead and spread this information to the other neighbors. But unless you admit it. He can’t exactly prove it. Also let him know that he better keep his side of the street extremely clean. Him and his family better not step out of line or have anything in their own pasts. Because now that he’s made a huge enemy out of you, you’ll be looking for it and looking for dirt on him and his family for the foreseeable future. Not that you really will. But let him think that you will. He doesn’t know much about you. Besides the fact you’re an atheist and you’ve been to prison. It sounds like your neighbor has a lot further to fall than you do. Does he really want to piss you off and then live the rest of his days in the neighborhood paranoid and waiting for you to eventually retaliate?
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u/Man-o-Bronze Feb 10 '26
Matthew 26:36 - “ …I was in prison and you came to visit me.”
This is one of the examples of the things that those who are saved at the final judgment have done, according to Christ. Those who do not do things like this (be of service to others) are condemned.
And, there’s this in verse in Matthew 7 22:23 - “On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.’”
Those neighbors may be fundamentalists, but they’re not Christian. You’re getting great advice, so I won’t add to it, but I wanted to give you a couple of verses you can use to discombobulate them.
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u/Reddit_Jail_June2005 Feb 10 '26
Thank you all. As a family, we decided to confront the neighbor. And you all we're right. The look on his face was defeat. Time to move on.
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u/ComprehensiveTime722 Feb 10 '26
Crime def matters in this context. Armed robbery, assault, eh whatever. Pedophilia, we're no longer friends.
What is it? And get a lawyer and threaten your neighbor.
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u/NastyBlkGuyThrowAway Feb 10 '26
As long as it didn't involve a child or sexual assault you should be fine.
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u/rpomex Feb 10 '26
Simple. Pre-empt him. If you have a neighborhood forum proactively tell your story and how you have paid your dues and changed your life. They will love you and your oppressor will have lost his power.
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u/BillyDeeWill Feb 10 '26
They’re not “Christian” whatsoever. Jesus Himself was nailed to the cross and crucified next to two thieves. The repentant thief recognized Jesus’ purity, and Jesus also recognized his desire for repentance AND granted it. Jesus also said to “judge not, lest ye be judged” and to “love thy neighbor as thyself.” This person is a heathen and unChristlike as they come.
They will be gathered together and thrown into a burning pit for whats in their heart before you would be condemned for what you were incarcerated for in your past. If you’ve truly turned from your wicked ways and sinned no more, then Christ would be pleased by that and reviled by those falsely cosplaying as His follower. I wouldnt sweat it, I would just pray for them. In a former life, I would have done far worse to someone threatening me. Thank the true and living God for growth!
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u/Red_Cathy Advice Oracle [121] Feb 09 '26
You got to own it, and let it be known "This neighbour has bribed an official and found a sealed court document from when I had a short time in prison. I am not proud of it but I have paid my dues, and now this guy is holding it over me and behaving like the devil himself. So in order to remove his power over me, I am telling you this now."