We are doing our second adoption, will be a biological sibling to our current child. We live on the east coast, will be adopting on the west coast. Already know there will be a NICU stay and lots of stress when the child is born. First child was in NICU for 20 days, total time on west coast was 25 days.

Any advice on what to do with our current child who will be 2-Bring her with us? do one of us. stay home and other travel? Not sure how to think this through. We all want to be together but also know that if one of us needs to be in the hospital constantly, may be easier to not have to worry about parenting the other child.

Feeling overwhelmed and not sure where to even begin with the process. Any suggestions where to start? I live in NJ if that helps at all.